Ndimamva bwino kudziwa kuti Porn sizilinso m'moyo wanga. Chimodzi mwazisankho zabwino kwambiri zomwe mungapange kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino ndikukankha zachiwerewere osayang'ana kumbuyo. Zili ngati kubweza chidutswa chachikulu cha moyo wanu chomwe chidabedwa kwa inu.
Chiyambireni kusiya zolaula ndayamba kuchita zambiri ndikuthamanga, ndinayamba kuyang'ana kwambiri ndikuyamba kuphunzira kwambiri (zovuta kuphunzira nthawi iliyonse mphindi 5 mukamabwezeretsanso zolaula pamutu panu lol) ndipo koposa zonse ndili tsopano ndikudalira kwambiri momwe ndimakhalira ndi anthu chifukwa ndilibe manyazi / zolakwa zolaula zomwe zimandibanika. Izi zili pamwamba pamutu panga koma chonsecho ndimangomva kuti ndili ndi moyo!
Sikuchedwa kusiya chizolowezi choipa ndipo mudzadzithokoza chifukwa cha icho. Pitilizani kumenya nkhondo yabwino !!
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ZOTHANDIZA ZOYAMBIRA - Kukhazikitsa chizolowezi cholaula kumayamba ndikusintha malingaliro anu…
Uwu ndiye mwayi wanga woyamba koma ndimaganiza kuti ndigawana zomwe ndakumana nazo pankhani yothana ndi chizolowezi changa.
Ndinavutika ndi zolaula pafupifupi moyo wanga wonse (zaka 24 zapitazo polemba izi). Ndimakumbukira bwino ndikuwonera zolaula kuyambira ndili ndi zaka 8 wazaka zakubadwa ndikuchita maliseche kuyambira ndili ndi zaka 12. Kuthamangira mwachangu mpaka pano ndipo ndikuwona zoyipa zomwe mbewu zomwe zolaula zidabzala mwa ine zaka zambiri zapitazo, mwachindunji komanso mwanjira zina.
Ndayesera kusiya njirayi mobwerezabwereza koma sizinathandize. Zitha kukhala motere: 1) Gwiritsani ntchito maola omwe ndimawakonda kwambiri kumapeto kwa sabata lathu pa zolaulahub 2) Kukulira ndipo pamapeto pake kuseweretsa maliseche osachepera 3 kapena 4 nthawi iliyonse 3) Ndikumva chisoni kuti ndawononga sabata yina pa zolaula 4) Uzani ndekha kuti ndatha zolaula 5) Werengani nkhani ndi zolemba pa intaneti za momwe mungathetsere chizolowezicho ndikupeza mphamvu ndikuganiza kuti nthawi ino idzakhala yosiyana 6) Sabata limayambiranso ndipo ndikumabwereza njira 1 - 4
Ndinali kudwala kwambiri ndekha komanso mtundu wa munthu yemwe ndimakhala, koma ndinali wofooka kwambiri kuti ndichite chilichonse. Ndinazindikira kuti ndinali ndi vuto, koma nthawi iliyonse ndikafuna kuchita kanthu za ilo ndimangobwerera komwe ndidayambira…. Zomwe zimandibweretsa pamutu pamutuwu:
"Kukhazikitsa chizolowezi cholaula kumayamba ndikusintha malingaliro ako"
Pali malingaliro akulu awiri a 2 omwe ndidatengera kuti ndithetse zolaula zanga. Ndipo mwa lingaliro langa, mpaka mutapambana nkhondoyi m'maganizo mwanu, mudzamenya nkhondo yosatha.
Choyamba ndikuti ndinasintha malingaliro anga kuchoka ku 'Sindikufunanso kuonera zolaula' kupita ku "Sindikuwonanso Zolaula"… Onani kusiyana kwake? Mawu oyamba akuchokera pamalo ofooka; Ndinali kudzichonderera ndekha, ndikuyembekeza kuti sindigonjeranso izi, ndikuyembekeza kuti kulira kwanga kuthandizidwa kuyankhidwa .. Sanakhalepo .. Mawu achiwiri akuchokera pamalo olimba mtima komanso otsimikiza. Zolaula ndizomwe sindimachita. Nthawi. Mawu achiwiri ndi amphamvu chifukwa ndikunena kuti izi zikutsutsana ndi malingaliro anga monga munthu ndipo ndikukana kusintha malingaliro anga pamapikseli ena pazenera.
Ganizirani izi motere: Sindimagwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, amtundu uliwonse. Sindinakhalepo ndipo sindidzatero. Wina akabwera kudzandigulitsa mankhwala osokoneza bongo yankho langa limakhala lofanana nthawi zonse: Sindimachita mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Zilibe kanthu kuti andigwira kapena kundimanga ndikuyesera kundikakamiza. Sindimagwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Zimasemphana ndi mfundo zanga zoyambirira choncho sindikuchita. Tsopano tanthauzirani izi ku zolaula. Mukakhulupiriradi kuti zolaula ndizotsutsana ndi zomwe mumakhulupirira (zomwe tikukhulupirira kuti tonsefe timachita pofika pano) ndiye kuti mukuzindikira kuti sizingakambirane. Simumayang'ana Zolaula. Nyengo. Ziribe kanthu zomwe mungafune kapena momwe ubongo wanu umakhazikitsira pakukweza masamba anu azolaula; Simumayang'ana Zolaula. Nyengo.
Maganizo achiwiri ndi omwe ndimatcha Best self vs Worst self Tug of War. Izi zikupita motere: Ingoganizirani mtundu wabwino kwambiri womwe mungakhale nawo. Khalani odzikweza momwe mukufunira .. Kodi munthu ameneyo amawoneka bwanji? Kodi moyo wawo ndi wotani? Kodi apindula chiyani? Kodi amachita bwino bwanji? Ndi zabwino zotani zomwe zimakhudza ena komanso dziko lowazungulira? Kodi muli ndi mtundu wabwino kwambiri m'mutu mwanu? Zabwino. Tsopano lingalirani za mtundu wanu woyipitsitsa. Khalani osasunthika komanso osakhululuka momwe mungathere .. Kodi munthu ameneyu amawoneka bwanji? Kodi moyo wawo ndi wotani? Kodi apindulapo chilichonse pamoyo wawo? Kodi ndi zovuta kapena mavuto otani omwe ali nawo kwa ena komanso padziko lowazungulira? Tsopano popeza tili ndi mitundu yonse iwiri, tiyeni tiwatsutsane pamasewera achikale a Tug of War ..
Tinene kuti matembenuzidwe anu abwino kwambiri komanso oyipa ndi akapitawo a gulu lililonse. Poyamba ndi awiriwo okha omwe akukoka chingwe ndi inu pakati (inu pokhala momwe mukukhalira pano). Aliyense amene amakukokani kumbali yawo adzafufuza zamtsogolo. Izi zikutanthauza kuti Team ikapambana ndiye mumakhala mtundu wabwino kwambiri ndipo ngati mwapambana kwambiri.
Tsopano ndani akupanga manambala a gulu lirilonse. Tangoganizirani zisankho zomwe mumapanga komanso zizolowezi zomwe mumapanga ngati osewera ena onse. Zisankho zabwino ndi zizolowezi zomwe mumapanga zili pa Team Best. Pomwe zizolowezi ndi zisankho zoyipa (ndikukuyang'anani zolaula) zimapanga Gulu Loyipa Kwambiri. Tikukhulupirira sizikunenedwa koma timu yomwe ili ndi osewera ambiri kumbali yawo idzakhala ndi mwayi chifukwa ikukhudzana kukukokerani kumbali yawo.
Kuyesa kulingalira kumeneku ndikungowunikira mfundo iyi kuti mtundu wathu wabwino kapena wabwino ungapezeke, tikapanga zisankho zoyenera tsiku ndi tsiku ndikupanga zizolowezi zabwino zathanzi. Koma zolembedwazo ndizowona: ngati titha masiku athu kuchepa, kugonjera zolakwika zathu ndikupanga zisankho zolakwika ndiye kuti Mr. Worst ndiwotheka. Nthawi iliyonse mukamachita zolaula, mumakokedwa ndikuyandikira kwambiri (mukuwonjezera mamembala ku Team Worst ndikuwapatsa mwayi). Ndibwino kuthamangira ku cholinga kapena mtundu wabwino m'malingaliro anu, koma ndikofunikira kuthawa zoyipa kapena zamdima. Ndipo m'malingaliro mwanga 'kuthawa' ndikulimbikitsa kwambiri. Dokotala wanu akukuuzani kuti kusintha zakudya zanu kumakuwonjezerani zaka zambiri m'moyo wanu kulibe oomph wofanana ndi dokotala yemweyo amene akukuuzani kuti zomwe mumadya pakadali pano zingakupheni msanga ngati simusintha. Kukuwuzani kuti kuthana ndi chizolowezi chanu chazolaula kudzakhala kopindulitsa mtsogolomo sikungakhale kofanana ndikukuwuzani kuti chizolowezi chanu cholaula chimakhudzani kwambiri m'maganizo, m'thupi komanso m'thupi mwanu.
Ndiwo masenti anga awiri ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti izi zitha kupatsa wina mawonekedwe atsopano. Panopa ndili ndi masiku 2 opanda zolaula ndikulemba izi koma ndikunena motsimikiza kuti zolaula sizikhala gawo la moyo wanga kachiwiri.
TL; DR Sinthani malingaliro anu: 1) Simuyang'ana Zolaula. Nthawi 2) Dzipatseni mwayi kwambiri posankha bwino tsiku lililonse. Sankhani mtundu wanu woyipitsitsa.
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