Tsopano ndapanga masiku a 90! 😀 (Chabwino pafupifupi;)) Poyambirira sindinkaganiza kuti zingatheke, zimawoneka kutali kwambiri. Tsopano ndikuona ngati sindidzakhalanso ndikuchita zolaula kapena nthawi yayitali. Wakhala ulendo wodabwitsawu, wokhala ndi zovuta zambiri, kotero ndikufuna kugawana nanu anyamata. Tikukhulupirira kuti muuziridwa kuti mupitilizebe kupitiliza.
Ndine wazaka za 22 ndipo ndakhala ndikupanga kwa nthawi yayitali, nthawi zambiri kamodzi patsiku. Panthawi ina ndinawona wina akutchula gawo lachigawochi mu gawo la ndemanga. Ndimaganiza kuti ndi lingaliro loseketsa, koma sindinachite chidwi kwambiri. Ndipo sabata lomwelo ndidawona wina akutumiza tsamba lanu la yourbrainonporn kwinakwake pa facebook. Tsopano ndidayang'ananso mozama, ndikukhala ndi chidwi, makamaka nditawona kuyankhula kwa TED. Kodi zinali zikundikhudza kwambiri chonchi? Poyamba ndimakhala ndikulingalira za kuchuluka kwa maliseche omwe alidi athanzi, koma ndimakonda kulingalira kuti mwina aliyense amachita izo pafupipafupi. Chifukwa chake ndidadziuza ndekha 'chiyani helo' ndikuyiyesa ngati kuyesera.
Moyo wanga sunali woipa nthawi imeneyo. Ndinkakhala ndi anzanga abwino komanso ndinalibe mavuto ambiri okhala ndi kucheza ndi anthu ena. Nditha kumakhala kosavuta kudzera ku koleji komwe kumakhala bwino. Komabe, ndinkaona kuti ndili ndi vuto mkati, makamaka ndikakhala ndekha kwa nthawi yayitali ndikukhalira ndimasewera kwa maola ambiri. Awa anali mphindi zomwe ndimayenera kuseweretsa maliseche kwambiri. Ndimasungulumwa kwenikweni komanso kukhumudwa. Ndili ndi anzanga, izi zinkazilala, koma nthawi zambiri zinkandibwerera ndikakhala ndekha kunyumba. Ndinkadzilemekezanso kwenikweni kwa atsikana ndipo ndinali wotetezeka kwambiri.
Chifukwa chake ndidayamba "kuyesera" mu October wa 2013. Zinayamba zosavuta; Ndidalimbika mtima m'mene ndidayamba kumva phindu patatha masiku ochepa (kapena ndimangochita placebo?). Koma zitatha nthawi iliyonse ndinalibe kupirira. Ndinkapitilizabe kutengera masiku pafupifupi a 10, kenako pambuyo pa masiku a 5 ndipo zidayamba kukulira. Panthawi inayake ndimakhala ngati sindimakakhala komweko ndipo ndimafuna kuti ndichite bwino. Ine ndinatero, koma ndinabweranso patatha sabata limodzi kapena apo. Ndinazindikira kuti ndinali wokonda zolaula komanso maliseche ndipo sindingathe kusiya monga momwe ndimaganizira poyamba. Ndidamva zina mwa zabwinozo ndipo ndimafuna kukhala wodziletsa kuti ndisankhe zochita zolaula. Izi zidabweretsa mitsinje ingapo mu ma 20 ndi ma 30, koma sindinathe kudzipuntha kupitilira ma 30.
Mu chingwe ichi cha masiku a 90 ndidachita china chosiyana ndi mitsinje yam'mbuyomu. Ndinatha kuletsa zokopa zolimba kwambiri zomwe ndimakhala ndimazungulira masiku onse a 30. Izi mwina zinali zovuta kwambiri paulendo wonsewu, koma nditadutsa ndidamva kuti nditha kuthana ndi chilimbikitso chilichonse. Pambuyo pake zonse zidakhala zosavuta, ndipo ndidazipanga kukhala zovuta kwambiri mpaka lero. Chifukwa chake upangiri wanga ukhala wokuthandizani kuthana ndi zikhumbo izi. Mukalimbikitsidwa kwambiri mukadzagonjetsedwa, mumalimbikira komanso kumakhala kosavuta.
Zimandivuta kufotokoza tanthauzo lenileni. Pali zinthu zomwe zimadziwika kawiri kawiri zomwe anthu ambiri amatchula, monga kulimba mtima kambiri komanso ndi atsikana, kuchuluka kokulimbikitsidwa kuchita zinthu, nthawi yomwe mumasunga etcetera. Koma ndimasiyananso mosiyanasiyana, zomwe zimandivuta kufotokoza. Nthawi zina ndimadzimva ngati munthu wina aliyense. Ochuluka amoyo, osangalala kwambiri ndikusangalala ndi moyo koposa. Nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndi nkhawa nthawi zambiri. Izi zasintha. Ndimamva bwino masiku ano. Ndimasamalirabe zinthu zambiri, ndipo ndimanenanso mopitilira muyeso, koma sizimandikhudzanso.
Kupambana kwanga ndi atsikana nako kwasintha. Sindinakhalepo ndi bwenzi la atsikana kapena kugonana nawo. Mpaka pano izi sizinasinthe, koma ndikumva mosiyana ndi atsikana. Ndinkakonda kunyalanyaza pafupifupi msungwana aliyense m'misewu, koma tsopano ndimayang'ana momasuka ndikuyang'ana kwambiri. Ndikutha kufikira atsikana omwe ali mu bar tsopano. Ndimamva bwino ndekha, ndikuwona kuti atsikana amandikopeka. Ndafunsanso mtsikana wina yemwe ndidakhala naye nthawi yayitali, ngakhale ndimachita bwino. Koma zinamverera ngati kupambana kwakukulu kotero kuti sindisamaliranso. Osachepera sindinadabwerenso. Ndikuwona tsogolo labwino kwa ine pankhani za atsikana, zomwe zinali zosiyana kotheratu theka lapita.
Poyamba Nofap analidi chinthu chomwe ndimafunikira kuti ndikulimbikitsidwe m'mbuyomu ndikulimbikitsidwa, koma nthawi imeneyi ndimakhala ngati ndikulamulira. Ndingathe kudutsa popanda thandizo la nofap. Ndikufuna kuthokoza aliyense yemwe wandichirikiza (ngakhale mwanjira yosadziwika monga momwe ndiliri pano) komanso potumiza zolemba zonse zolimbikitsa. Tsopano nthawi yakwana yoti ndizinenso zabwino zakwathu ndikubwezeretsanso. Ndine wokonzeka kukhala moyo wanga mokwanira! 😀
Sal. zomwe zimandithandiza kwambiri kusiya gawo lalikulu lazomwe ndimachita zamasewera komanso kusintha njira. Tsopano ndili ndi nthawi yambiri yocheza komanso kuchita zinthu zina zosangalatsa.
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