Sabata yamawa idzakhala miyezi 11 osagwiritsa ntchito zolaula. Mwezi watha ndidatumiza pa Reddit pazomwe ndidazindikira chifukwa chakuchira. Onani ngati mukufuna: https://www.reddit.com/r/pornfree/comments/mtkk2p/10_months_the_journey_is_worthy/
Mwezi wamawa ndilemba "One Year Post" yomwe ikhala ndemanga yaulendo wanga wochira, maupangiri kwa iwo omwe akukakamira m'masiku 30 oyamba, maubwino ochira bwino, ndipo ndiyankha mafunso omwe angakhale nawo kuwonekera kwa inu.
Pazolemba izi, ndikufuna kutsimikizira kufunikira kwa kuchira kwanthawi yayitali, osati kudziletsa kokha. Ngati mwakhala mukuzolowera zolaula komanso zolaula kwa nthawi yayitali, ndiye kuti kusiya zolaula kumangokhala gawo loyamba (komanso lofunika kwambiri) la moyo wathanzi.
Ndi kulakwitsa wamba kwa oyamba kumene. Kumayambiriro, zaka 5 zapitazo, ndinali wokonda kwambiri NoFap. Ndidakhala ndi "maulamuliro" otchuka kwakanthawi (makamaka, maulamuliro apamwamba ndi maluso amkati okha omwe timafotokozera ena), mpaka nditakumana ndi "flatline" wathu wochezeka.
Ndidakhala wokakamira paulendo wanga, sindinkawoneka kuti ndikukula, choncho gawo lotsatirali lomwe ndidatsata linali Pornfree. Kenako apa ndinaphunzira zoyambira kuti ndikhale ndi thanzi labwino, komabe zidakhala zovuta kuti ndikhale ndi mzere wautali.
Patatha zaka zingapo, ndipo nditakhala ndi nkhawa miyezi ingapo, ndinazindikira kuti malingaliro anga azolaula anali osagwira ntchito. Ndinayenera kupita patsogolo limodzi ... sikuti ndimangofunika kusiya zolaula, koma makamaka zolaula (kukakamiza kugwiritsa ntchito mapulogalamu, Instagram, Google Image Search).
Kusintha kwakukulu, komabe, kunali mankhwala. Pamenepo, ndinazindikira kuti ndikufunika thandizo la akatswiri. Sindingathe kusintha ndekha ndekha. Pakati pa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi (gawo limodzi pamlungu, kenako masiku aliwonse a 15) ndimapeza luso lothana ndi sungani malingaliro akuya Ndinkakonda kubisala, monga kudzipatula, kuda nkhawa, manyazi, kudziimba mlandu, kusungulumwa, ndi zina zambiri.
Kenako, patadutsa kanthawi ndi miyezi yambiri ndikuyesetsa kudzisamalira, ndinayamba kusangalala ndi chilengedwe. Kufunika kokondweretsa ena kunazimiririka pang'onopang'ono. Ndinali (ndipo ndine) wokhutira ndi ndani, ndili ndi mphamvu ndi zofooka zanga. Moyo wanga wabwereranso kukhala weniweni.
Mukafika pano, malingaliro amoyo amapita pamlingo wina: mumasangalalanso ndi zisangalalo zazing'ono, kucheza pang'ono ndi anzanu ndi ena kumakhala kosangalatsa kwambiri, malingaliro anu pazowona amakhala abwino, mumakhala olimba m'maganizo pokumana ndi zovuta zenizeni, inu bwererani ku mphindi pano pafupipafupi.
Kuchira bwino sikungathe kufotokozedwa mokwanira ndi mawu. Ndikumverera kwa kukhala bwino ndikukhutira komwe kumafunikira kukhala ndi moyo kuti mudziwe tanthauzo lake lenileni.
Kupsinjika, kuvutika, kuwawa, nkhawa… kulipobe, kutali. Komabe, malingaliro amenewo amachokera kulankhulana mavuto ofunika kwambiri, osati kuthawa zenizeni potengera akazi onyenga “otentha” pawindo ndipo mwina simudzawaonanso.
Kwa ine, ndiko kuchira kwenikweni. Apa ndiye kuti mutha kusangalala ndi zisangalalo zazing'ono (kudya pizza, kumwa khofi, kukwera chilengedwe, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kuwerenga, kucheza, ngakhale kuseweretsa maliseche) osadziimba mlandu, manyazi komanso kudzilanga m'mutu mwanu. Apa ndiye kuti mukalumikizananso ndi umunthu wanu wamkati, ndipo mumadzilandira momwe mulili komanso kalembedwe kanu kosakondweretsa ena kuti mukhale "ovomerezeka" ndi anthu. Apa ndiye kuti mumapatula nthawi yanu komanso kuyesetsa kwanu pazinthu zofunikira tsiku ndi tsiku (mwachitsanzo, kumanga ubale wanthawi yayitali, kugwira ntchito, kuphunzira, ntchito zapanyumba, maulendo, kufufuza, kufufuza, zosangalatsa, ndi zina zambiri) ndipo simusokonezedwa ndi zinthu zosafunika zomwe sizimakupangitsani kukhala "odzaza" ndi chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo chamkati.
Ndikufuna kusiya zinthu zina kumapeto kwa chaka chimodzi, koma ndichofunikira kuzindikira kuti zolaula sizimayambitsa "mavuto" anu; ndi Chizindikiro cha vuto lalikulu m'maganizo zomwe zikuyenera kuyankhidwa ASAP ndi upangiri waluso ndi / kapena mothandizidwa ndi abale / abwenzi / abwenzi apamtima.
Mukafika pamfundo yoti: ngati mukufuna kusintha kwenikweni, muyenera kukhala ofunitsitsa kuchoka "harem" (harem ndiye phanga lokhala ndi mitundu yanu yabodza yayikulu ndi matako ake ozungulira, mawere ake, malo ake, ndi zina zambiri. Kudzipatula pakusiya zenizeni koma m'malo mwake dzazani ndi zolaula komanso zomwe mumalowetsa m'malo mwake)… ndiye mwa kuyesetsa pang'ono tsiku ndi tsiku komanso kudzisamalira mudzayamba kuwona kusintha kwakukulu pa zomwe mwachita moyo watsiku ndi tsiku. Zosangalatsa zibwereranso mwachilengedwe patadutsa miyezi ingapo.
Kuti ndimalize, ndikufuna ndikupatseni maupangiri angapo omwe agwira ntchito kwa ine pomwe ndinali kumayambiriro kwa chithandizo:
1) Mndandanda wazofunikira: sankhani zomwe zili zofunika kwa inu ndi zomwe sizofunika kwambiri, ndipo musasiye. Kupita kunja mutha kusintha zofunikira ngati kuli kofunikira, koma yesani kuzitsata pakufunika kwake. Kutenga nthawi ndi abwenzi, abale kapena mnzanu ngati muli nako kungakhale kofunika kwa inu; kapena mwina muli pasiteji m'moyo wanu zomwe mukufuna kukulitsa luso la piyano, kapena mwina mukufuna kukhala ndi nthawi yopititsa patsogolo luso lanu pantchito. Malinga ndi zomwe mumakonda "zosaphika", pangani zochita zanu pamoyo wanu.
2) Malire IG, malo ochezera a pa Intaneti komanso mapulogalamu azibwenzi: ngati muli pano, mwina ndichifukwa chakuti mukukumana ndi zovuta zakugonana kapena zikhalidwe zakugonana. Chifukwa chake, chimodzimodzi monga chidakwa chimafunika kuchepetsa mowa pamalo ake, kapena kupita kumalo ocheperako; kwa ogwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo omwe amaonera zolaula, kuyang'ana ndikuwongolera kumatha kuyimitsa kupita kwanu patsogolo. Chifukwa chake ndikukulimbikitsani kuti mugwiritse ntchito mapulogalamuwa mosamala, pokhapokha mukamva bwino.
3) Kuchita maliseche athanzi: nthawi ya fap siyofunika kwenikweni. Chofunika ndi momwe mumasewera maliseche. Katswiri wanga anandiuza kuti kukula bwino kumayenera kukhazikika pamalingaliro azaumoyo, ndipo sikuyenera kukakamizidwa kuthawa "kukhumudwa". Kuchita maliseche athanzi, m'malo mwake, kuyenera kuyang'ana chisangalalo chakuthupi chomwe chingatenge mphindi 15-30 kapena kupitilira apo "kumaliza". Pambuyo pake, kudziimba mlandu komanso manyazi kulibe chifukwa mwakhala mukukhutira komanso kusangalala mukamaseka.
Andisungeni chilichonse chomwe mungafune kudziwa chakuchira. Ndine wokondwa kuyankha mafunso anu, chifukwa ndakhala ndikumva zowawa, masiku ovuta, zovuta ... Ndimvera chisoni ndi iwo omwe akuvutika ndi iwo okha, ndipo akufuna kusintha kwanthawi yayitali.
Kwa iwo… KUKHALITSIDWA KWABWINO NDI KWAMBIRI. Zimatengera nthawi, kuwongolera mwanzeru (kusankha zoyambirira) ndikudzipereka kusangalala ndi kupita patsogolo. Chifukwa mukadziwa momwe mungathanirane ndi vutoli, ndiye kuti chisangalalo chenicheni chimayamba kubwera pafupipafupi…
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