Monga mutu ukunena kuti ndangomaliza kumene ulendo wanga wa masiku a 90. Ndidakumana ndi zolaula komanso zolaula ndili mwana kwambiri, ndili pasukulu ya pulaimale. Ndili mu giredi lachiwiri (ndinali ngati 7 kapena 8) Ndinkachita bonzo nthawi yoyamba. Ndipo ndinali ndi zaka za 9-10 pamene ndidakumana koyamba ndi zolaula.
Ine ndi abwenzi tinayang'ana makanema ena katatu kapena kanayi mpaka atagwidwa (tiyeni timutche kuti Finn) Amayi a Finn. Komabe, sindinakhale nawo nthawi imeneyo - zikomo mulungu!
Komabe, adandilanda ndipo Amayi a Finn adauza makolo anga kuti inenso ndimachita nawo… Makolo anga sanandilange kwenikweni, anangondiuza kwakanthawi.
Sindinayang'ane zolaula mpaka ndinali 14 (kalasi ya 8th), komabe ndidapitilizabe kuseweretsa maliseche kangapo pamlungu. Zinali mpaka mnzake yemweyo adawonetsa makanema pafoni yake (mukuyenera kulingalira akuwona azaka khumi khumi ndi zinayi akukhala mozungulira foni imodzi) ndipo ndidayamba kuwonera zolaula kunyumba nthawi zonse. Pomwe ndimaziona kangapo pamlungu koyambirira, ndimatha kuyang'ana zolaula kangapo patsiku, tsiku lililonse.
Ndidapunthwa r / noFap ndi r / zolaula mozungulira miyezi 4 yapitayo. Panthawiyo ndinali pa nthawi yomwe kuwonera zolaula sikunali kosangalatsa. Ndikhoza kunena monyadira kuti sindinakhalepo wonyansa kapena wosaloledwa komabe zolaula zomwe ndimaziwona sizinandiyambitsenso.
Ndinaganiza zosiya kuseweretsa maliseche ndipo ndinakhala masiku atatu mpaka nditabwereranso. Ndinapitilizabe kubisalira mgawoli, ndikuwerenga zamphamvu zonse ndi nkhani zopambana ndipo ndidaganiza zopita nazo - pitani molimba kapena mupite kunyumba.
Ndidayamba ulendo wanga pa 19 February ndikumaliza dzulo. Zambiri zidachitika m'miyezi itatu iyi, ndizovuta ngakhale kuzifotokoza.
Chinthu choyamba kusintha chinali malingaliro anga - ndinayamba kukhala wokhumudwa kwambiri ndikukhala wosangalala komanso osakwiya pafupipafupi. Chachiwiri ndinali ndimiyala yolimba kachiwiri koyamba kwa mibadwo!
Sindikufuna kulankhula za "zoposa" kwambiri, chifukwa ndinazindikira kuti mumangokhala munthu wabwinobwino - ngakhale omwe amati ndiopambana adandilimbikitsa pachiyambi. Kuphatikiza pakulimbikitsidwa kwanga ndikudzidalira, ndidawona zosintha zina monga utsi waubongo zatha, kuwonjezeka kwa chidwi ndi mphamvu komanso kukhala ndi mphamvu zambiri.
Kunena zowona sindikuganiza kuti moyo wanga wasintha msanga motere kukhala wabwino kuposa kale lonse. Ndidakhazikitsa zochitika zingapo m'moyo wanga watsiku ndi tsiku, ndidakwaniritsa cholinga mu bizinesi yanga yomwe ndimayesetsa kwakanthawi ndipo pamapeto pake ndidakumana ndi amuna kapena akazi ena. Ndisanayambe nofap ndinalibe kwenikweni kugonana (ndinkakakamiza mtsikana kudzera mu mathalauza ake koma sizimawerengera imo), komabe m'miyezi itatu ya nofap ndinakumana ndi atsikana angapo ndipo ndinazindikira kuti PMO ndizosangalatsa kwambiri kuposa kuziona wekha.
Chachikulu kwambiri ndikuti pamapeto pake ndapeza chikondi. Ndinakumana ndi msungwana wokongola kwambiri masabata angapo apitawa pa Tinder, tinakumana ndipo tinali ndi mgwirizano nthawi yomweyo. Zinthu zinali kuyenda mwachangu, tinakhala banja titakumana kachiwiri ndipo adandiuza kuti amandikonda patsiku lathu lachitatu.
Pomwe ndimakonda kujambula zolaula ndimakhala wokhumudwa chifukwa chokhala namwali ndili ndi zaka 19 (ndinapsompsona koyamba ndili ndi zaka 18 btw) koma nditagonana ndi chibwenzi changa koyamba ndinazindikira kuti kunali koyenera kudikira - ngakhale ndidangokhala kwa masekondi angapo.
Sindingakhale wokondwa kwambiri ndi bwenzi langa komanso PMO wanga wopanda moyo - sindimaganiziranso zolaula komanso kuseweretsa maliseche ndipo sindingakumbukire zomwe ndimakonda kuwonera makanema. Komabe, ndinaganiza zosiya nofap (ndithudi osabwereranso ku zolaula kapena kumwa mowa mopitirira muyeso). Sindikufuna kubwerera ku zolaula koma ndikadziseweretsa maliseche ndisanawone chibwenzi changa, makamaka chifukwa sindinathe ngakhale masekondi a 10 nthawi zingapo zomwe tidagonana (ngati muli ndi malingaliro ena momwe mungakhalire nthawi yayitali bedi chonde ndidziwitseni: D).
Kuti ndithe, ndiyenera kunena kuti nofap yasintha moyo wanga. Mwinamwake osati mwa njira yomwe anthu ena pano adadziwira (pali ma bs ambiri mu subreddit nayenso) koma ndinaganiza zambiri za ine ndekha ndi moyo wamba.
Ndinali pafupi kubwerera mobwerezabwereza nthawi zambiri m'masiku 90wa koma ndine wonyada kwambiri kuti sindinapereke chilimbikitso ndikukhala wolimba. Kwa aliyense amene akuganiza zosiya zolaula kapena PMO: ingozichita! Ngakhale simungakwanitse masiku 90, sabata yakuonera zolaula komanso PMO yaulere ndichabwino kwambiri ngati mungakwaniritse kangapo patsiku! (Musagwiritse ntchito nthawi yanu yaulere pa subreddit iyi, monga momwe ndinachitira m'masabata angapo oyamba tho!)
Tithokoza aliyense mkati r / nofap ndi r / zolaula pondilimbikitsa ndikundisonyeza kuti pali zinthu zabwinoko kunja uko kuposa ma pixels pazenera ndikungodzigwira dzanja langa! Pepani chifukwa cha zolakwika zilizonse za kalembedwe kapena masanjidwe pomwe ndikulemba izi pafoni yanga.
Kwa aliyense amene akuwerenga izi: KHALANI!
LINK - Ndazichita!!! - masiku 90
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