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Pa machiritso
Kodi kuchiritsa kwatha? Ayi kwa ine yayamba kumene. Zangoyamba kumene chifukwa ndili ndi njira zina zambiri zodziwonongera zomwe ndingagwiritse kuti, zolaula, zinali zochepa chabe mu equation yonse. Mwinanso ndizomwe zidapangitsa kuti zisakhale zosavuta kubwereranso, kuti ndimayang'anitsitsa pazinthu zina zambiri, zomwe nthawi zina ndinkayiwala lero ndi tsiku lokhazikitsidwa la Big Goal.
Kodi sindinabwererenso?
Izi ndi zoona ndikapang'ono pofotokoza zomwe ndinganene:
Nditayamba kuchita bwino kwa masabata awiri, ndinatha kuyimirira usiku umodzi ndi msungwana yemwe ndimamudziwa. Ndinkadana nazo. Ndinkadana ndi kukoma kwake komanso kununkhira kwake, ndimadana ndikumverera kwachabe m'mimba mwanga pambuyo pake ndipo ndimadana kwambiri ndi Chaser Effact. Ndikuganiza kuti ndinakhala tsiku lomwelo kwa nthawi yoyamba m'moyo wanga pa nofap.com (M'malo mwa tsamba lokhala ndi reddit) ndipo tsiku lomwelo ndidaphunzira zovuta. Zinkamveka kuti ndikufunika kuchita. Ndinaganiza za izi, mode hard adamveka ngati njira yoti mupite. Tsiku lotsatira ine ndinali ndi kuyimilira kwachiwiri usiku wina ndi mtsikana wachiwiri, amawakonda, ndipo ndinazikonda koma pazifukwa zina ndinazindikira kuti zovuta sizinali zofunikira. Pambuyo pa tsikulo, september 25th, sindinayang'anenso kumbuyo.
Chifukwa chake ngati muwerengera kuti kugonananso mobwerezabwereza, osadziwa kuti kulimbikira kulipo, kenako ndikugonana nthawi imodzi kuti mupange chisankho chovuta, ndiye kuti, ndinabwereranso kamodzi ndisanadziwe kuti zovuta ndizomwe zilipo, kenanso pomwe sindinapange chisankho chovuta.
Sindikuganiza kuti ziyenera kuwerengedwa.
Kodi masiku a 90 adandichitira zachinyengo ndipo chifukwa chiyani?
Gahena ayi, sizinandipusitse ine. Sindikumva kuti ndizosiyana. Moyo wanga NDINE wosiyana ngakhale. Ndikuyamba ntchito pa Januware, ndikuphunzira chilankhulo chatsopano. Ndili ndi ubale wabwino pang'ono ndi makolo anga. Ndili ndi anzanga angapo olimbikitsa, m'malo mwa ma lotta owononga. Ndikuganiza kuti ndikudzimva kuti ndine wolakwa.
Vuto ndilakuti ndinali ndi zizolowezi zina ndipo ndili ndi zovuta zingapo malinga ndi madokotala anga. Chifukwa choti ndilibe mphamvu zambiri, sizitanthauza kuti simudzatha. Ndikukhulupirira komabe, kuti kwa ena a ife, omwe amadziwononga kwambiri pakati pathu, tili ndi njira yayitali yoti tichite kuposa miyezi itatu yokha. Mwina 3 kapena 4 yaulere ya zosokoneza bongo kuti kukonzanso kwathunthu kuchitika.
Kusintha kwakhalidwe ndikofunikira, sikungatsimikizire izi zokwanira. Tiyenera kusiya kuwerengetsa masiku (kutsutsana kuli pamenepo) ndikuyang'ana pa dongosolo lalikulu. Kusintha kwakukulu kwa moyo wosiyana, chizolowezi chosiyana, abwenzi osiyanasiyana, malo osiyanasiyana, malo osiyanasiyana opindika. Zosiyana chilichonse.
Mphamvu zilizonse zapamwamba?
Ngakhale sindimamva kuti ndine wosiyana, anthu ena amandiuza kuti ndimawoneka ngati munthu wosiyana kotheratu. Amati sindikuwonekeranso kukhala wokhumudwa komanso wokwiya. Ndimasamala momwe ndimavalira tsopano. Sindili woyenera chifukwa ndidavulala ngati mwezi umodzi nditayamba zovuta, kotero atsikana amawoneka, koma samandipweteka kwambiri. Sindimayang'anitsitsa anyamata ambiri, koma ndimatha kulingalira kuti ndikadapanda kuvulala ndikadakhala miyezi iwiri yomaliza kumalo ochitira nkhonya, momwe zinthu zikadakhalira. Ine wopanda mimba ndi kuvala bwino zikadakhala zosangalatsa.
Mwa njira, kukonza ubale wanga ndi makolo anga kunali kofunikira kwambiri pa 1 nditayamba izi. Zinachitika. Kufikira, koma zidachitika.
WTF simunagwire ntchito?!? Kodi mwachita chiyani ndi mphamvu zina zonse?
Anandipeza ndi matenda okhumudwitsa (omwe akuti ndi osiyana ndi matenda amisala, koma sindikudziwa bwanji) ndi wama psychologist. Ndikumwa mankhwala a nkhawa, kukhumudwa, komanso kuwongolera kugona. Tsopano, pokhudzana ndi kapangidwe kake ka ubongo ndi kapangidwe kake ka ubongo, maliseche ndi mankhwala obwezeretsa thupi. Mumapanga chinthu chotchedwa betagammatic acid kapena china chotere pambuyo pothana ndi vuto. Anthu omwe amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito chiwerewere amakhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri chifukwa amafunikira kukhudzana ndi thupi kapena ziwonetserozi kuti akhazikike. Chifukwa chake lingaliro langa ndilakuti ngati simungathe kuthana ndi nkhawa mukapita kuzizira kozizira, pezani thandizo. Ndikofunika.
Pa moyo wanga wachikondi
Zimayamwa, koma ndikugwira ntchito ndi wothandizira. Monga anthu aku America ananenera kuti ndikugwira ntchito pazinthu zodalira.
Pouza makolo anu
Ndinawauza. Iwo sanadabwe. Adangondiuza kuti ndithandize mchimwene wanga kuzolowera masewerawa. Iwo sanakuwa. Iwo mwamphamvu budged. Ngakhale ndikuganiza kuti ndi nkhani yovuta chifukwa sanayambepo akunenapo kuyambira pamenepo. Ndikukhulupirira kuti chowonadi chimakumasulani. Ndipo monga wondithandizira adauza makolo anga kuti: "Palibe mankhwala kapena pemphero lomwe lingathandize wina aliyense ngati kungopapasa pang'ono kumbuyo kapena mawu othandizira makolo ake".
Ndine munthu wodzipereka zauzimu, ndikukhulupirira mabungwe onse ndi angelo alipo kwa anthu omwe nthawi zonse amakamba zoona. Ngakhale amene sakhulupirira kuti kuli Mulungu.
Pa Ulendo
Zimalimbikitsa kubwera, koma ndikuganiza kuti zidatsika pambuyo pa sabata 2 kapena 3. Sakhala vuto pambuyo pake.
Pamutu
Amachoka masana 20. Ngati wina wapita tsiku lapitalo 20 ndikupitilizabe kupweteketsa mutu, chonde yankhani izi.
Sintha: Mijereah akuti kumutu kumadutsa masiku 45-50. Izi sizinandichitikirepo mpaka pano, koma ndikukhulupirira kuti kupweteka kwa mutu uku ndi gawo la machiritso. Ndimalongosola malingaliro anga pogwiritsa ntchito cholemba cholemba kuchokera m'bukhu.
Zomwe ndimaganizira nthawi yomwe sindiganiza zogonana
Ndikunena izi poganiza kuti ambiri a ife pano tili ndi vuto lodzikakamiza, zomwe ndizomwe zimatipangitsa kuti tizilakalaka zinthu, osati zolaula zokha.
Anthu omwe ali ndi OCD (kodi ndife otchuka tsopano kapena chiani?) Ali ndi kuthekera kwathukati kwa ungwiro. Timaganizira zinthu mobwerezabwereza, timakambirana zakale, timatsegulanso mabala akale. Kodi pali njira iliyonse yomwe tingapangire izi kukhala zopindulitsa? Zachidziwikire, ngati ife
- Phunzirani chilankhulo chosangalatsa: monga French (makalata ambiri osalankhula) kapena zilankhulo zakum'mawa (Doumo Arigatou gozaimashita!). Kuchuluka kwa malamulo ang'onoang'ono omwe muyenera kuphunzira kuti mumvetse bwino achijapani, achi China, Achifalansa kapena aku Germany apangitsa ubongo wanu wa OCD kukhala ndi phwando la sitiroberi pijama mumutu mwanu mukalasi! Mudzadana nazo, koma ubongo wanu uzikuthokozani chifukwa cha izo
! - Sewerani masewera olimbitsa chidwi: Masewera omwe amafunikira chidwi chatsatanetsatane komanso kusinkhasinkha, monga masewera andewu, mafunde, kapena tenisi (mwina, sindinayesere panokha) ndi sitiroberi yomwe imakonda ubongo wanu wa OCD. Khalani omasuka kuwonjezera masewera aliwonse pamndandanda.
- Lembani buku / sungani blog / jambulani zithunzi: Simungaleke kuganizira zakale? Chitani kena kake ndi izo! Kujambula ndi kulemba ndi ntchito yovuta, ndipo ubongo wanu wa OCD'd uziphulika pamizere yanu yovuta, komanso mawu osakwanira. Yesetsani kulingalira kangati pomwe ndidasinthira positi iyi ya XD!
- Sinthani matupi athu: Ubongo wanu wa OC umadana ndi thupi lanu lodzaza ndi kupanda ungwiro, sichoncho? Chabwino, mwina sizisamala momwe umawonekera, koma ngati zitero, ndipo sungaleke kukudzudzula (ndipo sunavulazidwe monga ine) Ndiye ingolowani masewera olimbitsa thupi kuti mubweretse thupi lanu kuthekera kwathunthu. M'malo mwake, kukhala ndi mawonekedwe owoneka bwino sichinthu chomwe mumachitira thupi lanu ngati muli ndi OCD, ndi cha malingaliro anu komanso kudzidalira kwanu.
- Zen Buddhism !: Chiphunzitso chonse cha Zen chikuwoneka ngati chidapangidwira anthu a OC! Zocheperako, chidwi pakuwongolera ndi tsatanetsatane, kulanga, chinthu chamtendere ... Mudzachikonda! Lonjezo! Osayesa kulalikira aliyense! XD ikungoseka ngakhale yayikulu komabe…
Nanga ndimaganiza chiyani ndikakhala kuti sindimangoganiza zogonana kapena NoFap? Kwenikweni, pakukonza moyo wanga. Pa mantha anga komanso chidwi changa. Ubongo wanga wa OC umangokhalabe kuyankhula za zomwe moyo wanga ukadakhala kuti ndikadapanda kukhala osokoneza bongo. Ndimangoyesera kuti ubongo wanga ukhale wotanganidwa ndi zinthu zina.
Mukusintha izi
Kodi ndi izi? Ayi, sindikuganiza kuti ndi choncho, koma ndikhala ndikusintha izi ndikangolingalira zinthu zambiri patsiku langa lokumbukira masiku 90 ndipo, kumene, kukambirana kukuyenda.
Khalani ndi Khrisimasi kwa inu nonse
ulusi: Masiku XXUMX. Kuzindikira mpaka pano
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Wawa, munthu watsopano pano.
Nkhani yomwe ili mkati imafotokoza pang'ono za mbiri ya moyo wanga. Kwenikweni ndimakonda kugwiritsa ntchito mavidiyo ndi zolaula pafupifupi moyo wanga wonse, sindinadziwe chilichonse chosiyana. Dulani ngati mukufuna.
Tikukhulupirira sindiletsedwa kapena chilichonse pazantchito yayitali chonchi
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Kwambiri Kusankha-Kuwerengera komanso makamaka Mbiri Yamoyo
Ndili ndi zaka zisanu makolo anga adandipatsa kosewerera masewerawa kanema koyamba, ndipo ndidakhala moyo wanga. Ingosewera masewera a vidiyo, abwenzi a zero ndi nyumba yosweka.
Kenako ndidatembenuza zaka 14 ndipo molakwitsa, ndikulakwitsa pa dzina la webusayiti (yahhoo.com ndizomwe ndidalemba), ndidayamba kuthawa zolaula koyamba. Kuyambira 14 mpaka 16 yo moyo wanga unali zolaula komanso mavidiyo.
Pa 16 mtsikana wamkulu, Emily, adayamba kundikonda. Anali ndi zaka 22 ndipo ankakhala mosiyana. Tidagonana pafoni nthawi zambiri, ndipo nthawi zomwe timakumana timakhala ndi zomwe ndimaziwona ngati "nthawi yayitali yogonana" masiku 2 kapena 3. Amawoneka ngati ma pocahontas, ofupikira okha, komanso owerenga bwino. Ndinalowa nawo gawo lochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi chifukwa ndikuganiza kuti ndimachita mantha ndi azinzake aku koleji, komanso chifukwa ndimafuna kuti andisangalatse kwambiri. Chifukwa chake pofika tsiku langa lobadwa la 17th moyo wanga unali masewera olimbitsa thupi, kugonana pafoni, makanema apa vidiyo komanso zolaula.
Ndinabera Emily kangapo pazaka zambiri, makamaka kumpsompsona atsikana ena. Analira ngati wamisala, pafoni, ndikamuuza zomwe ndachita, koma amandidalira ndipo sanandilole kupita. Tangoganizani kuti adayamba kugwiritsa ntchito foni (maliseche) komanso kugonana. Kapenanso adagwa mchikondi kwambiri, ndipo amadzidalira. Myabe ndinali wotentha kwambiri kuthana ndi XD, anzanga omwe anali atakhala nthawi yayitali amandiuza pamsinkhu wanga thupi langa linali losakhulupirika, koma kudzidalira kwanga kunali kotsika kwambiri kotero kuti sindikuwona kusiyana ngakhale lero, ndikayang'ana galasi.
Ndinasiyana ndi msungwana wakutali nditapeza zinthu za David Deangelo. Ndi lingaliro la ojambula, ndi thandizo pang'ono kuchokera ku thupi langa lopambana zolimbitsa thupi, ndinadzipezera bwenzi lokongola modabwitsa ndili ndi zaka 23. Anali wonenepa, wokwanira, ndi tsitsi lakuda, khungu loyera, mtundu wanthawi yochepa komanso zolemba wophunzira, wachinyamata, woseketsa, wanjala yakugonana, wokonda amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, komanso wokonda kwambiri mutu. Anagwiriridwa ali mwana mobwerezabwereza ndi abambo awiri osiyana. Dzina lake anali Karla. Ndikuganiza za ine, mapanga awiri okha a Karla anali oti anali wozizira (samatha kukhala ndi ziphuphu pokhapokha atadzithandiza) ndipo anali ndi mabere ang'onoang'ono. Zina zonse ndimakonda za iye. Chilichonse. Kuphatikizapo zonyansa zake. Tinkachita ngati akalulu kenako timagona usiku wonse tikulankhula za mabuku ndi zinthu zachinsinsi, tikudya chakudya chamadzulo, osatopetsana wina ndi mnzake. Komabe, ndinasewera maliseche paubwenziwu, kwa azimayi oyembekezera omwe anali ndi zotupa za mulitple.
Ndili ndi karla ndidapsompsona msungwana wina, yemwe ndimafanizo wokhala ndi mawere onyasa. Karla analira ngati wamisala ndipo pamapeto pake anagona ndi mnzanga wapamtima. Ndikulingalira kuti kunali kubwezera kwina chifukwa adasankha, kwa anzanga onse, munthu wakuda yemwe ali ndi mphamvu zambiri. Ndikadali ndi zovuta zakukhulupirira kuyambira nthawi imeneyo, ndipo kuchokera kwa ine kukhala wopambana moyo wanga wonse.
Kuthamangira kukhala pafupifupi zaka 30, lero. Ndinazindikira kusinkhasinkha ndikuyesera kukonza moyo wanga. Palibe ubale womwe wandigwirira ntchito kuyambira Karla, sindingathe kukhala pachibwenzi pokhapokha ngati sichikhala ndi akazi ooneka bwino omwe amadzidalira. Mukawerenga zonsezi mwina mumazindikira kuti sindimangokhala zolaula kapena kuseweretsa maliseche, koma zogonana komanso adrenaline ya onse othamangitsa azimayi komanso kusewera makanema apa vidiyo.
Mapeto a Kusankha-Kuwerengera ndipo makamaka Mbiri Yamoyo 
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Nkhani yayitali Mwachidule
Mfundo ndiyakuti, zizolowezi ziwirizi, makanema apa vidiyo komanso zolaula, zawononga moyo wanga wonse. Ndangokambirana za maubwenzi, koma ndilibe ntchito, ndilibe mtsikana, ndipo ndaphunzira ntchito yomwe sindimakonda. Posachedwapa ndapanga PE ndi ED. Ndikudwala ndi izi.
Nditasiya masewera osokoneza bongo nditayamba nkhonya. Amachotsa mkwiyo wonse. Koma osati chizolowezi chogonana. Kotero tsopano ndikuyesera izi. Ichi ndiye chinthu chovuta kwambiri chomwe ndidayesapo. Sindingagone, mikwingwirima yanga imamva ngati ili ndi ma leprechauns onenepa atapachikika, ndimakwiya / kukhumudwa / kuchita mantha mosadziwika paliponse…
Komabe, ndidakhala milungu iwiri osakhazikitsanso ... Ndipo ndidangokhazikikanso pamalo amodzi usiku ndisanazindikire kuti ndikufuna kuyesa zovuta nofap. Zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ndinamverera Surge… zinthu zoposa zaumunthu ... Ndipo ndiyenera kukuwuzani, zimangokhala zosokoneza, makamaka mukamachita bwino kwambiri pamasewera a nkhonya / kunyamula, ngakhale thupi langa limawoneka ngati achinyamata anga (palibe amene akuwonanso) XD.
Mundifunire zabwino, pepani chifukwa chazitali, ndipo chonde ndiwuzeni momwe ndimapezera zoyipa / zowerengera.
Kondani nonse
Jimmy waku Paracas
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