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Ndawerenga nkhani zambiri zopambana zomwe zidatumizidwa pamsonkhanowu ndipo sindikufuna kuwonjezera zolemba zina kwa mazana omwe ali pano ndi mindandanda yazachiritso ndi "zopambana" zatsopano zomwe adapeza.
M'malo mwake, ndikufuna ndikupatseni chimango chomwe oyambiranso koyambirira azitha kugwiritsa ntchito pokonzanso momwe angapangitsire mwayi womwe angakwaniritse zomwe adachita. Izi sizomwe mungachite pakupewa zolimbikitsa kapena zizolowezi zatsopano zomwe zingakuthandizeni paulendo wanu. M'malo mwake ndikuwunika mozama m'malingaliro omwe adandigwirira ntchito kamodzi momwe ndingakhalire otsimikiza kupitilizabe mphindi iliyonse kaya mumamva ngati Superman kapena zonyansa zapadziko lapansi.
Ine pa Tsiku 0 (aka zinyalala zamunthu)
Ndikungofotokozera momwe dziko langa linali losautsa ndisanayambirenso. Ndinali ndi chidwi chodzaza ndi zinthu zonse zolaula zomwe zidapangidwa kuyambira zaka 15 zosagwiritsidwa ntchito mosalekeza kuyambira ndili ndi zaka 8. Nditha kuthera maola a 2-3 gawo limodzi ndikukhala ndi magawo 7 patsiku.
* Chenjezo chabe kuti ndigwiritsa ntchito chilankhulo chofiyira, chosasunthika pofotokoza zomwe zili zogonana kwambiri. Zitha kuyambitsa ma synapses muubongo wanu kuti ayambitse zolakalaka, chifukwa chake zonse zomwe ndikunena ndikungokhala olimba kapena pitani kumzere wotsatira kuyambira ndi asterisk *
Zolemba zomwe ndidadya zinakhudza mtundu wambiri kuchokera pamtundu wofewa mpaka wamtali / wowonda kwambiri. Nditha kupita kumavina osavinidwa a Tik Tik, zithunzi za K-Pop zowonetsa masaya / zala komanso zithunzi za abwenzi omwe akusambira / zovala zamakono pama TV ochezera. Pamapeto pake, ndimatha kupita zolaula zolaula, ndipo zikafika zolaula zokhala ndi zolaula, ndimatha kupita mpaka kwa atsikana omwe amakankhidwa kapena ong'ambidwa ndi anyani akuluakulu kapena zolengedwa zosiyanasiyana.
Chizindikiro chonyansa kwambiri cha kukhudzidwa kwanga kwakugonana chinali zojambulidwa zokhazokha komanso misonkhano ndiogonana.
* Mwachidziwikire *
Chifukwa chomwe ndikugawana pamwambapa ndiwiri:
- Awa ndiokhawo komwe kuulula kotereku kumakumana ndi zozizwitsa zambiri kuposa kunyansidwa. Tengani kanthawi kochepa kuti mumve kuti gulu lotere lilipo.
- Ngati ndikafika pano poyesa koyamba kutengera komwe ndidayambira, sipayenera kukhala chifukwa choti simungathe kuchita zomwezo poyesa kwanu.
Amati mwina umwalira ngati ngwazi, kapena umakhala moyo kuti uziwoneke wekha utakhala woipa. Sindikudziwa chifukwa chake palibe amene ananenapo kuti ngati mukufuna kubwerera kuchokera kuzachimwene kupita ku ngwazi zonse zomwe muyenera kuchita ndikusiya kuthawa.
Chimango cha Mastery
Chilichonse chomwe ndikufuna kugawana ndi malingaliro a George Leonard kuchokera m'buku lake Chinsinsi: Zinsinsi Zopambana ndi Kukwaniritsidwa Kwa nthawi yayitali ikani pang'onopang'ono kupirira mu kuyambiranso. Ndimalimbikitsa kwambiri omwe akufuna kuwerenga ndi mtima wofunitsitsa kuti atero. Kwa ochepa mwayi, zimasinthiratu momwe mumazindikira momwe munthu alili. Mupeza mitundu yambiri yaulere ya PDF pambuyo pa kusaka ndi Google ndi mawu osakira “Wolemba leonard pdf”.
Njira yosavuta yofotokozera mastery ndi njira yotukukira yomwe ikufanana ndi khola lotsatira:
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Kupita kwanu patsogolo konse kumachitika chifukwa chokhotakhota pang'ono, ndikutsata pang'ono pang'ono ndikukhala nthawi yayitali yowoneka kuti sikupita kulikonse ngakhale kuti dera lam'mapiri ndilabwino pang'ono kuposa momwe munalili musanachite bwino. Ndikulingalira kuti 95% yobwereranso imachitika panthawi yobwerera m'mbuyo komanso nthawi yamapiri. M'malo mwake, anthu ambiri ammudzimo amadziwa kuti ena mwa mapiriwa amatha kutchedwa "malo otsetsereka." Izi zikunenedwa, kutsetsereka sikutanthauza mitundu ina yamapiri yomwe akatswiri ambiri amaphunziro omwe ali kale munthawi zoyambiranso ndipo anena kale nkhani zopambana. Ndiye chifukwa chake ngakhale opambana a ife timakhalabe ndi nthawi yovuta pamene tili ndi "mphamvu zopambana", koma nyonga ya moyo yomwe tidamva titangopeza mphamvu zathu ikuwoneka ngati ikutha pakapita nthawi.
Muyenera kuzindikira kuti zambiri mwa nkhani zopambana izi zalembedwa pachimake pa imodzi mwazosintha pang'ono, kapena ndi munthu wina amene wataya zomwe zidamuchitikira m'mbuyomu yemwe akuganiziranso za momwe akumvera asanagwerenso. Lekani mbiri iwonetse kuti ndikuvomereza zonse zomwe adapanga kuti ndi zenizeni, ndipo ndine wonyadira kwambiri chifukwa cha zovuta zomwe ndidachita m'masiku 30 apitawa. Komabe, ndikukhulupirira kuti kuchuluka kwa kupsinjika komwe mukupirira m'njira nthawi zambiri kumayang'aniridwa, ndipo mapindu omwe amalandilidwa nthawi zambiri amakhala opambana.
Maziko oyambitsanso bwino ndikuyembekeza moyenera momwe mungamvere. Ndikuganiza kuti obwezeretsa ambiri amalowa ndikuyembekeza kuti adzadzuka mwadzidzidzi patatha milungu ingapo kuchokera ku PMO ndikutsegula zida zankhondo kwambiri zomwe sizinadziwikepo kale. Zowonadi zake ndi izi: (1) mudzakhala masiku owawa, (2) mudzadzuka tsiku lina mukumva bwino, (3) masiku a zopweteka abwerera mofulumira komanso (4) abwereza. Pambuyo pake, zowawa zimayamba kuwawa; kupweteka kumakhala kusasangalala; Ndipo kusokonekera kumakhala phokoso. Kusintha uku, komabe, kumatenga nthawi yayitali kuposa momwe mukuyembekezerera ndipo nthawi zambiri kumakhala kotalikirapo kuposa momwe anthu ena amudzigulitsira chifukwa moyo umakhala ndi malingaliro oyipa oti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino. Masiku 90 achire poyankha zaka zowonongeka m'maganizo ndi m'thupi ndi chimodzimodzi kugwiritsa ntchito bandeji pachilonda chowombera.
Ambiri a inu muli nawo ndikufika pakuweruza kuti kusintha kwazowonjezereka uku kutsatiridwa ndi nthawi yochotsa zowonongeka kapena kuyesayesa kopanda ntchito sikoyenera kupirira ngakhale udzu utayang'ana mbali inayo. Ichi ndichifukwa chake woyambitsa zikuluzikulu zomwe ndikufotokozerani ndizomwe zikuwoneka ngati zosafunikira - mulandireni kulimbana komwe kumabwera popewa kukopeka kwanu ndikukumbatira malo otsika aulendo wanu momwe mungathere.
Pansipa ndikuwonetsa malangizo asanu omwe ali panjira yanu yolingalira bwino ndi momwe kuwagwiritsire ntchito kungakulimbikitseni pamilingo yonse paulendo wanu chifukwa mukudziwa kuti sekondi iliyonse yomwe mumapitilizabe kuthamanga ndi njira yopita ku njira yolunjika magawo a kudziletsa, kutengeka mtima ndi maubale.
1. Dziwani za momwe homeostasis imagwirira ntchito
Homeostasis ndi njira yachilengedwe yomwe imachitika m'mbali zonse za moyo. Njirayi imagwira ntchito ngati thermostat. Ngati thermostat yakhazikitsidwa ku 72F ndipo matenthedwe achepetsa mpaka 68F, chotenthetsera chimaphulika mpaka kutentha kubwerere ku 72F. Kutentha kukakwera kufika pa 76F, AC imaphulika mpaka kutentha kubwerere ku 72F. Thupi limagwira ntchito chimodzimodzi.
Ngati mwakonza thupi lanu kuyembekezera magawo 10 PMO pasabata, thermostat yanu yamkati yakonzedwa magawo 10 PMO sabata. Ngati mutangotulutsa mwadzidzidzi magawo 0 PMO sabata iliyonse, thupi lanu lidzayang'ana potumiza zisonyezo ndi malingaliro osalimbikitsa kuti akulimbikitseni kuti mubwezere chiwerengerocho mpaka 10.
Kaya kusinthaku ndikwabwino kapena koyipitsitsa, thupi lanu limakhala lolephera kusintha poyesetsa kukutetezani. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ngati mukumva zizindikiro zowopsa mukupanga china chake chovulaza kapena chothandiza kwambiri. Kutengera ndi umboni wa anthu pagawoli, ndikuganiza kuti sizabwino kunena kuti pankhani iyi ndi yomaliza.
2. Khalani okonzeka kukambirana ndi kukana kwanu kuti musinthe
Vuto lodziwika lomwe ndimakhulupirira kuti anthu amalowerera ndikuyesera kuchita zochuluka kwambiri panthawi yamafunde awo. Nditha kutsimikizira ndikupanga zomwezo. Powerenga nkhani zonse za zomwe ena achita, ndimayesetsa kuyang'ana njira zazifupi kuti ndizichita chimodzimodzi monga dopamine detoxes, masewera olimbitsa thupi, zakudya, zothandizira kugona, ndi zina zambiri. kuti masiku ambiri simulimbikitsidwa kuchita chilichonse. Nthawizi zikadzafika, kungokhala osangokhala osaganiza zokana kukana mayesedwe anu ndi njira iliyonse yomwe ingakuthandizireni ndi yokwanira.
Nthawi zina pamasitepe awiri aliwonse otsogola, ndizomveka kutenga sitepe imodzi kubwerera pokonzekera kupita patsogolo. Dera lomwe ndikukhulupirira kuti anthu ambiri samadzipangira mbiri yokwanira ndikuti kupita tsiku lina osagonjetsedwa ndiuchidakwa kumawonetsa kudziletsa komanso kukhwima. Ndiye mungatani ngati simunachite chilichonse tsiku lonse? Mudakwaniritsabe ntchito yofunika kwambiri: mudakwanitsa tsiku lina osabwereranso.
3. Pangani dongosolo lothandizira
Ngati mukuyenda panyanja, nthawi zonse zimathandiza kukhala ndi winawake yemwe angakuponyereni mzere mukagwa. Tangoganizirani momwe zimasiyanirana Moby Dick zikadatha ngati Ishmael akanalibe Queequeg. Sipangakhale china cholimbikitsa kuposa kudziwa kuti muli ndi winawake yemwe amamvetsetsa zowawa zanu ndikupeza chisangalalo mu chisangalalo chanu.
Ndimagawana ndi anzangawa panjira yokhayokha. Osalakwitsa, mutha kuchita izi nokha, koma palibe chithunzithunzi choti kukayikira kuti kukhala ndi munthu wina kudzakupangitsa kukhala kosavuta. (Monga pang'ono pang'onopang'ono. Ngati wina angafune kundiperekeza ndikapitiliza, ndingasangalale kumva nkhani zanu zina ndikuthandizira pakuziyankhira).
4. Tsatirani zomwe mumachita kawirikawiri ndipo kondani ndi mchitidwewu
Zikuwoneka kuti pali lingaliro logawika ngati oyambiranso akuyenera kusunga zowerengera masana. Lingaliro langa ndiloti muyenera kutsatira zonse zomwe mungathe. Heck, sungani kope ndi cholembera, ndipo kambiranani nthawi iliyonse mukakana kukopa. Nthawi iliyonse chithunzi chonyansa chikamabwera m'mutu mwanu ndipo mumayankha "ayi," mumachita luso lanu.
Zomwe mudayamba pa Tsiku 0 sikukukonzanso. Zomwe mudayamba ndi zaluso. Luso lakutha kuvomereza chilimbikitso cha kugonana ndikuyankha pochepetsa mphamvu yanu kuchokera kumvutikano womwe wakonzedwa kuti ukhale wogulitsa zipatso. Njira yodziwa luso ndi zovuta. Mukukumana ndi zopinga pakukula kwanu ndipo muyenera kuchita zomwezo mobwerezabwereza. Ngati mukugwira ntchito motalika komanso molimbika, tsiku lina mudzawona kuti mutha kuchita zonse mwachilengedwe; mudzakhala mukusinthira mphamvu zakugonana mu mphamvu yopanga zambiri mpaka kuiwalika kuti mukuchita.
Msewuwu udzakhala wautali komanso wamiyala, koma ngati mungayang'ane mchitidwewo m'malo mopita komwe mukupeza, mudzakwaniritsidwa. Kobe Bryant womwalirayo nthawi ina adafunsidwa kuti chifukwa chiyani amadzuka 4AM tsiku lililonse kuti azichita masewera olimbitsa thupi mpaka paliponse pamatumba thukuta. Yankho lake silinali loti atha kuchita chilichonse kuti apambane. Yankho lake lidali loti ngakhale kupita kunja uko m'mawa uliwonse kudali kowawa, adakonda njirayi. Nthawi iliyonse mukayamba kudzipatula, kuda nkhawa kapena kukhumudwa, muzikumbatira ndipo musadabwe chifukwa zimangofunika kukhazikitsa mtendere ndi malingaliro osiyawa ndikuwalola kudutsa. Uwu ndi mutu wofala womwe mungapeze muzochita zanu, ndipo ngati muphunzira kukonda ndiye kuti muzisamalira tsiku lanu monga ndandanda m'malo mopititsa patsogolo ndi batani loletsa pansi pake.
5. Osayika kapu pamzera wanu
Monga cholumikizira ku zomwe zidanenedwa kale, kuyika chophimba pamtunda wanu kungokupangitsani kufunafuna komwe mukupita ndikukusokonezani paulendowu. Ndinadabwa kuwona kuchuluka kwa maakaunti omwe ndidawerengapo za anthu omwe adasankha kupewa kuchita masewera amodzi ngakhale atatha masiku ambiri ali pachibwenzi chifukwa adawona kuti kusungidwa kwathandizidwa ndi cholinga chawo. Ndimamva kuti maumboniwa akuwonetsa kuti njira yopita ku mastery yotsatiridwa pa NoFap imangotengera zambiri kuposa kungopeza chidaliro chofuna kukopa akazi kapena kukonza libido.
Yambirani ulendo wanu ndikuyembekeza kuti nthawi zonse pamakhala zodabwitsa zina zomwe zikuyembekezerani ngati mupitiliza zingwe zanu. Mchitidwe umodzi womwe ndidatengera ndikulemba masiku omwe ndimaliza kufupi ndi masiku omwe amayandikira (onani siginecha). Kwa ine, iyi ndi ntchito yamphamvu chifukwa zimandithandiza kuwona m'masiku ochepa momwe zinthu ziliri masiku atatu momwe ndingapitirire.
Malingaliro Otseka
Ndimaona kuti ndizoyenera kwambiri kuti logo ya NoFap ndi rocket ikangonyamuka. Ndikhulupirira kuyambiranso ndi ulendo womwe umakupatseni mwayi wopanda malire komanso wopangika. Inchesi iliyonse yomwe amayenda imakupititsani kumalo okwera ndi magawo atsopano, ndipo ndikuganiza enanso ambiri angatsatire ulendowu tikangodziwa kuti ndife omwe tikuyendetsa ntchito zaluso. Udindo wotere umatha kubwera ndi mantha ambiri, koma ngati mungayang'anire molimba mtima mutha kupeza malo ndi malingaliro omwe simunakhalepo nawo.
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