Ndine wazaka za 19 ndipo ndine wonyadira kunena kuti sindinenso wochita nawo zolaula.
Ndimakumbukirabe tsiku lomwe ndinazindikira kuti ndinali wokonda zolaula. Ndimayesetsa kuyeserera ku mayeso omwe ndinali wozikika kwambiri koma nthawi iliyonse ndikakhala pansi kuti ndiphunzire zomwe zimabwera zimandibweretsa mpaka pomwe ndimawononga maola ambiri ndikulakwitsa. Panali tsiku limodzi lomwe zonse zomwe ndinachita zinali zowonera zolaula. Ndidadzuka ndidayiwona ndisanadzuke ndipo tsiku lonse lidali lachisoni kwambiri. Ndinkaziyang'aniranso nkhomaliro ndikudya usana komanso usiku. Ndikukumbukira nditakhala pamenepo ndikuganiza kuti ndikhala bwanji ndekha ndikapitiriza kuyenda panjira iyi. Kodi ndingapeze bwanji chikondi, Chuma komanso kukhala wathanzi ngati sindingathe kuwongolera izi.
Chifukwa chake ndidayamba No Fap ndipo ndidalephera mobwerezabwereza. Ndidayesa kuletsa zolaula pa intaneti koma nthawi zonse zomwe ndimafuna ndikakhala kuti ndizolimba ndimangotenga ziletso zilizonse zomwe ndikuyika ndikungoyang'ana momwe zimakhalira. Ngakhale No Fap ndiyabwino poyambira sizidandigwirepo konse, chingwe chotalika kwambiri chomwe ndidasunga ndichakuzungulira masiku a 10. Zomwe zidagwira ntchito ndikuletsa zolaula koma ndikugonana pakungofunika. Kodi mumachita bwanji? Gwiritsani ntchito bwino zomwe mukuganiza, lingalirani za msungwana wokongola uja mkalasi wanu, bwenzi lanu, mkazi koma onetsetsani kuti simukuganiza za makanema omwe mudawonera kapena kukakamiza kuchita zachiwerewere zomwe nyenyezi zolaula zokha zingapangitse mtsikana yemwe mukuganiza chifukwa icho chimalepheretsa cholinga.
Anthu ena amaganiza kuti izi ndizoperewera kapena zowoneka bwino koma zomwe zatseguka ndikuonera zolaula, zimathandizira mumsika womwe umagwiritsa ntchito azimayi achichepere pamatupi omwe amapangitsa mamiliyoni a abambo kuvutika ndi nkhawa, nkhawa komanso kudziona kuti sangakwanitse. Mosiyana ndi kugwiritsa ntchito lingaliro lanu ndilabwinobwino mwachilengedwe ndipo sikupweteketsa wina aliyense kuphatikiza inunso. Imakhala nthawi yake yambiri pamalingaliro oti simukuwononga maola ambiri mukuyang'ana kanemayo kamodzi komwe msungwanayo adalumikizika bwino, kuyatsa kuli pamalopo, ma bobi ali olondola, bulu ndi wabwino ndipo ngati mumachita kusamba Ndiosavuta kuyeretsa komanso. Koma koposa zonse momwe mumadzimvera mukamaliza Gawo la Porn gawo lanu lodziseweretsa maliseche ndi gawo lalikulu. Zolaula ndi zomwe zatibweretserani tulo tonse osadziseweretsa maliseche ndipo mudzazindikira izi ngati mutatenga malangizo anga.
Koma kukhalabe kutali ndi Porn siyankho lomwe muyenera kupeza kuti mubwezeretse. Njira imodzi yochitira izi ndi kuwonongera nthawi iliyonse momwe mungathere. Ndinayamba kugwira ntchito zambiri, kuwerenga ku Yunivesite kwambiri m'malo mwanyumba kuti ndisaone zolaula, ndinapeza ntchito yanthawi yocheza, kucheza ndi apabanja ena ku Uni ndipo tinapita kumacheza ambiri. Kuchita zinthu zonsezi kumatanthauza kuti malingaliro anga amakhala otanganidwa nthawi zonse ndipo amatanganidwa kwambiri zomwe zimapangitsa kuti ndisamakhale ndi nthawi yambiri yoganizira za kufunkhira, zokhumba zochepa, kubwerera m'mbuyo komanso kusintha zambiri.
Komabe panali china chake chosoweka chomwe ndimafuna chibwenzi ndipo ngakhale kukulira kwawekha kunathandiza nthawi zina kukhumudwitsidwa chifukwa chokana kukumana ndi mtsikana kungayambitsenso kangapo. Mukuwona chifukwa choyambirira chomwe amuna amaonera zolaula ndichakuti ndizosavuta kuposa kupita kukamagonana ndi moyo weniweni komanso monga chinthu chachilengedwe chomwe timakonda kukana. Chifukwa chiyani pangani miyezi yambiri mukudzikongoletsa, kuyika chiopsezo ndi kukanidwa pomwe mungakhaleko osinthika kukhala opanda amodzi koma azimayi okongola angapo amatengera zovala zawo kwaulere ndikupanga zinthu zomwe mtsikana weniweni sangathe . Chifukwa chiyani? Zabwino kungolemba chifukwa ndi koyenera.
Mukuwona kuti ndinali ndi mwayi wokwanira mtsikana yemwe tsopano ndi bwenzi langa la 7months. Ngakhale ndikuganiza kuti ndiwokongola, wokongola komanso wokongola ali kutali ndi atsikana omwe mumawaona pa zolaula. Koma izi ndizabwino palibe mwamuna yemwe angayembekezere bwenzi kapena mkazi wawo kukhala wangwiro monga momwe zolaula zimapangidwira. Pali cholinga chokha m'moyo ndikuwonetsa matupi kotero kuti nthawi iliyonse mukapita ku pornhub mtsikanayo amakhala atakhazikika, pangani mfundo, bulu ndi ma tulo ndi chifukwa chabwino mwina ndi zabodza kapena zosintha. Simungayembekezere kupeza zomwe muwona mu zolaula m'moyo weniweni koma sizitanthauza kuti zinthu zenizeni sizingakhale bwino m'njira zinanso. Mwachitsanzo chibwenzi changa chakhala bwenzi langa lapamtima, umunthu wake ndi wodabwitsa komanso chemistry yathu ndiyabwino. Ichi ndichinthu cholaula sichingakupatseni mwayi ngakhale mutawononga maola ambiri bwanji mukuchiwona. Ngakhale chinthu chimodzi chomwe porn chimakupatsirani chomwe chimakhala choyipa pakuyerekeza ndi chisankho chopanda malire cha abwenzi okongola sichimabwera ngakhale pakumva kuti mumakonda kwambiri mtsikana amene mumamukonda. Ngati ndikunena zoona bwenzi langa ndiye kuti akuwoneka wowoneka bwino koma nthawi zokoma zomwe tidagawana zimandipangitsa kukopeka ndi iye m'njira zolaula sizinandipangitse kumva za mtsikana aliyense. Pepani ngati ndikumveka ngati wachitsiru wachikondi koma ichi ndi chowonadi. Ndikumvetsa kuti izi sizingafanane ndi zaka kuyambira pano popeza ubale wathu ndi wocheperako. Komabe izi sizisintha mfundo yoti kulowa kwake m'moyo wanga kwandithandizira kuti ndimuyambenso ndipo ndidzakhala othokoza kwamuyaya.
Ngakhale ndidakwanitsa kuyesetsa kusiya chizolowezi changa ndi njira yanga ya Zolaula, kudzikonza ndekha ndikukumana ndi bwenzi langa. Nthawi zina ndimatha kuonera zolaula. Koma izi ndi njira. Ndikuganiza ngati chakudya chofulumira sichabwino konse kukhala ndi chakudya chathanzi lanu koma padzakhala nthawi zina zomwe mumayesedwa ndipo mumalolera. Chofunika ndichakuti mubwerenso mwachangu. Zolaula ndizofanana sizabwino konse kuzionera koma nthawi zina zimatha kuchitika. Osanditengera cholakwika cholinga changa chotsirizira ndichofanana ndi wina aliyense pano yemwe sayenera kuonanso zolaula. Koma pakadali pano ndili wokondwa chifukwa chowongolera, sindinenso wokonda kwambiri ndipo ichi ndichinthu chomwe ndimanyadira kwambiri.
Ndiyenera kuthokoza m'derali chifukwa ndikudziwa kuti pali masauzande a amuna ena omwe akumenyanso vuto lomweli monga inu mumathandizira kwambiri paulendo aliyense. Ndikulakalaka nonse 2019 yochita bwino ndipo koposa zonse ndikukhulupirira kuti nonse mukumaliza chaka ndikudziwa kuti mwamasula zovuta zomwe zolaula zimafuna kuti zikhale ndi tonsefe.
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