Masiku 90 NoFap, masiku 86 palibe orgasm. Zowonongeka kawiri, mwachidule ankawona zolaula kawiri (zosagwirizana ndi kukongoletsa). Kusokonezeka maganizo pakati pa anthu, HOCD, ndi kupanikizika kwambiri. Kudzidalira, mphamvu, maubwenzi olimbitsa, komanso kukondana ndi atsikana. Wakale wa 28 wamwamuna. AMA.
[Mayankho ku mamembala osiyanasiyana a mafunso omwe adafunsa mafunso:]
- Kodi ndi tsiku liti limene nofap linayamba kugwira ntchito?
Ndinayamba kuzindikira zabwino pamene ndimayandikira masiku 7. Masiku angapo oyambilira anali ofunitsitsa kuthana ndi zovuta za horniness, koma m'mene ndimapitilira ndikuwona kutsika kwakanthawi kwakanthawi. Mwinamwake masabata 2 mpaka 4 ndipamene ndidawona kusintha kwakuthupi, ndipo m'mene ndimapitilira kupyola vuto ndidayamba kuzindikira kuwonekera kwamaganizidwe, kuwonjezeka kwa malingaliro ndi zina. kulimbana ndi thupi langa kwambiri.
- Mukuganiza bwanji mukamawona zolaula pa intaneti kapena chinachake?
[Izi] yatsitsimutsa momwe ndimaonera kugonana kwathunthu, zomwe zimaphatikizapo kudziŵa chikhalidwe chosalakwitsa chomwe timakhalamo. Pamene ndinathyoladi mgwirizano pakati pa dzanja langa ndi mbolo yanga ndinasokoneza zotsatira zowonongeka kwa zithunzi zolaula.
Zotsatsa mafashoni, sipamu zolaula, sizimandithandizanso chifukwa kuseweretsa maliseche sizotheka. Ndikasankha kuyang'ana, ndimangoyang'ana mosaganizira, ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimaganizira za munthu amene ali pachithunzicho, osati thupi lake lokha. Zili ngati kuti ndiyenera kusinthana ndi malingaliro kuti ndiziwone kudzera pagonana. Nditha kuzichita, koma sipangakhale chifukwa chochuluka chifukwa ndikudziwa kale kuti sizibweretsa chisangalalo chilichonse.
- Amamva bwino, munthu?
Amamva zodabwitsa. Kudzikonda kwanga sikukanadakhulupirira kuti zinsinsi za moyo weniweni Zingakhale zopindulitsa, ndipo zimapangitsa kukhala ndi mtendere wamkati. Tsopano ndikuzindikira kuti malingaliro amtendere, amtendere ndiwotsitsimula, zomwe ndikuganiza kuti ndikuyamba kumverera.
Icho chinali chimodzi mwa zinthu zomwe zinabwera ndi nthawi (mwinamwake masiku a 70).
- Kulimbitsa flirtation, inde, koma kodi mwawona zotsatira?
Kugonana sikunali cholinga changa ndi NoFap. Momwe ndimaziwonera, cholinga choyamba chinali kudzipangira ndekha ndikulumikizana kwambiri ndi abale anga komanso anzanga. Zinthu izi zikakwaniritsidwa, china chilichonse kupatula icho (kuphatikiza kugonana) chimadzisamalira. "Lolani tchipisi kuti tigwere komwe angafe."
Izi zikunenedwa, ndidakumana ndi zina zomwe zidatsogolera ku madeti, ndipo zomwe zidatsogolera kugonana. Ndikumva mwamphamvu kuti sizikanachitika ndikadakhala ndikutha mphamvu zanga zonse zamphongo, koma sindinganene kuti NoFap ndi DIRECTLY kuti ndiyamikire. NoFap inatsegula zenizeni zanga, ndipo ndinadziyika ndekha! 😉
Koma panali nthawi imodzi, ndikudya ndekha pa chakudya, ndipo wazizira anandifunsa dzina langa. Ndidakhala ndikuthamangathana naye, ndipo zidatha ndikandipatsa mawonekedwe akuyang'ana mmwamba ndikunena "Ndikuyembekeza kukuwonaninso nthawi ina."
Ndikadatha kunena kuti "nanga utatha ntchito?" Pomwepo pomwepo, koma sindinamvepo kufunika. Kwa ine, ndi momwe mtendere wamkati umamvekera. Sitiyenera kulumpha mwayi uliwonse womwe ungakupatseni ngati womaliza womwe mudzalandire. Zachisoni momwe zimamvekera, ufulu womwe umadza limodzi ndi kumasulidwa kwakugonana kumamveka kwathunthu ndikukwaniritsa kuposa kugonana komweko.
Kodi ndingadumphe ngati ndikadakhala ndi mwayi wina? Angadziwe ndani. Ndikukuuzani zikadzachitika.
- Kodi mumakhala ndi nkhawa yanji m'mbuyomo ndipo ndi chiyani tsopano?
Nthawi zambiri sindinali wokonda kucheza, ngakhale ndimacheza ndi abale. Ndimapewa kubweza mafoni, ndimakhala ndi vuto loyang'ana m'maso, ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimatha kuwonetsa zomwe zimapereka vibe yomwe sindinkafuna kukhalapo.
Ndikuganiza kuti ndichifukwa choti ndimayenda ndikumverera ngati zabodza nthawi zonse; ngati kuti ndimakhala moyo wapawiri. Zinafika poti ndimayamba kuchita zinthu modzipereka, polumikizana ndi ena kuti ndiwasangalatse mpaka nditafika potha kuthawa. Ndidachita izi ndi osunga ndalama, anthu atsopano omwe ndidakumana nawo, abwenzi ndi abale, zowona ndimachita mantha kucheza ndi aliyense yemwe angatsimikizire kukhalapo kwanga padziko lino lapansi - mawonekedwe owona komanso achisoni chodzinyansa.
Zinthu zasintha kwambiri tsopano. M'malo moopa kucheza ndi anthu NDIMAKONDA. Ndimamva ngati ndilibe chilichonse choti nditaye, chifukwa zikafika pamenepa, sinditero! Ndimayang'ana m'maso, ndimayamba kukambirana, ndimaseka, ndimaseka, ndipo koposa zonse ndimamvetsera. Awo ndiye mawonekedwe enieni omwe ndimasowa, ndimamvetsera kwa ena ndikuwayang'ana, osadziwunikira ndekha. (Ili ndi gawo lalikulu la njirayi, zoonjezera / ocd / malingaliro othamangitsa, kwa ine, achoka pa 100 kufika pafupifupi 15)
Ponseponse kutuluka kwanga kumakumana ndi chiyembekezo. Chotsatira chake ndikulumikizana kowona komanso kwatanthauzo, komwe ndidachita mantha kuvomereza kuti sikusowa m'moyo wanga. Sindingaganizirepo kale, koma mwa kudziyika ndekha kunja uko dziko lomwe landizungulira lasinthadi kukhala labwino. Chokhacho chomwe ndimachita (kawirikawiri) ndikuwona munthu wina wamakamba ngati momwe ndinkakonda. Koma chofunikira kukumbukira ndikuti sizokhudza ine kubwera mwamphamvu kwambiri, koma ndi za iwo komanso mavuto awo. Ichi ndichinthu chomwe chanditengera nthawi yayitali kuti ndizizindikire ndili mthupi momwemo.
NoFap idachita nawo gawo lalikulu pondithandiza kuti ndisiye kutuluka. Makamaka pomwe malingaliro anga analibe kumvetsetsa kwamalingaliro kuti angothetsa zinthu zokha.
- Nchiyani chomwe chinakuthandizani kuchotsa malingaliro anu ku zokhumba kwambiri, pamene zinali zoipa kwambiri? Ndikudabwa kuti ndi zinthu zina ziti zomwe mwinamwake mukuchita pambali pa nofap.
Ndinganene kuti ndine munthu wosakhazikika, kotero sindinasokonezeke ndikakhala ndi chidwi. Ndikudziwa kuti anyamata ena amangokakamira, koma ndikakhala ndikutentha kwakanthawi zododometsa zanga zimakhala zochuluka (kusunthira chidwi changa, ndi zina zambiri).
Nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndi vuto mphindi 30 ndisanazimitse magetsi kuti ndigone. Ndikadakhala ndikumverera kotereku ndikukhala ndimanyazi ndikungochepetsera dzanja langa kutali ndi zonenepetsa zanga, ndiye kuti nthawi zina ndimaponya mahedifoni ndi zophimba kumaso ndikungodzitayitsa nyimbo. Nthawi zina ndimayesa kuzindikira zinthu zina zomwe ndimalakalaka, kupatula chiwonetsero. Mwachitsanzo, ngati ndikanatha kusiya chidwi changa ndikuzindikira kuti ndili ndi njala, ndikupita kukapeza zosowazo m'malo mwake. Kodi kuphika chakudya chokoma sikungomveka ngati njira ina yabwinoko yolowera m'mimba mwa mwana? Self_as_object ili ndi malongosoledwe abwino a njirayi yodziwitsa zovuta zomwe zimatchedwa "kutambasula gremlin" mu imodzi mwamavidiyo ake a YouTube. Zothandiza kwambiri.
China chake chomwe ndidachipeza pafupi ndi masiku 75 ndi mphamvu yakusamba kozizira. Ngati MUKUFUNA chilichonse choti chikutulutseni nokha ndikukuyikani mudziko lenileni, shawa lozizira lizichita PANO. Ndinayesa kuzizira kwamasiku angapo motsatizana, ndipo ndinafika poti ndinasweka ndipo ndinapsa mtima msanga, ndiye tsopano ndasambira kusamba la "Bond" (kuyamba kutentha ndi kutha kuzizira), Ndipo ndakhala kuti pafupifupi milungu 2 tsopano. Ndimakonda kwambiri. Koma nditha kunena kuti shawa lozizira nthawi iliyonse yofooka likuponyetsani munkhondo yankhondo yankhondo, yotsimikizika.
Ponena za ntchito zowonjezera, ndakhala ndikuyenda nthawi zonse, ndikuyesera kuchita yoga nthawi zonse, ndikudya bwino. Izi ndizo zonse zomwe ndimafuna kuti ndichite kwa nthawi yaitali, koma kuyambira NoFap ndikuzipeza zosavuta kumamatira nazo
Tsopano ndatsala pang'ono kupita kukagula Mindfulness mu Plain English, monga 1440p adanenera, ndikuyesera kuwonjezera kusinkhasinkha pamndandanda!
- Pa mlungu ndi mlungu, ndi nthawi zingati zomwe munapanga kale?
Mwina nthawi 10. Ngati ndikafika mpaka 7 inali sabata yeniyeni ya "champ" kwa ine. Mkhalidwe wopanda thandizo ngati umenewu. Ngakhale, kufunitsitsa kulikonse kuti zinthu zikuyendere kuyenera kuwonedwa ngati koyenera. Koma sikunali kotheka kutulutsa chilakolako chogonana chomwe chinali chomaliza chofuna kusiya.
- Kodi kumaliseche kunakupangitsani kumva bwanji? Munapita masiku 86 ndiye ndimaganiza kuti zidachitika molawirira (kapena posachedwapa), koma nditangogonana ndi mlendo (wocheperako), ndikumva kukhumudwa lero.
Zanga zinali zosangalatsa, koma zopanda kanthu (inde zinali patsiku la 86). Icho chinali chikumbutso chabwino cha chifukwa chomwe ndinalowerera NoFap poyamba. Sindikufuna chiwonongeko chabwino, ndikuyang'ana kugwirizana. Popanda kutulutsa mawu opanda pake kumangokhala kopanda tanthauzo mongogwedezeka. Chinali chikumbutso chabwino kuti ndisakhale ndi chizolowezi chogonana mosaganiza chifukwa sindichita maliseche.
- Malangizo osavuta?
Izi ndizovuta za malingaliro. Mukamayandikira ndi mtima wodzipereka mudzapambana. Lingalirani munthu amene mukufuna kukhala naye, ndipo sankhani kuti ndinu kale. Kenaka tengani njira zothandiza kuti mukhalebe momwemo.
Kutenga baji yanu ndiye gawo loyamba. Kenako mutha kusankha kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Khalani ndi zosokoneza mwakonzeka. Sankhani zosangalatsa. Malizitsani ntchito yomwe mwakhala mukuiyiyikira. Chitani chilichonse chomwe chingafunike kuthandiza mukuchira, chifukwa ndizosatheka kuti muzitha kuzichita nokha.
Pomaliza, siyani lingaliro loti muyenera kusisita kuti musangalale m'moyo. Sizowona. Kukhutiritsa kugonana ndikumva pang'ono, osawopa kuzisiya m'moyo wanu, mwina kwa nthawi yayitali.
- Nchiyani chinakupatsani inu masabata awiri oyambirira?
Kumangokhalira kunyoza mano anga ndikukana kulowerera. Zinali zambiri zokhudza kudzipereka kwaumtima kwa ine pachiyambi. Kulephera sikunali njira. Nthawi. Ndinadzidodometsanso ndikafunika. Ingosintha chinachake, ZINTHU kuti mutenge malingaliro anu.
Usiku wanga wovuta kwambiri unali pafupi masiku 14. Ndinali nditagona pabedi ndikuyesera kudzichepetsa kuchoka ku dziko lokongola kotero ndimatha kugona. Ndikanati ndidali wovuta kwambiri kuyamba nawo. Kenaka mwadzidzidzi anzanga oyandikana nawo apamtima anayamba kuyambanso ngati nkhumba ndikulira LOT. Zinkawoneka ngati kugonana kunali kutsekedwa mwa ine kuchokera kumbali zonse, monga chilengedwe chinali kundiwuza kuti ndikungopereka ndikudzipulumutsa ndekha chifukwa kulibe kuthawa. Mwa ine ndinakana kuchita izo. Ndinamenyana kwambiri moti misonzi inali kutsetsereka pamaso panga.
Zoonadi, monga zopweteka zonse zimachitika, phokosolo linapitirira ndipo kenako ndinagona. Kumverera tsiku lotsatira kunali msinkhu watsopano wa bata. Pambuyo pa masabata awiri oyambirira zinthu zinayamba kukhala bwino, ndipo nthawi zina zimakhala zoipitsitsa, koma nthawi zonse zimakhala zovuta. Zokhumudwitsa zowonongeka ndi kugonana nthawi yonseyi, chifukwa chinali chikhumbo chofuna kuwona zolaula (osati chiwerewere) pakatikati.
Ndimakumbukira ndili masiku 8. Zabwino zonse pa bwalo nambala 🙂 tsiku lililonse ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri. Khalani onyadira tsiku lililonse, ola limodzi ndi miniti yomwe simukugonjera. M'kupita kwanthawi, kuchuluka kwa nthawi kumakupatsani mphamvu.
Ndinavutika ndi HOCD kwa zaka khumi za moyo wanga. Zinayamba ndili ndi zaka 17 (munali mu 2001 Google isanakupatseni chilichonse pa mbale ya siliva). Popeza sindinadziwe kuti chinali chiyani ndidadzuka msanga ndikufika nthawi yovuta kwambiri m'moyo wanga. Nditatha zaka 8 ndikufufuza mozama pamapeto pake ndidazindikira kuti sindinali gay, koma kuti ndinali pamafunso ofunsa mafunso ndikuyesera pachabe kuti ndidziwe komwe ndikufuna.
Nditazindikira kuti hocd idanditengera miyezi ingapo kuvomereza lingaliro loti mwina ndikofotokozera zamakhalidwe anga. Ndidapita kuchipatala cha cbt ndipo kudzera m'malankhulidwe ambiri ndikuthandizira kuchokera kubanja langa ndidatulukira. Tsopano kuyang'ana mmbuyo ndikuwonekeratu kuti ine nkhani yanga inali 100% hocd. Ngakhale ndimayeserera zolaula ndili mwana, zomwe zidapangitsa kuti ndizigonana, sindingatchule kuti zolaula, koma mosakayikira zolaula ndizomwe ndimafunsa poyambira.
Kufikira patsogolo kwa chaka chatha ndi ine tinali kuona kuti ngakhale kuti mafilimu anga anali atadayika kuti ndinali ndikumvetsetsa bwino kwadzidzidzi (zinalidi zovulaza, zomwe zinali zodabwitsa chifukwa ndinkatha kunena / kuchita chilichonse chomwe ndinkafuna pazomwe anthu amachitira popanda kusanthula chifukwa cha zizindikiro za kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha) ndipo ndinali ndi nkhawa komanso kudzikuza komwe kunkachitika pa moyo wanga tsiku ndi tsiku.
Ndipamene ndidazindikira kuti pomwe hocd inali mphamvu yayikulu, gulu la zovuta zina za ocd komanso zowonetsa nkhawa zidakhazikika kwakanthawi komwe sindinazindikire. Ndidayesera kudzipatula zizindikilo zambiri mwakudzilankhulira komanso kulingalira / cbt, koma zinali zovuta kufotokozera motero zinali zovuta kulimbana nazo.
Tsopano, apa ndi pomwe nkhani yayitali ija imakhala yosangalatsa: pazaka zonse za 10, mosalephera, ndimakhala ndikulemera 1-3 nthawi patsiku. Sindinawonepo kukhala vuto, makamaka nditakhala ndi hocd epiphany pomwe ndidasiya kudzikakamiza kuti ndiganizire za ma dudes chifukwa "amafanana" ndi "zowona". M'malo mwake ndinayamba kulakalaka atsikana ndikuyang'ana zolaula "zowongoka" chifukwa ndimatha kukhala opanda mawu m'mutu mwanga kundiuza kuti sindinali wolondola. Ndinaganiza kuti izi zilibe vuto lililonse chifukwa ndinali ndi thanzi labwino m'maganizo. Ndidakula ndikukula, ndikupitilizabe kuganiza kuti ndadutsa zomwe ndidakumana nazo m'mbuyomu.
Komabe nkhawa yaikulu inalipobe.
Nthawi yonse yomwe ndimadziwa kuti panali mawu chete akundiuza kuti "izi sizolondola, sizosangalatsa ngakhale, ndizodzizunza, mulibe mphamvu" ndi zina zambiri. Koma monga ndikudziwira kuti nonse mukudziwa, chikumbumtima chanu chimatha kukhala chowopsa zosavuta kuthana ndi vuto lakumwa. Potsirizira pake, nditakhumudwitsa kwambiri DE ndi mtsikana, ndinafika poti ndinasweka ndipo ndinaganiza zopita ku NoFap.
Ndipamene maulamuliro apamwamba adalowamo.
Ndikudziwa kuti aliyense amafotokoza zotsatira zake mosiyanasiyana, koma kuwonjezera pakulimba mtima pakudzidalira, chiyembekezo chabwino komanso nyese kwa akazi, ndidakhala ndi mikhalidwe yambiri yomwe idawonetsa kuti nkhawa yanga idachepa KWAMBIRI. Ndakhala 100x wokonda kucheza kwambiri komanso ochezeka, sindikhala ndi mantha ochepa olephera, ndimayatsa pang'ono (kuganiza zam'mbuyomu / zamtsogolo), ndimayang'ana kwambiri ndikumveka bwino, ubongo wa ubongo udatsika ndi 70%, ndili wolimbikitsidwa, ndimadya bwino, ndimadya ZAMBIRI , Ndimakhumba kucheza ndi anthu m'malo mobisalira, ndipo ndimayang'anira zochitika zomwe sizikundigwira ntchito monga munthu.
Kwenikweni, ndine munthu yemwe ndinali ndi zaka 17, wochenjera kwambiri, wotsimikiza mtima, komanso wokhoza kuthana ndi CHINTHU chilichonse chomwe chimandiponyera ine.
Ndikudziwa kuti ndidangotumiza theka la mbiri yamoyo wanga patsamba lanu, koma ikatuluka out Kunena moona mtima sindikuganiza kuti wina adzawerenga izi, kupatula iwo omwe ali ndi ocd monga ife Amayamba kukonda kuwerenga ndi kufananitsa nkhani zina ndi zochitika zathu. Kwa OP ine ndidzalemba TL; DR, ndikuthokozani pogawana wanu reddit real estate ndi ine.
TL; DR: Sindinkaganiza kuti PMO ikundiyambitsa nkhawa mpaka nditalowa nawo NoFap. Tsopano, kutengera ndikusintha komwe ndakumanako, ndikudziwa motsimikiza kuti ndiyewothandizira wamkulu kwambiri.
LINK - Tsiku la 90 Fapstronaut, akuwuza ntchito. AMA
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