Ndine wazaka 26. Ndinayamba kuona zolaula pa intaneti ndili wachinyamata, ndipo ndinkadziwonetsa kuti ndine wogwiritsa ntchito kwambiri. Sizinali zachilendo kuti ndiphonye tsiku. Ndinali mpaka posachedwapa ndidakali namwali. Ndinayamba kuwona kutchulidwa kwa NoFap pomwe ndinalowa mu Reddit, ndipo ndinaseka kwathunthu "otayika" kumeneko. Nthawi zonse ndakhala ndikuuzidwa kuti palibe cholakwika ndi maliseche kapena zolaula, ndipo kuwonera zolaula kumanenedwa ngati zabwinobwino ngati zikuleredwa ("eya, aliyense amachita izi").
Chaka chotsatira (chaka chimodzi ndi 3 miyezi yapitayo) ndidayamba kuzindikira kuti zitha kukhala zovomerezeka pazomwe zikuchitika komanso mavuto omwe anthu ali nawo, makamaka kuyambira momwe ndidawaonera pang'ono zoyipa. Chifukwa chake ndidapereka NoFap.
Ndidapanga masiku 20 ndikuyesera koyamba ndikuganiza kuti izi ndizosavuta, ndilibe vuto, ndimangotenga pachimake mwachangu… Ndisanadziwe kuti ndinali nditadzitukumula ndipo ndinadzinyansidwa ndekha. Ndipamene ndidayamba kuzindikira kuti ili linali vuto lenileni.
Mndandanda wanga wama beji wobwezeretsanso pa nofap ndi wautali. Kwa chaka chimodzi ndidalephera TON. Koma ndinali kupita patsogolo, ndipo zatsopano zanga zinali pafupifupi masiku a 10 a nofap / pornfree nthawi, nthawi zina ngakhale zazitali (mbiri ya mwezi wa 1).
Mpaka pano ndakhala ndikugwiritsa ntchito zoponyera pa nofap / zolaula zopanda pake. Ndinazindikira kuti izi zinali chifukwa ndinali ndi mantha kuvomereza moona vuto langa, ndipo sindinalole kuti lipite. Ndinali woledzeretsa kwambiri ndipo ndimaganiza ngati ndingotaya kanthawi kwakanthawi, ndibwino kuti ndipite miyezi ingapo ndikubwerera kukazunza zolaula. Ubongo ndiwokhoza kutipangitsa ife kuchita zinthu zoyipa ngati tazisokoneza chifukwa cha nkhanza.
Patatha chaka choyesera komanso cholakwa ndidapangana kuti ndisabisala, ndikugwiritsa ntchito akaunti yanga yayikulu yatsopano. Maganizo awa a kudziyankhira anali othandiza kwambiri kukwaniritsa zolinga zanga. Zimatanthawuza kuti ndidakumbukira kuti uyu ndi ine, ndikuti ndithana ndi vutoli, osabisala osadziwika kapena kuchita manyazi.
Panyengo iyi ndinali pa njira yoyenera. Zomwe zimandilimbikitsira pazomwe ndikuyembekeza kuti kuchita bwino kwathunthu ndikuwonjezera ubale ndi bwenzi langa lalitali. Ine panthawiyi ndimadziwa bwino momwe ndidalili, komanso kuti ndikuvutika ndi PIED. Popeza ndimamasuka ndi bwenzi langa kale chifukwa chokhala nthawi yayitali kucheza, komanso ndimamasuka naye pazonse, ndidamuwuza zakukhosi kwanga zamanyazi, kumuchenjeza kuti zitha kukhala ndi vuto lenileni, ubale wathu. Pa chisangalalo changa chachikulu, anali (ndipo ali) wondithandiza kwambiri, ndipo zinali zokwanira kundipatsa chitsimikizo kuti ndidasunthira, ndikuti ndi chaka changa cham'mbuyomu ndikuganiza zomwe zidandichititsa ine komanso momwe ubongo wanga udasinthira zochita nthawi zina , pamodzi ndi kudzidalira kochulukirapo kuchokera pakupambana kwanthawi yayitali, ndimakhala ndikutseka gawo lomaliza la moyo wanga ndikusiya ine.
Chifukwa chake ndili pano, masiku opitilira 90 tsopano, ndipo ndikumva ngati ndili ndi mphamvu zokwanira kuti ndipewe zopanda pake zomwe zimakhala zolaula kwa moyo wanga wonse. Ilibe malo m'moyo wanga, ndizowona.
Komanso, patatha masiku 90 opanda zolaula / nofap, nditha kunena kuti ndikuwona kusintha ndi PIED yanga. Palibe paliponse pafupi, koma ndibwino.
Pomaliza, ma zipsinjo ena omwe adapeza kuti ndi ofunika pavutoli:
1) Nkhani zoyankha. Osabisala kumbuyo kwa omwe amataya zinthu. Landirani mfundo yakuti ndiomwe muli. Inu muli ndi zophophonya, koma simuli opanda chiyembekezo. Zomwe muli pano zikutanthauza kuti mukudziwa bwino. Nthawi zonse mukhale bwino.
2) NoFap hardmode ndi yovuta kwambiri kwa munthu wokonda zolaula. Ndikuganiza kudalira kwambiri PornFree (mwachitsanzo, kupewa P, osati MO) ndibwino. Zandithandizadi kuti ndisinthe ndikubwereranso ku streak yomwe ndili pano (masiku 90 + onse a nofap komanso zolaula, koma osati zovuta). Kwa ine zinandithandizanso kuzindikira kukula kwa nkhani yanga monga wopanda zolaula, kuseweretsa maliseche ndekha kunandionetsa momwe ndimakhudzidwira, komanso kuti ndimavutika ndi PIED. Izi zimalimbikitsa, ndikhulupirireni.
tl; dr 90 masiku, tsoka! Ngati ndikadatha kuchita, inunso mutha kuchita!
LINK - Idapanga pamwamba pa 90. Malingaliro ena.
by KhalidAki
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