Kotero apa pali. Ndatha masiku 90. Sindikumva ngati chapadera. Heck, zimamveka bwino. Ndipo ndiye mfundoyi: uku ndi kwachilendo kwatsopano. Zosintha zina ndi zina zakwaniritsidwa [ndi maupangiri othandiza]:
Kudzidalira kwambiri komanso kudzidalira. Sikudzakhalanso wolakwa. Musakhale ndi vuto lokumana ndi maso a wina, mutha kuyamba kungolankhula za aliyense.
- Zoyang'ana kwambiri, zosasunthika mosavuta. Nditha kuyang'ana kwambiri pa ntchito zomwe muli nazo. Bog fog ndi ochepa kuti asakhalepo.
- Kuwonongerani nthawi yochepa pamasewera a kanema komanso kuwerenga nthawi yambiri mabuku, kulemba, kupanga zojambulajambula, ndi zina. Kuwopa kupanga zambiri, lotseguka zovuta komanso kuphunzira zinthu zatsopano.
- Mudachotsa Instagram. Mwinamwake chisankho chabwino kwambiri chomwe ndapanga pa NoFap. Kukhetsa kwanga kwakukulu kwachotsedwa.
- Pomaliza ndinadzipereka kulemba ndakatulo yabodza yomwe ndidayambiranso mu 2015, ndikupita patsogolo kwambiri m'miyezi itatu yapitayi kuposa momwe ndidapangira mu 2017 yonse.
- Kuchepetsa kudya kwanga shuga. Kumwa madzi ochulukirapo.
Lang'anani. Nazi maphunziro atatu akulu omwe ndaphunzira paulendo wanga mpaka pano. Ndikukhulupirira kuti athandizanso ngakhale ochepa a inu ndi anu.
1. Limbani anzeru, osati ovuta.
Yerekezerani magulu awiri ankhondo. Gulu Lofiira ndi lalikulu, loopsa komanso lodzaza ndi chigonjetso. Asitikali a Blue ndi ocheperako, osadziwa zambiri, akumangodzipukusa ndi mantha. Molimba mtima akuyang'anizana ndi gulu lankhondo lofiira. Mwina amapulumuka mozungulira kapena awiri. Koma posakhalitsa, amapsinjika.
Izi ndi zomwe zimachitika mukamayesetsa kulimbana ndi zolakalaka ndi mphamvu zokha. Kulimbikira ndizothandiza. Amatha, makamaka mukatopa, mutapanikizika, ndi zina. Posakhalitsa, chidwi chimakulamulani. Ndinaphunzira izi movutikira.
Kuti mupambane, simungangolola gulu lankhondo la Blue kuti liyime mozungulira bwalo lankhondo. Gwiritsani ntchito malowa kuti mupindule. Pezani zida zabwino. Limbikitsani makhalidwe. Sonkhanitsani anthu atsopano ndipo phunzitsani gehena kuchokera mwa iwo. Kulimbana ndi machenjerero ankhondo ofiira ndi anu.
Mwanjira ina, menyani mwanzeru. Ikani foni yanu pansi; gwiritsani ntchito laputopu pamalo opezeka anthu ambiri. Tulukani mnyumba. Yendani maulendo ataliatali m'chilengedwe. Kulimbitsa thupi. Tengani zosangalatsa zatsopano, kapena konzaninso zakale. Werengani mabuku ambiri. Sinkhasinkhani. Muzicheza. Phunzirani. Dziwani zoyambitsa zanu ndikusintha moyenera. Koposa zonse, khalani otanganidwa. Osangopilira chilakolako chakugonana; mangani.
Cholinga sikuti mugonjetse gulu Lankhondo Lofiyira, koma kuti muliphunzire. Tsirizani nkhondoyi mkati mwanu. Kenako mutha kugonjetsa dziko lapansi ndi mphamvu ya Red ndi Blue kuphatikiza.
2. Gwiritsani ntchito mphamvu ya chizolowezi.
Kubwerera mu Marichi, ndidasiya zakumwa zokoma za Lent. Ndisanakhale ndi tsiku pafupifupi tsiku lililonse, nthawi zonse kumadziuza kuti ndichepe koma osazichita. Mpaka pano.
Zinali zophweka modabwitsa. Sindinakhulupirire kuti zandivuta kusiya. Nthawi zambiri sindimaganizira zomwe ndimasiya. Ndimamva ngati ndikhoza kupitiriza kumwa madzi mpaka kalekale.
Ndiye masiku 40 atakwanira, ndimamwa tiyi wanga wamkaka womwe ndimakonda, kuti ndiwone zomwe zingachitike. Zonse zinali bwino, koma sindinawonebe pempholo.
Tsiku lotsatira ndinaganiza, nanga gehena. Tiyeni tikhale ndi ina.
Mutha kuwona komwe izi zikupita.
Mwadzidzidzi, ubongo wanga unkandigunda ndi zifukwa zonsezi. Linakhala tsiku lalitali, ndimafunikira onyamula, ndimayenera, ndi zina. Ndidayesetsa kuti ndibwererenso, pomwe zinali zosavuta. Ndinkangodziuza ndekha ayi. Patatha sabata ndinazindikira kuti ndamva bwino popanda tiyi wamkaka, ndikubwerera kukamwa madzi. Tsopano ndimadzilola kusangalala nthawi zina, koma ndizo zonse.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake kumanga chingwe ndichofunika kwambiri, ndipo motsimikizira maziko a kudziletsa. Tiyenera kukhala ndi chizolowezi chodziuza tokha, mpaka titachita osaganiza. China chilichonse chimatha mphamvu zathu. Sindiyenera kudziphunzitsa ndekha zaukhondo wamano usiku uliwonse. Ndimangotsuka mano, kutha kwa nkhani.
Musaganize kuti mutha kubwereranso ku zolaula, kuti mwachita nthawi yanu ndipo tsopano mutha kuyilamulira. Mutha kumangofika komwe mudayambira. Khalani ndi chizolowezi, ndipo pitirizani kukhala nacho.
3. Zindikirani kusiyana pakati pa zosowa ndi zosowa.
Ndinachotsa Instagram masabata angapo apitawa. Pa nthawiyo, ndinali ndi nkhawa. Zinkamveka kuti ndikusiya chinthu china chofunikira kwambiri; china chake anafunika.
Koma sindinkafunika. Ndimangoganiza kuti ndatero.
Osati kale kwambiri, ndimakhulupiriradi kuti aliyense anali ngati ine: kubisalira mwachinsinsi malingaliro a X ndikuwachita. Chifukwa sangakhale bwanji? Sindingakhale popanda PMO, nanga akanatha bwanji?
Zinafika, kuti titha kukhala moyo popanda zambiri.
Zakudya zopanda pake, zolaula, zokonda ndi zodzuka. Ife ndikufuna zinthu izi; ndizachilengedwe. Ndife olimbikira kufuna kukoma, kugonana, kuvomerezedwa. Koma zosintha zamasiku anozi zimangotilanda mphamvu zathu ndikulanda dongosolo la mphotho, kutipangitsa ife kukhulupirira kuti tikupeza chilichonse chomwe timafuna, pomwe chowonadi ndichakuti ndizofanizira chabe.
Ndipo sitingadziwe. Kwa woledzera, mzere pakati pa zosowa ndi zosowa sudziwika. Tikudziwa kuti siili yathanzi, osati yachilengedwe, yosakwaniritsa. Koma timakhulupirira moona mtima kuti timafunikira chilichonse chomwe timakonda.
Ndabwera kudzakuuzani kuti sizowona. Simukusowa zolaula. Simusowa kuseweretsa maliseche. Inu mukufuna zinthu izi, zedi. Koma kodi mumazifunadi pamoyo wanu?
Apatseni ndi kupeza.
NoFap sinandipange ine mulungu wogonana kapena ng'ombe zina. Ndikadali ndekha - ndekha basi. Ndikuganiza kuti ndi zomwe tonsefe tingafune.
Ndimaliza nzeru ndi Brandon Sanderson. Kodi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri chomwe abambo angatenge ndi chiyani?
Chotsatira.
Mukudziwa chiyani, nazi zina Nthawi Yonse Yotsika kukondwerera.
Chofunika koposa, izi ndi chiyambi chabe.
Khalani olimba, aliyense. Tsiku limodzi.
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NYAMA YOYAMBA - Tsiku 30 - Ndikhoza kuyang'ana anthu m'maso tsopano.
Ndikuganiza kuti ambiri mwa 'opambana' omwe amalankhula za ife tonsefe tonse timakhala anthu abwinobwino, olimba mtima, osapotoza. Ndine 26, ntchito yokhazikika, osati m'makalasi aliwonse pakadali pano. Sindikulankhula zakuyenda ndikumwetulira msungwana aliyense amene ndimakumana naye. Zingakhale zachilendo. Zomwe ndikutanthauza ndikulumikizana ndi diso lotsatiridwa ndikumwetulira kwachilengedwe.
Pamaso pa NoFap, ndikadakhala wovuta komanso wosatsimikiza za chilankhulo cha thupi chonga ichi. Tsopano ndikumva ngati kuti zikuyamba kukhala zachilengedwe.
Ndiyenera kuzindikira kuti izi sizili chifukwa cha NoFap. Ntchito yanga imakhudzana ndi kukhala pagulu, chifukwa chake ndimayesetsa kuyankhula ndi anthu omwe sindikudziwa. (Ndipo ndimakhala wovuta.) Koma chidaliro chatsopanochi ndichowonadi NoFap.
Ndizosiyana pang'ono, koma zilipo. Ndikakumana ndi diso la wina, sindikhala ndi chidwi choyang'ana kumbali. Nthawi zambiri, winayo amayang'ana kutali. Ichi ndi chatsopano.
Ndipo inde, zimaphatikizapo atsikana. Pakhala pali kangapo tsopano pomwe ndidakumana ndi diso la msungwana wokongola ndikumwetulira - ndipo nayenso adamwetulira, osayang'ananso kwina. Ndikukhala womasuka kuwonetsa chidwi changa, ndikulimba mtima.
Sindimadziona kuti ndine wotsika.
Zimatengera momwe ndimakhalira komanso momwe zinthu ziliri, koma pali mphamvu zamkati zomwe sizinakhaleko kale.
Khalani olimba, abale. Tsiku limodzi.
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