Zaka 33 - DE, nkhawa pagulu, kudzida kumatha, amakonda moyo

Ndatsiriza zovuta za 90 tsiku! Kodi ndaphunzira za ine ndekha kukhala munthu wabwino kuchokera pamenepa? Inde, koma osati pazifukwa zomwe ndimaganiza. Ndiloleni ndifotokoze. Ndine 33, ndipo ndakhala chidakwa kwa PMO kwazaka khumi.

Monga ambiri pano, ndidakulira pa intaneti, ndipo popeza ndine mtundu wa "owononga" ndidachita chidwi ndi nkhani zam'makalata, mabanki apansi panthaka, 4Chan (isanayeretsedwe), TOR ndi ntchito zina zosagwirizana kumene zosavomerezeka sizinali zosavuta bwerani. Zizolowezi zanga zowonera zinayamba kukhazikika, mpaka mayi wopanda maliseche sanandidzukenso - zinanditengera mphamvu kuti ndisiye. Pambuyo pa gawo la PMO ndimatha kubwerera m'maganizo mwanga ndikudzinyansa ndekha. Ndikuganiza kuti "Sindingafune kukhala ndi kugonana kotere m'moyo weniweni, ndichifukwa chiyani izi ndizomwe ndimayenera kugwiritsa ntchito kuti ndichoke? Kodi ndawonongeka? ”

Panthawi yanga yosokoneza, moyo wanga unali chipolopolo cha munthu. Ndinkakhala ndekha kwa zaka zambiri, choncho PMO anali wakhama usiku uliwonse asanagone. Zinali "zachilengedwe" monga kuvala zoyipa - kulakwa komwe ndidamva ndili mwana ndikusinthidwa ndikusangalala kuti ndinali munthu wanzelu zomwe zimandivuta kulamula. Koma zonse zinali zotsogola, ndipo zoona zake zidali zowonongeka m'maganizo anga kuyambira pazaka zanga zowonera zododometsa - chinthu chomwe sindinafune kuvomereza kwa ine kapena anthu ena - ngakhale pagawo la intaneti losadziwika monga NoFap. Adandichotsa kubanja ndi abwenzi, kumverera ngati kuti ndili m'dziko lapansi lokha. Ndimakhala ndikukhala ndi nkhawa, ndipo kusefera ndi chinthu chokhacho chomwe ndimapanga.

Ndinkadzimva kuti sindili woyenera kukhala ndi mnzake wamkazi, ndikuopa kuti palibe mkazi, ngakhale akhale wokoma kapena wabwino, angakwaniritse zikhumbo zanga zopotoka. Sindimayenera kukhala "mtsikana wabwino" mmalo mwake ndidasiya kugwira ntchito nthawi zonse ndikumasewera azungu omwe "amapulumutsa mtsikana yemwe ali ndi vuto" - komanso maubwenzi ambiri osakhalitsa (osalephera) kuwonetsa poyesetsa kwanga. Zowawa zamavuto am'mutu zimakonda kufunafuna kampani. Ine chifukwa chovuta pagulu komanso nkhawa zinali zowononga maubale omwe ndidakhala nawo. Inali nthawi imeneyi pamene ndinapanga malingaliro anga: uyu si amene ine ndiri.

Ndidafunikira kupeza njira ina yokhalira ndi moyo, ndipo monga wogwiritsa ntchito wa Reddit ndimadziwa za NoFap koma ndimaganiza mopusa kuti kusiya PMO kumabweretsa kusintha m'moyo weniweni. Komabe, ndinazindikira malingaliro anga osayenera okonda ndekha kuti ndayamba kugwiritsa ntchito PMO, kotero ndidaganiza zoyesa NoFap ngati gawo limodzi lodzigwira ntchito ndekha. Mnyamata ndidadabwa…

Pomwe ndidaganiza zopewa masiku oyambilira anali gehena. Mipira yanga idawotchera pomwe akumva kuwawa. Ndinagona kumbuyo kwanga chifukwa ngakhale kukhudza pang'ono kunali kowawa. Panali kulakalaka kosalekeza ndipo ndinasekedwa sabata yoyamba - china chake chomwe chinanditsimikizira kwambiri kuti izi zinali chifukwa cha dopamine kukanidwa ku thupi. Ndidapanga masiku a 32 ndikuyesa kwanga koyamba. Munthawi imeneyo ndinazindikira zambiri mwa "zazikulu" zomwe ena adatchulazi. Ndabwereranso kangapo pambuyo pake pazaka za 1 sabata, koma nthawi ino ndine wonyadira kudzipereka kuti ndiyambe mwambo wamasiku a 90. Pambuyo masabata angapo oyamba kumakhala kosavuta kupewa. Dziwani kuti: musataye mtima - iyi siyovuta .... Koma ndiyofunika!

"Opambana" omwe ndidakumana nawo ndekha:

  • Zovuta zamtundu wa anthu zapita - Asanachitike NoFap ndinali pafupi kupeza Xanax kapena mankhwala ena kuti andithandizire kukhala ochezeka. Ndimabisala kunyumba kumapeto kwa sabata ku PMO. Pomwe ndimapita ndikanamva ngati aliyense amadziwa chinsinsi changa ndipo ndikungofuna kukhala ndekha. Tsopano? Ndabwereranso ku njira zanga zakale - ndikupanga nthabwala ndikuyika maulendo ena pagombe / makanema / kuvina / zina ndi abwenzi - kutembenuka kwa 180 kuyambira miyezi ingapo yapitayo.
  • Kulimba mtima kwambiri - Ndisanapewe kupereka malingaliro anga ngati zingakhumudwitse wina mwangozi. Sindinali kunena zoona polumikizana ndi anthu chifukwa nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndikugwirizana nawo kuti awakonde. Tsopano? Ndimayenda molimba mtima, ndikuyang'ana ndi amuna ndi akazi, mawu akuya komanso kumasuka m'zochita zanga za tsiku ndi tsiku. Tsopano ndikumva ngati malingaliro ndi zochita zanga zili zofunikira / zofunika (kapena zochulukirapo) kuposa wina aliyense - kudzidalira kwanga ndikosiyana ndi zaka zambiri.
  • Ubwenzi wathanzi - Ndine munthu wabwino wowoneka bwino komanso ndimapanga ndalama zambiri, komabe ndimatha kukhala mu mauvuto osakhalitsa komwe ndidali beta. Ndinaonanso mahule kuti ndimangokhutira osakhutitsidwa ndi maubale (omwe ndimawona kuti ndiosayenera kukhala nawo). Tsopano? Patatha pafupifupi miyezi ya 3 ya NoFap (ndinakhazikitsanso kangapo m'miyezi yoyambirira) ndinakumana ndi mtsikana kumapwando. Nditakumana naye baji yanga idali pa 2 - koma ndidasankha kuti ndiyenera kuyesetsa kusiya chizolowezi ichi. Nthawi yomwe ndimakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndiye kuti PMO m'malo mwake ndimakonda kucheza ndi mtsikana uyu. Tsopano masiku XXUMX pambuyo pake amakhala ndi ine ndipo tikulankhula zaukwati / ana.
  • Kugonana - Kuchokera zaka za PMO ndidasokoneza zilakolako zachilengedwe zomwe zimaloleza kuti zizolowereka panthawi yogonana. Nditha kuvutika koma kukhala ndi DE (kuchedwa kumumvera) mpaka pomwe ndimachita manyazi kugonana chifukwa sindingathe kumalumikiza ndi mkazi. Tsopano? Zinali zovuta kuti ndikhale ndi chibwenzi chokhazikika, koma amandikonda komanso kundileza - chinthu chomwe sindili ndi ine. DE yanga ndiyabwino kwambiri, ndipo njira zakuchedwa zikugwiritsidwa ntchito tsopano kuti zimupangitse kupangitsa kuti azichita bwino. Chikhumbo changa chogonana tsopano chili ndi njira yoyenera ndipo ndikumva bwino kukhala cholengedwa chomwe ndidabadwa sichidzakhala ndi mlandu pambuyo pake.
  • Malingaliro azabwino - ndikadadzida. Ndingadzichepetse poganiza. Ndinaganiza zodzipha. Ndikulakalaka ndikadagona mpaka kalekale. Tsopano? Ndimakonda moyo. Ndi moyo wofanana ndendende (ntchito yomweyo, galimoto yomweyo, mavuto omwewo) komabe anthu m'moyo wanga komanso zochitika zina zatsopano zimandisangalatsa kudzuka. Kukhumudwa ndi chinthu choyipa ndipo malingaliro anu amapanga zenizeni. Maganizo athanzi = Moyo wathanzi. Malingaliro osavomerezeka = moyo wopanda thanzi.

*TL / DR: NoFap yasintha momwe ndimadzionera. Zandipatsa china chake choti ndizinyadira. Zandiphunzitsa kudziletsa. Zandipanga kukhala wabwino kuposa momwe ndinalili kale. *

Zikomo nonse chifukwa chazolemba zanu mu sub-reddit iyi, ndizosangalatsa kudziwa kuti sindili ndekha. Moyo umakhala bwino popanda PMO, ndipo tsiku lina mudzamvetsetsa / kukhulupirira chifukwa chomwe ndikunenera (ngakhale simukumva choncho). Ndikukhulupirira kuti nditha kulimbikitsa munthu m'modzi kuti apitirize kuthana ndi vutoli ndikusintha moyo wawo - momwemo momwe ndidalimbikitsidwira pomwe ndidakonzeka kusintha.

Masiku a 90 kukhala ndi moyo wabwino! Nkhani yanga yomenyera nkhondo ndikupambana pazaka khumi zomwe PMO amadzivutitsa 

by zopanda pake masiku 90

KHALANI MASIKU A 180

Moni anzanga oyenda nawo limodzi, ndimafuna kupereka ndemanga pa "zachilendo" zanga zatsopano komanso mawu ochepa olimbikitsa kwa omwe ali paulendowu. Lero ndi tsiku langa la 180th lopewa PMO. Ndili ndi zaka 33 ndipo ndikakumbukira zakale zomwe ndimachita zolaula ndimachita manyazi kuti ndawononga nthawi yayitali bwanji.<--break->” src=”https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/spacer.gif” title=”<--break-->“></p><p>PMO was a habit for me, one where I would spend 2 to 4 hours a night searching for “just the right video” that was bizarre or degrading enough for my mind to feel satisfied. Like any habit the amount and intensity of the required material escalated to unhealthy levels. I was a slave to my mind. I rationalized away my self-destructive behavior, excusing myself again and again, all while feeling weak to my own urges. I viewed women as sexual beings only, and secretly hated myself and felt unworthy of love. If this is also your story fellow Fapstronaught… take heed: there is hope.</p><p>After finding out about NoFap (from 4chan of all places) I read up and watched the Your Brain On Porn videos. I then understood that part of my problem was willpower… the other part was addiction. When I understood my behavior as an addiction like any other (to cigarettes, drugs, etc) I resolved to take control of my life and wrestle my mind free from its addicted state.</p><p>It was not easy at first. I had physical pains and withdrawal symptoms in the fist week. There was a literal burning sensation in my groin that wanted release. I stuck with it. I relapsed a few times but now, after relapsing I understood that it was like a smoker wanting for “one more cigarette” – and I forgave myself. I saw my body as acting separate from my true desire and made peace with myself that although the flesh is week, my spirit was willing. I did not give up, and neither should you.</p><p>I started on “hard mode” (no gf) but after a few weeks I met this new and amazing girl who will become my wife in a few months (we are engaged!). It was difficult to transition into a relationship as years of self abuse using porn had desensitized me sexually with DE as well as mentally. There was a period of resetting to my “new normal” which is what I now live everyday. Here are some things I now enjoy that I did not before:</p><ul><li>Improved mental clarity – there is a mental fog that used to follow me around blurring and dulling my sight and other senses. I feel more alert and sensitive to the world now.</li><li>More productive time – I used to have a routine of coming home from work, eating food then spending the rest of the night torrenting porn or searching for the “right video” to get me off. Now, I have my fiancee with me in the evenings to talk to, to cook together, to play with the dog, to enjoy our time instead of waste it.</li><li>Self esteem – I used to avoid social situations and even going out with friends as my anxiety worsened. This social anxiety was rooted in feelings of unworthiness. I did not feel I had anything useful to contribute to conversations and my presence was a burden to others. Not anymore. I speak from my heart and am bold in my actions – I have re-discovered the man I was years ago.</li><li>More in control of emotions and life – Before I would feel like I had little control of my daily life and that my insular routine was keeping me “safe” – in fact my sheltered existence was wasting my life away in a daily grind that only served to fulfill my base animal desires (eat, sex, sleep). I have broken that cycle and you can too. Through meditation I now have more control over how I think and feel and use that control to choose positive things to dwell on. You are your own worst critic… learn to forgive yourself. Learn to love yourself… weaknesses and all.</li></ul><p>I hope others in this sub reddit stay on course and benefit themselves the way I did. I used NoFap as a starting point to bettering myself and my life. I have leaned that no one is a lost cause and we are all able to be better people. NoFap gives you a sense of self-pride which will carry over into other aspects of your daily life. Other people will notice a difference in your posture, attitude, mood and energy level.</p><p>My “success story” is just one of many. This 90 day challenge is a beneficial teaching tool – it teaches you about yourself. Learn your body. Learn your mind. When you do, you will figure out how to “hack your brain” and divert your negative energy into something more useful. Do it for yourself. Do it for others that are important in your life. You are worth it.</p><p>Peace.</p><p><strong>LINK – <a href=Masiku 90 awirikiza = masiku 180 akukhala moyo watsopano (kudzikonda.NoFap)

by zopanda pake