Ndikudziwa kuti anthu ambiri kunja kuno akuvutika ngakhale kuyamba nofap chifukwa mumangodzifunsa nokha, 'koma kodi izi zimagwiradi ntchito kapena ndi mayendedwe ena chabe ndi gulu la anthu achinyengo omwe amaganiza kuti ali bwino mwanjira ina chifukwa samaonera zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche? '
Ndikumva kuti ndine woyenera kulankhula ngati nofap imagwira ntchito ngati aliyense chifukwa ndili ndi chidziwitso chapadera. Amuna ambiri omwe amaonera zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche mwina akhala akuchita izi malinga ngati angathe kukumbukira. Chifukwa chake samakumbukira momwe analili asanayambe kuonera zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche chifukwa akhala akuchita izi kwanthawi yayitali ndipo ndi gawo lamoyo wawo. Kwa ine, sindinachite maliseche mpaka ndili ndi zaka 18. Ndipo popeza sindinali kuseweretsa maliseche, panalibe chifukwa chenicheni choti ndiziwonera zolaula. Ndikadakhala kuti ndimawonera zolaula nthawi zina koma ndimangofuna kudziwa matupi azimayi. Chifukwa chake, ndikulingalira kuti ndimayang'ana kamodzi pamwezi kwa mphindi zingapo pamtunda. Sindinadziwe momwe ndingachitire.
Pakati pa semesita yanga yoyamba ku koleji, ndinazindikira kuyendetsa maliseche pamene ndikuyamba kusamba, ndipo ndinayamba kuchita maliseche tsiku ndi tsiku, ndipo mwachiwonekere, kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kwanga kunakulanso. Ndidachita kwa chaka chimodzi, ndipo chaka chimenecho ndidakhala chaka choyipa kwambiri pamoyo wanga wonse.
Kukula kwanga, ndimakonda kucheza kwambiri komanso kutchuka. Kuyambira kusekondale mpaka kusekondale, pamakhala atsikana angapo chaka chilichonse omwe amandiuza kuti amandikonda (zomwe zikutanthauza kuti analipo ambiri chifukwa atsikana samakonda kunena kwa anyamata omwe amawakonda). Anzanga ankadziwa kuti sindinali kuseweretsa maliseche, koma sanandiseketse kapena chilichonse. Ndinali ndi zibwenzi, koma sindinagonepo nawo chifukwa ndikudikira mpaka ukwati. Ndinkangomva mosiyana komanso wapadera. Ndimamva ngati kuti ndine ndekha amene ndimawona bwino pamoyo (sindimadziwa kuti ndichifukwa sindinkawona zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche ngati wina aliyense).
M'chaka choyamba cha koleji yanga, ndimakhala ndikugonana tsiku lililonse ndipo nthawi zina kangapo patsiku. Moyo unali wabwino kwakanthawi chifukwa ndimakhala ngati ndapeza chinthu chatsopano, ndipo ndimatha kudziwa za anzanga akamakambirana zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche.
Patapita nthawi, ndinadzipeza ndekha kukhala waulesi mpaka kufika pamene sindinkafuna kupita kukadya ndi kusewera basketball, yomwe inali ntchito yanga yokha. Ndinali kutaya tani yolemera. Chipinda changa chinali chauve kwambiri. Ndinali kutaya chidaliro. Sindinkafuna kukumana ndi aliyense. Zomwe ndimafuna kuchita ndikungoseweretsa maliseche kangapo ndikugona, ndipo ndimamva ngati sizabwino kuti ndizomwe ndimafuna kuchita.
Ndinali ku koleji, ndimatha kuchita chilichonse chomwe ndikufuna. Ndikatuluka, ndimakhala ndi nkhawa, zomwe sindinakhalepo nazo, ndipo sindimadziwa chifukwa chake, ndipo izi zimandipangitsa kuti ndisafune kutuluka. Ndimakhala ndikudziuza kuti ndichifukwa chakuti ndikuzolowera moyo waku koleji, ndi malo atsopano, zimatenga nthawi kuti mukhale omasuka..etc. Nthawi zonse ndimaimba mlandu mavuto onse omwe ndinali nawo poti ndinali ndikuzolowera moyo watsopano waku koleji.
Sindingaganizirepo kwachiwiri kuti zonse zinali chifukwa choti ndimawonera zolaula. Chifukwa sindimaganiza kuti pakhale kulumikizana pakati pawo. Tsiku lina, ndimangoyang'ana makanema pa Youtube ndipo mwamwayi ndinapeza kanema pa nofap. Kanemayo adalankhula za zomwe zolaula komanso maliseche zingakuchitireni komanso zabwino zonse za nofap.
Ine ndimayang'anitsitsa zotsatira zoyipa zilizonse zokhudzana ndi zolaula. Ndipamene ndinazindikira kuti zodandaula zonsezi ndimakhala nazo chifukwa choti ndimayang'ana zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche. Ndinasiya kuonera zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche nthawi yomweyo.
Zakhala pafupifupi chaka chimodzi ndi theka kuyambira pomwe ndidayamba nofap, ndipo ndimamverera ngati chaka chimodzi ndimayang'ana zolaula ndikuchita maliseche ndimakhala zombie, ndipo wina adandibaya mankhwala ndipo ndidakhalanso munthu. Ndakhala ndikudzidalira konse, ndilibe nkhawa iliyonse, mavuto onse omwe ndimaganiza kuti ndimakhala nawo chifukwa ndimazolowera koleji adachoka. Ndinangobwerera kwa ine ndekha.
Ena mwa inu anyamata omwe mukuvutika kuti muyambe nofap chifukwa mukuganiza kuti sizothandiza. Mutha kukhala mukumva ngati momwe ndimaganizira chaka chimodzi ndikuganiza kuti sizachilendo kumva choncho chifukwa mwakhala mukumva choncho kwa nthawi yayitali. Chifukwa mukakhala kale mumalingaliro amenewo, mukuganiza kuti ndibwino kumverera choncho, ndipo njira yokhayo yomverera kuti sikuli bwino kumverera motero ndikudzichotsa mumalingaliro. Simudziwa mpaka mutachoka. Simungatero. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukukhulupirira kuti nofap igwira ntchito kapena ayi, ingondikhulupirira nthawi imodzi ndikuyesereni kwa miyezi itatu. Ndinayambanso kumva bwino munthawi ya miyezi 3-4. Ndipo monga ndidanenera, simudziwa kuti mudali m'maganizo mpaka mutatulukamo. Mukakhala kuti mwatulukamo, mudziwa. Koma, sizichitika usiku ngati matsenga. Mukuyamba pang'onopang'ono kumva bwino ndipo pamapeto pake mudzabwereranso kwa inu tsiku lina.
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by Hangkin
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