Sindikonda kugawana zambiri zokhudzana ndi moyo wanga (pepani za izi). Uthengawu amangofuna kuti ndigawe zomwe ndakumana nazo pazovuta za NoFap. Ndikukhulupirira kuti izi zimakhudzanso ena, kuti anyamata athe kudziwa zabwino zomwe NoFap amapindula:
Pazithunzi zochepa chabe
- Makolo anga sanalankhulepo nane za kugonana. Tangolankhula za izi mwanjira yosadziwika (kupereka ndemanga pa kanema, kapena zokumana nazo za ena). Sindimagawana zambiri za moyo wanga ndi makolo anga…
- Ndidayamba kusefa ndili mwana, kwinakwake pakati pa 10-13 yo.
- Kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula kosagwiritsidwa ntchito pafupipafupi (chifukwa chosapezeka) kunayamba pafupifupi 15, ndikukhala ndi pafupipafupi (koma osati zochuluka) ku 17 yo.
- Mitundu yamakono yogwiritsa ntchito zolaula (makanema a 1 pakadina kamodzi kokhazikitsira zokwanira) yoyambira pa 22-23 yo.
- Ndiyenera kunena kuti zaka zosangalatsa kwambiri pamoyo wanga zakhala 1- [10-12] ndi 17-27, zaka ziwiri zoyipa pang'ono pakati pa 22-27 ndi chaka chimodzi chovuta pakati pa 22-27. Dziwani kuti ndine 27-28 yo tsopano.
- Kukoma kwanga kwa P sikunakhale kopanda chidwi / kwachilendo. Zoipa kwambiri zomwe ndapita ndikupanga, kugonana mumisewu ndi makanema anyani. Omwe ndimakonda posachedwa anali atsikana okongola okhaokha okhala ndi mawonekedwe abwino malinga ndi momwe amachitira bj / "zachilengedwe" zogonana / nkhope. Ndikumva kuti ndikofunikira kuwonjezera izi; monga ndikukhulupirira kuti izi zimakhudzana kwambiri ndi kuchuluka kwa kudzimvera chisoni komwe mukukumana nako.
Ndasinthiratu pafupifupi tsiku lililonse (kupatula nthawi yowuma) popeza ndinazindikira kuti nditha kudzikhutitsa ndekha. Nditayamba kugwiritsa ntchito njira zamakono za PMO, zidafika poipa; Ndinganene kuti avareji imakhala mu 1 PMO / tsiku, koma ndinali ndimauluma mwamphamvu, makamaka ndikapanikizika (ma 1-3 maukonde olimba / mwezi, ndiye kuti 2-5 PMO / tsiku kuluma).
Zowonadi zake, ndikuganiza kuti kugwiritsa ntchito PMO pafupipafupi kumapangitsa kuti tisalumikizane ndi malingaliro awo. Ndikutsimikiza za izi monga momwe ndadziwira ndekha. Ndikutanthauza, ndikhulupirireni pa anyamata awa; ndizowona, PMO amalimbitsa malingaliro anu ndikupha kusinthana mwachangu ndi ena :-(.
Pazovuta zanga zaposachedwa
Zoti makolo anga sanalankhule nane mwachindunji zokhudzana ndi kugonana zandipangitsa kuti ndizimva kuti ndine wolakwa pa MO monse. Chifukwa chake, zodabwitsa!, Ndayesera kusiya PMO ndi MO m'mbuyomu (mwina kamodzi pachaka kuyambira zonse zidayamba). Zotsatira, kudabwitsidwa!, Zalephera mpaka nditapeza tsambali.
Ndidapeza bwaloli patangopita pang'ono pang'ono kumwa pang'ono kwa PMO. Ndinali ndikudzimva waliwongo chifukwa mndandanda wazintchito (ndimasunga mindandanda yazantchito, chifukwa zimandithandiza kuganizira kwambiri ntchito iliyonse payokha) osayima kuti ndikule; ndi zina mwazinthu zomwe ndikadatha kuchita kangapo pamlungu (koma PMOed m'malo mwake). Ndinazindikira forum ya NoFap reddit ndipo ndinayambitsa mndandanda wanga womwewo tsiku lomwelo, sindinawonenso tedtalk mpaka patapita masiku angapo… Ichi chinali / ndicho chikhumbo changa chosiya nthawi imeneyi kuwononga chizolowezi.
Chifukwa chake, mafotokozedwe achidule amakono anga:
- Panopa ndili kudziko lina, sindikuwona SO yanga tsiku ndi tsiku.
- Kwenikweni anali ndi masiku a 14 ogonana ndi OK yanga pomwe adabwera kudzandichezera.
- Zina zonse zomwe ndakhala ndikuchita sizinali zogonana (palibe PMO, palibe MO, palibe P; ndipo ndatha kupewa kuyang'anitsitsa zithunzi za atsikana kupatula mwina masiku a 3-7 [amayang'ana "okha" pa ma chivettes otentha]). Kotero izo zikutanthauza masiku 63 mu hardmode.
(PMO) Kujambula zoyipa (kutengera zomwe mwakumana nazo)
- Zokhudzana ndi kugonana (osati nthawi zonse, koma ndiyenera kuvomereza kuti inali nthawi yambiri)
- Kuyankha modekha / pang'ono pang'onopang'ono mukamacheza ndi anthu ena
- Chidaliro chochepa komanso mkhalidwe wofatsa mpaka kukhumudwa kwambiri. Zotsatira zake, kutsika kochepa.
- Kuwala / mtambo m'mutu mwanu womwe mumatha kupanga pambuyo pakugona; ndi omwe mudatsala nawo patsiku lotsatira.
- Pali mitundu itatu yokha ya atsikana okongola: omwe mumakonda kuseka nawo (chifukwa ali ndi nthabwala yofananira), makonda (tv / chikhalidwe cholimbikitsidwa) amatenga [chitsanzo chaumwini, mitundu yotentha ya Japan (AV)] ndi 9 + / 10 atsikana.
- Kutaya nthawi ndi mphamvu zonse.
Zotsatira zabwino za NoFap
Izi ndizosavuta, chifukwa ndi zosiyana ndi zotsatirapo zoyipa zomwe zili ndi mtengo wosiyanasiyana:
- Kugonana kwambiri. Izi ndizofunikira anyamata, kwa aliyense wa ife. Koma ndikukhulupirira kuti ndizapadera kwa iwo omwe akufuna kukhala okhulupirika ku maSO awo.
- Mumalumikizana ndi momwe mukumvera. Kusintha uku kumachitika pang'onopang'ono ndipo kumakhala bwino sabata iliyonse. Ndili ngati kumvanso wamoyo :).
- Chidaliro chikuyenda bwino, pamlungu.
- Maganizo omveka bwino. Kubwerera mmbuyo ndikuti nthawi zina sindigona mokwanira. Koma zili bwino chifukwa kugona-kugona kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kuposa PMO-haziness.
- Tsopano, pali mitundu yonse ya atsikana okongola: chifukwa mumakonda momwe amakhudzidwira, chifukwa mumawakonda mwanjira ina (mosakondera, pagulu kapena ena), chifukwa mumakonda maso awo, chifukwa mumakonda kumwetulira kwawo, chifukwa mumakonda china chake . Izi ndizokwanira kumva chidwi cha atsikana (lol) kwa atsikana… sindingathe kunena ngati izi zimapangitsa kuti mugonane kapena ayi; monga ndili ndi SO; ndipo pakadali pano ndakhala munthu wokhulupirika. Ndine woipa kwambiri pakunama ndipo ndimakonda kukhala motetezeka pazinthu. Ndiyenera kuvomereza kuti masiku ena, popeza ndimakhala wowopsa (m'maganizo, kuposa thupi), kuti sindingathe kusiya kuganizira za atsikana ena omwe ndimakopeka nawo kwambiri (gulu lonse la atsikana omwe ndakhala ndikuganiza kuti ndangokhala 3 -5 atsikana, makamaka awiri mwa iwo). Koma sindikudzimva kuti ndine wolakwa pazimenezi… sindinachitepo kanthu mwanjira iliyonse (kupatula kuyerekezera: P); Ndikutanthauza, sindinayese chibwenzi ndipo ndakhala patali (zomwe mwina ndizoyipa, chifukwa nthawi zambiri sindimacheza ndi atsikana omwe ndimakopeka nawo; kupatula SO yanga. Ndikukhulupirira kuti izi sizabwino, komabe pali pamenepo).
- Zolakalaka zanga zogonana zakhala ngati "zachikhalidwe". Ndikutanthauza, palibe choipa chilichonse chokhudza kukhala ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana. [Ndikutanthauza "zachikhalidwe" ndikutanthauza kuti 70% ikudutsa nthawi ndi msungwanayo mwachisangalalo / foreplay / kissing way and the 30% are sex bj / "natural"
- Ndili ndi nthawi yambiri komanso mphamvu. Ngakhale ndimakhala nthawi yayitali pagululi (inu anyamata ndizolimbikitsa kwambiri !!), ndikadali ndi nthawi yowonjezera ntchito yanga mwachangu kuposa kale. Mphamvu zowonjezera ndizolandilidwa kwambiri !!
Komabe, khalani omasuka kundifunsa chilichonse chomwe mungafune. Ndikungofuna kuwonjezera kuti ndayesetsa kuti ndidziwe zenizeni (sindikukhulupirira kwambiri maulamuliro apamwamba a NoFap…) omwe ndikuganiza kuti ndikuthokoza chifukwa cha zovuta za NoFap.
Chidziwitso: zikomo powerenga
Dziwani2: dzina langa lotchulidwira limachokera munthawi yamabuku odabwitsa. Ngati mumakonda "Lord of the rings", muyenera kuwerenga osachepera mabuku atatu oyamba a "Wheel of time".
LINK - Chikhomo choyamba, kugawana zomwe ndikukumana nazo za NoFap
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