Wawa, uwu ndiye mwayi wanga woyamba ku Reddit ndipo ndikulankhula zanga za NoFap monga mutuwo ukuwonetsera. Ndinali wowonera zolaula nthawi zonse, ndinali ndi zolaula komanso zolaula zanga zomwe mumakonda, Mukudziwa ntchitozo ndipo sindinaziwone ngati vuto. Kenako ndidamva za NoFap kuchokera pazokambirana za TEDx ndipo ndidaganiza zopereka. Ndinayamba NoFap pa 1st ya Disembala pochotsa zolaula zanga zonse zomwe zidali gawo lalikulu palokha. NoFap ndiye chisankho chabwino kwambiri chomwe ndidapanga kwanthawi yayitali. Kwa inu omwe angoyamba kumene ndi NoFap ndikukuuzani zomwe muyenera kuyembekezera (zomwe zinandichitikira) ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti zidzakuthandizani kukonzekera zomwe zikubwera, (palibe chilango chofunira). Kumayambiriro kwa NoFap sikunali kovuta kwenikweni chifukwa ndinali ndi malingaliro opanda nzeru osadziwa zomwe zikubwera. Momwe ndimapitilira momwemo ndidayamba kumva kumva Maganizo anga amasintha, monganso mphamvu zanga.
Masiku ena ndimamva ngati ndingathe kuchita chilichonse ndipo ena ndimamva ngati sindingathe ngakhale kudzuka pabedi. Ndinazindikiranso kuti ndimakwiya kwambiri ndi zazing'ono zomwe sizinandivutitsepo ndipo malingaliro anga anali osadalirika. Kenaka ndinakumana ndi maloto anga oyambirira kuyambira pomwe ndisanayambe kukula (pafupifupi zaka 13 kapena zina). Ndimakumbukira kuti ndinali ndi maloto omwe ndinali ndikukula ndipo ndinangodzuka ndili wonyowa komanso wolumala kuti ndisamachite manyazi poganiza kuti malotowo anali enieni kenako ndinazindikira kuti sindinalephere NoFap kotero ndidangobwerera kukagona. Kuyambira pamenepo ndakhala ndikungolota maloto ochepa koma nthawi zonse, zimakupangitsani kukayikira ngati malotowo anali enieni kapena ayi. Ndipamene mumazindikira kuti mumakonda kwambiri zolaula chifukwa ubongo wanu umazifuna zoyipa zomwe zimakupangitsani kufuna kuchita ndikulakalaka kuti muchite kuti zitheke.
Ndimakumbukira pomwe ndidangoyamba ndikuganiza kuti 'masiku a 90 ndi nthawi yayitali, kotala la chaka osachita chilichonse chomwe ndimachita pafupifupi tsiku lililonse'. Tsopano ndikuyang'ana mmbuyo ndikuganiza chimodzimodzi chomwecho ndikutsatira 'Ndazichita'. Ndatsegula Facebook yanga kuti ikongoletsedwe (sindine wachipembedzo koma ndimapereka ngongole chaka chilichonse ngati chovuta kwa ine). Chomwe ndimada nkhawa kwambiri ndikusiya Facebook chinali 'Ndingatani kuti ndizilumikizana ndi anzanga komanso abale?' Kenako ndinazindikira ngati akufuna kulumikizana ndi ine ndiye kuti apeza njira. Ndidamaliza maphunziro aposachedwa ndipo ndidayamba kugwira ntchito ndi anthu ena akulu ndikupanga anzanga omwe mwina sindikadatha kuchita NoFap chifukwa sindinali munthu wolimba mtima komanso wochezeka.
Popeza ndilembetsanso ku / howtonotgiveafuck ndikuyamba kugwira ntchito yanga ya 'honeybadger' yamkati osapereka chinyengo pazomwe anthu ena amaganiza za ine, ndidapeza msungwana yemwe ndimamukonda pa nambala yawayilesi ndikukonzekera kumufunsira zakumwa (kamodzi ndili ndi ngongole mufoni yanga). Anthu omwe anali pamaphunzirowa ananenanso kuti ndinali ndi "chidaliro" chomwe sichinakhalepo mawu olumikizidwa kwa ine. Komanso kuyambira pomwe ndimatsegula Facebook yanga ndakhala ndikugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanga mwanzeru pojambula, kuphunzira pulogalamu yamakompyuta ndikusewera kiyibodi m'malo mokhala pa Facebook ndikuwonera anthu ena akumayankhulirana poyesera kuzibisa ndikudikirira kuti pulogalamuyo iwonekere kungokhala pempho lamasewera kuchokera kwa wachibale wakutali. Ndikudziwa kuti zinthuzi sizingakhale zofunikira kwa NoFap koma awa ndi njira zomwe ndatenga pamoyo wanga ndipo sindimanong'oneza bondo ngakhale pang'ono. Pomwe ndikulemba izi ndili patsiku 91 la NoFap ndipo ndakhazikitsa zovuta zatsopano za masiku 90 pamwamba pa kupambana kwamasiku 90 ndipo ndikamenya masiku 180 ndikupita chaka chimodzi cha NoFap ndiye ndikuyembekeza moyo wake wonse.
TL; DR- Musaganize zopanga NoFap… ingochitani izi! Masulani malingaliro anu pazakuonera zolaula ndikuwongolera moyo wanu. Chokani kundende yomwe mudathandizira kuti imange chifukwa popeza iyi ndi ndende yanu tsopano ndi zofooka komanso mphamvu ndipo mutha kuyipezetsa kuti mupeze ufulu. Yambani kukhala wamasiku ano ndikutenga mwayi wambiri, siyani kuda nkhawa zamtsogolo chifukwa tsogolo lanu limangokhala momwe muliri. Chithunzi cha moyo wanu chikujambulidwa, pafupi nchosamveka komanso chosokoneza koma mukabwerera mmbuyo poyang'ana chithunzichi chonse chikuwonekera bwino. Ndikukufunirani zabwino zonse munjira iliyonse yomwe mungatenge pamoyo wanu ndikukumbukira kuti ndi moyo wanu, palibe wina aliyense.
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