Chiyambi pang'ono (mutha kuwerenga zina mwa zolemba zanga zakale kuti mumve zambiri). Ndili ndi zaka 36, palibe zovuta za ED, koma ndakhala ndikuwona kuti kuchepa kwakhala komwe kumayambitsa mavuto osiyanasiyana m'moyo wanga pazaka zingapo zapitazi - zonse kuchokera ku mphamvu zochepa / zolimbikitsa, kukhumudwa, ubongo wa ubongo, Kulephera kukhala ndiubwenzi watanthauzo lalitali ndi amayi. Ndayesera kuti ndisadzipangire ndekha m'mbuyomu, koma sindinakhalepo kopitilira mwezi umodzi. Kupeza Nofap kwandithandiza kuti ndipambane. Kukhala ndi gulu lamalingaliro ofanana kugawana mayesero anga ndi masautso anga ndikumva nkhani zolimbikitsa kuchokera kwa zomwe zandilimbikitsa kwambiri.
Monga gawo la vuto langa la Nofap, ndidaganiza kuti ndiyeneranso kupewa kugonana. Nditawerenga zolemba pa YBOP ndi maakaunti ena a fapstronaut, ndidakhala ndi lingaliro kuti ngakhale kuchita zachiwerewere nthawi zonse kumatha kuthandiza kuti izi zitheke, zitha kuchepetsanso njira yobwezeretsanso ndikupanga zizindikiritso zoyipa. Ndisanayambe mzere wanga (kubwerera mu Epulo), ndidasiyana ndi bwenzi langa lakale. Kugonana kunali vuto kwa ife - sindinathenso kukopeka naye ndipo amadzimva kuti wakanidwa (Ndinasinthidwa kwambiri ndi zolaula zanga, ngakhale kuti sanadziwe kukula kwa chizoloŵezi changa - ndinayambitsa kusowa kwanga kwa libido kukhumudwa ). Panali zovuta zina zomwe zidatipangitsa kuti tisiyane, koma kulephera kwanga kulumikizana naye pamalingaliro akuya kudathandizira. Nthawi zambiri, ndikamaliza chibwenzi chanthawi yayitali (chaka chino chimatha pafupifupi chaka), ndimabwereranso mumasewera a chibwenzi ndikuyesa kulumikizana ndi akazi osiyanasiyana momwe ndingathere kuti ndizikhala bwino (ndimakhala mzinda waukulu komwe kupeza akazi osakwatiwa sikuli kovuta kwambiri). Zinkandipangitsa kumva bwino, mwina kwakanthawi, koma pamapeto pake zolumikizazo zidandipangitsa kukhala wopanda kanthu mkati. Chifukwa chake, pazovuta zanga la masiku a 90, sindinaganize zokambirana, osakhala pachibwenzi, palibe chomwe chingayambitse mayesero oti agone usiku umodzi.
Ubwino wa njirayi, IMO, yakhala yabwino kwambiri kwa ine. Ndakhala masiku anga omaliza 130 ndikugwira ntchito kuti ndikwaniritse ndekha. Ndawona kusintha pakati pamagawo - mphamvu zili pamwamba, malingaliro anga akumveka bwino, momveka bwino, chidaliro chatha, kukhumudwa kumawongoleredwa, zimawavuta kulankhula ndi akazi okongola (makamaka popeza sindikuyankhula nawo ndikuyembekeza kuti adzagona ndi ine), inenso ndili ndi mawonekedwe abwino omwe ndakhala zaka zambiri. Monga ambiri anenera, nofap sinathetse mavuto anga onse mwamatsenga, koma chinali gawo lofunikira kwambiri poyesetsa kubwezeretsa moyo wanga. Pozindikira kuti ndinali ndi vuto, kuvomera kenako ndikutsatira njira zothetsera vutoli kunali kusintha kwamphamvu kwambiri kwa ine.
Pofika tsiku la 100 kapena kupitilira apo, ndidazindikira kuti ndimachita bwino kwambiri. Ndikudziwa kuti ndili ndi njira zopititsira patsogolo "kuchiritsidwa" (iyi ndi nthawi yolemetsa ndipo mwina sizowona) ndipo izi zitha kukhala kusintha kwa moyo wanga kwa nthawi yayitali kuti ndipitilize phindu. Komabe, ndidazindikira tsiku 100 kuti ndimasungulumwa pang'ono ndipo ndinali wokonzeka kubwerera kudziko la zibwenzi, nthawi ino ndi cholinga chopeza chibwenzi chanthawi yayitali, munthu yemwe atha kubweretsa ena ambiri. Kubwerera m'masiku anga ocheperako, ndidazindikira kuti nthawi zambiri ndimanyalanyaza kapena kunyalanyaza zovuta ndi omwe angakhale atsikana chifukwa chofunitsitsa kuti ndigone nthawi zambiri zimasokoneza chikhumbo changa chopeza masewera oyenera. Ndinali wokonzeka kunyalanyaza zofooka zina kapena zosagwirizana ndi cholinga chopeza bwenzi lachiwerewere. Koma popanda chizolowezicho "choyenera kuyika" m'malingaliro mwanga, ndidazindikira kuti ndikhoza kukhala wozindikira za omwe ndidatuluka nawo komanso omwe ndidawatsata.
Nkhani yayitali, nditatha masiku angapo ndi atsikana osiyanasiyana, ndidapeza msungwana yemwe ndimalumikizana naye pamilingo ingapo (mwanzeru, mwamalingaliro, mwakuthupi, ndi zina zambiri). Takhala tikupita kwa milungu ingapo tsopano ndipo zakhala zabwino mpaka pano. Ndi nthawi yoyamba kwakanthawi kuti ndakhala wokondwa kudziwa munthu wina ndikuyembekezera komwe chibwenzicho chimapita. Ndipo usiku wina adakhala kanthawi koyamba.
Cue NSFW gawo la positiyi: Chifukwa chake, mpaka pano, m'masiku 130 apitawa kumasulidwa kwanga komwe kunali kulota kawiri kapena sabata. Sindinadziwe zomwe ndingayembekezere ndikagonana koyamba m'miyezi ya 4 - ndiwokongola kwambiri, kotero sindinadere nkhawa za PE. Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti, sindinakhale ndi vuto lililonse tsiku lotsatira (ndinabweranso m'mawa mwake).
Sindinamuuze za nofap, koma ndinanena kuti ndakhala wosakwatira kuyambira nditatayika mu Epulo. Amaganiza kuti ndikadali ndi maliseche ndipo sindinayesetse kuwongolera malingaliro ake - ndikumverera ngati ndizambiri zomwe zingagwere munthu amene mukumudziwa. Nditha kumuuza nthawi ina, kutengera komwe zinthu zimapita nafe… matumbo anga amandiuza kuti atha kukhala pachibwenzi, koma tiwona.
Komabe, sindikutsimikiza kwenikweni cholinga cha positi ichi kuyamba ndi chiyani. Ndikuganiza kuti zinali zosintha pang'ono komanso lipoti momwe ndimagwirira ntchito yoyamba kuyambira pomwe nofap adamva. Ndikulingalira ndimakhudzidwa ndi PE, lomwe silinali vuto. Ndinkakhudzidwanso ndi zotsatira zoyendetsa, zomwe sizinali vuto. Chotsatira china chodabwitsa ndichakuti ndidadwala chimfine tsiku lotsatira. Sindinakhalepo ndi chimfine kwa chaka chimodzi. Zowonadi, ndinali nditachedwa kwambiri ndipo ndimayenera kuyenda tsiku lotsatira, koma gawo lina la ine ndimadabwa ngati kupumira kawiri kunathandizira kuti chitetezo changa chamthupi chitetezeke (werengani penapake kuti kuchepa kwa nthawi yayitali kumatha kufooketsa chitetezo chamthupi). Komabe, mwina mwangozi chabe, koma ndinawona kuti ndikofunikira kunena, anzanga anzanga ...
Khalani omasuka kundifunsa chilichonse chazomwe tafotokozazi kapena zomwe ndakumana nazo mpaka pano…
LINK - Gulu Loyamba Lodzipereka m'masiku 130 - kuchenjeza NSFW
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