Chidziwitso changa choyamba pa zolaula chinali kuchokera m'magazini yanga mwana wamwamuna yemwe amadziseweretsa maliseche patsogolo panga ndili ndi zaka 8. Ndinali ndi chidwi komanso ndinachita manyazi kumuwona akuchita izi. Ndidazindikira kuti sichinthu choyenera ndipo kuyambira pamenepo kupita mtsogolo, nthawi zonse ndinkalowa mchipinda chake kuti ndikawone zithunzizo zosangalatsidwa, osati zogonana - koma ndikumverera kosaloledwa kwa mwana wazaka 8 poyang'ana matupi amaliseche akuchita izi… zinthu zachilendo kwa wina ndi mnzake . Ndinayamba kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa ndipo zinali zosangalatsa komanso masewera mpaka pamene ndinayamba kutha msinkhu ndikupeza maliseche.
Pafupi zaka zisanu ndi zinayi zapitazo, monga sophomore ku koleji, ndinayesa kusiya zolaula ndi kuseweretsa maliseche pamene ndinazindikira kuti ndikhoza kutuluka pazinthu zokha ndikukhala ndi chidaliro pa akazi pamene sindinathenso kuwonerera kapena kuwonerera zolaula kwa mlungu umodzi. Pofuna kukondana kwambiri ndi amayi ndikuyamba kukhala pachibwenzi, ndinayesetsa kupewa zolaula kwa nthawi yaitali komanso nthawi yaitali. Izo zinagwira ntchito, mpaka ine nditapanga chisankho kusiya izo kwathunthu. Ndinadabwa kwambiri, sindinathe. Patatha zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi ndinayesabe. Nthawi iliyonse ndikadzilakwira ndekha, ndimatha kudziona kuti ndine wolemekezeka kukumba mizu yake mozama ndikuzama mu psyche yanga.
Mosakayikira lero, sukulu yanga ya chibwenzi yovuta kwambiri inali yoopsa. Usiku wautali wa kumangomaliza kumatha nthawi zonse ndikupita ku intaneti kuti ndikonze. Pamene ndinkayesera mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndi mowa, ndinayamba kumwa mowa kwambiri, ndikusowa zojambula zambiri za bizzare ndi zithunzi za zolaula kuti ndikwaniritse maganizo anga osokonezeka. Ndinawerenga bukhu lililonse limene ndingapeze posiya, ndinalandira uphungu, ndikuvomereza ku tchalitchi (inde, ndinali Mkatolika) Kuchita maliseche komanso zolaula zinakhala zachilendo kwa ine monga kutsika. Ntchito, sukulu, tchalitchi, nyumba ya abwenzi, tsopano komwe kunali malire. Nthawi iliyonse ndikadandaula kapena kukhumudwa, ndimadziwa kuti ndingadalire mwamsanga kuti ndiwongolere.
Nditamaliza sukulu ndikugwira ntchito yampingo paulendo wolemekezeka, mafilimu ananditsata. Panthawiyi, ndimangoyesetsa kusiya nthawi ndi nthawi ndikukhala ndi zolaula. Nditangoyamba ntchito, ndinalowa paubwenzi ndi mkazi wanzeru, wokongola komanso wokongola. Pamene kugonana kunayamba kukhala chizolowezi kwa ine, zolemba zenizeni za "zolaula" zanga zowonekera. Ndinayamba kuona zolakwitsa pa chibwenzi changa yemwe, pamene ndinakumana ndi mmodzi mwa amayi okongola kwambiri omwe ndakhala ndikugonana nawo. Zofooka zochepa zinali nthawizonse pansi pa galasi lokulitsa la zolaula zomwe ndinaphunzira malingaliro. Chilichonse chinali chipale chofewa kuchokera pomwepo ndipo ndisanachidziwe, ndinali pabedi ndi mkazi wina akuchita zomwezo zomwe ndaziwona pa webusaiti ina. Pamene ndinabwera ndipo chisangalalo cha chiwerewere chitachitika, ndinkanyansidwa nazo kwambiri. Komabe, ndinapitirizabe kuchita khalidweli mpaka pamene ndinatsala pang'ono kuphedwa ndikuyesa kugonana ndi anthu osadziwika. Ndinadziŵa kuti ndadutsa mzerewu kuti ndikhale woledzeretsa komanso mwinamwake ngakhale kugonana. Ndinatsimikiza mtima ndikusiya zolaula nthawi yomaliza.
Pali mawu oyandama kunja uko akuti "aliyense amene anena kuti zolaula zilipo, sanayese kusiya." Zonsezi, zinanditengera zaka khumi ndi chimodzi kuti ndisiye ndikubwereranso kuti ndimvetsetse zolaula, ndikuvomereza ndikuzichotsa pamoyo wanga. Ndimazindikira kuti ndinali nditataya kale zochuluka mkati mwanga, kuti sindingathe kupilira omwe anali pafupi nane poulula zofooka zanga.
Kusiya zolaula kwa amuna ambiri, pamapeto pake, ndi chisankho chamoyo. Mwini, lakhala limodzi mwamavuto akulu kwambiri komabe ndichimodzi mwazosangalatsa kwambiri m'moyo wanga. Mwina nanunso zidzakhala chimodzimodzi. Ndakhala zolaula komanso maliseche kwa zaka zinayi tsopano.
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Kodi mumadabwa bwanji pafupi zaka 10 zolaula ndi maliseche akuwoneka ndipo akumva ngati?
Mwezi wotsatira (November) udzawonetsa chaka changa cha 10th kuchokera kwa PMO.
Ndikuuza makasitomala anga onse kuti kukhala oledzera ku zolaula ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zabwino kwambiri zomwe zingawachitikire. Amuna ambiri osadziwika anali atabisala mowa-ambiri anali ogonana. Ambiri a iwo amawagwiritsira ntchito ndi kuwagwiritsa ntchito kuti akafike kumalo okwera kwambiri m'minda yawo. Ena anasintha dziko. Chimodzi mwa zinsinsi zonyansa za opambana kwambiri ndikuti ali ndi zizolowezi zomwe amasankha kuti asapezeke-amadziwa bwino zomwe zimapangitsa kuti apambane.
Izi sizivomereza kapena kutsutsa zizolowezi ndi zizolowezi za ochita bwino. Ndikungoyala zina zomwe zandichitikira- sikuti zonse zitha kukhala "zabwino" kwa aliyense.
Pano pali ochepa kwambiri opindula kwambiri (otchuka / otchuka kuposa opambana masauzande ambiri ogonana kwambiri padziko lapansi lero), omwe, pokhala osagonana kwambiri kusiyana ndi munthu wamba, akusintha dziko lapansi kapena kupambana ndi kulekanitsa malire awo.
Arnold Schwartzenegger: Kugonana kwakukulu kwambiri-kugonana kosayenera. Ankadziwika kuti wagona ndi amayi ambiri. Atakwatirana ndi Maria Shriver, adapitiriza kugonana ndi amayi ambiri kunja kwa ubale wake, pomaliza pokhala ndi mwana ndi mwini wakeyo. Uyu ndi munthu yemwe anabwera ku United States of America monga mlendo wopanda pake, wolamulira mderali, anakhala mamilioni asanayambe kupanga filimu yake yoyamba kudzera mu makalata ake a malonda ndi malonda a malonda, adakhala bokosi lapamwamba lokhala ndi bokosi ngakhale kuti Austrian wake wakuda kwambiri mawu ofotokozera, anakhala bwanamkubwa wa California ndipo tsopano mu 60 ake akupumabe mafilimu, amakhala ndi thupi lodabwitsa ndipo nthawi zonse amalenga malonda atsopano.
Martin Luther King: Mtsogoleri wamkulu wa ufulu wa chibadwidwe, koma chomwe sichidziwika bwino pa iye chinali chiyambi chake chogona ndi akazi kunja kwa banja lake.Zowonongeka. Ndizodziwika kuti paulendo wake ku Ulaya ndi gulu lake, iwo ankakonda kugonana ndi azungu.
Mahatma Gandhi: Pamene Gandhi adayamba pa ntchito yake kuti amasule India kudziko lachikatolika, adakhala wosakwatira. Mwinamwake ankadziwa za mphamvu ya kusintha kwa kugonana. Zomwe sakudziwika ndizo zizoloŵezi zake zodziyesera kuti azikhala olimbana ndi chiwerewere. Zinanenedwa kuti angakhale ndi atsikana akugona ali wamaliseche pafupi ndi iye kuti ayese kuthekera kwake kupirira kukangana. Gandhi anali atakonzekera kulemba za zowonongeka, koma analetsedwa kuti achite zimenezi ndi anthu ake.
Tiger Woods: Ndikufuna ndinene zambiri? Sizingachitike mwangozi kuti amuna omwe amayendetsa bwino kwambiri komanso amakhala ndi chidwi chofuna kugonana amakhalanso ndi ziwonetsero zogonana zokwanira kuchita bwino kwambiri. Kuchokera pakuphunzira kwanga za Tiger Woods, sindikukhulupirira kuti anali ndi "chizolowezi chogonana", koma anali ndi chilakolako chachikulu chogonana chomwe chitha kutumizidwa pamasewera ake.
Ndikukutsimikizirani kuti ngati zithunzi zolaula zowonongeka pa Intaneti zikupezeka kwa theka la amuna awa, ambiri mwa iwo sakanakhudza dziko momwe iwo anachitira.
Kufikira lero, ndimakhalabe ndi maonekedwe osangalatsa komanso osasangalatsa pamene ndikuuza anzanga, mabwenzi kapena ngakhale makasitomala kuti sindimaonera zolaula kapena kuseweretsa maliseche.
Izo zikuwoneka zopanda nzeru kwa iwo.
Ndili ndichinsinsi chachinyansa ngakhale:
Ndikumva kuti ndikuposa wina aliyense.
Kodi izi zikutanthauza chiyani? Izi zikutanthauza kuti, ndimakhala ndi chidaliro choposa ndi amuna ena chifukwa ndikudziwa kuti ndikuchita chinachake chomwe sangachite, kapena sichichita kapena kudziletsa kuti ndichite.
Maganizo amenewa amakula chaka chilichonse ndipo moona mtima, wandipatsa munthu wokondwa kwambiri.
Mutha kumverera momwemo.
Kuwonjezera pa kudalira kwakukulu, pali zinthu zina zodabwitsa zomwe zachitika mmoyo wanga kuyambira pamene ndinasiya zolaula. Ambiri adatenga zaka zingapo kuti ayambe kukula pamene ena adawoneka mu masabata angapo.
Nazi 10 "Mphamvu Zapamwamba" zomwe ndazipeza posiya zolaula.
1) Ndinasangalala kwambiri: Otsutsa mosangalala. Ndinkakhala wovutika kwambiri, wokwiya komanso wokonda kuchita zinthu zolaula pamene ndinali pa zolaula. Nthawi zonse ndimadzimvera chisoni ndipo ndili ndi "tsoka" ndi "tsoka" labwino.
Tsopano ndikumverera kuti ndikukhala wosangalala nthawi zonse, koma ndikusangalala ndikuyenda tsiku ndi tsiku. Inde, ndikudali ndi masiku oipa ndi zovuta zomwe ndikuwonetsa nthawi zonse pamoyo wanga.
Kusiyanitsa ndikuti pamene ndikawongolera ndekha, chimwemwe chimakhala pomwepo.
2) Ndinakhala wodziimira ndalama: Sindimayankhula zambiri za ndalama pa blog iyi-pali malo ambiri omwe amavala izo (www.financialsamurai.com), koma kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti ambiri amamatira pa PMO ali m'mavuto aakulu azachuma- makamaka amuna omwe amagwiritsa ntchito ma intaneti ndi mahule. Ndinali ndi ndalama zambiri pa zolaula, mowa, udzu, ndi zizoloŵezi zina zoipa pamene ndinkangokhalira kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Sindinawoneke kuti ndikutha kusunga ndalama, sindinadziwe momwe ndingagwiritsire ntchito ndalama kapena ndondomeko ya cheke, ndinali ndi khadi la ngongole ndipo akaunti yanga ya kumbuyo nthawizonse inali itachotsedwa.
Kukhala ndi bajeti zochepa komanso mavuto azachuma nthawi zonse zimayenderana ndi zolaula.Sizingatheke kuti pali anthu omwe amapeza ndalama zowonjezerapo kuti azikhala osokoneza bongo, koma nthawi yokha isanayambe vutoli zachuma.
Zinatenga zaka zingapo kuti ndipange mphamvu yayikuluyi, koma ndinayamba kuganizira zinthu zitatu:
a) Kuchulukitsa mwayi wanga wopindula mwa kuphunzira luso lapamwamba
b) Kupulumutsa
c) Kuika ndalama
Mwa zitatu izi, kupulumutsa kunali njira imodzi yowonjezera yowonjezera "ndalama zanga zopambana". Ndinakhala wotentheka wopulumutsa. Osati kuti ndipulumutse, koma mofulumizitsa ndikapeza nthawi iliyonse ndikayang'ana pa akaunti yanga yopulumutsira ndikuyang'ana kukula kwake. Kusunga phokoso lopanda pake kunandithandiza kukhala ndi ndalama kuti ndigwire ntchito pamene ndapeza mwayi. Chilango cha kupulumutsa chinandilola kuti ndizikhala osamala ndipo nthawizonse ndifufuze mwayi wonse ndisanati ndichite nawo ndalama. Ndinkafuna chuma-chifukwa chimodzi chokha: ufulu. Ndinkafuna kumakhala kulikonse kumene ndingathe, ndipo sindinayankhe aliyense.
3) Ndondomeko zanga zakhala bwino: Pazaka zomwe ndinkakonda kuchita zolaula, moyo wanga wa kugonana unali wosokonezeka. Pang'onopang'ono ndinaphunzira bwino pamene ndikupereka nthawi yophunzirira kukomana ndi kukopa akazi. Azimayi omwe ndinagonana nawo panthawiyi anali osakondweretsa, kapena anali ndi mavuto akuluakulu. Ena anali ndi maganizo ochititsa munthu kusinthasintha zochitika, ena ambiri anali achiwerewere. Pamene nthawi idapita, ndipo zomwe ndinakumana nazo ndi amayi zidachulukira, ndinasankha kwambiri za amayi omwe ndinkakonda nawo komanso ndinkagonana nawo.
Izi zinathetsa sewero kuchokera ku moyo wanga ndipo ndinayendayenda ndi amayi okhawo abwino. Inde, pamene ndinkangokhalira kuonera zolaula, "khalidwe" limangotengedwa ndi maonekedwe. Tsopano, pali zowonongeka kwambiri kwa amayi m'moyo wanga.
4) Ndinayamba kudziletsa: Kusiya zolaula zidzakuphunzitsani momwe mungalekerere zochita zanu. Idzakuphunzitsani momwe mungaphunzitsire zochitika zanu mwachidwi ndikusankha zochita mwanzeru nthawi zonse.
Kudzipereka kumandichititsa kukhala wosiyana ndi wina aliyense wozungulira ine ndipo zidzakhalanso zofanana kwa inu. Ndimadana ndi maola 4-5 ogona usiku. Ndimadana ndi kugwira ntchito maola 80 pa sabata. Ndimadana ndi kuwerenga mabuku osadziŵika amatsenga ndi kufufuza za zotsatira za zolaula ndi chizolowezi chogonana. Koma m'mawa uliwonse, ndimadzuka kumdima wakuda ku 4am, ndikuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kupita kuthamanga, kusinkhasinkha, kulingalira, kuzilemba zolinga zanga, kuwerenga kwa ola limodzi ndi kukhala pansi pa laputopu kuti ndizigwira ntchito. Tsiku lililonse tsiku lililonse.
5) Ndinakhala makina ogonana: Ichi ndi "mphamvu yayikulu" yomwe ndikuwerengabe pano. Mofanana ndi amuna ambiri omwe ankakonda zolaula, pamene ndinayambiranso kuchita zachiwerewere, ndinayamba kuchita manyazi ndi zolaula zomwe zinapangitsa kuti erectile iwonongeke.
Komabe, ndinapitiriza kugonana, ndikugwira ntchito. Mwinamwake ubongo wanga unabwereranso mosiyana, mwinamwake ndizosiyana zopanda malire zosiyana zomwe ndimachita tsiku ndi tsiku, koma nthawi zina ndimatha kudziletsa pazomwe ndikuchita, pokhapokha ngati ndatopa kwambiri, ndimangopititsa nthawi zambiri- mbiri yanga nthawi khumi ndi imodzi gawo (popanda thandizo la mankhwala alionse).
6) Ndataya nkhawa Yanga: Aliyense amabadwa ndi nkhawa. Kusiyanitsa pakati pa anthu okhala ndi nkhawa yooneka ngati otsika ndi anthu omwe ali ndi nkhaŵa yaikulu ndiko kuzindikira kwawo nkhaŵa zawo komanso kaya ali ndi mbiri yabwino kapena yosautsa ndi nkhawa.Ine ndekha ndinadwala nkhawa ndi zolaula zomwe zinapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kwambiri. Panali miyezi yomwe ndimakhala weniweni.
Pomwe ndimayesetsa kuthana ndi nkhawa zanga, kusiya zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche kunandipangitsa kuti ndizingoyankhula ndi azimayi. Panali masiku omwe ndinali nditadzutsidwa kwambiri, kuti ndimakumana ndi akazi masana ndikuyesera kuwabweretsa kunyumba limodzi (mawu ofunikira ndi "yesani). Zinali kanthawi mpaka ndinatha kuzichotsa bwinobwino, koma nditangochita ndikuphunzira momwe ndingachitire izi mosasintha, kudzidalira kwanga kudakulirakulira.
7) Ndapeza cholinga:
Sindinayambe ndakhala wokonda foni ya airy yomwe imalimbikitsidwa ndi chithandizo chodzikonda chomwe mukufuna kuti mupeze "chilakolako ndi cholinga" chanu. Ngati aliyense adapeza chilakolako chawo, sipadzakhala wina woti atenge zonyansa zathu, kutitumizira zakudya, kuyeretsa misewu ndi maofesi, kapena kupanga zovala zogonana ku China ndi zovala zopanga zovala ku sweatershop ku Bangladesh.
Cholinga ndi chilakolako ndizolemera. Kusiya zolaula zidzakupatsani ufulu wokonzekera zomwe mukufuna monga cholinga chanu. Mutha kutenga malo alionse a ntchito, pezani chifukwa chabwino chomveka chotsatira, ndikugwiritseni ntchito mphamvu zanu. Kusiya zolaula kunandiphunzitsa kuti CHOCHITA CHIMASANKHA KUTHANDIZA.
Mungawerenge nkhaniyi ndikulimbikitsana, koma musayesedwe - zomwe mungachite mutatha nkhaniyo ndi zomwe zidzakupangitseni kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yaitali. Pamene masabata omwe ndinachira pa zolaula adasanduka miyezi, ndipo mphamvu zamphamvuzi zinakhala zoonekeratu, ndinakhala wolimbikitsidwa kuti ndiwulule zambiri za mphamvuzi. Zochita zanga zinali kundipangira patsogolo. Zochita zanga zinali kundipanga ine kukonda. Chochita changa chinavumbulutsira cholinga chatsopano, chomwe chinali kukhala munthu wabwino kwambiri amene ndingakhale-chinachake chomwe nthawi zonse ndimadziwisira koma sindinatengeke mokwanira kuti ndichite.
8 ndinakhala wamphamvu:
Osati amphamvu chabe, koma okwiya kwambiri. Ndinaphunzira momwe ndingagwiritsire ntchito masitepe apamwamba a testosterone amene ndinaloledwa kulowa mu thupi langa mukumverera. Nthawi zina malingaliro anali kukwiya, nthawizina chinali chokhumba ndipo nthawizina chinali chisangalalo. Zilibe kanthu, ndinali chirombo pa masewera olimbitsa thupi ndipo ndinazindikira kuti mphamvu zomwe zinandipangitsa kuti ndizichita zolaula ndikuona zolaula. Maganizo a trigger-adrenaline-spike-emotion angapangidwe kuti amange mphamvu zanga.
Ndimakumbukira anyamata omwe akuchita masewero olimbitsa thupi kuposa ine ndikuganiza momwe ndinaliri wamphamvu ngakhale kuti ndinalibe minofu yambiri ngati momwe iwo anachitira.
9) Ndinasiya kupereka fuck:
Nditangokhala wamphamvu, ndinapanga cholinga kwa ine ndekha, ndikudziŵa nkhawa zanga, ndinayamba kupanga ndalama zambiri kuposa momwe ndinapangidwira pamoyo wanga, ndinasanduka makina opatsirana pogonana, ndipo ndinasiya kugonana ndi amayi omwe ali pansi pa mawonekedwe anga komanso momwe ndikudziwira, anatsegula "musapereke fuck" mphamvu yayikulu.
Nanga ndi chiyani chomwe sichinaperekedwe? Chabwino, sikuti kulimbikitsa- kulimbika konyenga. Kufika pamtunda m'moyo wanu kumene mwasankha kukwaniritsa zinthu zina kapena DIE. Ndinadziŵa kuti ngati sindinasiye khalidwe loonera zolaula, mwina ndikhoza kufa. Chidaliro chimapindula polakalaka zolaula nthawi zambiri.Ndinapanga luso lokwanira ndi mphamvu zedi kuti ndikhale ndi chidaliro cha INNATE kuti ndingathe kuthana ndi chirichonse chomwe moyo unandigwera ine. Ine ndinalipira mtengo- ndipo ine ndikulipirabe mtengo woti ndiime pakati pa ANTHU
Pamene ndinayamba kulemba za kusiya zolaula, anzanga ena ngakhale kuti ndinali wamisala kulankhula za zizolowezi zolaula-makamaka wanga. Iwo ankaganiza kuti ndinali wopenga kuti ndichite "intaneti ngati ma blog". Pamene ndinagulitsa zigawo zanga ku kampani yophunzitsira malonda Ndinkachita nawo chidwi kuti ndithandizire amuna kusiya zolaula nthawi zonse, banja langa lonse ndikutsimikiza kuti ndapita mtedza.
Sindinkasamala. Kusiya zolaula kunandipatsa mwayi wokhala ndi zinthu zokha zomwe zinali zofunika pamoyo-nchifukwa ninji ndimasamala za zomwe dziko likuganiza?
10) Ndinkatha kukonda: Ichi chinali chopweteka komanso champhamvu kwambiri pa zonsezi.
Pamene zaka zinkangoyendayenda, ndinayamba kuona mmene ntchito yanga yoonera zolaula inanditsekera kwa ena. Ndinkavala zida zankhondo kuzungulira mtima wanga kuti anditeteze kuti ndisapweteke. Ine ndimaganiza kuti izo zinandipanga ine badass.
Ndinali wolakwa. Pansikati mwa anthu onse ndi mphamvu yokonda- kusamalira zina mwazinthu zosagwirizana. Ichi ndi chopambana chosamvetsetseka cha onse. "Chikondi" ndi mawu otayidwa mozungulira. Kusiya zolaula kunandilola ine- kwa nthawi yochepa, mwina_kumvetsa chisoni kwambiri ululu kuposa momwe anthu ena amamvera.
Ndinkakonda kuonera zolaula, sindinkasamala za anthu omwe anali pawonekedwe oonera zolaula-zonse zomwe ndimasamala zinali kuti zinandichotsa.
Ngati munayamba mwadzifunsapo momwe munthu angagwirire ndi kupha munthu wina mwankhanza, musawonenso galasilo. Zithunzi zolaula zimakuchititsani kusokoneza mbali zina za biology yanu yomwe imalimbikitsa mgwirizano, banja komanso thanzi labwino. Ndiko kulimbikitsa mbali za ubongo wanu zomwe zimayankha chiwawa ndi nkhanza za kugonana.
Kuti mukhale munthu weniweni, muyenera kukhala wokhoza kuthetsa mdima ndi kuwala mu moyo wanu.
Pamene zaka zikupita mwina ndikupeza "mphamvu zoposa", koma pakalipano ndikunena motsimikiza kuti zowonongeka zanga ndi dalitso pobisala.
Kodi ndi zina ziti za "mphamvu zoposa" zimene mwapeza posiya zolaula?
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