Ndinayamba kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa ndi PMO kuzungulira zaka 12. Poyambirira, pang'onopang'ono ndinayamba chizolowezi choledzeretsa chomwe chimapangitsa kuti PMO ayambe kuyenda. Mosavuta ndi 13 kapena 14, ndinali kugwiritsa ntchito PMO tsiku lililonse. Kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa kunali kofala.
Ku sekondale komanso ku koleji yoyambirira, ndinali wokhumudwa kwambiri. Ngakhale ndimayesetsa kuchotsa PMO, ndimangobwererabe. Ndinkaopa kuti sindidzatha kuchoka kwa PMO ndi fetus. Kunali kutuluka kwa mitundu yonse yachisoni ndi kukhumudwa: gwiritsani ntchito PMO kupewa kumverera, ndipo tawonani, kugwiritsa ntchito PMO kumakulitsanso mdima ... motero, ndimabwerera ku PMO kuti ndipewe kumverera, & c. & c.
Mosasamala kanthu, pamapeto pake ndinapita patsogolo mothandizidwa ndi kuyankha (pafupifupi zaka 20 zakubadwa). Zinali zopweteka tsiku ndi tsiku (ndinalinso ndi tchati chakale, chisanachitike cha NoFap kwinakwake komwe kunali ndi mizere yanga). Ndimakumbukira ndikumuuza mnzanga kamodzi kuti zonse zimawoneka ngati zatayika atabwerera ku PMO / fetish patatha masiku 30. Ndipo masiku 30 ndi ochepa masiku ano!
Pang'ono ndi pang'ono, mizere yakale ija yomwe imawoneka motalika kwambiri idakhala yaying'ono poyerekeza. Pang'ono ndi pang'ono, kupambana kumawoneka ngati kocheperako.
Koma izi zinali zochedwa kwambiri. Ndinakwanitsa masiku opitilira 100 ndikubwereranso. Koma izi zinali zazikulu kuposa kuyesa kwanga komaliza. Kenako, pambuyo pake, apamwamba kwambiri. Ndi zina zotero.
Komabe, kuti nkhaniyi ifupikire: Ndinajowina NoFap chifukwa ndinabwereranso patatha zaka ziwiri ndikhala woyera. Ndinali nditatopa kubwerera munjira zomwezo patapita nthawi yochuluka.
Ndiye ndiyenera kugawana chiyani pano? Ndikukhulupirira ndili ndi chinthu china chopindulitsa.
-Zinthu zamtunduwu zimatenga nthawi. Osataya mtima. Kudzakhala kovuta ndipo mwina kudzazidwa ndi malingaliro. Ndipo komabe, kwerani makwerere a machiritso amodzi nthawi imodzi.
-Ukhoza kusintha, ndipo ichi ndi chinthu choyembekeza kukumbukira. Ndikulimbanabe ndi zokopa kwa PMO / fetish… koma ndine wosiyana kwambiri ndi pomwe ndidayamba paulendowu. Nditangoyamba kumene, ndidatsala pang'ono kukhulupirira bodza lomwe sindingasinthe (lomwe ndi lowononga koma lokhulupilika mosavuta kwa amene ali m'malo amdima). Komabe, ndinasintha m'njira inayake. Komanso, sindine wachisoni monga momwe ndidalili kale. Tsopano, 99% ya nthawi yanga sinatchulidwe ndi PMO. Ndili ndi mphamvu zowongolera malingaliro anga. Pali machiritso.
-Kudalirika ndi gwero lalikulu. Kuyesera kwanga koyamba kusintha kunali kothandizidwa ndi m'modzi mwa abwenzi anga apamtima. Iye anali (ndipo ali) wothandizira wamphamvu chotere. Adawonetsa kufunikira kwake kukhala bwenzi lenileni ngakhale ndili ndi zofooka. Ndikulangiza kuti mupeze mnzanu weniweni woyankha mlandu yemwe amagawana zolinga zanu. Nthawi yanga pa NoFap (mwachidule momwe yakhalira) yadziwikanso ndi mgwirizano wabwino komanso machitidwe osavuta. Ngakhale sindikudziwa ngati wina awerenga zambiri zomwe ndalemba, zakhala zothandiza kukhala ndi omvera amtundu wina, komanso kukambirana kwakanthawi.
-Kufalitsa, nawonso, kwakhala chinthu chabwino. Apanso, ngakhale palibe amene amawerenga, imakhala ngati chida chodziyankhira nokha ndikuwunika. Kafukufuku ambiri amalimbikitsa mchitidwewu, ndipo ndikuganiza kuti kumasula kwa malingaliro ndi njira yabwino. Ngakhale mu chipika changa changa, mai tsiku 1[kulumikizana uku kumafuna kulowa NoFap] adati, "Panopa ndikumva zoyipa zoyambirira za PMO. Ambiri a inu mukudziwa momwe izi zimamvera. Pafupifupi kugwa koyambirira, pamabwera kukopa kwamitundu yonse yamavuto amthupi, amisala, komanso amisala. Izi nthawi zambiri zimapanga ulendo wobwereza kumapeto kwa sabata (zomwe zimawoneka ngati nthawi yayitali pamenepo!), Mwinanso mwezi umodzi panjira. Pakadali pano, ndikufuna kubwerera ku PMO. Ngakhale ndikudziwa manyazi, chisoni, komanso zovuta zonse zomwe zidandigwira m'mbuyomu. Zifukwa zimavuta mumtambo wachikondi. ” ndipo “Thupi langa liri lovuta. Ndasungulumwa komanso kusungulumwa. Ndakhala ndikupanikizika kwambiri posachedwapa, ndipo lero, ndawononga nthawi yambiri… ”Ngakhale zinthu ngati izi ndizothandiza kukumbukira ndikufanizira ndi zomwe zilipo pano.
Zinali zambiri, ndipo ndikutsimikiza kuti ndikadatha kulemba. Koma, ngakhale zili choncho, tsiku 90 lafika pomaliza. Ndikuthokoza chifukwa chothandizidwa ndi anthuwa. Ngati wina aliyense pano angafunike thandizo, ndimamvetsera; chirombo ichi chimagwetsedwa bwino ndi anzawo ambiri, pambuyo pake.
Nanga zolinga zanga zopitilira? Ndikuyembekeza kuwonjezera masiku ena 90 (chifukwa kuyamba koyamba kwa masiku anga a 90 kumamvanso zovuta zobwereranso; 90 iyi iyamba ndi mawu oyera ndikuyembekeza kuti achiritsa mwachangu).
[Yankho la funso]
Nchiyani chinapangitsa kuti ndibwerere posachedwa kwambiri (pafupifupi zaka ziwiri)? Ndizovuta kunena. Palibe yankho limodzi; zinthu izi nthawi zambiri zimakhala ndimitundu ingapo yolumikizidwa ndi iwo.
Koma, poyambiranso posachedwapa, ndimayesetsabe kusintha moyo watsopano. Ndinali (kugwiritsa ntchito mawu amakono) monk. Kwa zaka pafupifupi ziwiri, ndakhala ndilibe ukadaulo kwambiri. Ndinkakhala m'dera. Ndinkakhala moyo wosalira zambiri.
Zomwe zinachitikazo zidatha mwadzidzidzi komanso zopweteka. Wothandizira yemwe ndinali ndi chidaliro poyerekeza ndi kulimbana kwake ndi chisudzulo.
Komabe, ndinadzipeza ndekha ndikudziko lina losiyana ndi monk-life. Njira yanga idatayidwa kwathunthu. Ndinali wachisoni komanso wopanda cholinga - wopanda ntchito kapena dera langa lokondedwa. Kuphatikiza apo, ndinayenera kuphunzira kukhala padziko lapansi. Sindinalankhulane ndi ambiri momwemonso (zolinga zanga zidasintha). Kungophunzitsanso pang'ono zamagetsi kunali kovuta pang'ono chifukwa ndinali ndisanagwiritse ntchito zida zamakono kwakanthawi.
Onjezerani pamenepo kuti ndinali ndi ufulu watsopano womwe sindimamvetsa. Ndinali kupeza ndalama ndipo ndinalibe dera kapena ulamuliro wamoyo wondisunga moyenera. Ndidazindikira kuti munthawi yochepa zinthu zambiri zokhudzana ndi PMO zomwe ndimakonda zidakhala zovomerezeka pagulu (zotetezedwa ndi ma seculars ngati "kudziwonetsera pokhudzana ndi kugonana"). Mwachidziwitso, ndinamva kuthamanga kuti ndikhoza kuchita chilichonse chomwe ndikufuna. Ichi pachokha, chinali chilombo cholimba kuweta.
Inenso ndine munthu wakugwa, ndipo ndimavutikabe ndi zovuta zaunyamata wosagwiritsa ntchito bwino ndalama. Chidwi chinandilaka tsiku lina. Ndimaganiza kuti ndiyang'ana zinthu zakale zokhudzana ndi PMO; osati P palokha, koma P yokhudzana. Izi ndikuti mudziika pangozi, ndipo ndizowopsa. Kuyambira pamenepo, zonse zomwe zidatenga ndikuchepa kwa chifuniro ndikukhazikitsanso zilakolako. Ndipo kuchokera pamenepo, zimangotengera pitani limodzi kuti mulowe mu njira yakale. Zina zonse zimagwa ngati maulamuliro.
Chifukwa chake ndilibe yankho labwino. Ndipo, umu ndi momwe nthawi zambiri amakhala osokoneza bongo. Mwachitsanzo, zaka zakumva zakumwa zoledzeretsa, tikhoza kuzimasula ndi chakumwa chimodzi. Ine, m'njira zambiri, sindinali wosiyana. Tsiku lina mayesero adadza; Ndidachita izi ndikungoganiza. Ichi ndiye maziko abwereranso - ndichifukwa chake tiyenera kukhala tcheru nthawi zonse.
Ngati muli ndi mafunso ambiri kapena mukufuna yankho labwino… chabwino, nditha kuyesetsa kuti muchepetse. Koma ndikuganiza kuti zikukhudzana ndi zovuta zazing'ono zazing'ono zophatikizana kuti mukhale vuto limodzi lalikulu.
Ndikuganiza kuti zonse ndi za tsopano.
Mulungu adalitse,
Miroku Yamakono
LINK - Masiku a 90 a PMO
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