Kunena zowona, ndikhulupilira kuti azimayi ambiri angapindule kwambiri ndi Nofap kuposa momwe angaganizire. Koma ndikuganiza, kapena kungoyang'ana chabe, pulogalamu yolinganizidwa yodzilimbitsa yokha ya chithunzi cha thupi cha PMO komanso kugonana.
Amayi ambiri amayang'ana zolaula, ngakhale zolaula sizipangidwa ndi us m'malingaliro. Porn ndizotsimikizira kuti nthawi zonse pamakhala china chabwino: mkazi akawonerera, zimawoneka kuti aliyense amakhala ndi ma curve opindika, khungu losalala, ndi thupi lomvera kuposa momwe amachitira. Monga cholumikizira chokhacho chomwe amayi ambiri amakhala nacho ndi thupi lamaliseche lachikazi, amakakamizidwa kuti akhulupirire kuti ichi ndi chitsanzo choyimira cha macrocosm. Komabe atakhala nthawi yayitali ndi anzawo atsopano pa intaneti, amawona china chake: maudindo awo onse amatha ndipo, kwakukulukulu, mayina awo amachepetsedwa kukhala "blonde blonde" kapena "coed coed". Angadzifunse kuti, "Ngati atsikana omwe ali ndi chidaliro komanso okhutira motere ali otayika, zingatheke bwanji kuti kudzidalira kwanga kumene, kumene kumene kumene kukukhazikika kumene kukhale kofunika?"
Izi zimamaliza kuthekera kwanga kulingalira za kuphatikiza: Ndimakana kuyankhulira azimayi onse potengera zochepa zanga, koma sizikutanthauza kuti sindikukhulupirira kuti nkhani yanga ikuyimira atsikana ambiri. Ndidawonapo zolaula kuyambira ndili wamng'ono, osati zambiri, koma ndidaziwona ndili ndi zaka khumi ndi zisanu. Kuposa zolaula, ndinali nditawonapo zonena zosalekeza zakugonana kwa azimayi otsatsa. Mofanana ndi zolaula, azimayiwa ndi mawonekedwe azakugonana ndipo nthawi yomweyo amatha. Mwanjira imeneyi, ndinali nditayamba kale kuwona kuti kugonana kwa akazi kumakhala kotayika komanso kopanda tanthauzo ndisanagonepo konse.
Ndikukula ndidayamba kuwona unamwali wanga ngati cholemetsa. Unamwali ndi lingaliro losokoneza kwa atsikana achichepere: ndilofunika kwambiri m'magulu osiyanasiyana pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana. Pali kukakamizidwa kwa akulu kuti akhalebe namwali, kukhala "woyera" ndi "wosalakwa" ndipo chilichonse chotsutsana ndi "slut" ndi. Ndiye pali kukakamizidwa kwamakolo kuti mukhale osagonana, kuti mugwiritse ntchito ngati mphatso kwa yemwe mudzakwatirane naye. Chimodzimodzinso, ndichipsinjo chachilendo komanso champhamvu: ndichovomerezana koyamba pakati pa anthu awiri omwe ndidakumana nawo ndi malingaliro amphamvu. Palinso kukakamizidwa kwa anzawo. Ndikuwona zomwe zandizungulira, ndinazindikira kuti kuchita zachiwerewere nthawi zonse ndi tikiti yoti ndipeze chidwi cha amuna. Ndikudabwa kuti abambo angatani ngati atapeza chinthu chimodzi chomwe chingawapatse mwayi wopezeka ndi akazi nthawi zonse. Koma ngakhale mutakwanitsa kudzimasula nokha kuminga yakukakamizidwa ndi akulu ndi makolo anu osasiya zipsinjo zowopsa zamaganizidwe, pali chopinga chinanso musanalowe mdziko la chidwi chamwamuna: "kutumphukira". Mchitidwe wotaya unamwali wanga udakhala cholemetsa m'maso mwanga. Ndidamva kuti ngati ndikakana zipsinjo zomwe zimalemekeza unamwali wanga pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana, ndiyeneranso kukana kufunikira kwake kwachilengedwe. Zinali zamanyazi kudzidziwitsa ndekha moyo watsopanowu ndikukhala kutali kwambiri ndi zitsanzo zotsimikizika za kugonana komanso kukongola komwe ndidawona pa zolaula. Chifukwa chake ndidachichotsa, mwachangu komanso mwachinsinsi momwe ndingathere ndisanakwanitse zaka 18, ndi mlendo yemwe ndidakumana naye kuphwando.
Koma ndikuchotsedwa kwa unamwali wanga, sindinadziwe, ndinataya kufunikira kwakugonana kwanga palimodzi. Sindinamvetsetse kuti kutaya unamwali wako sindiye yofunika kwambiri kapena nthawi yochititsa manyazi kwambiri yogonana, koma koyamba mwa kugonana komwe kumatha kukhala kokongola komanso kwachinsinsi. Ndi atsikana angati akumvetsetsa lingaliro ili? Chidziwitso changa chimati "ochepa".
Ndakhala ndikulimbana ndi malingaliro olakwikawa kufikira nditakula. Zapezeka kuti ndizowonekera kwambiri m'mbiri yamavuto akudya, owonera nthawi yogonana (pomwe wina amayang'ana kwambiri pokhala zolaula kwa wokondedwa wawo m'malo momangokhalira kukondana), chiphaso chachikazi, kukhumudwa, komanso manyazi panthawi yogonana komanso pambuyo, mwa zina. Ziri zachidziwikire kuti ndikufuna kuphunzitsidwanso, kukonzanso kwathunthu malingaliro anga ogonana. Popanda kuzindikira momwe zingagwirizane ndi zonsezi, ndidayamba nofap ndipo ngakhale ndimavutika, ndikutha kuwona momwe zikundichiritsira. Tsopano ndikutha kuzindikira mavuto anga, ndipo ndatsimikiza mtima kuwathetsa.
Mwanjira imeneyi, ndikukhulupirira kuti nofap itha kugwiritsidwa ntchito ngati mwayi kwa amayi ambiri kuti akhazikitsenso malingaliro awo pokhudzana ndi kugonana. Mwina chida chabwino kwambiri cha mlongo chomwe chingagwiritsidwe ntchito pokonzanso ichi ndi Kuzindikira Kwambiri, njira yothandizira ogonana yomwe imangoyang'ana momwe munthu akumvera osati kungokhala chabe. Imawongolera akatswiriwa kudzera pamitundu ingapo yokhudza, kuyambira ndikupewa kwathunthu maliseche, mpaka kumapeto popanda kugonana. Ndikuganiza kuti njira yofunikira kwambiri kwa mayi nthawi ya nofap ndikubwezeretsanso thupi lake ndikuyamba kudziletsa kwathunthu (mwina) chizolowezi chosangalatsa cha maliseche ndikuwonetsa pang'onopang'ono kutikita minofu, kudzipusitsa komanso kudzisamalira monga njira zowonjezera kukhudza kuzindikira komanso kudzidalira. Ndikuganiza kuti izi zikuphatikizaponso kusirira ndi kuvomereza thupi lanu lomwe silinaveke, ngakhale amayi ambiri samakondwera kuyang'ana pagalasi. Pamapeto pake, ndimakhulupirira kwambiri nofap ngati chida chothandizira kuchiritsa kwamisala kwa mayi wamasiku ano yemwe akulimbana ndi chikhalidwe chokhudzana ndi chiwerewere, koma ndikukhulupiliranso kuti ziyenera kulephera cholinga ichi ngati sichiphatikizidwa ndi kutsimikiza ndikuyang'ana pa- kupeza kamodzi kuti "kukonzanso" kwatheka. Masewera omaliza pano sakupambana mphotho yongoyerekeza nthawi yayitali kwambiri yopewera, koma kuphunzira momwe mungayamikire zomwe mumakumana nazo popanda kapena mnzanu, osafunikira zolaula kapena kukopa kwazinthu zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati njira yokwaniritsira mwachangu komanso chiwonetsero chazovuta.
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