Ubwino wapezeka pakadali pano:
1. Kugona kwabwino
2. Wokhazikika pamalingaliro
3. Wamphamvu kwambiri
4. Kukolola kwambiri pantchito
5. Mlingo wapamwamba wa ndende
6. Kulimbitsa luso la kuphunzira
7. Kulimbitsa chilakolako
8. Kupeza bwino kwa minofu
9. Kukhala ndi chiyembekezo chachikulu pochita chilichonse
10. Kulimbitsa ubale ndi abwenzi komanso abale
Ndine mwana wamba ngati ena omwe pano akupita kumapeto kwa zaka zanga za m'ma 20. Ndinayamba kuonera zolaula ndili ndi zaka 12 ndipo zolaula zomwe ndimayang'ana zinali zolaula za BDSM kuchokera ku kink.com yotchuka. Mbolo yanga imalimba nthawi iliyonse ndikawona msungwanayo akuwombera atayimitsidwa mozondoka ndikudumphira m'madzi mumkati mwake ndikumangirira zikhomo zosavala thupi lake. Ndidakwera nditamuwona mtsikanayo akumangirizidwa munjira zodabwitsa ndikuseka ndi dom. Anthu ena atha kuganiza kuti ndine wabwinobwino koma ndizomwe ndimakondwera nazo kwambiri popeza mwachibadwa ndimagonjera. Maliseche anga oyamba anali pomwe ndidakwanitsa mbolo yanga pabedi langa ndikumva kutengeka kwa kena kake kakutuluka mbolo yanga patatha mphindi 15-20 koma kunena zowona sindimadziwa kuti umunawo ndimangoganiza kuti ndi mkodzo wanga wokha. Kumverera kwake kunali kwakukulu ndipo ndinayesanso kangapo masiku otsatirawa pomwe makolo anga sanali panyumba mpaka nditakhala wokonda kutengeka kotereku.
Kuyambira pamenepo, ndinali wokonda zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche popeza zonsezi ndizogwirizana. Ndimakhala maola ambiri ndikuonera zolaula, makamaka patsamba la BDSM ndipo ndimakonda kucheza kawiri patsiku. Ndikukumbukira mbiri yanga yayikulu ikukula kasanu patsiku pomwe zolakalaka zanga ndi zikhumbo zanga zidafika pamlingo wapamwamba kwambiri. Kuti ndifupikitse, ndimakonda zolaula pafupifupi 2/24 ndipo mwanjira inayake idayamba kusintha moyo wanga. Sindingathe kuchita bwino m'masukulu ndi akatswiri pantchito, kudzidalira ndikotsika ndipo sindingathe kuwongolera moyo wanga. Ndinkafuna kusiya zolaula ndikusintha moyo wanga, mwina pang'ono, koma sindinadziwe komwe ndiyambira. Ndinayesa kusiya kuonera zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche koma ndimatha kukhala tsiku limodzi lokha ndipo kenako ndimamenyedwa ndikulakalaka kwambiri.
Tithokoze Mulungu, ndikuthokoza kuti ndidathamangira papulatifomu ya NoFap chaka chatha pomwe ndidakwanitsa kudziwa anthu ambiri ochokera padziko lonse lapansi omwe ali ndi vuto lomwelo monga momwe ndimachitira koma moyo wawo wasintha kwambiri kuyambira pamenepo chifukwa cha NoFap. Ndidawerenga msonkhanowu ndikuphunzira kuchokera kwa ena omwe adadzisintha kukhala anthu abwinoko opanda zolaula. Ndinachita chidwi kwambiri ndipo ndidaganiza zodziyesera kusiya PMO kuti ndisinthe moyo wanga momwe ndimafunira.
Ponseponse, ndakhala ndiri paulendowu wa NoFap kwakanthawi kale 5. Ndinayamba ndi kuyesa kwanga koyamba kusiya PMO pokhazikitsa cholinga changa, chomwe chimangokhala tsiku la 10. Sindinadziikire chiyembekezo chachikulu ndekha poyesa koyamba popeza ndikudziwa kuti chizolowezi chomwe chakhala chikupangidwa kwa zaka zopitilira 15 sikophweka kuti chingathetsedwe motere, pamafunika kuleza mtima ndi kulimbikira. Zotsatira zake, ndidangokhala masiku a 9 okha omwe anali ochepa tsiku la 1 pacholinga changa choyambirira koma ndimakhala wokhutira kale popeza ndikuwona izi ngati gawo lofunika kwambiri m'moyo wanga.
Ndinadzikonza ndekha nditabwereranso ndipo ndinadzukanso kuyesayesa la 2 la NoFap. Pomaliza, ndidadzipangira masiku 20 koma ndidangokhala masiku 14 okha omwe anali ofanana ndi masabata a 2, kusintha pang'ono masiku 5 poyerekeza ndi kuyesa kwanga koyambirira. Ngakhale ndinali ndi masiku 6 patatsala pang'ono kukwaniritsa cholinga changa cha masiku 20, ndimawona kuyesaku ngatiulendo wokhutiritsa pang'onopang'ono momwe ndimatha kuwona kusintha kwanga kale ngati mulingo wokwanira wa kusinkhasinkha komanso kugona bwino.
Sindinangoyimilira pomwepo ngakhale ndimawona kuti maulendo anga akukhutiritsa. M'malo mwake, zoyeserera zonsezi sizinakhudze kwenikweni. Inde, ndinachita PMO nditabwereranso kuyesera koyamba ndi kwachiwiri koma mafupipafupi anali atatsika kwambiri. Chifukwa chake, ndikulimbikitsidwa konse ndi upangiri womwe ndidapeza pamsonkhanowu, ndidayamba kuyesa kwanga kwa 3rd kwa NoFap ndipo nthawi ino ndidakhazikitsanso cholinga cha masiku 20. Ndidatha kugunda masiku 20 kenako ndidawonjezera masiku ena 20 pamwamba pake, chifukwa chake ndidakwanitsanso kugundanso mpaka kufika masiku 40! Inde, sindinayime pomwepo ndikuwonjezera masiku ena 20 pambuyo pake, koma mwatsoka ndinangokhala masiku ena 7 ndikubwereranso masiku 47. Ndinali wokhutira kwambiri ndi zomwe ndidakwanitsa pakuyesa kwanga kwa 3rd popeza sindimayembekezera kuti nditha kupita masiku a 47 opanda PMO. Mosakayikira kuti masiku oyambirira a 20 anali ovuta ngati gehena, ndinali kuvutika ndipo ndinkangokhalira kulakalaka zolaula koma mwamwayi ndinali ndi mphamvu zokwanira kukana onsewo. Nditadutsa gawo la masiku 20, ulendowu udakhala wosavuta pang'ono ndipo ndidamvadi kuti ndachita bwino pantchito zanga komanso thanzi langa. Ndinali wamphamvu kuposa kale ndipo njala yanga inali yabwino kwambiri. Komabe, zoyipa zidachitika pomwe ndidadina mwangozi cholumikizira zolaula chomwe chidatumizidwa ndi mzanga ndikuwona ndikuwonera. Ndinkamva kuti chimbudzi changa chinali champhamvu kwambiri kotero kuti chimamveka ngati kuphulika kwa mapiri chifukwa chiwonetserocho chinali chabwino kwambiri chomwe ndinali nacho.
Kunena zowona, ndidadzimvera chisoni kuti sindinathe kupirira chifukwa ndinali nditafika masiku 47. Komabe, ndidasankha kuyang'ana mbali zake zabwino ndikudzinyadira chifukwa ndimamvetsetsa phindu la NoFap m'njira zambiri. Kodi ndidakhala bwanji masiku 47 awa? Kwenikweni ndimachita zomwe ndimakonda, monga kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kuwerenga mabuku, kuwonera makanema ndi zina zambiri kuti ndikhale otanganidwa kunja kwa nthawi yanga yogwira ntchito. Kuti ndifupikitse, masiku 47 anali gehena yopambana kwambiri kwa ine!
Nditabwereranso masiku a 47th, ndidabwerera ku PMO kwa maulendo angapo koma sizinali pafupipafupi monga momwe zidalili kale ndipo izi zidanditsogolera kuyeso langa la 4th. Ndi zokumana nazo zomwe ndinali nazo, ndinali ndi chidaliro chachikulu panthawiyi kuti sindinakhazikitse cholinga chilichonse chifukwa ndimaganiza kuti ndipitilira masiku 47 ndikupita masiku osachepera 60. Ndidagwiritsa ntchito njira zomwezo monga zomwe ndidachita ndipo zonse zidayenda bwino ndikamaliza masiku 30 popanda sewero lililonse. Ndinali wokondwa koma zoyipa zidachitika patsiku langa la 32nd pomwe ndimamenyedwa mosavuta ndikamafuna kuwona zolaula motero, ndikumayambiranso. Ndinayang'ana pa cum wanga ndikumva kuwawa kwambiri. Ndinkadzipsa mtima kwambiri ndipo ndinkadziimba mlandu chifukwa chobwerera m'mbuyo. Ndinkadzimva wopanda chiyembekezo komanso wokhumudwa chifukwa ndinkachita zoyipa kwambiri kuposa zomwe ndimatha kuchita. Ndinangowona mdima, osakhala chiyembekezo chabe. Ndinadzida ndekha ndipo ndinabwerera kumalo osasintha mwa kuonera zolaula ndikuchita maliseche mwamphamvu kwambiri. Kuyambira pomwe ndinayambiranso patsiku la 32, ndimasewera maliseche kawiri patsiku ndipo ndimakhala nthawi yambiri ndikuwonera zolaula zonse zomwe ndimayang'aniranso zolaula monga zolaula zomwe sindinakwanitse kudzikhutitsanso. Ndinasiya NoFap ndipo ndinasiya kuwerenganso kuyambira pamenepo.
Kuthamanga koopsa kwambiri kunatha pafupifupi miyezi 2 ndipo mwadzidzidzi ndinakumananso ndi NoFap pomwe mnzanga wina adalankhula za izi. Zimandipangitsa kulingaliranso za moyo wanga. Ndinayambitsidwa ndipo cholinga chosiya PMO chinabwereranso kwa ine. Ndinayamba kukumbukira momwe ndinkachitira bwino kale ndipo pamapeto pake ndidaganiza zobwezera bulu wanga paulendo wa NoFap. Ndikudziwa kuti ndakhala ndikuchita zoyipa kwambiri m'moyo wanga ndipo ndimafuna kusintha moyo wanga, zomwe zidandilimbikitsa kuyesa kwa 5th kwa NoFap komwe kudapitilira mpaka pano!
Ndisanayambe kuyesayesa kwa 5th, ndinadzilonjeza ndekha kuti ndidzaswa masiku 47 ndikupita momwe ndingathere popanda kukhudzidwa ndi zoyipa zilizonse zondizungulira. Lero, ndili pa Tsiku langa 34 kuti ndapambana kuyesa kwanga kwa 4th komwe kudatha masiku a 32 ndipo ndangotsala masiku 13 kuchokera ku mndandanda wanga wamasiku 47 womwe ndidapanga pakuyesa kwanga kwa 3rd. Ndikumva bwino pakadali pano ndili wathanzi komanso wamphamvu, mwakuthupi ndi m'maganizo. Ubale wanga wolumikizana ndi ena umayenda bwino ndikupeza anzanga ena paulendowu. Ndinayambanso kujowina pamsonkhano wa NoFap kuti ndipeze zolimbikitsa kuchokera pano komanso nthawi yomweyo, ndinayamba kugawana zomwe ndakumana nazo ndi omwe akuvutika. Sindikuwona chizindikiro chilichonse chosiya pakadali pano pomwe zolinga zanga zikuwonekeratu tsopano. Sindikudzipatsa chifukwa choti ONSE ndibwererenso. Ndili wovuta kwambiri komanso wokhazikika kwa ine ndekha kuti ndimalephera kugwiritsa ntchito foni yam'manja kuti ndisakhale ndi mwayi wowonera zolaula. Ndimadziwomba ndekha mwamphamvu pamene zolimbikitsazi zibwera ndikudziuza ndekha kuti izi ndi zongoyerekeza chabe. Ndi kuyesetsa konse komwe ndachita, ndikhulupilira kuti nditha kupita masiku osachepera 60 omwe ndili ndi chidaliro pakukwaniritsa izi! Inde, kusiya kuseweretsa maliseche kwamuyaya ndiye cholinga changa chachikulu.
Kuti ndibwererenso ulendo wanga wa NoFap pakadali pano:
Ulendo woyamba: masiku 1
Ulendo wachiwiri: masiku 2
Ulendo wa 3rd: masiku 47 (Best streak)
Ulendo wa 4: masiku 32 (Mzere wachitatu wabwino kwambiri)
Ulendo wa 5th: pakadali pano masiku a 34 ndipo akuwerengabe (Mzere wachiwiri wapamwamba pakadali pano)
Keypoints kuti muchite bwino:
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Zikomo powerenga, aliyense! Sangalalani ndi ulendo wanu wa NoFap monga momwe ndimachitira!
LINK - Ulendo Wanga wa NoFap (Osati Opambana Kwambiri Koma Muyenera nthawi yanu kuti muwerenge!)
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