Ndiyesera kusunga nkhani yayifupi mwachidule. Ine mwina ndilephera.
Ndine bambo wazaka 24 yemwe adayamba kuseweretsa maliseche m'mbuyomu kuposa momwe ndimakumbukira (zaka zaposachedwa 2 kapena 3) ndikuyamba zolaula pa intaneti ndili ndi zaka 9. Mosiyana ndi anthu ambiri pano, palibe amene adandidziwitsa zolaula; Ndinafufuza. Zolaula zinali zodabwitsa, komanso masewera amakanema, mabuku, ndi TV. Ndidagwiritsa ntchito kukhala moyo wopanda chiopsezo chopita kudziko lapansi ndikukhala ndi moyo.
Zizolowezi izi zidandilepheretsa kukula kwakanthawi, koma pofika chaka chomaliza cha sekondale sizinali zokwanira kwa ine, ndipo ndidayamba kupanga zinthu kuti zichitike m'moyo wanga weniweni. Ndipamene ndidazindikira kuti sindimatha kugonana.
Ndinayesa kugonana ndi bwenzi langa lapamtima pamenepo kangapo, koma sindinkavutikira, ndipo ndikatero ndiye kuti zitha kugwa tisanayike kondomu ndikuyamba. Ndinakopeka naye kwambiri m'malingaliro mwanga, koma thupi langa silinayankhe. Sindimatha kuzimvetsa. Ndinafufuza mayankho pa intaneti, koma nthawi imeneyo palibe chilichonse chokhudzana ndi zolaula chomwe chimapezeka, ndipo aliyense adati ziyenera kukhala nkhawa zantchito. Ndinali ndi nkhawa, koma nkhawa yanga inali chifukwa sindinathe kukhala ndi erection-osati mbali inayo. Ndimaganiza kuti ndasweka. Ndinkadziwa kuti silinali vuto lakuthupi chifukwa ndimatha kukhala wovuta zolaula, motero ndimaganiza kuti ndakhala namwali wokhala ndi maliseche kwanthawi yayitali kuti ndikhale wosangalala ndi kugonana kwenikweni. Pobwerera kunyumba kuchokera kunyumba kwake, ndinkangobangula ndi kumenya chiongolero ndi zibakera zanga. Ndinaganiza kuti zingathandize kusiya kuseweretsa maliseche kwakanthawi ndisanamuwone, koma izi sizinathandizenso. Kuperewera kwanga komanso manyazi anga ndi zomwe zidandichititsa kuti tithetse chibwenzi chathu. Kwa zaka zingapo zotsatira ndinayesera mobwerezabwereza ndi akazi angapo osiyanasiyana kuti ndikhale omasuka mokwanira kugonana. Sindinapambane. Mwachiwonekere izi zinali zopundula pakukhulupirira kwanga zogonana, ndipo kusowa mphamvu kwanga komanso kulephera kwanga kuzimvetsetsa ndikulankhula za izi zidathetsa chibwenzi chilichonse chomwe ndinali nacho.
Zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi kuchokera pomwe gawo langa loyamba la vuto la erectile, ndidawona TED Talk ya Gary Wilson ikufotokoza momwe chizolowezi cha zolaula chimakhudzira anyamata, kuphatikiza momwe kuseweretsa maliseche nthawi zonse kumatha kuyambitsa vuto la zolaula. Kanemayo adasintha moyo wanga. Patha masiku 152 kuchokera pamene ndayang'ana zolaula kapena maliseche. Nayi chidule cha momwe moyo wanga wasinthira:
• Tsopano ndikwaniritsa ndikukhalabe ndimphamvu panthawi yogonana osaganizira zolaula nthawi zonse. Ndimapitabe kufewa nthawi zina koma sipanatenge nthawi kuti ndibwerere ndipo zimawoneka ngati gawo lachiwerewere. Kwa kanthawi kochepa nditayambiranso kuyambiranso, ndinali ndi zolaula zomwe zimachedwetsa kutulutsa umuna, koma tsopano zomwe zikupezekanso, ndipo ndimatha kuchita chiwerewere mukamagonana ndi kondomu. Sindinakhale wopanda vuto lililonse masiku 72 oyamba, kenako kwa masiku ena 60 pambuyo pake (ngakhale osachita kuyesera ndi SO-SO yanga).
• Ndimakhala wolimba mtima ndipo khalani ndi kuya kwakukulu. Kwa zaka pafupifupi 12 sindinalire kamodzi, ndipo tsopano ndazindikira kuti nthawi ya moyo wanga idayamba pomwe ndidayamba kuwonera zolaula.
• Ndilibe manyazi. Ulendo uwu ndisanaphunzirepo za zolaula ndi anzanga ndipo ndimadziwa kuti zinali zinthu wamba, koma sindinanyadirepo. Tsopano, kwanthawi yoyamba m'moyo wanga, ndine wowona mtima konse kwa anthu omwe ndimawakonda ngakhale ndi alendo. Ndauza anthu ambiri za mbiri yanga yakale ndimakonda zolaula komanso momwe zimandipwetekera. Ena amandiweruza mwankhanza chifukwa cha izo, koma izo zimatsikira kwa ine. Ndine wotetezeka kwathunthu mwa ine ndekha. Izi zimatanthauzira kulimba mtima kwachikhalidwe komanso kusada nkhawa kwathunthu, komwe nthawi zina kumandizunza.
• Kuyamikira kwanga (zonse zogonana komanso zamaganizidwe) kwa azimayi enieni omwe ndimakumana nawo adakwera.
• Ndidagwa mchikondi, chomwe ndichinthu chomwe sichidachitikirepo ndimangogwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Ndinakumana naye miyezi isanu yapitayo. Ndidali woona mtima ndi iye za komwe ndidali m'moyo mwanga, zomwe ndikuganiza kuti ndichofunika kwambiri kuti amandikonda. Ubalewo watha tsopano, koma zinali zabwino kwambiri kwa tonsefe.
• Ndili ndi mphamvu zambiri zamaganizidwe ndi thupi ndipo nthawi yambiri.
• Zanga chilimbikitso ndi changu magulu othamanga patsogolo pomwe anali. Ndimadziperekabe mpaka kuzengereza, koma m'miyezi isanu yapitayi ndalemba buku la mawu a 60,000, ndinayambitsa bizinesi, ndikulakalaka ndikukondana ndi mzimayi wokongola, nditenga njira yolimbanira yolimbirana ndi kusinkhasinkha, ndikusintha kwambiri zakudya zomwe zimandipangitsa kumva kukhala wathanzi komanso wamphamvu kuposa kale. Tsopano ndazindikira kuti zolaula, ndimasewera a kanema komanso makanema pa kanema, zinali zochepetsa mtima zomwe zimandilepheretsa kukwaniritsa maloto anga.
Ponena za m'tsogolo, sindidzagwiritsanso ntchito zolaula. Ndizolimbikitsa ngati mankhwala osokoneza bongo zomwe zandivulaza kwambiri, ndipo sizili mbali ya moyo wanga. Sindikuganiza kuti kuseweretsa maliseche ndibwino, koma ndimayanjana ndi zolaula ndikuwononga nthawi komanso kuthekera, chifukwa chake ndilibe chidwi chobwezeretsanso maliseche. Mwinanso zaka zambiri panjirayi nditha kusangalalanso ndi maliseche, koma ndimakayikira. Zonsezi ndizosasangalatsa kwa ine tsopano.
Ndili ndi upangiri wambiri kwa iwo omwe akulimbana ndi vuto la PMO, koma mwachidule ndizingogawana maupangiri awiri omwe andithandiza kwambiri:
• Muziwerenga ndi kufufuza zambiri kuti mudziwe kuchuluka kwa zomwe PMO yakupatsani. Khalani okwiya pazaka zowonongekazo, ndipo kondwerani ndi zomwe zingakuthandizeni pamoyo wanu popanda zolaula. MUTU WOONA osagwiritsanso ntchito zolaula. Ichi sicholinga. Zolinga zitha kuphonya. Kuti simungagwiritse ntchito zolaula ndi umboni wotsimikiza zenizeni zenizeni. Ndi malingaliro awa, zolakalaka sizidzakhala kanthu kwa inu. Ndi mwayi wogwiritsa ntchito zomwe zimatiwonongera. Pangani izi kukhala zosatheka ndipo mudzatha kungoiwala za izi ndikuyang'ana pa zinthu zina.
• Osadziseka wekha. Kwa kanthawi ndinayamba kukhala wosakhutira ndiulendowu. Ndimachita zongopeka, makamaka ndikadzuka. Ndikanadzipukuta pang'ono kwa mphindi zochepa koma osayandikira zolaula, kotero sindinazione ngati zosintha. Ndinayambanso kudina maulalo ena ogonana - ngakhale osafotokozera - ndikutsegulidwa ndi zoyipa zabodzazi. Ndinkadziwa kuti sindichita maliseche pazinthu izi; zinali zokhudzana ndi kukhutiritsa chidwi kuposa china chilichonse. Kenaka masabata angapo apitawo ndinazindikira kuti ndikutsika njira yowopsa ndikumvanso kuti kupita patsogolo kwanga ndi DE kunali kovuta. Ndinafunika kusintha china chake, chifukwa chake ndidabwerera momwe ndidayambira ulendowu: palibe zongoyerekeza, osadzikhudza, palibe mapikiselo omwe amandithandizira. Ndikhulupirireni, ndizosavuta kwambiri motere. Sindikufunikiranso kulimbana ndi ine ndekha kuti ndiganizire kapena ndisachite zina zakumalire kapena zongopeka: sindimangozichita. Tsopano ndimangonena zanga zogonana ndi mkazi weniweni, ndipo ndi momwe ndimakondera.
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Ndifunseni chilichonse. Nditatha kuyendayenda ndekha, kuyankhula ndi zolaula pafupifupi zana limodzi, ndikuwerenga mabuku oposa khumi ndi awiri komanso zolemba pamiyeso pazakafukufukuyu ngati buku lakafukufuku, nditha kukhala m'modzi wa anthu odziwa kwambiri kumeneko pa PMO kusuta.
tl; dr: Tinachita bwino kwambiri, analemba kuti: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00KMC5P4C
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