Ndinkawerenga 'Beyond Order' wolemba Jordan Peterson tsiku lina. Ndi buku lodzithandizira lokha, ndipo ndichotsatira cha '12 Rules for Life '. Limodzi mwa malamulowa / machaputala amatchedwa 'Ngati zokumbukira zakale zakukhumudwitsani, zilembeni mosamala komanso mokwanira'. Ndiye ndizomwe ndichite cha kuno. Choyamba, ndikupatsani anyamata chidule cha moyo wanga mpaka pano. Pambuyo pake, ndipita mwatsatanetsatane ndikulemba zipsinjo zanga zonse ndi zipsera zankhondo patsamba lino nthawi iliyonse yomwe ndikufuna.
Chifukwa chake, ndidabadwa zaka 24 zapitazo m'tawuni yaying'ono ku Netherlands. Ndinakulira ngati mwana yekhayo ndipo ndimakhala ndi amayi anga ndi abambo anga. Makolo anga anasudzulana ndili ndi zaka 7. Kuyambira pamenepo, amayi anga ndi ine tinakhala limodzi ndipo bambo anga anasamuka. Mnzake wa bambo anga adakhala abambo anga opeza posakhalitsa, ndipo akukhalabe ndi amayi anga. Abambo anga adakwatiranso ndipo ali ndi ana awiri ndi mkazi wawo watsopano ndipo ndimawaona ngati abale anga ang'ono. Munthawi yanga yaubwana ndinali mwana wosangalala, wopanga zinthu, woseketsa komanso woseketsa. Koma ndinali womvera komanso 'mwana wabwino'. Ngakhale ndimakonda kukhala ndekha, ndimakonda kucheza ndi anzanga komanso ndimakonda kusangalala ndili mwana.
Nditafika ku sekondale, ndidapeza anzanga ambiri atsopano. Ndinayamba kukhala wopambanitsa ndi wopanduka kwambiri. Ndinkasangalala kwambiri ndili kusekondale; Ndinapsompsona mtsikana kwa nthawi yoyamba, ndinapeza chibwenzi changa choyamba, ndipo ndinagonana koyamba. Tsoka ilo, ndidakhalanso ndi zizolowezi zambiri pasukulu yasekondale: kusuta ndudu, kumwa mowa kwambiri, kusuta udzu, kudya zakudya zosapatsa thanzi, kuzengereza, komanso zoyipa kwambiri: kuthamangira kumapazi okonda mapazi. M'chaka changa chomaliza adandithamangitsa, chifukwa cha machitidwe anga komanso magiredi anga oyipa.
Nditamaliza maphunziro a kusekondale, zizolowezi zanga zinaipiraipira. Ndinayamba kumwa mowa ndi kusuta mochulukirachulukira, ndinayamba kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, ndipo mwana wanga wamwamuna wosalakwa adayamba kukhala mwana wachikazi wolimba. Ndinadziphatika kwa akazi, manyazi, kukakamizidwa bi, cuckold, kapolo / mbuye komanso zachiwerewere zosachepera kawiri patsiku. Chifukwa chosowa chidwi, wopanda ntchito, kuzengereza, komanso wopanda chitsogozo m'moyo ndalephera kupeza digiri kawiri. Mankhwala osokoneza bongo, akazi, kudzidalira, kukhumudwa komanso kalata yomwe idandiuza kuti ndachotsedwanso pasukulu, zidandipangitsa kuti ndikhale ndi mlandu woipa; ndili ndi zaka 20, ndinadzipha mwa kumwa mapiritsi ndi kumwa mowa.
Mwamwayi, ndinapopera mapiritsi onse tulo ndipo nditagona kuchipatala usiku, ndimatha kubwerera kunyumba. Ndikulimbana ndi mavuto anga onse, ndinayamba kugwira ntchito ku bizinesi ya agogo anga. Kuchokera pamenepo ndidadzilimbitsa pang'onopang'ono. Ndinayamba NoFap, kudya wathanzi, kunyamula zolemera, kuonera zodzithandiza pa YouTube, kuthamanga, ndi kuwerenga mabuku. Ndili ndi zaka 22 ndidakwanitsa kulowa kukoleji, ndikufunsira pulogalamu yapadera. Ndinasamukira ku dorm yophunzira mumzinda wina ndipo ndinayamba bachelor mu Business and Entrepreneurship.
Tsopano, ndatsala pang'ono kuyamba chaka changa chachitatu. Ndinasiya kusuta kwa miyezi 6 tsopano, sindinamwe mowa miyezi ingapo, ndinachepetsa kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo kangapo pachaka, ndipo tsiku lililonse ndikulimbana ndi PMO. Thupi ndi malingaliro anga ali bwino, ndipo ndili ndi thanzi labwino komanso wosangalala kuposa kale lonse. Ndinakhala Mkhristu chaka chatha. Koma sizosangalatsa konse. Ndili ndi ziwanda zambiri zomwe ndiyenera kuthana nazo.
Ngati mukufuna nkhani yanga ndikuchira kwanga, ndipo mukufuna kudziwa tsatanetsatane, chonde tsatirani tsamba langa kuti ndikuthandizeni. Ndipita kukumbukira zenizeni za moyo. 'Ngati zikumbukiro zakale zakukhumudwitsani, zilembeni mosamala komanso kwathunthu'
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