Nkhani yathu. Pamodzi kwa zaka pafupifupi 13. PIED idayamba pafupifupi miyezi 3 muubwenzi. Palibe aliyense wa ife amene ankadziwa zomwe zinali kuchitika ndipo ndinkaganiza kuti mwamuna wanga anali wamwamuna kapena wamkazi.
Tinapitirizabe kuchita chibwenzi ndipo kenako tinakwatirana. Mwachiwonekere sindinakwatirane naye pogonana popeza kugonana kunachepa mpaka nthawi 5-10 pachaka ndikumenyedwa kapena kuphonya zosankha. Kugonana kunayamba kuwawa kwambiri tonsefe ndipo nthawi zambiri timatha kukangana komanso ndewu. Posakhalitsa kugonana sikunachitike nkomwe. Tikakhala ovuta kwambiri tinakhala zaka 3 osagonana.
Nkhondozo makamaka zimangokhudza kuti amuna anga amawoneka kuti alibe chidwi chothetsera vutoli. Sindinadziwe kuti akupeza zosowa zake zakugonana ndi PMO. Kuzungulira 2010 ndidamupempha kuti asiye kuseweretsa maliseche kuti awone ngati zingathandize moyo wathu wogonana. Ndinawerenga nkhani panthawiyo yokhudzana ndi kutopa ndi kugonana. Anati adzatero koma sanatero. Anapitilizabe kuseweretsa maliseche m'malo molimbana ndi mavuto ake komanso ine.
Kenako mu 2013 ndidagunda. Ndinamuuza kuti ndakwana ndipo ndikupita. Sikunali kuwopseza, ndimangomuuza. Sindingaganizire kukhala m'banja losagonana kwamuyaya. Analira ndikundipempha kuti ndisachoke. Tili ndi ana awiri (zozizwitsa moona mtima!) Ndipo pakadapanda iwowo sindikadakhala. Ndinamuuza kuti ndimaganiza kuti kuseweretsa maliseche ndilo vuto lake ndipo liyenera kupita.
Ndidamuuza kuti ndikhala miyezi 6 kenako ndikuwunikanso. Ndinafunika kudziwa kuti anali wotsimikiza ndisanatayenso nthawi yanga. Miyezi 6 yoyambirira ija adayimitsa PMO ndipo sanayang'ane kumbuyo. Tinayamba kugonana LOTI! Zoyeserera zake zidali zikumenyedwa kapena kuphonya koma anali akukumana ndi zovuta zake ndipo timalankhulana.
Tidali ndi ndewu za "kugwetsa kokoka" nthawi imeneyo pomwe ndidazindikira zomwe zakhala zikuchitika zaka zonsezi zomwe ndimapita osagonana. Momwe amagonana ndi ena pazenera kapena m'mutu pomwe ndimapita. Inali nthawi yankhanza kwambiri yodzidalira. Sindikudziwikabe bwinobwino.
Pafupifupi miyezi 9 pomwe tinkayambiranso kuchita zachiwerewere koma machitidwe ake sanali kusintha kwambiri. Adaganiza zofufuza pazomwe zinali kuchitika (kumbukirani kuti sitimadziwa za nofap, kapena YBOP). Anayesa zowonjezera koma sanachite chilichonse. Anapita ku forum ya ED ndipo buku "lalikulu kugonana" lolembedwa ndi Michael Castleman adalimbikitsidwa.
Adaganiza zosiya Orgasm kwa masabata a 8 monga adanenera m'bukuli. Bukuli limalankhula kwambiri za zolaula komanso momwe zimasokonezera zomwe mukuyembekezera pa kugonana. Kuganiza kuti umayenera kukhala wovuta nthawi yonseyi, kugonana ndi za "magwiridwe antchito" ndi buku lalikulu! Chifukwa chodziletsa ku O chinali kusiya kuganizira zolephera ndi zovuta zake ndikuyamba kuyang'ana kwambiri pazakugonana m'malo mongothamangira kwa O. Anali ndi zovuta kwambiri kuyang'ana panthawi yogonana. Anapitirizabe kukumbukira zolephera zake zakale. Nthawi iliyonse akakwanitsa kukonzekera kumangokhala kuthamanga kuti akagwiritse ntchito. Ndinkaona ngati kugonana sikunali kokhudza ine, komanso za mbolo yake.
Chifukwa chake ndi mbolo yake kunja kwa equation adayamba kumasuka ndi rewire. Kugonana kunakhala kosangalatsa komanso kosangalatsa tonsefe. Zinali zovuta ndipo zinali zovuta kuti tisapereke koma pamapeto pake zinali zoyenera. Adaphunzira maluso ena abwino kuti andisangalatse zomwe zinali zabwino chifukwa amadziwa kuti ali ndi china choti abwerere nacho ngati ataya kumangika nthawi iliyonse yomwe imamupsetsa mtima.
Zotsatira zake zidabweranso 100% ndipo takhala tikuchita bwino kuyambira pamenepo. Anali ndi mavuto ena a PE pambuyo pa masabata a 8 koma nawonso adachoka pomwe adaphunzira kuwongolera kudzuka kwake komanso kanthawi kogonana. Atha kutha nthawi yayitali momwe angafunire.
Kwenikweni zinatenga pafupifupi chaka kuti achire. Libido yake idatenga nthawi yayitali popeza amayenera kuchepetsa zovuta zake zomwe timaganiza kuti ayenera kuchita chifukwa cha msinkhu komanso mbiri yake koma izi zimapezeka kuti ndizosakhalitsa. Amatha kutulutsa zolaula momwe angafunire popanda zovuta (pafupifupi 1.5 yrs in).
Mwamuna wanga tsopano "wabwinobwino"! Amalakalaka kugonana ndi ine, ali ponseponse ngati tili okwatirana kumene ndipo moyo wathu wogonana ndiwopambana. Ndine wokondwa kuti izi zinagwira ntchito ndipo zitha kukuthandizaninso! Sitinadziwe zomwe timachita chifukwa mwina zidatitengera nthawi yayitali kuposa momwe ziyenera kukhalira koma zatha tsopano.
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