Sindikonda kutumiza pa intaneti, koma kuyambira masiku anga oyambirira ndikulephera mobwerezabwereza, ndidamvetsetsa kuti kuwerenga nkhani zopambana kunali kothandiza: muli ndi chidwi, mumawerenga zakusintha kwamunthu wina ndipo mukufuna kuti zikuchitikireni inunso. Nayi yanga, patatha zaka khumi ndikugwiritsa ntchito mopitirira muyeso.
Ndikulemba mndandanda wopanda pake chifukwa zolemba zanga ndizoperewera ndipo mindandanda ndiyosavuta kuwerenga.
Ndikudziwa kuti zina mwazomwe ndimanena sizingathandize. Kuwona mtima ndikofunikira apa.
Zowonjezera zomwe zingapangitse maganizo anu a positi yanga:
- mwamuna
- woyera
- m'munsimu (motsutsana ndi Western Europe)
- Wakale wa 27
- Kugwiritsa ntchito zithunzi zolaula komanso zothamanga kwambiri kuyambira zaka za 18
- za masiku 250 opanda PMO
Kodi zolaula zanga zimasintha?
Inde, mwamtheradi. Mukamaliza, mutha kudziwa chomwe chili mbali ya umunthu wanu, ndipo ndi chiani chomwe mumangoyenda nacho chifukwa cha ubongo wanu ndikusowa chinachake chatsopano.
Ndasunga zochepa zomwe, zedi, ndisanayambe kuchita zolaula. Zonsezo zatha, ndipo kulingalira za izo tsopano kumandipangitsa kudzikwiyira ndekha, kapena kunyoza ndikunyalanyaza zopanda pake, malingana ndi momwe ndimamvera.
Kodi mawu anga akuzama?
Inde, zimatero.
Izi zati, zimathandiza kuyesa ndikuphunzitsa kunyumba. Osati zambiri, chiganizo chokhwima chabe apa ndi apo. Kuposa liwu lenilenilo, ndikuganiza kuti vuto ndiloti ena mwa ife timatsutsana kwambiri ndi anthu, osalankhula, ndipo timazolowera kukhala chete m'chipinda chathu, kotero kuti mawu athu ndi ofowoka chifukwa choti sanagwiritsidwe ntchito mokwanira, makamaka kuphimba phokoso lalikulu. Ngati mumapangira izi azimayi, ndiye kuti kukhala ndi liwu lamphamvu lokwanira kupitilira mawu ena ndikofunikira. Ndi chiwonetsero chachikulu champhamvu.
Zomwe ndimakonda pa zolaula zinali zosiyana: Ndinadana [x] ndi [y] zomwe ndaziwona m'masewero ambiri kapena pawebhusayithi, ndinkakonda zofewa komanso zachikondi, ndi zina zotero.
Icho ndi chophweka. Funsani funsoli kachiwiri ndipo dzifunseni nokha: kodi ndi chinthu chabwino kuti mufunikira zina zowonjezera zowonjezera?
Ine ndinali kumeneko, ine ndikudziwa momwe izo ziriri. Ngakhale m'nthaŵi zovuta kwambiri za chizoloŵezi changa, sizinali zachilendo kuti ndiwonere kanema iliyonse popanda kudana theka la izo.
Kodi sangangokhala chete? Kodi ayenera kuvala izi? Kodi cholinga chake ndi chiyani? Amaganiza kuti zoterezi ndizosangalatsa, sichoncho, ndizokwiyitsa komanso zoperewera. Etc.
Mwinamwake khalidwe lanu limakonda izi. Zimatsimikizira kuti, pamene muli kapolo wa kugonana kwanu, mumakumbukirabe mukuyang'ana chinthu chomwe simukugwirizana nacho. Ndipo mwinamwake zimakhala zomveka mwa njira yake, koma kusiya makhalidwe pambali, chifukwa makhalidwe abwino nthawi zambiri amakhala wothandizira anthu pochita zinthu. Pano, zikungotanthawuza kuti nthawi zonse mumasaka zochitika zambiri.
Kodi mbolo yanga imakula?
Icho ndi chonyenga. Sindikuganiza kuti zimatero, koma zimakhala ngati, chifukwa nthawi zambiri mumakhala ndi zovuta zonse. Zotsatira zake zitha kukhala zodabwitsa: Nthawi zonse ndimadziona kuti ndine wocheperako (ndimachitabe choncho), koma azimayi onse omwe ndinali nawo adandiuza momwe adasangalalira. Udindo wanu usangalala ndi kulimbikitsako: kukula kwake kuli kofunika, mwina, koma osati momwe mungasinthire.
Kodi kuseweretsa maliseche nthawi ndi nthawi kumawononga phindu langa?
Ndizo, koma pali malo omwe simuyenera kukhala okhumudwa nazo. Ngati mukungofuna kuthana ndi zovuta, yesetsani kukwaniritsa zovuta mwachangu momwe mungathere, popanda zolaula. Ngati simungathe kuchita izi, simuli okondwa mwathanzi, ndinu osokoneza bongo omwe akufuna kuti akonzeke.
Komabe, pali chitsimikizo chimodzi chokha: pakuyambiranso, ndichoncho. Anthu amati "palibe zolaula, palibe maliseche, palibe chiwerewere", osati chifukwa amalimbikitsa kudzisunga monga moyo. Oledzera omwe safuna kusiya, kapena kuvomereza kuti ali osokoneza, nthawi zambiri amatero pazifukwa zina.
Mwinamwake mukhoza kuseweretsa maliseche mwanjira yowonongeka, yathanzi. Koma OSATI. Kodi mumanena kuti ndi gibberish kwa dokotala amene amakuuzani kuti musayende pa mwendo wanu wosweka?
Pakalipano, choyambirira chanu ndi kubwezeretsa ubongo wanu kuzipangizo zosasinthika.
Kodi akukwera moipa?
Inde, zilidi zoyipa. Chifukwa chake ndi chophweka: m'malo mokhala ndi vuto losangalatsa ndikulimaliza, mumaphunzitsa ubongo wanu kusamba ndi mankhwala kwa maola ambiri. Ndi chinthu choyipitsitsa chomwe mungachite, omangira. Choyipa chachikulu. Ngati mwayamba ndikuzindikira zomwe mukuchita munthawi yake, siyani kapena thamangani mpaka kumapeto. Chilichonse chomwe mungachite, musasunge mayendedwe. Ambiri aife sitinali osokoneza bongo kwa PMO, koma ku PEO.
Ndingathe [x]? Sizolaula, pambuyo pake.
Ngati mumaziyang'ana kuti mukwaniritse zolaula, ndi zolaula. Mwinamwake si zolaula pamlingo wa "chikhalidwe", koma ubongo wanu sasamala, samamvetsetsa malingaliro otere, amangodziwa chisangalalo. Zomangamanga zomwe anthu ambiri amakonda kuphatikiza ndi izi:
- Sizochita zolaula, si zachiwerewere: Kuvala zovala zaukwati, kusambira, masitolo achizungu.
- Sizolaula, iye amavala: yemweyo.
- Sizolaula, ndizolemba.
- Sizo zolaula, ndi "zolaula" / "zokongola" / "zaluso": tengani chithunzi chilichonse cholaula ndikuchipanga kukhala chakuda ndi choyera. Penyani, ndi “zogonana” tsopano.
Ngakhale pali zinthu monga madigiri olimbikitsa (nkhani zakugonana zimakhala zochepa kwambiri poyerekeza ndi HD vids), zonse zimakhala chimodzimodzi pamapeto pake. M'malo mwake, china chake "chokongola" kapena "chamiseche" kapena "cholemekeza akazi" (kutengera momwe mumakhalira) nthawi zambiri chimadzawonongeka, chifukwa mudzalungamitsa momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito. Osachepera ndi zolaula zanthawi zonse, simungagunde mozungulira tchire ndikuyang'ana zifukwa zotsika mtengo, mukudziwa zomwe mukuchita.
Kumbukirani kuti zizolowezi zolaula ndizofunika kwambiri. Zomwe mumaseweretsa maliseche zilibe kanthu, zomwe zili zofunika ndikuti muphunzitse ubongo wanu kuti uzitha kuyanjana ndi zolaula, chodina, ma tabu, kusungulumwa, mdima, ndi zina zambiri.
Pamene ndinali wachinyamata, ndinali kukondwa pamene ndinamva phokoso la khomo lakutsekedwa kutseka chifukwa izi zimatanthauza kuti makolo anga anali kunja kwa tsikulo. Monga momwe mukuonera, izo sizikugwirizana ndi zomwe ndinkasewera panthaŵiyo (sizinali zolaula).
Kodi ndiyenera kuuza ena?
Zili ndi inu, koma nthawi zonse ndimatsutsana nazo pazifukwa ziwiri.
Chifukwa choyamba ndi chakuti, momveka bwino, mumadzitsegulira nokhumudwitsidwa ndi kusadziletsa, ndipo izi zimaphatikizapo anthu omwe mumawachitira, ngati mukuchita zimenezo kwa mnzanuyo. Anthu ena amanena kuti ali ndi ubwino wambiri, koma chiopsezo sichinthu chofunika kwambiri. Njira yabwino yolankhulira, yomwe iyenera kugwira ntchito ndi mkazi wina aliyense, ikugwiritsa ntchito kusiyana pakati pa zolaula, ndi zomwe ubongo wathu umagwiritsa ntchito monga zolaula (ie chirichonse chomwe timayang'ana kuti tipeze chisangalalo): muuzeni inu kuti muyang'ane chinachake chomwe angawone ngati wosalakwa , monga mayerero kapena madiresi aukwati, koma kuti, mutatha kuwerenga chinthucho pokhudzana ndi kukakamiza kwambiri, mukufuna kuidula ndikuwona zomwe zimachitika, chifukwa kukhala ndi bedi lolimba kumveka bwino.
Kumbukirani, akazi amafuna kuti amuna awo akhale olimba. Ngati mungadzionetse ngati otayika osafunikira kuchira chifukwa cha nkhanza zake zochititsa manyazi, mumakhala pachiwopsezo chosafunikira. Ngati mupitilizabe kunena kuti mukufuna kuyesa china chake kuti mukhale chirombo, sikuti simungamukhumudwitse chifukwa alibe chilichonse choyipa choti angakuimbireni mlandu, koma amakuthandizani kwathunthu.
Chifukwa chachiwiri ndikuti pali chikhulupiliro chakuti kuuza ena kudzakuthandizani kuti mupambane chifukwa cha kuyankha. Lingaliro ndilobwino, koma zoona ndi zosiyana.
Mukauza wina, mumamva bwino, makamaka mukalandira chithandizo ndi mawu achifundo. Chotsatira chake ndi chakuti inu simukulimbikitsidwa kwambiri kuti mupambane chifukwa muli ndi ubwino wabwino, osayesetsa komanso opanda ntchito konse. Nchifukwa chiyani mukuvutikira kupeza kukhutira mwanjira yovuta?
Ubongo wanu ndiwotchi. Muyenera kuphunzira zidule zake, chifukwa zimadana nanu.
Kodi ndingakhale ndi maloto ogonana?
Inde. Palibe chimene mungachitepo, palibe chifukwa chochidodometsa.
Kodi ndingakhale ndi maloto nthawi?
Inde, ndinachokera ku tulo tomwe sitinkachita maloto mpaka pafupifupi maloto awiri ogwirizana.
Ndikukulangizani kuti musunge cholembera kapena maikolofoni pafupi, chifukwa ubongo wanu umakumenyani ndi nkhani zosaneneka. Nthawi zambiri ndikadzuka, ndimadziuza ndekha kuti maloto omwe ndidangokhala nawo apanga buku labwino, kanema kapena videogame, ndipo ndibwino kuti muzisunga musanaiwale.
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Nthawi zambiri ndimakhumudwitsidwa ndi zomwe ndimawona, ndipo zitha kukhala zovuta kwa anthu omwe amafunikira thandizo koma angawerenge zolemba zingapo pa Reddit kapena YourBrainRebalanced, onani makoma a male-bashing, ndikuti ndi china "blablabla ndinu zoipa ”mankhwala. Sindikulongosola bwino apa, mungawerenge zonena zanga pano:
Malipoti ena ndi amanyazi kwenikweni, monga kuphunzitsa amuna kuti azisangalala ndi obetala beta ("Ndimamumwetulira, sangagonane nane koma zidamveka bwino"). Chifukwa chakuti simukufuna kugonana ndi mkazi aliyense yemwe mumamuwona sizitanthauza kuti muyenera kuvomera kuchititsidwa manyazi.
Popeza aliyense ndi wosiyana, ndimayesetsa kuti ndisadzitchinjirize pakadali pano. Anthu ena amangofunika izi, ndikuganiza. Ine sinditero, koma mulimonse momwe mungakhalire, yang'anani pa sayansi osati pazifukwa zomwe anthu ena amazichita. Mwayi wake, amachita izi chifukwa chomwe simukugwirizana nacho. Ndikudziwa kuti kutengera kwanga kwamakhalidwe ndi malingaliro pankhaniyi sikuli kwa aliyense, koma sayansi ndiyofanana kwa aliyense.
Nanga bwanji kukhala ndi bwenzi?
Popeza sayansi "yeniyeni" pankhaniyi ndi yovuta kupeza chifukwa cha zolaula zomwe zachitika posachedwa kwambiri, pali zinthu zina zomwe sitikudziwa.
Ndikutsimikizira kuti, poyamba, kukhala ndi chibwenzi ndi mnzanu panthawi yoyambiranso kukubwezeretsani. Chifukwa chiyani? Zingati? Sindikudziwa, koma ndikutsimikizira 100%, izo zimatero.
Komabe, patapita nthawi zidzakhala bwino: kumapeto kwa tsikuli, mukufuna kuphunzitsa ubongo wanu kuti ukhale wolimba ndi wokondedwa weniweni, ndipo maphunziro oterewa adzachitika ndi wokondedwa.
Kotero, ngati muli mmodzi kuti muwone ngati palibenso chidziwitso ngati mutataya mtima kuti muzindikire kuti ndinu wolephera (ndinkakonda), ndiye apa ndikutenga: ndikugwira ntchito.
Kodi mukufuna zodabwitsa zonse zomwe anthu anena kuti zikuchitikireni? Kenako pitilizani kuyang'ana nkhani zopambana nthawi iliyonse yomwe zolinga zanu zikuwonetsa kufooka, ndikudziuza "wow, ndikufuna zimenezo".
Ndikudziwa kuti ndaiwala ena, koma motalikirapo, anthu ochepa adzawerenga, ndipo izi zikanatha kugonjetsa mfundo zowonjezera kupereka malangizo othandiza.
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