M'chaka changa chatsopano cha koleji, ndinali wokhumudwa. Zinayamba ndikungodya kwambiri ndikupeza mapaundi a 25 (Ndinapita ku UCLA ndipo chakudya chinali chabwino). Ndipo zinkayamba kuvuta kangapo ka 3 patsiku ku laibulale, kusamba, malo okongola kwambiri kulikonse komwe kunali bafa. Zosangalatsa za ine, sindinadziwe nkomwe kupanga kusefa mpaka nditakhala 18! (Ndi angati a inu pano omwe munganene kuti muli ndi 18-year NoFap streak) Ndiye nditayamba kuseweretsa maliseche, ndinali wodwala ndipo ndimaganiza kuti mphindi zakusangalatsazo ndiye chinsinsi cha chisangalalo. Mnyamata, kodi sindikadakhala wolakwa kwambiri. Chaka changa chatsopano chinali tsoka, ndipo ndidangoyamba kusintha ndikayamba kutaya tsitsi chaka changa chatsopano (tsitsi langa ndi limodzi mwazomanga zanga, ndipo ndinali wofunitsitsa kuchita chilichonse kuti ndisiye kugwa kwa tsitsi langa)
Ndinasiya kuseweretsa maliseche katatu patsiku koma ndimachita maliseche (ndikuganiza) mozungulira 3 pa sabata chaka chachiwiri. Ndikuganiza kuti izi zinali zosasinthasintha chifukwa ndimachita bwino kuposa kale ndipo sindinaganize kuti kusiya kuseweretsa maliseche kungasinthe chilichonse. Komabe, ndinali ndi mavuto ambiri kuyang'ana chaka changa chachitatu ndipo amayi anga adandilimbikitsa kusinkhasinkha kwamasiku 3 ndikubwezeretsa nthawi yopuma yachisanu. Sindingathe kudziwa kuti sindinayambe kukula kwa masiku 3 ndipo ndinayamba usiku wanga woyamba kumeneko! Komabe, ndimadzimva kuti ndine wolakwa ndipo ndidauza wamkuluyo ndipo adangondiuza kuti ndisadandaule ndikuyesera kuti ndisachite izi pamaphunziro onse. Sindinatero ndipo ndinadabwa ndikutha kwanga kuchita bwino chonchi!
Nditabwerera, ndinayamba kuchepa pafupipafupi mpaka nditakumana ndi gulu la NoFap ndikuwona zabwino zake - poyamba ndinayesa kukana kuti zingathandize, koma ndinaganiza "Chifukwa chiyani?" Ndidaphunzira zakukula kwamalingaliro ndipo ndidaganiza zogwiritsa ntchito noFAP.
Tsopano, ndikuganiza kuti kuphatikiza kusinkhasinkha, malingaliro akukula, ndikulemba nthawi yanu yoyambira ndi kutha ndiye chinsinsi chakuwongolera. Ndikulemba tsiku ndi nthawi, ndipo ndimayamba masiku a 15 - ndimalemba tsiku ndi nthawi masiku 15 kuyambira pano (nthawi yomweyo) ndipo sindimachita maliseche kufikira tsiku ndi nthawi zitadutsa. Nditatha, ndinakulitsa mpaka masiku 20, kenako mwezi, kenako mwezi ndi milungu iwiri ndipo pakadali pano ndili masiku 60 +!
UBWINO:
1) Ndinayamba ntchito yatsopano ndipo ndikulimbikitsidwa kuti ndiphunzire! Sindikudziwa ngati ndikadakhalabe wolimbikitsidwa pophunzira pa intaneti kwa masabata a 7 + izi zisanachitike.
2) Kuwerenga mabuku ndikuwonera makanema kwasangalalanso - ndinkakonda kuwerenga mabuku kuti ndizisangalala ndili ku pulayimale - sekondale, koma ndikuganiza atatha adasowa chisangalalo chawo. Pambuyo masiku 60 a nofap, ndimasangalalanso!
3) Ndimakhala wolimba mtima pozungulira azimayi - Atsikana awiri adadziwonetsa kwa ine ndipo ndimatha kuchita zinthu mozindikira mozungulira azimayi.
4) Ili ngati kuchulukitsa mphamvu - siyingandipangitse kugwira ntchito koma ndikayamba ntchito, zimandipangitsa kukhala wopindulitsa kwambiri. Malangizo kwa omwe alinso ndi ADHD - mukangodutsa mphindi 20 zokha, ndikosavuta kuyang'anitsitsa. Pezani mphindi 20 yopanda kompyuta / yopanda foni ndikupitiliza kugwira ntchito mpaka nthawi ya mphindi 20yo ithe. Palibe vuto ngati mungasokonezeke, ingobwererani kuntchito mukangodziwa izi ndikudziwitsani kuti mupita pafoni / kupita kumawebusayiti ena! Mukudziwa mudzanong'oneza bondo
Ndingakulimbikitseni kuti mupite kusukulu yosinkhasinkha ya masiku 10 chifukwa masiku anga a NoFap adayamba kuchokera pano - pomwe ndimakhala ndi chilakolako chogonana, maphunzirowa adandiphunzitsa zida zongowonera ndikumakhala nawo. Amatchedwa Vipassana (ndipo pali tsamba lawebusayiti lomwe limayamba ndi dhamma ndipo limathera ndi ziwonetsero zomwe sindingathe kuzilemba, koma mutha kungofufuza ku Vipassana ndikumaliza patsamba lanu!) Sindikugwirizana kwathunthu ndi malingaliro amphongo a anthu omwe amaganiza kuti kufuula "SINDIPITSA FAP" ndizotheka nthawi zonse komanso kugwiritsa ntchito bwino mphamvu. Tili ndi mphamvu zochepa zokha, ndipo kuyesayesa kwanu kuti muchite zinazake patsiku kumakhala kovuta kwambiri kuposa kudziletsa kuti musachite kanthu tsiku limodzi.
Ndamvanso kuti bukuli: Chimp Paradox, ili ndi chidziwitso chothandiza.
Mwayi ndikuti, nditha kuyang'ananso izi pandekha mtsogolo, ndipo ndikukhumba nonse zabwino zonse!
LINK - Momwe ndidayambira kuchokera pakujambula 3 Times pa tsiku mpaka 60 + masiku NoFap
by DracoMalfoy
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