Monga mnyamata yemwe ali ndi matenda amisala komanso kukhumudwa kwakukulu m'moyo wanga wonse chifukwa chazisoni, nthawi ina ndidawerenga buku la C-PTSD, ndipo panali gawo lonena za momwe anthu omwe ali nalo akhoza kukhala osokoneza bongo kwambiri. Izi zimandiwopsa chifukwa ndimadziwa kuti ndi ine ndipo ndinkachita mantha ndi momwe moyo wanga ungayendere, kuti sindingadzakhale pachibwenzi pomwepo komanso kuti atsikana omwe ndidakumana nawo kale anali mwayi wamwayi komanso kuthekera kokwanira kukhala ndi mwayi wokumana ndi anthu kudzera mwa omwe ndimadziwana nawo kapena kumaphwando ndipo sindinabwererenso izi.
Chifukwa cha NoFap, ndinayambiranso kuyendetsa galimoto komanso luso langa locheza nawo. Ndakhala moyo wanga wonse osafunsa mtsikana. Ndinali ndi ma gf kale koma chifukwa chakuti anali olimba mtima mokwanira kuti awonetse kuti amandikonda kapena kuti andifunse okha. Sindinamufunse msungwana panokha, sindinamufunse mtsikana pa intaneti. Ndinkaopa kukanidwa ndipo sindinakhalepo ndi vuto lodzikankhira ndikuika pachiwopsezo. Osanenapo ine ndinali ndi matenda a nkhawa pamwamba pa nkhawa aliyense amene sadziwa zambiri amaganiza zopempha mkazi wokongola.
Chifukwa cha NoFap, kuthekera koopsa pachiwopsezo, ndidamufunsa mtsikanayo, poyamba amawoneka ngati bwenzi koma ndidamva kuti kukopa kunali kwamphamvu kotero ndidapitilira ndipo tidakhala limodzi Khrisimasi yathu ndikupanga zachiwerewere. Ndinkachita mantha poyamba kuti sindingathe kumusangalatsa koma adazikonda ndipo mpaka adandigulira chakudya cham'mawa pambuyo pake.
Tsoka ilo ndabwereranso posachedwa pambuyo poti ndakhala ndi masiku a 42 chifukwa chonditumizira mameseji anditumizira zithunzi kwambiri kuyambira pamenepo. Izi zati ndangobwereranso kumaganizo ndi zithunzi zake kotero ndikhulupilira kuti sizingapangitse kupita patsogolo kwanga kwambiri.
Zabwino zonse, dutsani, mupeza kuyendetsa kwatsopano mkati mwanu pamoyo ndi zonse zomwe ikupatsani.
By KhalidKal
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