Mumamva nthawi zonse kuchokera kumagwero angapo kuti maliseche amakhala athanzi ndipo amakhala olondola, koma mawu oti "moderate" samakonda kutsatira.
Ndinakulira kudziko la zolaula mwansanga ndipo ndikuuzeni kuti moyo unali wabwino.
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Pambuyo panthawi yoonera zolaula ndi kugonana modzidzimutsa 2-5 kamodzi pa tsiku kwazaka zimakhala gawo la zochita zanu za tsiku ndi tsiku, simungaganizepo ngati chinthu chomwe chingakhale chovulaza. Zimakhala iwe, zimakufotokozerani, zimapanga umunthu wanu, kaya mukudziwa kapena ayi.
Ndinali wokhumudwa kwambiri, "Ndimadana ndi anthu" mtundu wa mnyamata. Mtundu wa munthu amene amakhulupiriradi kuti ali ndi mwayi wochuluka padziko lapansi ndipo sakanakhoza kuchita kanthu kuti asinthe. Ndimagwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "Ndikumva kuti ndikumangika". Ndinali ndi abwenzi angapo, koma ndinadzadana ndi akazi ndipo sindinathe kuuza aliyense chifukwa chake. Ndikayang'ana pansi pa iwo, ndikuganiza kuti ndine wochenjera kuposa mkazi aliyense amene ndakomana naye, ndipo ndikuwoneka moipa kwambiri ngati zinthu zogonana ndi zina.
Kodi izi zinachitika bwanji? Ndinkakonda kuyang'ana mkazi wokongola ndikukhala wamanjenje ndikukhala wokondwa nthawi zonse ndikuzindikira kukongola kwake, kumwetulira kwake, kuseka kwake, mawu ake, ndi khalidwe lake. Zonsezi zatha, zonse ndinaziwona ndikudabwa ngati ndingathe kumuwona mboni kapena ndikudabwa ngati ndingapeze zolaula zomwe zimawoneka ngati iye?
Mukuyenda kwanga pa intaneti ndidapeza kanema (wopanda pun)) kanema, Ted Talk yolembedwa "Kuwona Zolaula Kwakukulu". Mwangozi ndinaziyang'ana, mosakayikira ndikuganiza kuti zingapangitse zolaula kuti ziwoneke. M'malo mwake anali bambo kukambirana za zomwe zolaula za pa intaneti zili ndi ubongo wanu ndi momwe kuyimilira kungakhale kopindulitsa kwambiri pamoyo wanu.
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Chifukwa chake usiku wotsatira komweko ndidagona pabedi langa mozungulira 11: 30PM yotseguka laputopu yanga, ndimadutsa masamba anga achizolowezi monga NFL.com ndi Politico osaganizira kwenikweni chilichonse. Kenako zidandikhudza ndipo zidandigunda, sindiyenera kupita kumalo omwe ndimakonda zolaula, ndasiya. Ndikuuzeni kuti masiku oyamba a 2 akuyenera kusiya mankhwala, sindikuseka, ndizovuta ndipo mukuzindikira kuti muli ndi vuto lalikulu lodziseweretsa maliseche pa intaneti. Osangoseweretsa maliseche osati kungoyang'ana zolaula, ndi kuphatikiza kwa zinthu ziwiri zomwe zimapangitsa kuti muzimva kukoma kwinaku mavuto onse omwe mukuganiza kuti muli nawo pamoyo wanu atha.
Patsiku la 4th ndinaganiza kuti ndingathe kugonjetsa izi ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti zikanasintha moyo wanga, chifukwa kuti ndikhale woonamtima ndikuzindikira kuti ndinali ngati mutu wamutu ndipo palibe amene amakonda mutu wake. Mnyamata yemwe nthawizonse amawoneka wokwiya chifukwa cha chifukwa chabwino ndi kudana ndi dziko.
Pambuyo masiku 10 zinthu izi 5 zomwe ndazindikira zidzakupangitsani kuti mutembenuke ngati mukuganiza kuti izi zingakhale zovuta ndipo mukufuna chifukwa chosiya.
- Amayi adakhalanso okongola ndipo adakhalanso wofunika kwa ine. Mukayamba kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche monga momwe ndinakhalira mukukhala bwino osakhala ndi akazi, osamanga ubale ndi iwo. Patatha masiku a 10 ndinayambanso kuzindikira kukongola; maso, kununkhira, kukhudza, malingaliro, thupi, ndi zina zotero. Amapanga akazi kukhala zolaula, ndizomwe zili, zonse ndi zokhudza amuna kuti azitengera zochita zawo. Izi zikachoka ku ubongo wanu mumazindikira ndipo mumazindikira kuti china chake chophweka monga kukambirana mopusa ndi mkazi chitha kukhala chinthu chabwino komanso chosangalatsa.
2. Malingaliro Ofulumira - Ndazindikira kuti malingaliro anu amatha kugwira ntchito mwachangu ngati sakukhudzana ndi zolaula. Zolankhula ndi anthu zimayenda bwino kwambiri ndipo anthu azindikira ndikuwayankhapo. Kuthamanga komwe ubongo wanu umasanthula chidziwitso kumakwera mpaka kuwerenga buku lonse kapena kumaliza ntchito sikuwoneka ngati ntchito yambanso.
3. Kudzidalira kumadutsa padenga -Ukangokhala osadzimva kuti umatayidwa kwambiri ndipo mphamvu zako zidzakulira. Ndinayambanso kusamala ndi zovala zomwe ndimavala. Ndidayamba kuganizira kwambiri momwe ndimawonekera. Amayi adazindikira kuti, zidakhala zosavuta kwa ine kufunsa mtsikana wopanda pake ndikuyamba kucheza nawo. Osangokhala ndi akazi, kudzidalira kwanu pantchito yanu, sukulu, ndi zina.
4. Kugonana Kumaumbidwe - Wokondedwa aliyense yemwe mutha kulumikizana naye ndikupita naye kunyumba adzawona chidwi chanu chomwe mwangopeza kumene pazinthu zazing'ono kwambiri. Ndipo mudzakhala ndi mavuto a zero ndi libido, zinthu zazing'ono kwambiri zimakukhazikitsani pansi ndikumva bwino.
5. Mupeza mtundu watsopano wachikhulupiriro ndipo nthawi zambiri mukufuna kukhala munthu wabwino. - Ndimasewera gitala ndipo chidwi changa ndi chotere tsopano kuti nditha kuphunzira ndikupanga mwachangu. Osati zokhazo, koma nyimbo wamba zimangokhala zodabwitsa kwa ine tsopano. Ndimawona zinthu zazing'ono ndikamaonera makanema omwe ndawonapo maulendo zana omwe sindinachitepo kale. Phindu lalikulu ndikumva ngati mukufunika kuchita kena tsiku lililonse kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino komanso kuthandiza ena omwe mumawakonda momwe mungathere.
Kotero, izo si chinsinsi, zikwi za anthu zikuchita izo ndipo inu mukhoza kuwerenga nkhani zawo ndi zopindulitsa zodabwitsa zomwe ine sindinatchule nkomwe, kutchula 5 chabe ndi inane pang'ono, koma ndi kuyamba.
Ndasiya kulemba masiku, ndili kwinakwake mazana ambiri tsopano ndipo madalitsowa tsopano ali khumi. Sindili kwa aliyense, koma ngati njira yomwe ndinadzifotokozera kale ndi yofanana ndi inu, ikhoza kukhala chifukwa chake ngakhale mukuganiza kuti si. Ndi kwa inu kuti mudzuke ndi kuchita chinachake pazokha ndikuyamba kukhala moyo womwe mukudziwa kuti mungathe.
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