Zinali zaka ziwiri zapitazo pomwe ndidayamba kupeza Nofap. Mnzanga wapamtima ndi ine, mchaka chathu chomaliza chomaliza sukulu yophunzitsa ndege, tinali titangomaliza kumene maphunziro angapo odabwitsa mumzinda kuti tipeze ndalama zowonjezera. Unali usiku ndipo unali usiku wa sukulu, ndipo tinali ndi maola awiri pagalimoto kupita kunyumba. Chifukwa chake tidachita zomwe timachita nthawi zonse tikamayenda pamsewu - tinkamvera ziwonetsero pa youtube ndikuyesera momwe tingathere kuti tisagone.
Pafupifupi theka lagalimoto, tinayang'ana kwa munthu wotchedwa Gavin Mcinness, munthu wofuula komanso wanthabwala yemwe mawu ake achipongwe, okangana, koma okonda chidwi pankhani zachitukuko anali otikakamiza kwambiri kuti tidikire. mwachindunji, kanema wake pa machitidwe azakugonana azaka chikwi ndipo zomwe zimawakopa zidatipatsa china choti tithandizire nthawi. Gavin adalankhula za kuopsa kwa zolaula, ndikulimbikitsa omvera ake kuti azipewa. Hmmm, zonsezi ndi za chiyani?
Mnzanga amaganiza kuti kanemayo ndiwoseketsa. Ndinasekanso, koma pansi pamtima, ndinachita chidwi ndi gulu ili "Nofap". Ndinali ndi zaka 21, ndipo ndinali kuchita zinthu zabwino zochepa kwambiri m'moyo wanga. Ndinali wosuta fodya kwambiri komanso womwa mowa mwauchidakwa, sindinali bwino, ndipo ndinali wowawa kwambiri chifukwa cha kutha komwe kunachitika chifukwa cholephera kuchita kuchipinda (osati nthawi yoyamba ngakhale). Ndinalibe choti ndingataye poyesa. Nthawi zonse ndinkakayikira kuti kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula kunali vuto, koma iyi inali nthawi yoyamba yomwe ndinakumana ndi mavutowa. ndipo chifukwa cha kanema wosayankhula tidawonera pagalimoto yayitali, yosungulumwa kunyumba
Mbiri Yanga
Nkhani yanga ndi umboni wakuti zolaula zimakhudza aliyense. Pomwe ndinkakonda kwambiri kumwa mowa, ndinali ndi moyo wabwino, zosangalatsa zambiri, ndi ntchito yomwe ndimakonda. Komabe chizolowezicho chinapitilizabe. Ndi zomwe ndalemba bwino kwambiri mu zolemba zanga kusiyana m'mitambo, kotero ndizinena mwachidule kuchokera pano.
“Ukukumbukira mwana wachisoni, wopuma pang'ono kusukulu? Amavala kabudula wonyamula katundu uja ndipo nthawi zonse amangoyang'ana pansi. Anali munthu wodetsa nkhawa chifukwa chodzimvera chisoni - inde sukulu iliyonse inali ndi mwana uyu. Chabwino, mwana ameneyo anali ine. Sanadziwe kutsegula kabokosi, kapena kulemba notsi, ndipo nthawi zina malaya ake anali kumbuyo, o - ndipo anali ndi vuto lolaula. Zinali zoyipa kwenikweni.
Miyezi ingapo yoyambirira kusukulu inali masiku ovuta kwambiri pamoyo wanga. Ndimayang'ana zolaula mwachipembedzo kuti ndithane nazo, zomwe ndimakhala ndikuchita zaka zinayi zisanachitike (popeza ndinali ndi zaka 12). Zithunzi zolaula zimawoneka ngati zovuta kwa anthu ambiri akutali, chifukwa sizodabwitsa kuti ndinayamba chizolowezicho ndili mwana. Zonse zinali zodziwika bwino
Mwamwayi, ndipo ndikutanthauza TIYAMIKIRA MULUNGU, ndinapanga anzanga pasukulu yasekondale. Amuna awa anasintha moyo wanga munthu. Adandionetsa momwe ndigulitsira mfuti mowa ndikumenya polumikizira, adandiwonetsa momwe ndingasinthire tayala mgalimoto, adandiwonetsa momwe ndingayankhulire ndi atsikana, ndipo koposa zonse, adandiwonetsa momwe ndingakhalire. Zinkawoneka ngati zosangalatsa kwambiri kukhala osachepera pang'ono. Koma ndinali ndi vuto la zolaula. ”
Chilichonse chotsatira chinali kugaya. Zinanditengera zaka ziwiri zolephera, zaka ziwiri zosiya, zaka ziwiri zazing'ono zopambana kuti ndifike kuno. Ndikayang'ana m'mbuyo pa zonsezo, nditha kunena kuti ndidaphunzira zambiri. Ndikuwona zinthu zomwe zinagwira ntchito, ndi zinthu zomwe sizinachitike. Chifukwa chake tsopano nditha kusintha zosintha zisanu zomwe ndidapanga zomwe zandithandiza kwambiri paulendowu.
** Chodzikanira - iyi ndi malamulo Anga 5 omwe andithandiza kuchita bwino. atha kukhala osakugwirira ntchito, koma adandigwirira ntchito. mwina mutha kutenga kena kalikonse kwa iwo, mwina simutero
Lamulo # 1 - Ndinaganiza zomvetsetsa izi
Kuti mukwaniritse cholinga, simungangoyesera. Inde, ndikudziwa kuti kuwonetsa ndi theka lankhondo, koma kuti ndikwaniritse bwino zomwe ndidaziwona m'mutu mwanga, ndimadziwa kuti ndiyenera kukhala wophunzira wa cholinga. Pakulimbitsa thupi, simupeza zotsatira pongowonekera ndikugwira ntchito. Mumapeza zotsatira zakumvetsetsa zakudya, kugwiritsa ntchito mapulogalamu oyenera ndi nthawi yopuma, ndikukwaniritsa kuyenda ndi mawonekedwe. Ndinazindikira kuti kusiya chizolowezi choledzeretsa kumafunikanso kuchita chimodzimodzi. ndipo zinapanga kusiyana kwakukulu
Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikulimbikitsa aliyense amene akuyesera kusiya zolaula kuti awerenge "Ubongo Wanu Pa Zithunzi" Wolemba Gary Wilson. Zimayendetsa masewerawa zikafika pomvetsetsa izi. Imaphwanya sayansi yakugonana, imafotokoza zambiri zabodza zomwe zili patsamba lino, ndipo ili ndi maumboni othandiza kwambiri ndi upangiri wothandiza pakusiya zabwino.
Ili linali lamulo losavuta, koma mwina lidathandiza kuposa ena onse. Kukhala wophunzira wa cholinga ichi kunandipanga kusiyana.
Lamulo # 2 - Ndinayamba kuphunzira kuchokera zolephera zanga
Pomwe ndimayamba ulendowu, ndidazindikira mwachangu kuti kulephera sikungapeweke. Tikulimbana ndi chinthu chomwe chimakhudza zilakolako zathu zoyambirira - ndipo mosiyana ndi zizolowezi zina, palibe zolaula zochulukirapo monga momwe ziliri ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena chakudya. Njira yachilendo yoperekedwa ndi zolaula pa intaneti imapereka chisangalalo chosatha, kotero kusiya izi sikungakhale kosavuta. Izi zinawoneka kwa ine molawirira kwambiri
Chifukwa chake, ndalephera. Ndalephera kwa nthawi yayitali. Ndipo sindinafike kulikonse. Chifukwa chiyani izi zinali zovuta kwambiri kwa ine? Ndikuyesera molimbika, ndiyenera kukwaniritsa cholinga ichi !! Ndiyenera kuchita bwino chifukwa cha khama lokha !!
Zinali zokongola kwambiri. Ndimayesera kuti ndikhomere chikhomo m'bowo lalikulu ndi jackhammer wamkulu - kunyanyalaku kunali kwamphamvu, koma kosagwira ntchito kwenikweni.
Chifukwa chake, ndidasintha. Ndinali kuvomereza zolakwa zanga nthawi zonse, koma ndidaganiza zoyamba kuphunzira kuchokera kwa iwo.
Ndimeyi, yochokera kwa Mark Manson a "Luso Lobisika Losaleka Kukopa Mwana" ndichofunikira
“Kupewa kulephera ndichinthu chomwe timaphunzira pambuyo pake m'moyo. Ndikutsimikiza kuti zambiri zimachokera ku maphunziro athu, omwe amaweruza mwamphamvu momwe amagwirira ntchito ndikulanga omwe sachita bwino. Gawo lina lalikulu limachokera kwa makolo opondereza kapena ovuta omwe samalola ana awo kudzipukusa okha mokwanira, ndipo m'malo mwake amawalanga chifukwa choyesera chilichonse chatsopano kapena ayi preordaine. Ndipo tili ndi zofalitsa zonse zomwe zimatiwonetsa kuti tikhale opambana pambuyo pakupambana, osatiwonetsa maola masauzande ambiri achizolowezi komanso tedium zomwe zimafunikira kuti tichite bwino. Nthawi ina, ambiri aife timafika pamalo pomwe timaopa kulephera, pomwe timapewa kulephera ndikungomangika kuzomwe zili patsogolo pathu kapena zomwe timachita kale bwino. Izi zimatitsekereza komanso kutilepheretsa. Titha kuchita bwino pokhapokha ngati tili okonzeka kulephera. Ngati sitikufuna kulephera, ndiye kuti sitikufuna kuchita bwino. ”
Kulephera kunakhala kofunika kwa ine. Kulephera kulikonse kunali ndi phunziro laling'ono lobisika pansi pazokhumudwitsa. Maphunziro amenewo anali pamenepo, koma kwa nthawi yayitali, sindinkawawona, komanso sindinkafuna kuti ndiwafune. Koma analipo, ndikhulupirireni
Pofuna kupereka chitsanzo ichi, ndimakhala m'tawuni yaying'ono momwe mulibe zochepa zoti ndichite, chifukwa chake ndili kunyumba ndekha pang'ono. Panthawi zodzipatula izi, ndimakonda kubwerera zolaula. Koma kwa nthawi yayitali, sindinadziwe chifukwa chake. Pomaliza ndimayenera kudzifunsa
- Chifukwa chiyani ndidalephera?
- Chanditsogolera ndichani?
- Kodi ndingatani kuti izi zisachitike?
Mafunso awa adapanga kusiyana konse kwa ine, ndipo posakhalitsa ndidazindikira kuti kusungulumwa kudandiyambitsa. Ndikadapanda kuyang'ana maphunziro omwe adabisika mkati mwa zolephera zonsezi, sindikadazindikira izi. Tsopano ndikudziwa kutuluka mnyumbamo ndikupeza kena kake kocheza pang'ono ndikamamva motere, ndipo zimandithandizira.
Osangogwira ntchito molimbika, gwira ntchito mwanzeru komanso molimbika.
Lamulo # 3 - Ndidachotsa Nofap pansi
Zovuta, ndikudziwa, koma iyi inali njira yowunikira yomwe idandithandiziradi kupumula zikafika ku Nofap.
Ndi msampha wosavuta kugwera pomwe mukufufuza mwachidule nkhani yopambana mutapambana. Ndinazigweranso pomwe ndidatumiza mutu wofiyira, tsopano ndiye nthawi yayitali kwambiri patsamba la reddit ya Nofap.
Nofap akuchita chinthu chodabwitsa apa. Ndikuthandiza zikwi kudzera pachizolowezi chomwe anthu ayamba kumawayang'ana. Ikulimbikitsa mbadwo watsopano wa anthu omwe akufuna kuyambiranso kugonana, ndipo zomwe adalemba kumbuyo kwa mamembalawa ndizolimbikitsa komanso zolimbikitsa. Tsoka ilo, ndikukhulupirira kuti pali zina zabodza zikafika pazithunzizi.
Zolaula ndizolakwika, ndimazipeza - pali maumboni mazana ndi mabuku ambiri omwe amalumikiza zolaula ndi mtundu wa zosokoneza bongo. Kusiya izo mwachiwonekere kumadza ndi maubwino angapo omwe angalemeretse moyo wa munthu. Koma ndinazindikira kuti zolaula sizinali zokha zomwe zimandilepheretsa kukhala osangalala. Kusiya zinali zabwino, koma kusiya zolaula zokha sikunandifikitse komwe ndili lero. Sindinapange benchi 235 mapaundi nditaphunzira kwa miyezi 12 chifukwa ndinasiya zolaula. Sindinapeze nambala ya mtsikanayo sabata yatha chifukwa ndinasiya zolaula. Sindinamalize mulu wa mabuku mchipinda changa chifukwa ndinasiya zolaula. Nofap inali chabe domino imodzi, ndipo kuigwedeza kunayambitsa kayendedwe kamene kamangokhala kotheka ndi mndandanda wa maulamuliro omwe adayikidwa mosamala.
Kuwerenga nkhanizi zonse ndikuyembekezera kusintha kwakukulu m'moyo wanga chifukwa choti ndimasiya zolaula kunakhala mtundu wamaliseche m'maganizo mwanga. Ndimadzipanikiza kwambiri kuti ndikwaniritse cholingachi - ndipo cholingacho sichinali chachiphamaso. Ndinkafuna "zopambana", ndipo ndimaganiza kuti Nofap ndiye chinthu chimodzi chomwe chimandilepheretsa kukhala osangalala.
Maganizo amenewa anali otchuka m'mbali zina za moyo wanga, makamaka pankhani yachisangalalo. Poyamba ndimaganiza kuti chisangalalo ndimalo opita - kwinako ndikadafikirako zonse zomwe ndimafuna zitakhala. Tsopano ndili ndi njira yathanzi. Tsopano ndimayang'ana chisangalalo ngati minofu - ndipo monga minofu ina iliyonse mthupi lanu, muyenera kuyesetsa kuti mukhale wokulirapo. Nofap imagwira ntchito yosangalatsa minofu. Kuwerenga kumathetsa chisangalalo. Kuyandikira msungwana ndikukanidwa kumathandizira kulimbitsa thupi.
Chimwemwe ndichotheka chifukwa ndidayesetsa kutero nthawi yokwanira - Nofap yekha sangandifikitse kumeneko. Linali phunziro lofunika kwa ine.
Lamulo # 4 - Kusala kudya kwapaintaneti
Ichi chinali chizolowezi chothandiza kwambiri chomwe ndidatola chomwe chinali chothandiza kwambiri koyambirira kwa chingwe.
Kuti muwone zinthu moyenera, nayi gawo lochokera m'nkhani ya Washington Post yogwiritsa ntchito intaneti pakati pa achinyamata:
"Achinyamata amathera gawo limodzi mwa magawo atatu a masiku awo akugwiritsa ntchito makanema monga makanema apa intaneti kapena nyimbo - pafupifupi maola asanu ndi anayi pafupifupi, malinga ndi kafukufuku watsopano wopangidwa ndi gulu lopanda phindu la mabanja, Common Sense Media. Kwa anthu khumi ndi awiri, azaka zapakati pa 8 ndi 12, avareji ndi pafupifupi maola asanu ndi limodzi patsiku ”
Yikes! Ndiyo nthawi yochuluka yambiri munthu. Ndikadasewera basketball momwe ndimayang'ana pa intaneti, ndikadakhala Larry Bird!
Ndipo mwina ndinali wokongola kwambiri kwa nthawi yayitali, makamaka ndikasamukira ku tawuni yaying'ono. Koma nthawi inayake ndinadzifunsa, Kodi ndiyenera kukhala pa intaneti kwambiri? Yankho linali loti ayi. Kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti kunapangitsa kuti kusiya zolaula kwambiri, ndipo bwanji? Ngati ndikuyesera kusiya kusuta, bwanji ndikuwononga nthawi yopitilira theka la tsiku langa lodzuka lomwe ndimagwiritsa ntchito nsanja yomwe chizolowezicho chimakula? Zili ngati chidakwa chomwe chimagwira ntchito pamalo ogulitsira mowa ¯ \ _ (ツ) _ / ¯
Chifukwa chake ndidakhazikitsa lamulo losavuta kumayambiliro anga: ndikakhala kunyumba, ndimazimitsa foni yanga. Palibe intaneti, palibe masewera, palibe ng'ombe. Zathandiza ZAMBIRI chifukwa
- Zinandilimbikitsanso kuchita zinthu zofunikira ndili kunyumba, ndipo
- Zinandilimbikitsa kutuluka mnyumbamo nditatopa
Sindikutsatiranso lamuloli chifukwa ndimagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanga moyenera tsopano, komabe ndimazimitsa foni yanga ngati ndikuwona kuti kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti kwayamba kuchepa, ndipo mwina ndichinthu chomwe ndipitilizabe kuchita kwanthawi yayitali. Zinkawoneka zachilendo poyamba, koma ndine wokondwa kuti ndidazichita
Lamulo # 5 - Ndazimitsa zosefera zanga
Apanso, izi ndi zotsutsana, koma nditayesa zosefera pa intaneti kwa miyezi yambiri, ndikutsatira ogwiritsa ntchito ena omwe adachitanso zomwezo, ndili ndi chidaliro kuti zosefera pa intaneti sizothandiza kuthandiza anthu kusiya zolaula. Mwina adakugwirirani ntchito, koma ndikunena zowona kuti adandipweteka
Kuletsa cholakwika ndi njira yoseketsa yopangira zoipa zomwe zimakopa kwambiri (onani kuletsa kwa US). Pankhani ya zolaula, kuyesa kuziletsa kumangondipangitsa kuti ndizikhala pachiwopsezo. M'malo moyesetsa kuti ndisamaone zolaula, ndimayesetsa kuziletsa pamoyo wanga ndikudziyesa kuti kulibe. Izi zidangowonjezera zolaula, ndipo kufuna kwanga kuti ndithane nazo ndikuchepa
Nazi nkhani zoyipa: kugonana kumagulitsa. Zolaula zili paliponse, monga izo kapena ayi. Ndi chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe kusiya zolaula ndichimodzi mwazinthu zovuta kwambiri zomwe ndidachitapo. Kuyesera kupanga danga lomwe kulibe kunangondipangitsa kudziko lomwe kulibe, chifukwa chake nditakumana ndi kanema kapena pagulu, sindinali wokonzeka kuthana nawo.
Zosefera pawebusayiti ndizothetsera vuto lakanthawi. Ndavomereza kuti zolaula zidzakhalapo nthawi zonse. Kungokhala kampopi kapena kungodinanso, ndipo zizikhala choncho nthawi zonse ngakhale nditayesetsa kutchinga. Ndavomereza izi, ndipo ndapeza njira zodzithandizira kuti ndisachite izi. Ndinakulitsa mwambo wanga, ndipo zandithandiza kukwaniritsa zolinga zanga zazitali kwambiri kuposa zosefera zilizonse pa intaneti.
ubwino
Sindidzalowa mu izi. Koma ndinena izi - ndimasangalala kupita kuntchito.
Ndine munthu wabwino komanso wodala chifukwa ndinapeza chidwi changa ndili mwana, ndipo ndinatha kuchipanga ntchito yanga. Ndinkangokhalira kuda nkhawa za ndege kuyambira ndili mwana. M'malo mwake, ndimatsala pang'ono kugundana ndi magalimoto chifukwa ndikuyang'anitsitsa ndege yayikulu yomwe ikuuluka pamwamba, ngakhale ndili ndi zaka 23 - chisangalalo chimenechi sichinathe.
Nditakwanitsa zaka 21 ndidapeza laisensi yanga yoyendetsa ndege ndipo ndapeza ntchito mtawuni (yachisoni) iyi. Ndipo mukudziwa chiyani? Sindinkafuna kugwira ntchito konse. Ndinali waulesi kwambiri kuti ndisadzuke dzuwa lisanalowe, ndinali waulesi woti nditsogolere ndege, ndipo ubongo wanga wa ubongo unali woipa kwambiri kwakuti ndimatha kuwuluka mtunda wautali osayamika ngakhale kamodzi pazomwe ndimachita. Masiku 90 mkati, ndikhoza kunena kuti ndikuyembekeza kugwira ntchito tsiku lililonse tsopano. Ayi - Nofap sanachite izi. Zinali zinthu zambiri. Koma zinathandiza. Zambiri.
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Soooo eya, ndizomwezo. Ndipitilizabe kulemba / kukhala wolimbikira pa Nofap pakadali pano popeza sindikumva ngati ndagunda izi, chifukwa chake khalani omasuka kuyankha / PM kundifunsa mafunso kapena china chilichonse
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