Hei / r nofap ndimangofuna kupatsa anthu ena kuyamba ulendo wawo wa tsiku la 90 pang'ono pazomwe ndidaphunzira ndili pa nthawi yanga.
KUYAMBIRA
- Masiku oyamba a 10 kapena 20 anali nthawi ya mayeso ndipo ndimamva kukwiya, kusungulumwa, komanso nkhawa kwambiri nthawi zina ndipo sindinkafuna kungomva kapena kuthawa kwakanthawi.
-Malingaliro omwe amandilepheretsa kuti ndibwererenso nthawi ino ndichinthu chomwe ndidachiwerenga pa reddit potengera munthu yemwe wasuta udzu moyo wawo wonse ndipo anali wazaka 60 kapena 70s. Adanenanso kuti moyo wawo sunali woipa - anali okhutira ndi zomwe anali nazo koma kumbuyo kwa malingaliro awo nthawi zonse panali lingaliro loti moyo wawo ukadakhala wosiyana ngati sakasuta. Osati zabwinoko-osati zoyipa, koma mwanjira inayake mosiyana ndikuti mwina adaphonya china chake.
- Izi zidandigwiritsabe ntchito chifukwa nthawi zonse ndimakhala ngati ndimakhutira kwambiri ndi moyo koma lingaliro loti ndikanalowa mu ma 60 kapena ma 70s ndikungodandaula kuti moyo ukadakhala kuti PMO sikadakhala gawo lake chidandipatsa mwayi wowerenga.
- Mwinanso panali miyezi itatu kapena kupitiliranso mobwerezabwereza tsiku la 3 lisanachitike. Nditha kufika tsiku la 90 kapena 21 ndipo ndimakhala ndi usiku womwe ndimakhala kunyumba ndikumakhala ngati ndikusowa phwando lomwe dziko lapansi limapanga (osatsimikiza kwenikweni momwe ndingafotokozere zakumveraku koma ndikutsimikiza ambiri a inu mutha kufotokoza - zili ngati kusungulumwa, nkhawa, ndikungofuna china chosiyana kapena chabwino chomwe chikuwoneka kuti sichikulamulirani).
- Ndikuganiza kuti malingaliro omwe ndimayenera kulowa ndikuti ndimafuna kuti moyo ukhale wowona. Ndikadakhala kuti ndikumva kuwawa zingakhale zowopsa zomwe sizinasinthidwe ndi PMO. Sindinkafuna kukhala wazaka 60 zakubadwa ndikuyang'ana kumbuyo…
- Ndidatsala pang'ono kulephera 2 kapena 3 nthawi zomwe zimayandikira kwambiri panthawi yamagetsi ndipo ndimatha kuwonekera pazithunzi zoyambitsa pafupifupi sabata iliyonse. Chikhumbo sichitha konse iwe sungagonje.
ZITSANZO
- Posachedwa ndidakhala ndi chibwenzi ndipo ndinali ndikukayikira zamphamvu zonse, mvula yozizira, kusinkhasinkha, "mphamvu ndi akazi," zokambirana za PUA ndi zina za sub-reddit zomwe sizinandisangalatse. Ndinaganiza kuti panali kunyada kochenjera kambiri komwe kumachitika ndipo sindinalowemo nofap ndimalingaliro a bwenzi. Sindikutsimikiza ngati ndingawonetse kusinthaku kukhala chidaliro chowonjezeka kapena china chilichonse koma malingaliro anga adasintha ndikuwononga ubale wanga ndi azimayi ndikuwawona ngati maubwenzi enieni (onani pamwambapa). Izi zitha kumveka zopunduka komanso Dr. Phil-esque koma ndizodabwitsa mukamakonda mtsikana chifukwa cha momwe mumamvera mukakhala pafupi ndi iye m'malo moganiza kuti angawoneke wopanda zovala. Ndikusintha kochenjera koma ndibwino kuposa "wamphamvu" wina aliyense amene amabwera ndikudzidalira kwanga.
ZINTHU
- Sindikumva nkhawa kwenikweni tsopano - gawo lina mwina chifukwa choti sukulu yatha koma sindimamvanso kawirikawiri monga ndanenera pamwambapa. Ndisanayambe kusungulumwa komanso ngati ndikuphonya china chake koma tsopano mtundu wanga wokhutira wasintha. PMO nthawi zonse mumakhala mukuthamangitsa kuthamanga kwakukulu - msungwana wokongola, mawonekedwe abwinoko, china chosiyana ndi zomwe mudaziwonapo kale. Moyo wanga suli wangwiro tsopano koma sindikumva ngati ndikumvetsetsa china chake chomwe sindingafikenso. Ndizovuta kufotokoza koma ndimaona ngati PMO alibe malire pazomwe mukuthamangitsa. Tsopano ndikumva ngati ndikutsatirabe zolinga zanga, koma ndine wokondwa ngati ndingathe kuchita zonse zomwe ndingathe kuti ndifikire pafupi nawo momwe ndingathere. Sindingathe kuwafikira koma ndikumva ngati pali chosangalatsa kwambiri pakufikira zomwe sizinalipo kale.
Zikomo! ndipo zabwino zonse paulendo wanu!
TL; DR - lingaliro loyang'ana mmbuyo ndikudzifunsa kuti moyo wakufa ukadandithandizira bwanji kupeza masiku 90. Njira zosiyanasiyana zokhudzana ndi atsikana. Osakwaniritsa zolinga zomwe sindingakwanitse, kuphunzira kuyamikira kuyesetsa kukwaniritsa zolinga.
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