Nthawi yayenda kale… koma lero ndine ndani, ndipo ndinali ndani masiku 90 apitawo… pali chachikulu kusiyana. Ndikulingalira kwa zaka zambiri, ndinkadziwa kuti zolaula ndi maliseche zinali zovuta kwa ine, koma zonsezi zimawoneka ngati zachilendo komanso zachilengedwe… aliyense nthabwala za izi, ndipo zolaula zimapezeka mosavuta ndipo azimayi ndi otentha… ndinaganiza kale kuti njira ziwirizi ndizolondola pambali ina iliyonse yogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena mowa.
Kuyang'ana Gary Wilson Ted Talk, ndikuwona ena a YBOP makanemawa amatsegulidwa kwambiri - ngati muli achilendo kuderalo ndipo simunawawonepo, dzikomereni mtima ndipo mutsegule mu tabu yatsopano pompano [Iwo ali m'mbali yammbali ->]
Kwa ine, NoFap inali yokopa kwambiri kuti isayese. Ndili kumapeto kwa 20 ndipo sindinakhalepo pachibwenzi, ndipo mpaka posachedwapa sindimadziwa chifukwa chake. Ndakhala ndikukhala ndi azimayi ochuluka mofanana ndi msinkhu wanga, komabe ochepa okha anali azimayi omwe ndimakhala nawo muubwenzi (palibe ubale wotalika kuposa miyezi 6). Ena onse, ndimakumbukira mayina awo kapena nkhope zawo panthawiyi. Zikanakhala zovuta kuti ndikumane nazo panthawiyi, koma ndikuzindikira kuti sindinangokhala chizolowezi chogonana, koma ndimakonda komanso kukondanso, komanso kuchuluka kulikonse chikondi kuchokera kwa mkazi.
Zomwe ndikukhulupirira zinayambitsa izi kunyalanyazidwa kuyambira mayi anga moyo wanga wonse. Mayi atha kupezeka, ndikupatsani zovala ndi chakudya, koma ngati sakhalapo kuti akusamaliseni, komanso amakhala ndi nkhawa ndi ubale ndi zolinga zake poyamba, mwana amatha kumverera kuti wabedwa ubwana, ndikumverera kuti zosowa zake "sizabwino". Mwachidziwitso, izi zingayambitsenso kusamvana mu dopamine malamulo, komanso oxytocin pamene malamulo (chikondi / chomangira), chifukwa chake sindinena kuti ndimakukondani kwa wina aliyense. Nayi cholumikizira ku pepala lasayansi pomwe ndidalumikiza izi: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3319675/
Kuzindikira uku sikunachitike, mwina mwina ndinali nditadutsa kale. Chidaliro chowonjezeka, kuwonjezera mphamvu, kusinkhasinkha kwakukulu, "mphamvu zazikulu" zonsezi ndizowonadi! Koma ndikuganiza kuti atengeke mosavuta ndi fap imodzi. Zinthu zabwino, kuzindikira monga bwanji timapanga ngati mankhwala omwe timagwiritsa ntchito kuti timve bwino, amenewo amabwera pambuyo pake, ndipo muyenera kukhala oleza mtima komanso muyenera kukhala ndi chikhulupiriro. Zili ngati zakudya zake ... ngati mwayamba kunenepa pang'onopang'ono pazaka 10-15 zapitazi, simungayembekezere kuti mutha kuzimasula mumilungu ingapo.
Ndimalimbikitsadi kuvuta kwa tsiku la 90 kwa wina aliyense kunja uko akuvutika ndi malingaliro omwe chilakolako chake chogonana amafunika kukumana kuti apewe mantha, nkhawa, komanso kusungulumwa. Mwina mukuganiza kuti, "Ndi chiyani chachikulu, ndimangokonda zolaula ndi jerkin 'it!", Koma yang'anani mozama ... mukuchita izi liti? Chani maganizo kumachitika m'maganizo mwanu musanafike? Sindingathe kuyankhulira aliyense, zachidziwikire, pamakhala zosiyana pamalamulo onse… koma kupeza njira yabwino yodziwira komwe zolakalaka zanu zimachokera ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera vuto lililonse. Kupanda kutero, mutha kuthana ndi chizolowezi chimodzi, koma gwero la malingaliro limatsalira ndipo mumangosunthira kwina. M'masabata anga oyamba a NoFap, ndimachita zodabwitsa - koma chifukwa ndinali ndi gf wokongola yemwe ndimakhala ndikumamuuza chilichonse. Sindinadziwe kuti, chizolowezi changa chinali kudziwonetsa kale kuti ndikhale pafupi ndi iye, ndikumva kuyandikira kwake komanso chidwi chake pa ine. Pali buku labwino kwambiri lomwe limathandizira kumasula mizere pakati pa ngati mumakondadi winawake kapena mukungowagwiritsa ntchito pamlingo wina kuti mumve bwino za inu nokha. Sindinamalize ngakhale izi, koma zomwe ndaphunzira zakhala zozizwitsa: http://www.amazon.com/Love-Addiction-Changed-Romance-Intimacy/dp/1592857337
Pamawu ochepera, zabwino zabwino zopanda pake kwa ine sizinakhalepo zodabwitsa. Ndili ndi zochuluka kwambiri mantha ochepa ndi kukayikira-Izi zimawonekera makamaka pantchito. Nthawi zina ndimagwira ntchito ndi akuluakulu apamwamba, komabe ine osakhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri kuti ndipotolanso china - ndimangoyandama molimba mtima ndipo palibe chomwe chimalakwika. Ndimatenganso zopanda pake kwa anthu, ndipo ndakhala wokulirapo wolimbikitsa wa inemwini. Izi zikuwonetsedwanso pakukonza nyumba yanga. Ndikumva ngati kuti ndakhala ngati slob nthawi zonse, koma kwenikweni ndikuti malingaliro amatanganidwa kwambiri ndikudyetsa chizolowezi chawo, mumalola zinthu monga kupukuta ndi kuchapa zovala ndi kugula chakudya chabwino kuchokera kugolosale kugwera m'njira. Tsopano, ndikutsuka magawo amnyumba yanga omwe ndinali ndisanakhalepo zaka 4+, ndikupanga ma smoothies obiriwira, ndi mitundu yonse yazinthu zabwino kutengera moyo wakunyumba. Ndasiya kuyesa kugonana ndi azimayi ena omwe ndi anzanga koma omwe ndimakopeka nawo, ndipo izi zindipangitsa kumvetsetsa zatsopano za iwo-mwina ndisanakhale otanganidwa kwambiri kuwalingalira kuti asamve? Tsopano ndimaphunzira makalasi osinkhasinkha, kupanikizana ndi anzanga, kupanga zaluso zambiri, KUGWIRA NTCHITO NGATI WAMISALA, ndalowa nawo timu ya kickball, ndikupita ku Europe… Ndikutanthauza kuti mndandanda ukupitilira ndi kwa anthu, sindingakuuzeni kusiyana komweko ili m'moyo wanga. Muyenera kuchita izi mozama ngati mukufuna kutero pitilirani molimba mtima molingana ndi maloto anu (Dr. Wayne Dyer)
LINK - Masiku 90 atakwaniritsidwa kwambiri! Zomwe ndaphunzira…
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