Mvuto: Ndipo kuti kugonana popanda thandizo kuchokera ku zolaula kudali kongowonjezera misempha ...
Patha chaka kuchokera pomwe ndinasiya zolaula. Ndinkathawa kumene ndili pachibwenzi ndipo ndimangopezeka pa 2pm pa Sande sindinachite chilichonse ndi tsiku langa lina kupatula kuwonera anthu akupanga zomwe angathere pazochita zawo.
Masewera agalu, gay amagonana, kugonana kwachikazi, maphwando achisoni kumene banja likuchita zogonana pakatumba lamadzi pomwe mabala a chubby-elbows amawakalipira ... nditangoyang'ana pakati, ndinazindikira kuti ndimatsegulidwa. zinthu zomwe sindingathe kuzichita - kapena ndikufuna kuzilemba.
Kuyang'ana ndemanga zomwe zidatulutsidwa ndimavidiyowo kudasokoneza chimodzimodzi - matembenuzidwe ambiri a 'iye ndiwobetcha yemwe amawakonda kwambiri' - ndipo ndimaganiza kuti, 'Fuck, bwanji anthu atawona zolaula izi ndi anthu owopsa? Kodi ndingatani ngati ndikugawana ndi orgasms anga ndi mwana wazaka 14 yemwe wagwiritsa ntchito kanema womwewu kulungamitsa kuti ndikunyengererana ndi bwenzi lake latsoka lomwe? Kodi ndingathenso kubwera ndi lingaliro lochimwaloli m'maganizo mwanga? '
Zolaula sizimangoterera mukamatsitsa chivindikiro cha laputopu ndikupita kukasamba. Zimakumbukira m'mutu mwanu, makamaka mukakhala nthawi yambiri ndikuwona zolaula kuposa kugonana
Yankho (ayi) ndiwodziwikiratu ngati zenizeni kuti zolaula sizimangoterera mukamatsitsa chivundikiro cha laputopu ndikuyamba kusamba. Zimakumbukira m'mutu mwanu, makamaka mukakhala nthawi yambiri ndikuwona zolaula kuposa kugonana. Ndipo zidandipeza kuti zidakhala chikhalidwe chachiwiri kuganiza zolaula ndikuyesera kubwera. Pena zinali zikuwonekera m'maganizo mwanga, ngati mzimu wakuonera atsikana-onamizira m'mbuyomu, kapena ndimaganiza za izi kuti zindithandizire kubwereka - kubwereka ku zosangalatsa za chuma cha anthu ena kuti ndipeze bwino, ?
Chifukwa chake, Lamlungu limodzi lakuthwa, nditasinthiratu mbiri yanga kusakatula komaliza, ndidaganiza zongosiya zolaula.
Koma sizinali zophweka. Komanso ndimayesetsa kuyika foni yanga pansi ndikadakhala ndi banki m'malo momuyang'ana mphukira zazing'ono za Megan Fox, ndiye kuti ndiyenera kuyesetsa kulumikiza zinthu zofananira za banki. Izi zimaphatikizapo kuyesa kupondereza zomwe ndimakumbukira za wakale pomwe ndimavutika kukumbukira za kugonana kwanga kwaposachedwa popanda kumva chisoni kwambiri kuti kudali kopanda nzeru kwa kugonana kopanda nzeru ndi munthu yemwe ndidalibe naye chidwi.
Pamwamba pa izi, abwenzi adawoneka osangalala kwambiri kundiwonetsa zithunzi zolaula - chinthu chomwe ndimazindikira chomwe chimachitika nthawi zambiri nditasankha kuzipewa. Zojambulajambula zowonekera pang'onopang'ono kudzera pa Tinder ndi Grindr zimasefedwa pa WhatsApp ndi Snapchat. Amuna okwera pang'ono amatha kujambula mafoni awo kuti ationetse makanema olaula, ngati munthu wokhala ndi mbolo yosanja atakhala pabulogu yopingasa yopingasa. Inde, kwenikweni.
Ndipo zolaula sizinali zongogawana ndi ine pagulu chabe: kusakatula zithunzi za pa intaneti za Justin Bieber pantchito zinandibweretsa m'maso ndi zithunzi za nkhope yake Zithunzi zitayikidwa pamitundu ya zithunzi zolaula za gay, onse agalu agalu ndi owopsa boner. Buluu Ndiye Wotentha Kwambiri inatuluka ndipo ndinatembenuza machitidwe ambiri achisoni pamene ndimayang'ana owerenga kumbuyo akubwera ndikumenyetsa mawuwo pansi kuti ndindipulumutse ku mafunde ndi kuusa moyo. Nthawi zambiri ndakhala ndikuwerenga mapepala aulere omwe amaperekedwa ku London konse kuti awombere anthu ena otchuka omwe amadzitcha kuti "kuvula" chifukwa chachifundo. O, ndipo ndili ndi Instagram. Nipples sangathe kuloledwa, koma anthu akutsimikiza kuti apeza maliseche.
64% ya ogwiritsa ntchito a Reddit omwe adaganiza zosiya zolaula adazindikira kukonda kwawo zolaula, asanataye mtima, 'achuluka kwambiri komanso / kapena asokera'
Ndikupezeka kuti dziko langa ladzaza ndi zolaula, ngati bokosi la foni lofiirira. Zokha 14% ya masamba onse osaka ndi olaula, zomwe sizikumveka kwambiri mpaka mutazindikira kuti ndi nthawi yachisanu ndi chiwiri ya nthawi yathu pa intaneti. Ndipo izi sizitengera kuti anthu ena amadziwa kale mayina a masamba olaula ndikuti Google asawafikire.
Tadzaza kwambiri ndi zolaula kotero kuti gulu lonse loletsa zolaula layamba. Pa Reddit, gulu la 'palibe-fap' ('fap' ndi mawu opanga ma wanking) ali ndi 120,855 'Fapstronauts' akuyang'ana kuti athetse zolaula. Ndi gulu lothandizira anthu omwe amadzimva kuti ali ndi chizolowezi choonera zolaula kotero kuti amafunikira tsamba la pa intaneti kuti athandizire kuti ayambe chizolowezi. Zambiri akuti 59% ya iwo amathera maola a 4-15 sabata iliyonse akuwonera zolaula, ndikuti 64% adazindikira zokonda zawo pazola zolaula, asanadzigonje, 'adakhala oonjezera komanso / kapena opatuka'.
Ngati anyamata ku Reddit atha kusiya zolaula, ndinalingalira, inenso nditha. Ndipo, pomalizira pake, ndinakwanitsa kuyeretsa. Sikuti ndinakwanitsa kuchotsa maulalo ake onse, koma mwa kuyeretsa bokosi langa, sindinatulutsenso zotsatsa zikwangwani. Ndinasiyanso kuyendera mawebusayiti amtundu wina pomwe 'banter' amalumikizana ndi zithunzi zazimayi za amayi, ndikuchepetsa kudya tsiku lililonse malo abwinowa pomwe zithunzi zosawoneka bwino za anthu otchuka omwe amapezeka pagombe zokhala ndi mandala akuluakulu ndizowoneka ngati zovomerezeka.
Kuuza anzanga kuti ndasiya zolaula kunali vuto lalikulu chifukwa ambiri a iwo amangoganiza kuti ndasiya kulipira. Nditawafotokozera kuti ndasiya, adasiya kunditumizira zambiri. Mmodzi hiccup anali The Fappening - zithunzi zidatumizidwa ku WhatsApp yanga patangopita mphindi zochepa kuti zitheke pa intaneti, koma ndidayimba foni yanga motalikirana kuti ndiyimitse yonse.
Kodi kusiya zolaula kunakhudza bwanji moyo wanga wogonana? Moyo wanga wonse? Patatha miyezi yochepa popanda zolaula, malingaliro anga anali okonzeka bwino kuzidziwitso zazing'ono kwambiri. Sikuti ndimangokhala woponderezedwa pang'ono pamiyendo, koma taganizirani izi, ngati mungakhale ndi chipolopolo chachikulu choyandikira pafupi ndi mutu wanu kwa masiku, masabata, miyezi, kuuma m'makutu anu kumatanthauza inu ' sudzamvanso kulira. Ndipo nthawi zina, bwino, kufutukula motalikirapo kuposa mawonekedwe owonekera kawiri, nthawi zina piniyo imatha kukhala yachifundo kwenikweni.
Patatha miyezi yochepa popanda zolaula, malingaliro anga anali okonzeka bwino kuzidziwitso zazing'ono kwambiri
Zolaula zandipangitsa kuti ndiziwona zogonana ngati chinthu chosavuta kupeza, monga tchizi chofufumitsa kapena ma batala karoti wopangidwa kale. Ngati nditha kuwona mtsikana atagundana pomwepo pakadina batani, bwanji pansi pano ndingayesetse kwambiri kugonana IRL? Chifukwa chiyani zinthu zitalitali? Nditasiya kuonera zolaula, kugonana komwe ndinali nako kunayamba kukhala kwenikweni.
Choyamba, ndimathamangitsa izi mosamala kwambiri - ngati kugonana kwenikweni ndiye kugonana komwe mungatenge, mumayesanso zovuta kuti mumvetsetse. Kachiwiri, ndinadzimva kupezeka nthawi yambiri ndikugonana. Sikuti zithunzi zokhazokha zolaula zomwe zidali kutali kwambiri kukumbukira kwanga kuti ndizitha kuwonekera pamaso panga pomwe ndikuchita, koma osatha kugwiritsa ntchito kukumbukira kukumbukira izi, ndikufunika kuthana ndi malingaliro akuti mwina sindinali bwino ndikugona ndi anthu oyenera. Ngati ndimafunikira kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kuti ndigonepo ndili pabedi ndi IRL, kodi ndimamukonda kwambiri munthu ameneyo?
Komabe, pankhani yakugonana ndi IRL, mantha anga adakulitsidwa kwathunthu. Mwinanso ndinakhala wofunikira kuposa momwe ndikanakhalira, koma ngati simunawone thupi lamaliseche - sungani ziwonetsero zopanda phokoso za anzanu omwe ali ndi zithunzi za pagombe zomwe zimakokedwa konse (ma boobs zilumba) - mu pomwe, ndizowoneka bwino kwambiri mukawona. Kuyembekezerako kumamangika, ndipo popanda kukumbukira kwanthawi yatsopano yamatupi apamwamba kapena zochitika zina kuti mufanizire nazo, mumapilira kuzindikira zomwe zili patsogolo panu kwambiri. Zili bwanji ngati za uchi?
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