Ndikufuna kuyamba ndikunena kuti ndikumverera ngati ochepa pano, popeza ndine wamkulu komanso wokwatira zaka 18 - ndizochulukirapo kuposa ena a inu mwakhala muli ndi moyo. Sindikuchita izi movutikira, ndipo ndikuyesera kugonana nthawi zonse ndikakhala omasuka kutero.
Ndimachoka. Ponena za momwe ndikuchitira, ndimayenera kunena "um, chabwino, ndikulingalira". Nthawi yamasiku 90 iyi sinandisinthe kukhala nyama pakama, komanso ndilibe mphamvu zopitilira muyeso kapena chidaliro chowonjezeka, etc. Ponena za kugonana, zinthu zikuyenda bwino, koma osati pamlingo womwe ndimaganiza, ngakhale ndadzidabwitsa ndekha kangapo. Posachedwa ndatha O kawiri, kotero ndidapeza kuti zindiyendera. Ndikuganiza kuti izi zimachitika chifukwa chosungira umuna kuposa china chilichonse. Chotsimikizika ndichakuti ndasiya kugwiritsa ntchito ma ED, popeza ED sakhala vuto kwa ine tsopano. Nthawi zambiri ndimangokhala wokhumudwa, ndipo nthawi yomwe ine ndi mkazi wanga timagonana, thupi langa ndi malingaliro anga amakhala okonzeka. Ndimakhalabe ndi nkhawa, koma kukwiya kwanga komweko kumatha kuigonjetsa. Kuphatikiza apo, ndaphunzira njira zingapo zopumira, ndipo ndiyenera kuti ndiphunzire zomwe kugonana ziyenera kukhala pakati pa okondana. Nthawi zina ndimakhala ndikumakhala ndi malingaliro osafunikira a P panthawi yogonana, kotero izi ndizosokoneza.
Ubale pakati pa ine ndi mkazi wanga wakula bwino. Ndipo, ndawona chinachake chofunika: ndikutha ndikumverera molimba kwambiri kuposa momwe ndinkakonda. Ndikumva chikondi ndi chikondi kwa mkazi wanga, ana, ndi banja kuposa momwe ndakhalira. Ndikuganiza kuti izi zimachokera ku lingaliro la ufulu ine ndapindula, ndikudziwa kuti zolaula zilibe mphamvu pa ine kenanso, ndipo sizidzachitikanso. Ndilinso zauzimu kwambiri kuposa kale (ndinali mtundu wamalonda), koma ndikuganiza kuti ndibwino kuti ndikhale ndi chikhulupiliro champhamvu zoposa, ndipo mapemphero anga komanso nthawi yampingo / zopemphera zakhala ndi tanthauzo kuposa momwe ndimakumbukira kukhala ali zaka zambiri. Komanso ndimakhala wodekha, wosakwiya msanga, komanso wosamva pang'ono pazinthu zazing'ono m'moyo.
Zonsezi zasintha pang'onopang'ono, ndipo zachidziwikire zakhala zikusinthidwa ndi zosintha zina zazikulu m'moyo wanga. Ndakhala ndikugwira ntchito mwamphamvu komanso mosasinthasintha (ndikukweza ndi Cardio), kukonza kadyedwe kanga, kudya ma supplements, komanso (monga ndidanenera) kukonza moyo wanga wa uzimu.
Koma zoyipa zimayamwa. Ndimasinthiratu kusinthasintha kwa zochitika, kukhumudwa kwina kwakanthawi, kumva kuti ndilibe chiyembekezo, zolembedwa zoopsa, komanso malingaliro odzipha.
Sindikumva ngati ndakhazikitsanso kwathunthu.
Ndiye chotsatira ndi chiyani? Masiku ena makumi asanu ndi anai? INDE, koma ndikufuna kupitiliza izi mpaka kalekale. Pambuyo pa zaka 12 + ndikuyenda mozungulira ndi mankhwala okwera mtengo komanso magulu a magawo a 12 ndimamva kuti tsopano ndadzichotsa pa zolaula. Ndikukhulupirira kuti nthawi inanso idzandithandiza kukonzanso.
Tithokze kwa aliyense mdera la NoFap pondipeza.
PS Porn imatha kuyenda yokha.
Mnzako, TemporalLobe
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Mwina sizothandiza aliyense kuuza abwenzi awo - kuti kwenikweni zimatengera mnzakeyo komanso kumvetsetsa kwawo (ndimadziwa za mzimayi amene asiya mwamuna wake chifukwa cha vuto lokhalo). Ndinganene kuti kwa maanja ambiri, kulankhulana momasuka ndiye njira yabwino yakuyenda bwino ndi banja. Tiyenera kufotokozera zosowa zathu, zolakalaka zathu, komanso zovuta zathu kuti mnzake adziwe zoyenera kupereka.
Ubwino womwe ndawona ndikuti pakapita nthawi, mkazi wanga wamvetsetsa kuti zovuta zakugonana sizikuchitika chifukwa sindimakopeka naye kapena chifukwa samandikwanira. Komanso, kumuwuza (ndikukambirana nthawi ndi nthawi) kumatulutsa gawo lachinsinsi mu equation, lomwe limachepetsa "zipatso zoletsedwa" matenda omwe amakhudzana ndi kubzala.
Monga ena ambiri akhala akunena, aliyense wodziwa bwino amakhala wosiyanasiyana m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Kwa ine, zaka za PMO zadzetsa vuto lakugonana komanso kusungulumwa. Idayamba kwambiri monga momwe mudafotokozera m'kalata yanu (yomwe ndidayiwerenga). Ndikanatha, osakhala ndi chilakolako chogonana ndi mkazi wanga, ndipo akafuna kukhala pachibwenzi, ndimangodzionetsera ngati ndikutopa / kupweteka mutu / kudwala / kupanikizika. Izi zimapangitsa kuti azigonana pafupipafupi. Kenako, tikamagonana, ndimakhala ndikukumbukira kwakanthawi kochepa m'mutu mwanga kuti popeza ndidayamba kale tsiku lomwelo kapena dzulo, kuti mwina sindingathe kuchita. Kuda nkhawa kumeneko kunasandulika mantha pang'ono, ndipo patapita zaka, ndinali ndi gawo langa loyamba la DE, kenako ED. ED itayamba, kudali kutsika pang'ono, ndipo ndinali wolephera mopanda malire. Ndinayesetsa kuthana ndi vutoli ndikukumbukira zachiwerewere, zomwe nthawi zina zimagwira ntchito ndipo nthawi zambiri sizimagwira.
Amuna (ndi akazi) pamapeto pake atasiya zolaula zilizonse (mwakuthupi, mwamaganizidwe, ndi zauzimu), amayambanso kuphunzira za chikondi, kugonana, ndi chikondi chenicheni. Kwa zaka tsopano, nthawi zambiri sindinagone ndi mkazi wanga, m'malo mwake ndimangoganiza zolaula. Inde, ndikuganiza kuti zongonena zabwinobwino komanso kwabwinobwino kwa moyo wogonana, koma zikafika kwathunthu kuchipinda kwanu, zimakhala poizoni.
Maganizo anu ndiosangalatsa chifukwa amuna anu mwina ndikomwe ndimakhala zaka 13-14 zapitazo (kumvetsetsa kwanga ndikuti anyamata ndinu achichepere, omwe mwangokwatirana kumene). Ndidadziona ngati "wokonda" nthawi imeneyo, ndipo ndidadutsa mumadongosolo osiyanasiyana a 12-step ndi chithandizo cha payekha komanso pagulu, koma palibe chomwe chidagwira, osatenga nthawi yayitali. Chinthu chokha chomwe chinandikakamiza kulowa mu mphindi ya Bwerani kwa Yesu ndikupeza ED.
Zomwe zidandithandiza koyambirira paulendo wanga zinali Wovomerezeka Wokonda Kugonana. Ndikuganiza kuti ndikadapitilira, zikadapambana. Ndikoyenera kufufuza. Mawu oti "kuledzera" amaponyedwa mozungulira, chifukwa chake sindikudziwa ngati amuna anu alidi osokoneza bongo, koma chilichonse chomwe mungatchule - kukakamizidwa, kukakamizidwa, kukhumba, tchimo, ndi zina zambiri - lidakali vuto lomwe lili ndi vuto lalikulu kuthekera kowononga chibwenzi. Ndikulakalaka nditha kulemba kalata yofotokozera izi kwa mwana wanga wamng'ono!
Musamve ngati mukulemba nkhani yonse, nanga bwanji mawu ofotokozera okhala ndi zidutswa za ziganizo? 37, wakwatira zaka 18. Wakhala PMOing kuyambira 10. Khalani ndi HOCD. Ndayesa kuyimitsa. Sanachite. Tinapita kuchipatala chodula ndi alangizi okhudzana ndi zakugonana kwa zaka zambiri. Sanachite. Anapita ku magulu aku SA. Sanachite. Ankapemphera ndi kupempha Mulungu. Sanachite. Ndili ndi ED. kuti ntchito. Ndinaganiza kuti idasinthidwa pambuyo poonera yourbrainonborn ndi makanema ena ndikufufuza mosamala zoyambitsa za ED. Mankhwala oyeserera a ED, omwe ndi omwe anathandizira ED, koma ndinayambiranso PMOing ndipo ndinatenganso ED, ndipo pamwamba pa DE! Adapeza NoFap. Haleluya. Masiku a 40 opanda PMO (zomwe zikutanthauza kuti palibe P or M). Tsopano ndikulimbitsa thupi, kudzisamalira, ndikukhala ndi PIV yabwinobwino popanda mankhwala. Palibe ED, palibe DE. M'malo mwake, sindingathe kupitirira 1-2 min. Kumapeto.
ZOCHITIKA - Chaka Chimodzi Pambuyo pake: Ndine bambo ndi Mwamuna wabwino
Pokhala kuti linali tsiku la abambo dzulo, ndikulakalaka ndikadatha kugawana chisangalalo ichi ndi kupambana uku ndi ana anga. Ngati akadangodziwa kuchuluka kwa atate yemwe sindinali kwa iwo izi zisanachitike.
Ndakhala opanda zolaula kwa chaka chathunthu! Ndinayamba pa NoFap ndipo ndinakhala pafupifupi miyezi 9 kumeneko, koma ndinapitiliza kuonera zolaula mpaka pano ndikulimbabe. Ndikulemba pansipa zinthu zina zomwe ndaphunzira ndikukumana nazo (izi ndi zomwe ndikuwona komanso malingaliro anga, motero sizolondola).
- Palibe zipolopolo zasiliva ndipo palibe njira imodzi yopewera kusefa ndi zolaula. Zimatengera cholimbikitsira chachikulu ndikugunda pansi m'moyo wanu. Kwa ine zomwe zinali zamavuto azakugonana (ED, DE, etc.) ndikuwonongeka kwa ukwati wanga.
- Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndikofunikira kwambiri. Sindikudziwa chifukwa chake, koma zikuwoneka kuti ngati zolimbikitsazo zili zamphamvu, kulimbitsa thupi mwamphamvu komanso kutulutsa mphamvu kumatulutsa ma endorphin ndi mahomoni ena omwe amathandizanso kuthupi komanso mwamalingaliro.
- Khulupirirani mphamvu zapamwamba. Apanso, osatsimikiza kwenikweni chifukwa chake zimagwira, koma kukhala wa uzimu kwambiri komanso kupemphera zandithandiza kusiya malingaliro anga.
- NoFap / Porn-Free siyofunika kuchiritsa kwa ED. Ndidapeza kuti njira yolimba (chabwino, osati yovuta!). ED yanga idabweretsedwa ndi nkhawa yamauntchito komanso thanzi labwino (osanenapo za kukalamba). Mkazi wanga ndi ine tsopano tikuwona CST (Certified Sex Therapist). Mwa njira zowonjezera zowonjezera zitsamba ndizokwanira ng'ombe, kupatula L-Arginie + Pycnogenol, yomwe imalembedwa bwino ndikufufuzidwa ndi NIH. Sindingalumikizane ndi mtundu uliwonse kapena kafukufuku - ingofufuzani.
- Ndayambanso "kumva". Pafupifupi nyengo yonse yamasiku anga ochulukitsa (pafupi zaka za 15), malingaliro anga ambiri anali atachepa kapena kugonja, kupatula mkwiyo ndi chiyembekezo. Ndine munthu wokondwa kwambiri komanso wosakwiya msanga. Ndimadzimva wachikondi, wokoma mtima, komanso wachisoni kwambiri kuposa kale. Ndikumvetsetsa zambiri kuposa momwe ndimakhalira, pomwe ndisanadziwe kutuluka kwa zinthu zambiri kwa anthu.
- Mkazi ndiwokongola kwambiri kuposa momwe anali. Nditha kukhala ndikuwonera kanema wawayilesi iliyonse, kanema aliyense, ndi zina zambiri, ndipo mkazi wokongola akabwera, ndimakhala ngati "O MULUNGU WANGA". Ngakhale azimayi achikulire, kapena azimayi akale (ziwonetsero za 60s, zithunzi za vintage, ndi zina zambiri)! Ndimawona azimayi chifukwa cha kukongola kwawo kwenikweni komanso kukopa kugonana, komanso kudzera pazogonana.
- Izi sizinasinthe kwenikweni zomwe ndimakonda ndikugonana. Kalekale, ndidayamba kuchita zachiwerewere / zonyansa ndi mitundu ina yonyansa yomwe sindidzaulula. Sindilinso ndi chidwi chofuna zolaula zamtundu uliwonse, komabe nthawi zina ndimagwiritsa ntchito malingaliro amenewa panthawi yogonana kapena kuseweretsa maliseche kuti ndidzutse. Chomaliza changa ndikuti mwina ndi gawo losagawanika la ine, kapena ndimafunikira nthawi yochulukirapo kupanga zolaula.
- Sizikudziwika ngati kugonana kwenikweni kumathandiza (mwachitsanzo, kugonana ndi PIV ndi munthu weniweni, pamenepa mkazi wanga). Ndamva kuti zomwe zimatchedwa "hard mode" ndizothandiza kwambiri, koma kuti kugonana kumathandiza kuchiritsa. Mulimonsemo, ndakhala ndikugonana momwe ndingathere, makamaka pamene ED sakuyenda.
- Chithandizo Chithandizo. Momwemonso mankhwala oletsa kuthana ndi nkhawa mukafuna (ndidatero).
- Kugawana zomwe zinakuchitikirazo ndi SO yanu kumathandiza. Mkazi wanga ndi ine takhala tiri paulendowu limodzi, ndipo popanda thandizo lake, izi sizikanatheka.
- Ndimangodandaula kamodzi - kuti ndidayamba kuonera zolaula, kuti ndidadzilola kuti ndizilamulidwa ndikuwonongeka ndi uve, kuti ndidasankha zolaula kuposa mkazi wanga, banja, abwenzi, komanso ntchito yanga nthawi iliyonse.
TL; DR: Ndine bambo komanso bambo wabwino kuposa NoFap ndi PornFree.
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