Ndakhala ndikutuluka nofap kwa zaka 4 kapena 5 tsopano. Ndakwaniritsa zovuta zingapo zamasiku 90+, ndipo zikuwonetserani bwino azimayi komanso zogonana. Zimamasula kwenikweni! [Tsopano, ndinataya unamwali wanga pa 22] Kodi kugonana kungandisinthe? Kodi ndingadziwe bwanji kuti ndapeza munthu woyenera kuchita naye? Zikhala bwanji? Nanga zikhudza bwanji ubale wawo ndi munthuyo?
Sindikutumiza izi ngati nkhani yopambana kapena kuti ndiyamikire. Ndinali ndi mafunso ambiri okhudza kukhala namwali, kotero kuti tsopano sindine namwali, ndimakakamizika kugawana zomwe ndazindikira kwa iwo omwe ali chimodzimodzi momwe ndinali.
Ndinakulira ndi chikhalidwe chachikhristu ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimakhala wotsutsana. Sosaiti ikundiuza china chosiyana ndi zomwe makolo anga adachita. Komanso, thupi langa limafuna kugonana, koma ndikuleredwa ndimakhalidwe achikhristu (omwe ndimayamika chifukwa cha btw), ndimafuna kusamala nawo kuti 'ndisasokoneze'. Koma ndimadzimva kuti ndine wotsutsana motero sindinkafuna kuti anthu andiuze momwe ndimaganizira zogonana, ndimafuna kudziwa ndekha.
Mu Ogasiti, ndinakumana ndi mtsikana, (anali atakhala masiku pafupifupi a 50 nthawi imeneyo, pamapeto pake adafika ku 100) ndipo adakhala bwenzi langa sabata ino. Iyenso anali kupsompsonana kwanga koyamba mu Ogasiti.
Sabata yatha, iye ndi ine tidagonana (kawiri), zonse zinali nthawi yathu yoyamba. Zomwe ndidazindikira kuchokera ku izi:
Kugonana sikungakusintheni ngati munthu. Pachigawo chino, anthu amalankhula zakugonana ngati cholinga chamtheradi m'moyo. Ndinganene kuti, ayi, khalani chete, ndibwino, zowonadi, koma osapanikizika chifukwa ndinu namwali. Palibe manyazi kuchedwa ku 'masewera', (Ndine 22)! Kuchokera pa zomwe ndakumana nazo, kugonana ndi chochita ndi winawake, osati wosintha moyo. Sindikumva ngati kuti kudalipo kale kapena pambuyo pake. Zinali zosangalatsa ngakhale! Koma chachikulu kwambiri kwa ine chinali kulumikizana pakati pa bwenzi langa ndi ine. Kudziwa kuti amandifuna momwe ndimamufunira.
Chifukwa chake upangiri wanga kwa aliyense amene akudabwitsidwa kuti akadali namwali; Osadandaula kwambiri! Idzabwera, idzakhala yabwino! Osadzidyera wekha chifukwa choti umadzimva kuti wanyanyalidwa. Osapita kuthamangitsa kugonana kopanda tanthauzo ndi anthu oledzera kapena atsikana kuchokera ku tinder. Zikafika, mudzawona kuti chinthu chodabwitsa kwambiri ndi chikondi chomwe mumapeza kuchokera kwa munthu wina, osati kutengeka kwakuthupi. Kupsompsona kwanga koyamba (ndili ndi zaka 21) kudali kowopsa, mwina kowopsa kuposa kugonana koyamba. Konzani bwino mukamachita!
Ndikukhulupirira kuti izi zitha kukhala chidziwitso kwa ena a inu. Ngati pali mafunso aliwonse okhudza zomwe ndakumana nazo… AMA!
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