Ndiloleni ndidzidziwitse. Ndine dokotala, wazaka 28 ndipo ndinasiya kufalikira kumayambiriro kwa Januware. Ndinayamba ndi mndandanda wa masiku 7, ndinabwereranso kamodzi ndipo sindinasinthe kuyambira pamenepo. Ndinayamba kukula msanga, zaka zambiri ndisanathe msinkhu, ndipo zidakhala chizolowezi. Ndili ndi zaka 12 kapena 13, ndidapeza zolaula zoyambirira komanso kuchuluka kwa abambo azamagazini zonyansa, komanso nkhani zolaula.
Ndili ndi intaneti yanga yoyamba, ndidasanthula zolaula, m'masiku akale a modem makamaka kutulutsa masekondi 15. Kenako, zonse zidathamanga. Ndili ndi zaka 18, moyo wanga unafika poipa kwambiri. Poganizira mozama, zolaula zinali njira yodzilimbikitsira kuthawa mavuto am'moyo watsiku ndi tsiku. Intaneti yothamanga kwambiri idapangitsa kupezeka kopanda malire. Posakhalitsa pambuyo pake, kukhala nerd (kupanga mapulogalamu azilankhulo zosadziwika, eya!) Ngati cholepheretsa chowonjezera, moyo wanga wachikondi unachepa ndipo kwa zaka 8 zotsatira, sindinathe kupeza bwenzi kapena ngakhale kuyikidwa. Ndinayamba kukhala ndi nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa. Zinafika poipa kwambiri kotero kuti ndimayenera kumwa mankhwala opatsirana pogonana pafupifupi chaka chimodzi. Anali mpumulo weniweni ndipo anandiukitsa kuchokera ku dzenje lakuya. Potsirizira pake ndinayambiranso kuyenda ndi atsikana, koma zogonana - mwamalingaliro, ndimadzimva kuti ndilibe kanthu.
Gawo lotsatira lodzikonzera bwino linali chakudya, ndinataya mapaundi a 20 ndipo ndinamva bwino ndikudya zodetsa (zikomo, / r / keto). Poganizira za m'mbuyo, mbewu ndi shuga tsopano zimawoneka zopanda pake kwa ine ngati arsenic.
Chaka chatha, ndinali wokonda nthawi yayikulu. Zolaula zothamanga kwambiri, zopanda malire, zokhala ndi zocheperako nthawi zonse. Vuto langa ndi kugonana kwenikweni padziko lonse lapansi silinali ED (kamodzi kokha), koma DE, ndipo ilipobe. Njira zanga zopititsira patsogolo zimangokhala kutali kwambiri ndi zolimbikitsa zachiwerewere zomwe ndadziyesa ndekha kwambiri kotero kuti sindinachokere ku PIV. Ndidachezeranso katswiri wina ndikuyembekeza kuti zomwe akumana nazo zitha kuthana ndi kukhumudwa kwanga, koma sizinathandize. Zinali zovuta chabe.
Ndidapeza izi ndikuyika ndipo zidasinthidwa nthawi yomweyo. Zomwe ndakumana nazo pankhani yazakudya zinali zakuti kusachita kanthu ndi njira yolowerera kwambiri yopanga kanthu.
Chifukwa chake ndinayesa.
Kodi ndimakumana ndi chiyani ndi NoFap?
Masabata angapo oyamba anali ovuta. Makamaka m'masabata oyamba a 2-3, ndimakhala wovuta nthawi zonse ndipo ndinazindikira kuti dzanja langa lamatsenga linafikira mbolo yanga. Ndinabweza ndi dzanja langa lina. Pambuyo pake, ndinali ndimabuku angapo. Ndinasunthira zolaula zanga zonse pa hard drive yanga, "mwina" (sindikufuna kubwerera, konse!). Mtima wanga udakhazikika patatha masiku 80. Ndinagonana katatu kapena kanayi mgawo limenelo, ndipo sizinapweteke kapena kuthandizira.
Kuyambira pamenepo, ndinazindikira zinthu zingapo.
Choyamba, ndili ndi malingaliro omveka bwino kuposa kale lonse. Kudzera m'zakudya zanga, chodabwitsa cha utsi wamaganizidwe chidasoweka (mbewu zimayamwa). NoFap sinali mpumulo kuchokera kwa utsi wamaganizidwe kwa ine monga momwe zinaliri kwa ena, koma idakulitsa masomphenya anga, kulingalira kwanga mtsogolo kuyambira mphindi / maola / masiku angapo mpaka miyezi ndi zaka. Ndatenga zisankho zanzeru komanso zanzeru m'masiku 70 apitawa kapena kupitilira zaka zisanu zapitazi. Zosamveka kwambiri? Nachi chitsanzo: Posachedwa, mnzake wa mnzake anali ndi vuto ndi chibwenzi chake, ndipo amafuna nthawi yopumula ndikupeza malo ogona usiku umodzi. Ndidampatsa kuti atha kugona kwathu. Ngakhale adayesa kangapo kuti andikakamize kugonana, ndimatha kudziletsa chifukwa lingaliro loti zotheka komanso zotheka kwakanthawi zinali zamphamvu kuposa kanthawi kochepa kuchokera kukagona ndi mtsikana. Sindikuganiza kuti ndikadatha kunena theka la chaka chapitacho. BTW, adandithokoza tsiku lotsatira chifukwa chosagona naye.
Chachiwiri, ndikuwoneka kuti ndikufalitsa zolaula nthawi zonse ndimayenda. Azimayi amandiyankha m'njira zopenga kwambiri, ndikufunsani nambala yanga patatha mphindi zitatu ndikulankhula, ndikupanga ndemanga zomveka bwino ndi zina zotero.Ndipo chinthu chabwino kwambiri ndikuti, sindisamala, chifukwa nthawi iliyonse yomwe ena amaponda amafuna kulowa buluku langa, ine ndikuganiza ndekha kuti sali woyenera, ndikufuna chibwenzi chenicheni. Vuto ndiloti kusayankha mayesedwe achikazi otere kumawachititsa misala, chifukwa sazolowera kukanidwa ndi amuna ndipo amayesetsa kwambiri pamenepo. Ngati munaganizapo kuti m'masiku anu opusa kwambiri mwakhala mukuchita zovutirapo ndipo zomwe mumachita sizingachitike, yang'anani pa mkazi yemwe akukumana ndi mphamvu yakugonana yamphongo.
Chachitatu, ndimakwanitsa kuchita zambiri. Mukudziwa ntchito zosasangalatsa kulikonse komwe zikuyenera kuchitika ndipo ndizosangalatsa ngati chithandizo chazuwe? Zolemba zonsezo? Ndikwanitsa.
Chachinayi, ndikuganiza zochepa. Kulankhula mobwerezabwereza ndekha muubongo wanga sikulinso kwakukulu, ndipo nthawi zina tsoka limabwera ndikumvetsetsa kwanga kumangopita, ndikungochita "chinthu choyenera".
Lachisanu, ndiyimirira. Komwe ndikadakhala kuti ndadandaula chaka chatha, ndimanena momveka bwino kuti sindikuvomereza china chake. Mnzathu wamkazi mnzake adayang'ana foni yanga pomwe ine ndimalembera ena mwamseri. Mawu anga adamvedwa ndi mnzake wina wa 10. Adasokonekera ndipo kenako ndidamuwuza kuti sizinali zanga, koma kuti adangodutsa malire sindingathe kulekerera. Nditha kudziwa kuti izi zidandipangitsa chidwi kwa iye.
Chachisanu ndi chimodzi, ndikumva kupatsidwa mphamvu. Sindinenso pawn, ndine amene ndimapanga malamulo a moyo wake (monga momwe kungathekere chitukuko chovuta). Ndipo amabwera ndi mtendere wamkati.
Ndiye, kodi mawu anga akumaliza ndi NoFap ndi ati? Palibe zapamwamba. Kulimbana kovuta komwe kumawoneka ngati koyenera kudzipereka konse kwa masabata angapo oyamba. NoFap inasintha moyo wanga kwambiri, moonekeratu, koma pang'onopang'ono. Monga momwe tsamba lalikulu limawerengera, ndizovuta kwambiri. Chitani zomwezo.
Malingaliro anga ndi otani? Khalani bwino tsiku lililonse, popanda zopusa zilizonse zosintha. Chotsani DE yanga posadzikhudza ndekha motalika. Osayang'ana zolaula. Ndichoncho. Chidziwitso changa: Zichitika chifukwa sindichita chinthu chimodzi. Osati chifukwa ndikutsatira "malangizo odziwa" zikwi.
tl; dr: NoFap ndi da shit. Ili ndi lipoti la mlandu, muyenera kuliwerenga kuti mumvetsetse.
KUSINTHA: Chabwino anyamata, chinthu cha "zolaula" sichitanthauza kuti ndikuyenda ndi mtambo wamatsenga wondizungulira. Pali china chake chomwe sichinakhaleko kale ndipo chimagwira, koma sichinthu china chachinsinsi.
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