Chifukwa chake ndili pano, pamapeto pa zovuta zanga za tsiku la 90, zomwe zidawoneka ngati ulendo wawutali kwambiri wodziletsa komanso kudziletsa. Zakhala miyezi itatu yosangalatsa, yodzaza ndi zovuta komanso zovuta zingapo zosakhululuka komanso zovuta, koma mwanjira ina Ndidakwanitsa kusunga chingwe chokhala ndi moyo ndikukwaniritsa cholinga changa cha masiku a 90.
Ndili ndikulingalira kwakumbuyo, chakukwera ndi kutsika kwa ulendowu, pomwe ndikulemba izi; kuthandiza obwera kumene omwe angafune kuyesa izi; kulimbikitsa a NoFappers omwe akuyesera kumaliza ulendo wawo, ndikukumbukira ndi a NoFappers omwe akhala akutenga nawo mbali panjira ndi masautso a ulendowu.
Anthu ambiri amalankhula za NoFap ngati kuti ndi chozizwitsa. Monga kuti kuthana ndi vutoli ndi ulendowu kumasintha moyo wanu kukhala wabwinoko; monga Cinderella ngati potion wapamwamba, zomwe zidzakwaniritsa maloto anu. Ndabwera kuti ndikuuzeni, mwatsoka, si.
NoFap ndiulendo wodziwonetsa; Ulendo wopanda mayendedwe, kupatula mkati.
Ambiri angakuwuzeni kuti kutenga NoFap kukupatsani mphamvu; kuti kuthana ndi vutoli kudzakulitsa chidaliro chanu ndikupangitsa azimayi kukuthamangitsani; kuti kukhala NoFapper kukupangitsani kuti muziyikidwa pafupipafupi komanso kuti kuchita nawo zovuta zotere kukupangitsani kuti mukhale opambana komanso kuti maloto anu onse adzayamba kukwaniritsidwa. Apanso, ndabwera kuti ndikuuzeni, mwatsoka, izi sizowona.
Ndinayamba NoFap ngati kuyesa. Ndinkaona kuti pang'onopang'ono ndikudalira zolaula ngati njira 'yomasulira', makamaka masiku akamakhala ovuta kwambiri komanso nkhawa & zochulukirapo zinali zikukwera. Nthawi iliyonse ndikakhala mchipinda changa chogona ndikulandira erection, ndimadzipeza ndekha ndikutsegula tsamba la incognito pa Chrome, ndikunyamula pepala loyandikira lomwe ndimasunga laputopu yanga, ndipo ndimatha mpaka ndikamverera kupsinjika, nkhawa, mantha ndi nkhawa zimayandama ndi chimake chochepa chomwe chimayambitsidwa ndi kutulutsa umuna.
Kokha, iwo sanatero.
Maliseche sanandithandizire kukumana ndi mavuto akulu m'moyo wanga; zidangowachititsa khungu. Maliseche, ngati mankhwala aliwonse opangidwa ndi dopamine, amagwira ntchito ngati zabwino Kusokonezedwa ndi nkhawa za 'pano', ndikupanga lingaliro lokhutira ndi miyoyo yomwe tikukhala. Izi osokoneza kumaso oyeserera ndichimodzi mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri zokhudzana ndi chizolowezi chogonana ndi maliseche okakamiza; timakhala okhutira ndi miyoyo yathu, ngakhale mulingo wabwinowu ukapangidwa ndi makina apakompyuta. Pambuyo pake, kusintha chibadwa ndi oyamba kwachilengedwe wa zamoyo zonse, komanso kutulutsa umuna (kapena kugonana) ndiyo njira yokhayo yomwe mukuchitira izi. Kubwereza chinthu choyambirira komanso chofunikira kwambiri chotere, mobwerezabwereza, mokakamiza komanso moyenera kumakhala ndi zotsatirapo.
Ndipo izi ndendende kumene ubwino wa NoFap anagona.
NoFap sikutanthauza kupeza 'mphamvu zoposa' kapena 'kukhala alpha' kapena 'kugoletsa akazi'. NoFap imanena za kudziletsa.
Mukayamba NoFap, mukukakamira kubwerera malingaliro onse oyipa, zizolowezi ndi zosokoneza zomwe zidayamba mzaka zambiri. Mukudzipereka kuti muchotse gawo lolakwika lanulo, ngakhale kuli kovuta. Mukuyamba kupatuka pa zoyendetsa kapena zolakalaka zazikulu zomwe zingakupatseni zizindikiritso zakusiyira, ndipo izi zimafunikira kulangidwa.
Chilango ichi koona wamphamvu kwambiri kumbuyo kwa NoFap; chifukwa kuletsa maliseche ndichinthu choyamba chokha. Musanadziwe, mphamvu zamphamvu, kutsimikiza mtima ndi kukonda osakhala bwino zidzayamba kulowa m'magawo angapo m'moyo wanu, ndipo mwadzidzidzi mukugwira ntchito, kusungabe nyumba yoyera, kupita masiku komanso kuchita bwino pantchito. Izi zimachitika osati chifukwa choti mwadzidzidzi mudalandira kuluma kwa kangaude ndi mphamvu zomwe simunakhalepo nazo, koma chifukwa choti mudadzuka kutulo komwe mudadziyika nokha ndikuganiza zothetsa mavuto omwe mwakhala mukupewa pomwe mukuphunzira momwe kuti osagonjera kuyesedwa kwakanthawi.
Axamwali, Zolaula ndizinthu zamtengo wapatali, koma zonse zomwe zimaperekedwa ndizabwino zabodza. Ena atha kukhala osangalala kukhala moyo wozikidwa pa bodza labodza; pambuyo mabodza omasuka angaoneke kosavuta kuthana ndi chowonadi chosasangalatsa. Komabe, ngati ndinu munthu amene mukufuna kudzuka m'mawa uliwonse kuti muyendetse moyo wanu, ndikulumbira kwa inu, kutenga gawo lomwe simungakhale nalo ndilo gawo loyamba laulendo wopambana kwambiri, ndipo akhoza kuyamba lero. Zomwe muyenera kuchita ndikusankha nokha moona mtima, kutengera chimodzi yosavuta funso:
“Kodi ukufuna ukhale ndani?”
Zonse zikuyenda kuchokera pamenepo.
LINK - Masiku 90 Pambuyo pake - Malingaliro anga pa 'Superpowers' ndi NoFap
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