Posachedwa ndayamba kugwira ntchito kwambiri pagawoli, ndipo tsopano ndi nthawi yogawana nkhani yanga. Sindiyesa kusintha zambiri ndipo ndidzakhala ndi zakale komanso zamtsogolo.
m'mbuyomu Ndinali wokonda kugonana malinga ndikukumbukira kuti ndikuganiza. Apanso, anthu amakono aku America amathandizira nazo. Zomwe ndimakumbukira poyamba zinali chilichonse chachikazi. Kenako idapitilira Cinemax usiku, komanso intaneti, ndipo zina zonse ndi mbiri. Ndine 28, ndiye intaneti idayamba kubwerera pomwe ndinali pafupi 12-13? Nthawi yayikulu. Ndimakumbukira nthawi ina pamene makolo anga adapeza mbiri yapaintaneti. Mwamwayi ndidayiyimba chifukwa amaganiza kuti ndi kachilombo, kapena "anthu amalowerera ndikuyika zinthuzo pakompyuta yathu" (phew).
Choseketsa ndichakuti, sindinakhalepo wosilira mpaka patadutsa nthawi yayitali m'moyo. Inde, ayi. Ndipo zowonadi ndinkalota maloto nthawi zina. Koma zolaula zinkakhalapo nthawi zonse, ndipo, monga mwana, mumakula mukuganiza momwe zimachitikira kugonana. Kutalitali ndi chowonadi.
Sindinayambe M mpaka O mpaka pafupi 22-23? (Malemu inde). Ndipo kuchokera pamenepo kunali kutsika. Ndimayesetsa kuwona kangati pomwe ndingakwanitse kuchita sabata limodzi, kenako tsiku limodzi. Mpaka pano sindinayambe ndagonapo ndipo ndinalibe chibwenzi. Hm, zoseketsa momwe onse amagwirira ntchito limodzi.
Lowani Nofap Chifukwa chake zidayamba ndi mtsikana yemwe ndidapita naye pachibwenzi. Iye ndi ine (tikupitabe) kupita ku koleji yomweyo. Zinthu zinayenda bwino kwambiri. Dziwani kuti ili ndiye tsiku langa loyamba kugwirapo ntchito. Pamapeto pa tsikulo, timayamba kupanga. Nthawi yoyamba ndinampsompsona mtsikana, 26 panthawiyo. Ankafuna kugonana, koma zinali zadzidzidzi kwambiri ndipo zinandimasula. Sindinali wokonzekera (ngakhale anali kundikakamiza), ndipo ndinachoka. Koma anali wopanda nkhawa, ndipo amamva ngati akubwera mopitirira muyeso. Izi zidachitika Lachisanu, ndipo Lolemba tidakhala ndi kalasi. Zinthu zimayenda bwino, ndipo ndimakondanso wina ndikamaliza sukulu. Pambuyo pake adakhala wotseka. Sindinadziwe chifukwa chake, koma ndinasanthula zinthu moseketsa. Ndinayesa kukhala wabwino, ndikumufunsa mobwerezabwereza, kukhala wopusa kuti abwerere kwa ine, chilichonse. Mumtima mwanga, pambuyo pake ndinazindikira kuti zomwe ndimangofuna ndikuponyera kwina kuti ndigone. Nkhani yayitali ndi yayifupi, adandiuza kale kuti sakufuna chilichonse chachikulu, koma ndidazilimba mtima nditazindikira kuti akuwona wina.
Kungakhale kosavuta kupenda mbali yake, koma ndiyenera kukhala ndi mlandu pa ili. Aka sikanali koyamba kuti ndimukankhire mtsikana, ndipo makamaka chifukwa chakuyembekezera kwakukulu kuti ndigone. Sindinamuwerengere, sindinkaganizira momwe akumvera, ndimangofuna zomwe ndimafuna. Ndasamukira kale (pambuyo pake m'nkhaniyi), koma sizinthu zosangalatsa zomwe zidachitika momwemo.
Pakadali pano, osatsimikiza kuti kudali kale kapena pambuyo pake, ndipomwe ndidazindikira nofap. Ndikuganiza kuti ndimasanthula reddit (seddit) kuti mupeze upangiri wa "kutuluka mu friendzone". Ndikulemala, ndikudziwa. Kwina kwinakwake ndikuganiza kuti ndidapeza David Wygant ndi nkhani yomwe adapereka, ndipo mmenemo adati "musawonere zolaula." Ndinapunthwa pa nofap ndipo ndinayang'ana Ted Talk vid. Zonsezi pamapeto pake zinali zomveka. Chifukwa chomwe ndinali wamantha pafupi ndi atsikana koyambirira kwa moyo, ndinalibe gf, ndi zina zotero.
Nkhondo ya Nofap Zinanditengera chaka ndi miyezi 5, kuyambira nthawi ya msungwana woyamba m'nkhaniyi, mpaka pano kufikira tsiku la 90. Nthawi iliyonse ndikafika pamtengo wapatali, ndimangomva ngati ndikufuna kuphulika pogonana. Inde "opambana" analipo - mphamvu, kuganizira, kuchenjeza, kucheza kwambiri ndi anthu, ndi zina zotero, koma ndinkangokhalira kuvutika nthawi zonse. Zedi libido inali yabwino, koma zinali zopusa, mpaka pomwe sindimatha kuyang'ana. Ndinali wolimbikira kwambiri kufunsa atsikana ndi zina zotero, komabe, zomwe ndimafuna kuchokera kwa atsikana zinali zogonana.
Ndinazindikira kuti ndikudzinamiza. Inde ndinasiya zolaula, koma ndimasintha m'malo mwake ndi zithunzi zina zachiwerewere. "Top 10 bikini" chilichonse, r4r, craigslist dating, gonemild. Kungodina kamodzi kapena kuganiza kuti ndingabwererenso, zomwe ndimachita pafupipafupi. Pazotsatira zanga zomaliza, komabe, ndinapita kozizira kuchokera kuzinthu zonsezo. Ngakhale ndingayesetse kuyesetsa kupewa zopeka ndi atsikana m'moyo weniweni ndimadziwa. (Kulola kuti izi zichitike kunanditengera chibwenzi zaka zingapo zapitazo).
Ndipo zidagwira anzanga. Muyenera kuyimitsa kutsatsa kwa intaneti kwama media opitilira muyeso. Ndizoseketsa, ndipo ngakhale pano mukamapita kusitolo, simungayang'ane osawona ma supermodel m'magaziniwo. Tili ndi mwayi wambiri wazithunzi za atsikana patsiku lomwe mfumu iliyonse idakhala nayo pamoyo wawo. Ndizomvetsa chisoni, ndipo njira yokhayo yotuluka ndikuchoka kuzinyalala. Kuchita izi, kuzungulira tsiku 40-50 (?) Zonse zinali zotsika. Ndinayamba kudzuka ndipo ndinali ndi chilimbikitso cha 0 kwa M. Ngakhale nditapita zombie fap mode m'mawa, palibe chomwe chidandimva ngati ndikufunika kuti ndikhale wosangalala. Ndipo ichi chinali mpumulo waukulu kwambiri womwe ndidakhala nawo m'zaka, ZAKA. Palibe gawo la 5 mphindi zochepa zomwe zingafanane ndi kumverera kwa kudzuka ndikukhala ndi malingaliro omveka, ophweka, opanda zofuna zamisala. Zimandisangalatsa. Mutha kuyitcha kuti kunyada, koma amatchedwa "WABWINO." Moyo umaposa kuthekera kokapeza boner. Atsikana kwambiri, ibwerera mukapeza munthu woyenera.
Zopindulitsa za Nofap Chifukwa chake anyamata ambiri amaganiza kuti mumangopeza mphamvu zamatsenga poyimitsa. Chokhacho chomwe ndinganene kuti chimachitika ndikuti mumamva bwino nthawi zonse mukamadziletsa. Kupatula apo, mumayenera kusunga mphamvu zanu zogonana pazinthu zabwino. Inde, ndikulankhula za kusintha kwa kugonana. Osatsimikiza ngati umuna ndi madzi amatsenga, koma zoyeserera zonse zowotcha zolaula zolaula zitha kugwiritsidwa ntchito pazinthu zabwino. Ngati mutagwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zonsezo kuti muchepetse kapena kuti mukhale opindulitsa, palibe chomwe chingakuletseni.
Gwiritsani ntchito mphamvu zonsezi, ndipo phunzirani momwe mungakhalire bwino. kutayika ndi gwero lalikulu la izi. Werengani mabuku a momwe mungalankhulire ndi anthu, kusintha thupi lanu, etc. Zinthu zabwino.
Kupambana kwa Nofap Chomwe chathandizidwa ndikuti "ndakumana" ndi mtsikana watsopano. Timapita kumalo olimbitsa thupi omwewo (crossfit), kuti aliyense adziwane. Zinayamba ndikuyendetsa galimoto kupita kuphwando la bday la eni. Kenako tinawona Hobbit limodzi (ngati mtsikana akufuna kuwona Hobbit, ali bwino). Pakapita maulendo angapo, tikupsompsonana, ndipo tsopano tiziwonana pafupipafupi. Sadziwa zomwe akufuna, koma ndikuleza mtima ndikusangalala ndi moyo momwe zilili, ndikuwonetsetsa kuti ndizisamalira ndekha. Zonsezi zitayamba, ndinalumbira kwa ine ndekha. Ndikadapanga zofananira za 0, kapena puns, kapena chilichonse chopusa ngati chimenecho. Ndidayang'ana kwambiri pa zomwe anali monga munthu, ndikumudziwa, ndipo ndi 1000% yabwinoko kuposa china chilichonse chomwe tingachite. Polankhula za izi, usiku wina tinali kupanga (kuphatikiza zowonjezerapo pang'ono) aaaaand ndinaseka matumba anga. Chifukwa chake ndidamuuza kuti ndine namwali, kenako osakhala ndi fap, onse atanyamula goo mu buluku langa. Ndipo amakhalabe 100% wothandizira pazinthu zonsezi!
Tsogolo la Nofap Sindingakhale othokoza kwambiri pamutuwu, anthu, nkhani za newbie, nkhani zazaka 90 zazaka zambiri. Inu anyamata ndinu odabwitsa, ndipo ndili ndi ngongole kuti mukhale olimbikira ntchito pano ndikatha kugawana nzeru zanga kapena kuyankha mafunso. Pitirizani kukhala anyamata, ndi 100% ofunika.
LINK - Zomwe ndikupambana tsiku la 90 +.
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