Masiku ano amatenga masiku 50 a NoFap - osawona zolaula, osachita maliseche, osakhazikika. Ndinayesa kupezeka kangapo pasanachitike izi koma ndimangodutsa sabata limodzi kapena awiri ndisanabwererenso. Ndinalibe mphamvu, kudzidalira, kudzidalira, kuda nkhawa, ndipo ndimaganiza zodzipha. Chabwino anzanga, masiku amenewo kulibenso.
Kubwereranso kwanga komaliza mu Novembala inali udzu womaliza kwa ine. Ndinalumbira kwa ine ndekha ndi kwa Mlengi (Dzina langa kwa Mulungu) kuti nditha kuthana ndi vutoli ndikuyesetsa kukhala wamkulu wa ine ndekha - kukhala munthu yemwe Mlengi amafuna kuti ndikhale.
Sizinakhale zophweka, koma ndakhala ndikuchita bwino posadziseweretsa maliseche komanso kusawona zolaula. Zizolowezi zanga zolaula sizinali zonyansa kwambiri koma ndimatha kuseweretsa maliseche kangapo patsiku ndipo ndimachita kudzuka msanga chifukwa cha izo. Ndinkapanga kuchokera pa 5 mpaka 25 wazaka ndipo ndakhala nazo zokwanira.
Ndatseka maakaunti anga onse azama TV chifukwa ndizomwe zimandipangitsa. Ndiye Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat ndi Tumblr. Ndachotsa mapulogalamu angapo pafoni yanga kuphatikiza Tinder, Bumble, ngakhale YouTube kuti ndichepetse nthawi yanga kusakatula pafoni yanga. Sindiwonera TV ndipo sindimakonda kwambiri makanema aku Hollywood kotero ndimawona ngati iwonso andithandizira kuti ndichite bwino panthawiyi. Ndikumva ngati zoulutsira mawu zimathandizira kuti anthu azikhala ndi nkhawa komanso nkhawa chifukwa zimapangitsa anthu kudzifananitsa ndi ena ndikumadziona kuti ndi osakwanira. Zolinga zanga, monga ndimakhulupirira, ndizapamwamba kwambiri ndipo zimawononga anthu athu. Sindikufuna kubwerera kuma social media nthawi ina iliyonse posachedwa.
Ndikukhulupirira kuti ndimakhala wotanganidwa ndi ntchito zakusukulu, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kupita kokayenda, kucheza ndi abale anga (abwenzi anga apamtima, ndi abale anga), kusewera / kulemba nyimbo komanso kucheza ndi banja langa zandithandizanso kuti ndisamangoganizira kwambiri zolimbikitsana ndi zinthu zokhudzana ndi kusuta kwanga. Sindikupita kumakalabu kapena kumwa mowa wochuluka chotere kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
Ndimakhazikika pa zikhulupiriro zanga zauzimu komanso kulimba. Kuwerenga mabuku othandizira monga Njira ya Munthu Wapamwamba yolembedwa ndi David Deida komanso Momwe mungakhalire Mwamuna wa 3% Wolemba Corey Wayne Turner asintha moyo wanga ndi malingaliro anga ndipo andithandiza kwambiri paulendo wanga wa NoFap. Ndikulangiza mwamphamvu mabuku awiriwa kwa aliyense wa inu - wamwamuna kapena wamkazi.
Zina mwazabwino zomwe ndanena pano ndi izi:
- Kusunthika / kuyang'ana kwabwino;
- Kukumbukira bwino;
- Kulimbitsa chidaliro komanso kuchepa kwa nkhawa;
- Kupititsa patsogolo luso lotha kuthana ndi kupsinjika;
- Wathanzi, owala khungu pafupifupi wopanda ziphuphu;
- Ena amawonjezera mphamvu;
- Kutha kukweza pang'ono ndi kuchita kwambiri masewera olimbitsa thupi;
- Kupititsa patsogolo kugona bwino (kwakukulu);
- Kubwereranso kwa "matabwa am'mawa" (zambiri za "zoyipa zina");
- Maso owala;
- Chokopa cha akazi - azimayi akhala akundiwona ngati wopenga!
Ndikudziwa kuti ena mwa inu omwe mukuwerenga izi atha kukopeka ndi maubwino kapena 'mphamvu zazikulu' momwe zimakhalira. Ndikufuna kuti mudziwe kuti ndakhala ndikuperewera ena mwazifukwa zake:
- Ndikulimbanabe ndi nkhawa ndikukhala kwazaka zambiri. Sichinthu chomwe chimangopita pambuyo poti sichikula kwakanthawi - kwa ine. Ndakhala ndikusiya mankhwala a SSRI pafupifupi zaka ziwiri ndipo sindibwereranso. Ndiyenerabe kuthana ndi nkhawa pandekha. Ndikukonzekera kuchepetsa kudya kwa khofi, kusinkhasinkha, kupita kuchipatala cha Network Spinal Analysis (zambiri pamtundu wina womwe ukubwera) ndikutuluka m'malo anga abwino. Mpaka nthawi imeneyo, maluso anga azimayi komanso anthu ambiri sanasinthe momwe ndimakondera koma ndachita bwino kwambiri kuyambira kuyambira NoFap. Ndazindikira kuti nkhawa yanga imabwera ndikupita koma yayenda bwino kwambiri poyerekeza ndi zaka zingapo zapitazi.
- Ndili ndi mphamvu zochepa pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana. Ndimavutika kugona usiku chifukwa cha anansi okhala phokoso, maloto olota, ludzu nthawi zonse, ndi kupweteka kwa khosi / kumbuyo / paphewa. Sindikumva kuti ndapumula kwenikweni. Ndilinso ndi chitsulo chochepa koma sindinapezeke ndi matenda a Anemia. Ndili ndi njira zingapo zomwe ndakhala ndikuyesera kukhazikitsa kuti ndithetse vutoli.
- Mpaka nditathetsera mavuto anga kumbuyo / paphewa / khosi ndi chiropractor, sindingathe kunyamula zolemetsa kwambiri pa masewera olimbitsa thupi kotero kuti zomwe ndapindula zakhala zikuvutikadi. Panopa ndili ndi 190lbs (191cm wamtali) kotero ndili wochepa thupi koma ndili ndi minofu. Ndakhala ndikuyesera kuchuluka kwa zaka zambiri koma sizinaphule kanthu. Chifukwa cha mavuto anga am'mbuyo ndi m'mapewa ndayamba kusamvana bwino kwa minyewa - pec yakumanzere ndi yayikulu kuposa yamanja, lat lamanja ndilokulirapo kuposa lamanzere, ndi ena ochepa. Mgwirizano wanga ndi wofooka modabwitsa chifukwa cha mitsempha yotsina m'khosi mwanga. Ndakhala ndikuyesera kuti ndikhale wogwira koma palibe chomwe chagwira. Manja anga ndi ochepa thupi komanso ofooka. Ulendo wanga wolimbitsa thupi wakhala wautali, wotopetsa, komanso wokhumudwitsa kwambiri. Nthawi zambiri ndimakhala wokwiya kwambiri komanso wokwiya chifukwa sindingathe kuthana ndi zopinga zomwe ndakhala ndikukumana nazo posachedwa ndipo zimandipangitsa kukhala wokhumudwa. Masiku ena zimandigwetsa misozi. Koma ndikudziwa kuti ndipambana - uku ndi kungomanga machitidwe (kupatula kumangiriza minofu).
- Ndakhala ndikutenga chowonjezera chotchedwa Testro-X (Ndikukulimbikitsani kuti muwone) ndipo tsopano dziwani motsimikiza kuti NoFap ithandizira pazolinga zanga zathanzi komanso zolimbitsa thupi potengera ma testosterone. Ndimadyanso bwino koma kunenepa kwakhala kovuta. Ndikudziwa kuti ndiyenera kudya zambiri. Ndi nkhani yogona basi komanso mavuto ammbuyo omwe amandilepheretsa.
Ndakhala ndikuwona 'mzere wolimba' m'masabata aposachedwa ndipo ndimangomva ngati kuti ndadwalanso nkhawa komanso kuti nkhawa yanga ikukulirakulira. Ndinali ndi mphamvu zowonjezera pa sabata yomaliza yomaliza komanso zolimbikitsa. Ndidachita bwino pamapepala ndi mayeso anga omaliza koma ndikudziwa ndikadachita bwino kwambiri. Lero ndimamva bwino mumtima ndikukhulupirira kuti ndadutsa mzere wokhazikikawu. Ndaphulitsa tayala mgalimoto yanga dzulo ndipo ndinayenera kuvala -40 digiri Celsius nyengo yomwe inatenga pafupifupi mphindi 40. Tayala langa latsopano lidandilipira $ 400 - ndimangakwanitsa kugula tayala limodzi popeza zonse zatsopano zikadandithamangitsira $ 1200 zomwe ndilibe. Ndikunena nkhaniyi chifukwa nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndi nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa chifukwa cha izi. Zinandikumbukira dzulo kuti ndimazisamalira bwino ndipo ngakhale ndinali wokwiya pang'ono sindinakhale wopanikizika kapena wodandaula za vutoli ndipo ndinali kuseka za izo ndi anzanga ogwira nawo ntchito usiku womwewo. Ndikumva kuti NoFap ili ndi chochita ndi izi
Pomaliza, ponena za kukopa kwa amayi, azimayi omwe ndimakumana nawo tsiku lililonse akhala akupita mtedza. Othandizira onse omwe amagwira ntchito ku bar komwe ndimagwirira ntchito akhala akunditsamira. Amandiuza kuti ndine 'maswiti' awo ndikamagwira ntchito. M'malo mwake, ndidamva m'modzi wa iwo akufuula "Ndigwireni unyolo!" kuchokera kutsidya kwa bala pomwe ndimachita kuzungulira kwanga. Amayi achikazi nawonso akhala akundizindikira. Nthawi zonse ndakhala munthu wokongola (malinga ndi anzanga) koma sindinakumanepo ndi chidwi chotere kuchokera kwa akazi. Izi zimachitika kulikonse komwe ndikupita - kumsika, kuntchito, masewera olimbitsa thupi, kusukulu. Ndazindikira kuti ndikapita kumalo omwera mowa ndi anzanga operekera zakudya athu samatha kudziyankhula okha akamalankhula ndi ine - amakhala amantha kwambiri ndipo zimawoneka kuti sangakhulupirire kuti bambo akhoza kukhala wolimba mtima kapena wotsimikiza monga ine. Ndikudziwa kuti ndidanenapo kale kuti ndimavutikabe ndi izi, koma ndili bwino kuposa momwe ndinaliri zaka zingapo zapitazo. Nthawi zonse pamakhala malo oti musinthe, sichoncho? Komabe, ndakhala ndikugwiritsa ntchito luso langa lodzikongoletsa pa ma waitress ndipo ndakhala ndikusintha pang'onopang'ono. Ndidafunsa woperekera zakudya wina masabata angapo apitawa koma anali ndi chibwenzi. Ndinkangokhalira kukangana naye ndipo amawoneka wokonda kwambiri kotero ndidawombera ndikumufunsa. Ngakhale adakana mwaulemu, adandiuza kuti ndine wosalala ndipo angandikumbukire ngati iye ndi chibwenzi chake atasudzulana. Ndinamverera pamwamba padziko lapansi ndipo sizinandivute ngakhale pang'ono kuti sindinapeze nambala yake. Zomwe ndimasamala nazo ndikuti ndimasintha. Ndimayesetsa kuchita "ufulu wopanda zotsatira".
Zikomo powerenga positi yanga yayitali. Ndilemba zina zambiri kubwera tsiku 60, tsiku 90, ndi kupitirira. Ndidakakamizika kulemba lero chifukwa ndili wokondwa kuti ndafika masiku 50. Ndidachita NoFap zaka pafupifupi 8 zapitazo - mzere wanga wautali kwambiri unali miyezi 5-6 ndikakumbukira molondola. Izi zinali zotulukapo zakukhumudwa / kukhumudwa chifukwa cha chochitika chosautsa komanso chifukwa ndidakhala Mkhristu wobadwanso mwatsopano. Sindinadziwe kuti NoFap anali chiyani panthawiyo - zonse zomwe zinali m'maganizo mwanga ndikuti kukula kunali tchimo ndipo ndinkachita mantha ndi moto wamoto. Zikhulupiriro zanga zasintha m'zaka zaposachedwa koma ndikufuna kupyola njira yanga yakale nthawi ino. Ndikumva kuti ndili ndi mphamvu tsopano popeza ndaphunzitsidwa za nkhaniyi ndipo sindidalira chikhulupiriro chimodzi. Osati kuti pali chilichonse cholakwika ndi izi, inde. Nditha kulemba zambiri pamutuwu koma ndizisunga nthawi ina.
Ndiyenera kuzindikira kuti ngakhale ndimapewa zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche sindidzapewa kugonana ndi akazi. Sindinayambe ndakhalapo wachiwerewere ndipo ndimangogonana kamodzi mumwezi wabuluu. Ndikukonzekera zogonana ndi mkazi yemwe ndimamukonda. Ndine wosakwatiwa pakadali pano ndipo sindidandaula kwambiri kuti ndipeze wina - cholinga changa ndichofunika kwambiri kwa ine pompano. Ndikudziwa kuti mkazi woyenera abwera posachedwa. Mpaka nthawiyo, ndikupitiliza kugwira ntchito kuti ndikhale wangwiro. Mpaka pano ndiyenera kuthana ndi PE. Ndikulemberani anyamata.
Cheers, abale ndi alongo!
LINK - Masiku Anga Oyamba a 50
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