Ndinkafuna kugawana - Ndinakhala nthawi yochuluka ndikuyang'ana nkhani zopambana kuti ndipitirize, ndikuyembekeza kuti zanga zitha kuthandiza ena
Ichi ndi chachitali, chidalembedwa mutu mpaka m'munsi, koma tl ndi:
- pitani zolimba osachepera poyamba
- tsekani zida zanu (K9 ndiyopulumutsa)
- Yang'anirani masiku anu (madeti, kuwerengera kwathunthu ndi chingwe chamakono)
- sokoneza ubale pakati pa manja anu ndikuchoka (pezani chidole cha manja)
- Pezani mafuta odzola kuti musangalale (zambiri pa amazon ndi zina)
- zindikirani momwe mumazindikira akazi
- yang'anani pazowonjezera, ngakhale litakhala tsiku loyipa zindikirani kupita patsogolo konse
- kuleza mtima, njirayi ikuthandizirani
Tsiku 1: Zindikirani kuti ndivuto, mukungoyesa kuti muone ngati nditha kuyimitsa M kapena P Kulimbana ndi onse, kudzuka kuti ndi vuto lalikulu bwanji
Tsiku 47: Yoyamba mode. Ikuyenda bwino, yosanjikizana pang'ono, ndikugwiritsabe ntchito ma p ambiri
Tsiku 104: Dulani mode olimba ndi MO kwa nthawi yoyamba m'masiku a 58. Kutalika kwakukulu kopanda MO popanda izi pakatha pafupifupi milungu iwiri. M itha kukhala bwino ngati ichitika mosamala
Tsiku 126: Yesani kugonana, komabe PIED ndipo simungathe. Ndinkangochita mwachisawawa. p subs akadali vuto panthawiyi. Yesetsani kukhala otanganidwa kwambiri ndipo mukhale kunja kwa nyumba momwe ndingathere. Zimathandizadi, koma osachira konse.
Tsiku 217: Pezani zogonana, komabe muli ndi zovuta. Zitha kukhala zovuta, koma palibe O ndipo osasangalala ndi kugonana
Tsiku 261: Zinthu sizikuyenda bwino ndi mtsikanayo kuyambira tsiku la 217 (zifukwa zinanso, osati kugonana kokha) komanso kumayambiranso zoipa kwa mwezi umodzi. Siyani kutsatira masiku kwakanthawi, amodzi mwa otsika kwambiri pochita izi. Khalani ndi masiku abwino ndi oyipa, koma pitilizani kubwereza masabata angapo aliwonse kwa miyezi ingapo
Tsiku 355: Mukadwala kwambiri chifukwa cholimbana ndi vutoli, yambani kupanga phili pamutu. Ndinawerenga 'Ubongo Wanu pa Zolaula' kuti mudzozedwe kwambiri kuti mupitirize ndikuzindikira kuchuluka kwa ma p omwe akhala akupweteketsa kupititsa patsogolo kwanga nthawi yonse. Ndikonzanso zowerengera zanga zomwe ndikuyamba kuyambiranso ndipo ndiyambiranso.
Tsiku 406: Pambuyo pakupita masiku angapo ndi mtsikana, ndipo titatha kulumikizana pang'ono, timayamba kulimbitsa thupi ndipo ndimatha kuchoka pa kugonana, ngakhale nditakhala ndi kondomu. Komabe sindinabwererenso ku 100%, koma kusintha kwakukulu, ndimatha kumva kuti tsiku likubwera posachedwa.
Tsiku 409: Khalani oyera koyera kuyambira tsiku 355, ndipo mudagonana koyamba nthawi yayitali kwambiri. Sanakhale motalika monga momwe ndimafunira, koma zinali zovuta nthawi yonseyi ndipo nditakhala kuti sindinachite bwino
Kwa inu omwe mumakonda zakumbuyo / tsatanetsatane:
Anayamba achinyamata achichepere a pmo, analibe vuto lililonse mpaka 21/22 - anali ndi maubwenzi angapo oyipa amapita kumwera, adasandulika ngati kuthawa ndipo adakhala wopitilira muyeso, sanazindikire kuti pali china cholakwika mpaka atasochera kwambiri ndi mtsikana yemwe ndidalidi naye. Sindinazindikire kuti zinali chiyani panthawiyo, ndinangoziwombera ngati imodzi ndipo sindinasinthe chilichonse. Pies zija zitachitikanso pambuyo pake, ndidayamba kuzindikira kuti china chake sichili bwino, koma sindimadziwa kuti chinali chiyani. Pambuyo pake tidakumana ndi zotsutsana ndi intaneti ndipo zidafika kunyumba. Sindinakhulupirirebe poyamba, china chomwe chimawoneka chofala sichingakhale choipa sichingakhale?
Ndidayamba kuyesa kuyimitsa pmo kuti ndiwone ngati ndingathe, ndipo ndidatopa kwambiri zomwe ndidazindikira. Pafupifupi mwezi umodzi, ndidakumana ndi vuto ndipo zidandikhudza kwambiri kuti ili ndi vuto lalikulu bwanji. Nditazindikira za njira ya masiku a 90, nthawi yomweyo ndidalowa zovuta, ndipo ndatha pafupifupi miyezi iwiri poyesa koyamba. Pomwe ine sindiri O panthawiyo, ndimangokhalira kuyang'ana zinthu zambirimbiri ndipo ndimakhala ndi malingaliro ambiri p. Kupita patsogolo kwenikweni koma osayandikira kubwera. Zolembedwa k9 ndi blocker wina pama foni anga, omwe adathandiza kwambiri. Ngakhale mutha kuzimitsa, ndinapeza opunthira nthawi zambiri akukwanitsa kuthamanga mukakhala pakompyuta ndikukulimbikitsani. Pa miyezi itatu, anayesanso kugonana, ndipo anali ndi mzimu wofinya. Msungwana wokongola kwambiri, adabwera kwa ine, koma sanathe kuyimirira.
Ndinayesera kuwonjezeranso zoyesayesa zanga kwa miyezi ingapo yotsatira, koma ndimagwiritsabe ntchito subs subs kwambiri, zomwe zimalepheretsa kupita patsogolo komwe mungathe kupitako kwakanthawi. Anayeseranso kugonana pafupifupi pafupi miyezi isanu ndi umodzi. Panthawi imeneyi panali kusintha, anali wokhoza kulimba komanso kuti amalowerera. Komabe sanachiritsidwe, sanathe ku O kapena kusangalala kwambiri ndi kugonana. Zinthu zitasokonekera ndi mtsikanayo, ndidapumulanso koyamba pafupifupi tsiku la 250. Mwezi wotsatira unali woyipa, wobwereranso ambiri komanso masiku ochepa oyera. Sindikukhala ngati ndikupeza wolimba mtima kuti ndipitilize kumenya nkhondo nditayilowetsa miyezi yambiri popanda umboni wabwino. Ndidayimitsanso kuyang'anira masikuwo, ndikungosiya kalendala yanga yopanda dzina m'malo mwa kuilemba kuti ndi tsiku labwino kapena loipa.
Pambuyo pake ndidazindikira kuti ndapita patsogolo ndipo p sinandigwire konse, ngakhale ndinali ndisanayerebe. Kutatsala pang'ono kufika chaka chimodzi, ndinadzakhala ndi tsiku lokwanira. Ndinayang'ana ku NoFap kuti ndikulimbikitseni ndipo ndinapeza zambiri za bukuli 'Ubongo Wanu pa Zithunzi' ndipo ndinagula (ndikuganiza kuti inali pafupifupi $ 5 ya mtundu wa pdf - ndiyofunika kwambiri). Ndiyenera kuwerengedwa kwa iwo omwe akuvutikirabe, imagwira ntchito yayikulu pofotokoza ndikupereka zitsanzo za momwe vutoli lilili - osati lakuthupi - komanso momwe ndikofunikira kuyambiranso ubongo wanu kuti ubwerere mwakale. Ubongo wanu umatha kuwumbika, ndipo ngakhale zimatenga nthawi, sizichedwa kuti mukhalenso athanzi. Ndinayambanso kutsatira kalendala yanga, ndipo ndakhala woyera kwathunthu kuyambira pamenepo. Sindinakumanepo ndi atsikana ambiri posachedwa, choncho ndinayamba kugwiritsa ntchito mapulogalamu azibwenzi kuti ndikumane ndi anthu atsopano ndikukhala omasuka kukhala pachibwenzi ndikukhala ndekha. Ambiri mwa madetiwo anali ovuta chifukwa chokomana pa intaneti, koma patatha ochepa panali chimodzi pomwe tidayamba ndipo tidayamba kucheza nthawi yayitali limodzi.
Poyamba ndinalibe chitsimikizo kuti ma penti apita ndipo ndinali wamanjenje kuti zinthu zikafika pathupi. Tidatenga pang'onopang'ono, kudutsa masiku angapo tisanayambe kuchita chibwibwi, ndipo koyamba kangapo kumangomanga kumene kuti sindimva ngati ndikadatha kuchita. Koma zinayamba kubwerera pang'onopang'ono. Takhala ndi magazi ofulumira titangotuluka kangapo. Ndipo nthawi yotsatira, tidatha kugonana. Ndidabwera mwachangu, ngakhale ndili ndi kondomu, koma osachepera ndimatha kutsika. Tinachitanso monga patatha sabata limodzi, ndipo ngakhale tinali amantha pang'ono komanso osadziwa ngati zingakhale bwino, tinatha kugonana, molimbika nthawi yonse. Sichiri kwenikweni 100%, koma posachedwa. Kusiyana kwakukulu ndikusintha kwamaganizidwe. Kungoganiza za iye nditha kukhala wokondwa, ndipo malingaliro a p samabweranso nthawi zambiri. Ngakhale ndikofunikira kuti ndidziwe momwe mphamvu ya p ilili, (ndikusungabe zida zanga kuti ndizikhala osamala) sichinthu chomwe chimandiitanira kwinanso.
Njira zomwe Ndidagwiritsa ntchito kukonza Vuto la PMO
Ndikudziwa kuti inali nkhani yayitali kwambiri - ndiye ndidakwanitsa bwanji kupitilira masiku 200 ndikuyesera koyamba? Ndiloleni ndigawe zomwe zidandigwirira ntchito komanso malingaliro ake. Kuyamba ndi chinthu chachikulu chomwe chidapweteka kupita patsogolo kwanga - inali p subs. Ndikuganiza kuti zimandilepheretsa kuposa kubwerera mmbuyo. Ma p subs ndi ovuta - instagram, twitter, zotsatsa, masamba a meme, makamaka pa intaneti. Ndipo ndizosavuta kuganiza kuti kuziwona kuli bwino, chifukwa si zolaula, koma kuziyang'ana kuli kofanana kwambiri ndi zolaula kuubongo wanu ndikuchepetsanso ubongo wanu.
Chinthu chimodzi chomwe ndidachita kuthandiza ndi rewire ndikusiya kuseweretsa maliseche ndi manja anga - ndidagula chidole chogonana chopanda manja - nyini yabodza chabe. Ndikuganiza kuti izi zinali zofunikira chifukwa panthawi yogonana komanso kukondana, palibe ubale pakati pa dzanja lanu ndi inu nokha, ndikofunikira kufooketsa kapena kuswa chibwenzicho. Mutha kumaliza M'ing nthawi ina mukamachira, ndipo ndi chidole chopanda manja, ndizosavuta kuyerekezera zenizeni, kuzolowera zofananira ndikuganiza za mkazi weniweni, osangotayika zolaula . Ndidapezanso kuti zathandizidwa ndikudzidalira kogonana chifukwa choseweretsa chidali chofanana kwambiri ndi kugonana kwenikweni komwe M'ing.
Mwa masiku 409, ndimangophonya kutsatira pafupifupi 30 mwa iwo. Ndasunga spreadsheet ndi deti, kuwerengera tsiku lonse komanso kuwerengera kwaposachedwa, ndimitundu yosiyanasiyana tsiku lopambana (palibe p, subs kapena m) tsiku labwino (m wopanda p kapena p subs) masiku oyipa (m ndi p subs ) ndipo amabwereranso. Zimathandiza kuyendetsa kunyumba kuti muyenera kupeza tsiku lililonse labwino komanso labwino, ndikuzindikira momwe mumakhalira - kodi ndikuyang'ana p subs ndikatopa / kupsinjika / manjenje ndi zina? Ndipo dziwani pamene muli pachiwopsezo ndikupanga njira zothetsera malingaliro anu otsika. Muthanso kugwiritsa ntchito tracker kuti muwone kupita patsogolo kwanu pakapita nthawi - ndakhala ndi masiku angati? - Kapenanso momwe mungafune kuwononga.
Ndikofunikanso kuzindikira kuti sizinthu zofananira bwino, ndidakwera ndikutsika modzikweza komanso nthawi yolira, ndinali ndi masiku oyipa pakati pa 250-350 ngakhale ndimakhala bwino ndipo ndakhala ndikumenya nkhondo kwanthawi yayitali. Zomwe pamapeto pake zidandithandizira ndikukwaniritsa cholinga changa chonse ndikupanga kupita patsogolo pang'ono tsiku lililonse kapena sabata iliyonse. Pitirizani kumangirira pazabwino zilizonse zomwe muli nazo, ngakhale zitangopita m'maola ochepa osabwereranso kapena kutembenukira ku p subs. Ndinawona kusintha chizolowezichi kunandipangitsa kukhala wathanzi m'malo ena amoyo. Ndayamba kudya bwino komanso mosasinthasintha, zomwe zimandithandiza kuti ndikhale wosangalala. Ndayambanso kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndikupanga zina zambiri munthawi yanga yaulere, ndi mwayi wabwino kutengapo zosangalatsa zatsopano - zonse zabwino kwambiri. Ndipo izi zili pamwamba pa maubwino osakhalanso ndi utsi wamaubongo, kudzidalira kwambiri, kupanga abwenzi ambiri ndikukhala osangalala ambiri.
Kwa ambiri aife, zolaula zimasintha momwe mumaonekera / kuganiza za akazi. Kodi mungaganizire zogonana mukawona mtsikana wotentha kapena mukuyankhula ndi iye? Kapena mutha kungowawona ngati anthu, ndikukambirana nawo zomwe amakonda ndikukhala momasuka ndikukhala nokha? Ichi ndi chopinga china chachikulu chamalingaliro choyenera kuthana nacho - azimayi alibe chidwi ndi munthu yemwe samatha kukambirana ndikungoganiza zogonana. Ichi ndi gawo la ndondomekoyi yomwe ingatenge kanthawi.
Kukhala ndi zolaula zazitali ndizofunikira pantchitoyo, koma sizikuwoneka kuti mudzakhalanso wathanzi. Kuyimitsa machitidwe oyipa sikungapangitsenso kulumikizana ndikukhala pachibwenzi ndi wina. Izi zikutanthauza kuti kusiya zolaula ndi gawo limodzi la ubongo rewire. Pamene zolaula (ndi zolaula) sizili m'moyo wanu, gawo lotsatira ndikupanganso kulumikizana kwapamtima. Chosiyana ndi kusapezeka ndikulumikiza. Kuyanjana kwanu koyamba ndi azimayi nthawi yanu ya rewire kumatha kukhala kovuta ndipo osapita momwe mumafunira, izi ndi zabwino ndipo ndi gawo limodzi la njirayi. Musachedwe, ndipo pitirizani kuphunzira nthawi iliyonse ndikupita patsogolo. Kusintha kwenikweni kumachitika pomwe nthawi zonse mumatha kuzindikira ndi kuzindikira cholinga chotsirizira (chibwenzi? Mkazi? Kugonana kwenikweni ndi chibwenzi?). Dzipangireni nyundo kwanu kuti iyi ndi ntchito yayitali, ndipo zolaula sizidzabwereranso m'moyo wanu. Mukakwanitsa kupanga izi mkati, zovuta zilizonse zazing'ono ndizosavuta kuthana nazo ndikudziyikiranso kunjaku (ngakhale zitakhala zovuta komanso sizikuyenda bwino) ndi gawo lofunikira pantchitoyi - ndipo ndikofunikira kuti mupambane nkhondoyi ndi chiwanda chimene tikulimbana nacho.
Ndisiyira zinthu ziwiri zomaliza. 1 - ngati mukufuna zizolowezi, onani 'Mphamvu ya Chizolowezi' wolemba Charles Duhigg. Zilibe chidwi ndi zolaula makamaka, koma za momwe zizolowezi zimakhalira gawo lalikulu pamoyo wathu. Ndipo koposa zonse, momwe mungapewere / kusintha zizolowezi zoipa ndikuzisintha ndi zathanzi.
Ndipo 2 - samalani posintha zolaula ndi chizolowezi china choyipa (mwachitsanzo, kusewera masewera apakanema tsiku lonse m'malo mwake) Koma mutanena izi, khalani ndi ndondomeko yolimbana ndi zomwe mukufuna, kaya mukuchoka panyumba, kukankhira 20 pomwepo, kapena kusewera masewera apakanema. Ngakhale zomwe mukusokoneza sizabwino, gwiritsani ntchito kuthandizira kulimbana, kumenya nkhondo, kulimbana ndi zolaula. Sungani mzerewu wamoyo, si nkhani yoti mudzachira, koma nkhani yoti mudzachira liti.
LINK - Masiku 409 Kupambana - Mbiri ndi momwe ndidakhalira wathanzi
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