Ndikamayandikira masiku 90 mawa, ndikufuna kuthokoza chifukwa cha subreddit iyi.
Chiyambi chochepa, ndakhala ndikuseweretsa maliseche kwa zaka pafupifupi 10, nthawi zambiri 3 patsiku, nthawi zina zambiri. Ndinayamba kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kuti ndithandizire kuyambira zaka zisanu kapena zisanu ndi chimodzi zapitazo. Zinafika poti zinandithandiza kuti ndithane ndi nkhawa kapena kusungulumwa m'moyo wanga. Kunali kumasulidwa kwanga. Sindingathetse chilichonse popanda icho.
Sindinazindikire zomwe ndimakumana nazo mpaka nditapeza subreddit. Sindingathe kuyimirira, moyo wanga wonse. NDINALI ndi PIED kwa zaka zambiri, ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimangoti ndikuledzera kapena kutopa kapena kupsinjika. Sindinaganizepo kuti mwina akhoza kukhala PMO. Nditakumana ndi subreddit iyi, ndimayika 2 ndi 2 mwachangu kwambiri, ndipo ndikuyambiranso tsiku lotsatira.
Ntchitoyi inali yovuta. Panali mausiku omwe ndimafuna kwambiri MO. Unali usiku womwe ndidabwera kuno ndikufunafuna chitonthozo m'malo anu onse okoma ndi othandizira. Nkhani zakupambana, zopindika panjira, ndi zolemba zolimbikitsira. Ndi chithandizo chanu, ndidatha kudzitsimikizira ndekha kuti mphindi yayifupi yakukhutira idafupikitsidwa ndi phindu la njirayi. Ndinapirira, ndipo sindinakhale wachimwemwe kuposa momwe ndinachitira.
Pakadutsa milungu ingapo, ndazindikira zosintha zambiri kukhala zabwino. Ambiri a inu mumawatcha "mphamvu zamphamvu." Mawuwa ndioyenera. Kuchuluka kwa testosterone kumakupatsirani magwiridwe antchito pamasewera, pagulu, komanso m'maganizo. Izi zimakupatsani chidaliro chomwe chimakulitsa magwiridwe antchito anu, zomwe zimawonjezera kudzidalira kwanu. Mwakutero, ndakhala ndikuphunzira mpikisano wa 18 mamailo womwe ndidathamanga chaka chatha. M'maphunziro anga chaka chatha, mayendedwe anga apakati pa mtunda wamayendedwe anga apakati (8-10 ma mile) anali 8:30. Chaka chino, nditatenga miyezi isanu ndi iwiri kuchoka pa mpikisanowu, kuthamanga kumeneku kutsikira ku 7:8, ndipo kuthamanga kwina kukufika pansi pa 05. Ndabwera kuti ndiphunzire kukhala wowonekera ndikukhala moyo wa phwando, m'malo mongothamanga ndikuyembekezera m'mapiko. Sindinamvepo bwino kapena kukhala wolimba mtima kuposa momwe ndiriri pano ndipo ndiyambiranso kuyamika.
Ponena za chizolowezi changa, ndili pansi paulamuliro wanga. Ndikulemba izi m'mawa kwambiri ndikukhulupirira kuti ndipanga mawa popanda chovuta chilichonse. Ndilibe chilimbikitso chilichonse chomwe ndimamverera kuti ndiyenera kukhala PMO kuti ndipeze, ndipo ndili ndi njira zambiri zathanzi zolimbana ndi kupsinjika ndi kudzimva. Izi zati, kudziwa kuti ndagonjetsa chizolowezi choledzeretsa ndikumverera kodabwitsa, ndipo ndimamva ngati palibe chovuta pamoyo wanga chomwe sindingathe kuthana nacho.
Izi zati, kwa omwe akuyamba kumene, ndikupereka malangizo otsatirawa.
- Tili ndi gulu labwino pano pa NoFap, ndipo aliyense amatithandiza kwambiri. Mukangoyamba kuyambiranso, bwerani kuno nthawi zonse momwe mungafunire kuti muthandizidwe, chifukwa nthawi zonse imakhala pano mukaifuna. Komabe, mukapitiliza kuyambiranso, ndikukulimbikitsani kuti muleke kubwera kuno pafupipafupi. Ndikuganiza kuti theka la nkhondoyi likuchotsa malingaliro anu. Nthawi zonse ndimagwiritsa ntchito tsambali ndi PMO wanga, motero kudzichotsa pagulu mwezi womaliza kunali, m'malingaliro mwanga. Sindikufuna kuti izi zikhale zopanda ulemu kwa aliyense pa subreddit iyi, koma kutchula Commissioner Gordon, ndiwe ngwazi yomwe ndimayenera, koma osati amene ndimafunikira pakadali pano. Mudakwaniritsa cholinga chanu, ndipo zinali kwa ine kuti ndizitenge mbali yonseyo.
- Osayika kwambiri pa chiwerengerocho. Chimodzi mwazinthu zanga zazikulu kwambiri ndi subreddit iyi (kachiwiri, palibe ulemu womwe ungafunikire) ndikutsutsana kuti "ndiyenera kukonzanso baji yanga". Kunena zowona, imasowa cholinga cha subreddit mpaka pomwe imaleka kukhala malo oti adzikonzekeretse ndikukhala mpikisano wokha. Ndinali ndi mwayi woti sindinadziike pamalo pomwe baji yanga imayenera kukonzedwanso, koma nthawi zonse ndimagwira ntchito pansi pa lamulo loti Ngati ndachita chilichonse chodetsa nkhawa, kapena kufunsa funso "kodi ndiyenera kukonzanso baji yanga?" M'malo mwake ndingakonde. Mwamwayi, ndidazichita "zosavuta", ndikupewa mikhalidwe yonseyi.
- Mukangoyamba kumene, pewani zolaula zilizonse kapena zowoneka / zomveka / zokopa zilizonse zomwe anthu sangakonde. Ndinayenera kusiya kuwonera makanema ena apawailesi yakanema pafupifupi mwezi umodzi chifukwa ndimadziwa kuti zitha kundilimbikitsa ndikuyendetsa maliseche (ndinayenera kudikirira kuti ndiwone Orange Is the New Black). Pambuyo pake, mumatha kuthana ndi izi ndipo mutha kuyambiranso izi ngati sizinali zazikulu kwenikweni. Komabe, gawo lina la njira yochira ndikuthana ndi zomwe si zachikhalidwe, ndipo ndi gawo limodzi chabe la ntchitoyi.
- Nthawi zonse muzindikire chifukwa chomwe mukuchitira. Mukakhala ndi cholinga chanthawi yayitali ndikunena kuti "ndikachita izi, ndidzakhala [ikani zotsatira zomwe mukufuna]," ndizosavuta kuthana ndi zokopa. Ndiulendo wovuta, koma palibe chilichonse m'moyo choyenera kuchita chosavuta.
TL / DR: zikomo, moyo wanga tsopano ndiwodabwitsa, ndipo zabwino zonse ngati muli paulendo ngati womwe ndili nawo.
LINK - Masiku a 90 Mawa. Kubwezeretsanso.
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