Nditayamba NoFap, ndinali nditaonera makanema a YBOP, ndikuganiza moona mtima kuti NoFap ndiyopusa. Ndinadziuza ndekha kuti kukula kunali kwabwino, ndipo panalibe chifukwa chosiya. Aliyense anazichita, bwanji ndinali wosiyana? Mavidiyo a YBOP adabzala mbewu yomwe yandisintha kuti ndikhale lero, ndipo ndikusinthabe kwambiri. Ndisanayambe, ndinali wokhumudwa, wosakonda kucheza ndi anthu. Ndinadzitsimikizira ndekha kuti sindinkafuna kugonana ndi bwenzi langa lakale (nkhani yoseketsa, ndidamuuza momwe ndasinthira posachedwa, sindinamvepo za iye, ha!).
Tsopano, masiku 180 pambuyo pake, ndimayang'ana mmbuyo pa yemwe ndinali wokonda .. ngati kukumbukira kosangalatsa. Sindimayang'ananso mopanda ulemu kwa azimayi chifukwa cha zonyansa zoterezi. Ndazindikira kuti ndi anthu omwe amafuna kudziwika ndi gulu lonse .. mwamalingaliro, mwauzimu, komanso mwathupi. Chifukwa cha izi, ndimamutenga aliyense ngati bwenzi .. wofanana, ndipo (ngakhale ndikuchepetsa ntchito) ndatha kufikira ndikuyesera kusiya anthu pamalo abwino kuposa kale pomwe adakumana nane.
Sindimangika kwambiri pa mkazi m'modzi, ndipo chifukwa chake sindikusowa chitsimikiziro chotere ngati mamuna. Kutsimikizika kwanga kumadza chifukwa chakuti ndagonjetsa chinthu chomwe anzanga ambiri amadabwa nacho. Ndamasulidwa ndi china chake chomwe chandibweza m'mbuyo m'moyo wanga wonse, ndipo chikuwonetsetsa. Ndavomereza zakugonana kwanga ngati bambo wamwamuna wokhala ndi zilakolako komanso zokhumba. Kukhumudwa kwakukulu komwe ndidakumana nako m'moyo wanga wonse kwatha. Ndimatha kumvera nyimbo ndikumva kuthamanga kwa dopamine .. china chomwe chinali chachilendo kwa ine zisanachitike zolaula. Ndikukhala moyo pakadali pano, ndikulota mozama kwambiri zam'mbuyomu komanso zamtsogolo. Ndimasangalala, ndipo ndimayesetsa kupanga miyoyo ya anthu ena kukhala yabwinoko.
Osandimvetsa, sindikuganiza kuti ndine nyali yowala iyi. Ndikuopabe kukanidwa, ndipo ndikuopa kusasakidwa. Ndikuyesera kuvomereza malingaliro anga monga anga (pomwe kale, malingaliro anali achilendo kwa ine) .. osachepera pano ndazindikira mkwiyo, kumvera ena chisoni, kukhumba, ndi zina zambiri momwe zimakhalira mumtima mwanga. Ndi nkhani yowalandira, kwabwino kapena koipa, monga yanga.
Wakhala msewu wautali, ndipo sindikuganiza kuti ndikadachita izi osazindikira zolaula komanso maliseche ngati chizolowezi. Ndikukhulupirira ulusiwu ungakuthandizeni kukuwonetsani komwe ulendowu ungakufikitseni. Ngati muli ndi mafunso, ndikuyankha momwe ndingathere. 🙂
TPLR: Ndavomereza zogonana zanga ngati munthu, ndipo ndaphunzira kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zake kuti ndikwaniritse moyo wa omwe andizungulira?
LINK - Masiku a 180; Tsopano wosintha, ndi munthu wosintha
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