Izi ndi zazitali anyamata. tl: dr ndi za otaika
Ndinkafuna kulemba izi kuti ndibwezere, ndimaganiza kuti ndizodabwitsa kuti gulu longa ili kuti tithandizire anyamata omwe ataya moyo wawo chifukwa cha zinthu zambiri. Ngakhale sindinagwiritsepo ntchito mabwalowa kupatula kuti ndidziwitse momwe ndingachitire izi, ndimaganiziranso kugawana nawo nkhani yanga. Ndapeza zabwino zopitilira zomwe ndimaganiza kuti zingatheke, ndipo ndikhulupilira pogawana nthano yanga ndi maupangiri omwe ndingathandize enanu kupyola ndikusintha miyoyo yawo. Tili pano kuti tisadzakhale opambana padziko lapansi, koma opambana omwe tingakhale. Izi zidandilamulira kwambiri ndipo zidasintha zina zambiri m'moyo wanga. Sindine wotsirizidwa koma sindinadziganizire ndekha mpaka pano.
Ndikufuna kuyesa kuti inu azibambo kuti muwone maubwino osabwereranso komanso malangizo othandiza omwe andithandiza kupyola izi. Sindikudziwa kuchuluka kwa masiku m'mizere yanga, sindikukumbukira tsiku lomwe ndidayamba (kunali koyambirira kwa Juni 2018) chifukwa sindimaganiza kuti izi zikhala nambala 1, zitha kukhala ndi phindu lililonse, ndi nambala 2, ndimatha nthawi yayitali kuposa masabata a 2 opanda zolaula. Ndili pa miyezi 5 yopanda zolaula, ndinayenda molimbika miyezi ingapo ya 4, nditatha zovuta ndinayamba kuswa. Osatengera ngakhale kuchita izi ngati mutangoyenda popanda zolaula, chitani zovuta, kuyamwa, ndi gehena yokha mwezi woyamba ndi theka.
Chifukwa chake ndidayamba mwachizolowezi, kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwa nthawi yayitali kuyambira mwina 11 kapena apo, makamaka tsiku lililonse ndi pafupifupi kupumira kwakukulu kwa mwezi wazaka zingapo zapitazo, pakali pano 20, kotero zaka 9 zamagwiritsidwe azolaula zomwe zimayambitsa zovuta . Nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndikugwira ntchito kuyambira pa zaka 12, kotero ndikuganiza kuti mitundu yosankha imakhala yolakwika chifukwa chopangidwa ndi ma dopamine receptors, apo ayi sindikuganiza kuti id ndiyonso ma receptor ambiri omwe atsalira.
Ndidamva koyamba za zaka za 2 zapitazo, sindimaganiza za izi. Kodi ndingapeze phindu lotani ngati sindingosewerera? Ndikutanthauza kuti zolaula zindipangitsa kukhala kosatha, zomwe zidakhala zowopsa. Sindikanatha kumaliza ndi mtsikana moyo wanga wonse, ndimatha kupita maola ambiri osamaliza, ndikupitilizabe kupitiliza zolaula.
Chifukwa chake pamapeto pake ndinamvanso za izi, kenako ndinayamba kuyang'ana maubwino, kulimba mtima pang'ono, nkhawa zochepa zamagulu, mphamvu, zolimbikitsidwa ndi zina zambiri .. Ndinkadziwa ngati ndiyenera kusiya izi (ndikundikhulupirira kuti ichi ndichachidakwa, chachikulu) ndipo kukonza ubongo wanga, ndimayenera kuchita pa zovuta. Nditapita kuti chinthuchi ndidadzichinjirize kamodzi, kuzungulira chizindikiro cha sabata ya 2, ndisanayambenso kubwereranso, ndinali wolimba mtima komanso wolimba, kotero ndidalemba zomwe ndidamva kale, komanso momwe ndidamveramo. Ndinapitilira kulumikizidwa kwakugonana kokongola ndipo nditatsiriza, chilichonse chimakhala zopanda moyo, chosadetsa nkhawa. Ndipo eya chifukwa chaser anali wokonda kudutsa. Ndikukumbukira kuti ndinapita ku McDonalds kukatenga chakudya pambuyo pake (inde) ndipo ngakhale chakudya chamafuta chinkakhala chobowola, ndinkaona kuti ndi waulesi komanso wowopsa. Nthawi iliyonse ndikafuna kuyambiranso pambuyo pake ndimakumbukira momwe ndikumvera ndipo kutsimikiza mtima kumabweranso.
Kenako chinthu chodabwitsa chinachitika, mwezi woyamba ndi theka chitatha (sindinasunge masiku enieni) ndinazindikira kulakalaka zolaula kulibe. Ingoganizirani izi, taganizirani momwe mumakonda kukhala chingwe, zingwe zimapangidwa ndi ulusi, ulusi wowonjezereka umakhala wolimba kwambiri. Poyamba ndinkafuna, koma tsiku ndi tsiku ulusi unayamba kusweka, m'modzi m'modzi, mpaka mwezi ndi theka. Kenako zinachitika, zingwezo zinang'ambika pakati, pamenepo ndinapita. Lets tsiku lomwe linali tsiku la 47, kotero patsiku 46 ndidali ndi zilakobe, koma tsiku litafika 47, kulakalaka kupita pa google pa zolaula ndidangoisiya, ngati chingwe ndikung'amba ndipo ine popanda kulakalaka pambuyo pake kuti, ndinali wosawonda sizimandipangitsa kulakwitsa, koma sindinkaonera zolaula, ndipo ulendo wonsewo unali kuyenda bwino.
Zomwe ndikunena ndikuti zidzakhala zovuta poyamba, koma kudzera mukulimbikitsidwa kwamphamvu kwa chidaliro chanu, mphamvu komanso kuchepetsa nkhawa za anthu, zitha kupanga chithunzithunzi komwe mukufuna kuti musayang'ane zolaula. Zimangosiyanso pakapita kanthawi ndikupangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kwa inu. Ndiye inde "opambana" ndizowona, zolimba mtima, zopatsidwa zochepa, zolunjika kwambiri, zolimbikitsa, chisangalalo chifukwa ma dopamine receptors sakukonzekera, kulumikizana bwino ndi anthu, kugonana kumamva momwe ziyenera kukhalira bambo. Ponseponse ndikumverera kotheka, pamene ndimawona zolaula, ndimamva kukhala wopanda chiyembekezo, chifukwa cha kuthamanga kwa dopamine mumataya kukhudzika kwathunthu.
Malangizo ena. Kulowerera kunandithandiza kwambiri. Ndinali ndi zizindikiro zosiya kubwereza m'mwezi woyamba kumene ndikugwedezeka ndikufunikira, koma nthawi zonse ndikawona kuti kulimba kumakhala kolimba ndimasinkhasinkha nthawi yomweyo, tsiku lililonse, osasowa tsiku limodzi, ndichite kawiri patsiku, kamodzi sikokwanira, yambani kawiri pa 10 mphindi, ndiye kawiri ku 15, ndikuthamangitsa kawiri ku 20. Ndikofunikira kukudutsitsani munjira imeneyi ndikuthandizirani chonse. Zimakuthandizani kukhala odekha, kukhala omveka bwino m'maganizo, kukhala atcheru komanso okonda kupanga zinthu zina komanso kunyumba. Ndikuwona kuti ndimatha kulenga ndikamasinkhasinkha, koma cholinga ndikuti musakhale ndi malingaliro ena, nthawi zina ndimaloleza ngati ndikufuna mzere kapena mayankho. Sindinakhalepo ndi malingaliro osunthika, ndimangoyang'ana ma frequency a YouTube, ndikugwiritsa ntchito izi ndikamasinkhasinkha. Pomwe ndidayamba kusinkhasinkha sindidamvepo bwino, koma nditatha kuyimitsa malingaliro anga, ubongo wanga udamva kusunthika, pafupifupi kosangalatsa kosangalatsa komwe kumachitika pambuyo pake pafupifupi mphindi za 10, koma zotsatira zonse za bata ndi kupezeka kwakanthawi mpaka muime. Chenjerani kuti zitha kutenga miyezi ingapo kapena kupitirira kuti muyambe kuzindikira zovuta zake, zimakhala ngati kuthandizira, simukuwona kupita patsogolo mpaka nthawi ya "oh shit".
Zachilendo koma nditazindikira kuti nyimbo ndiyosangalatsa, sindikudziwa momwe ndingafotokozere.
Tsopano ndi mphamvu zowonjezereka zomwe mukufuna kukakumana ndi anthu atsopano, atsikana atsopanowa, izi zimakakamiza kusintha mu malingaliro anu kotero mudzangomva kuti mudzalandira mphotho mukapeza mtsikana watsopano, OSATI mutakhala jerkoff ndi zolaula.
Kukweza modabwitsa, popanda mafunso, chitani izo. Zimapangitsanso ma dopamine receptors atsopano kuti mupirire. Kuchulukitsa testosterone kotero kuti mumve kukhala wolimba mtima, woganizira komanso wolimbikitsidwa. Maseweredwe pomwe si malo ochezera pamenepa amati, itha kukhala mwayi wabwino kukumana ndi anthu. Kumva bwino, kuwoneka bwino, kubwereza. Ndi gawo la 2 gawo.
Sindinkaganiza kuti ndizifuna, koma pachiyambipo ndimayenera kuyika lamulo loletsa foni yanga. Yesani kuyika mwachinsinsi kuti musatseke. Sindingathe kukuwuzani kangati zomwe ndinayesa kulosera combo ndipo zinalephera, koma zimandilunjika.
Yang'anirani kudzikonza nokha, izi ndi zomwe sizichedwa kutha kukwaniritsa. Mumalowedwe osachedwa timachedwetsa chisangalalo cha miyezi ya 3, zomwe zimaphatikizapo kugonana, zolaula ndi kugwedezeka, KUTI m'tsogolo, tikamamwetulira zimamveka zodabwitsa komanso moyo wanu wonse, ndikulimba mtima komanso mphamvu zidzasintha. Kuchedwa kwakukhutiritsani ndikuti, kudzisungira ndalama zakutsogolo, ndikutsimikiza kuti mumachepetsa ndalama pogwiritsa ntchito ndalama, koma mumalandira mphotho pambuyo pake zomwe zikuwonjezeranso ndalama zoyambirirazo.
Chidziwitso chomaliza, usabwerere m'mbuyo, ngakhale utatsiriza kuyambiranso mwezi wa 3, kapena kupitanso pamenepo, usayerekeze kubwereranso KONSE. Mukugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu moyenera kuposa azimayi enieni kuposa momwe mungachitire zolaula. Zolaula sizimakupatsirani zokumana nazo, zolumikizana, kukumbukira. Zimakupatsirani njira yosavuta yosinthira m'moyo. Sindikutsutsana ndi zolaula zokha, zotsatira zoyipa zomwe tili nazo.
Mafunso ena aliwonse omwe muli nawo, omwe amangofunsa amangofunsa. Osakhala otukwana, samalani ndi moyo wanu.
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