Zaka za 2 zapitazo lero lero ndidayambitsa NF yanga yomwe ndidamaliza, zidachitika pafupifupi mosintha ndikusintha moyo wanga pansi pamalingaliro ambiri ndipo ndi chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe lero ndimapanga ziwerengero zisanu ndi chimodzi, kukhala ndi gf, ndikuwona dziko mosiyana. Iyi ndi nkhani yanga, ndikuyembekeza kuti ingathandize kulimbikitsa wina yemwe angakhale akuvutika kuti awone kuwala. Ndawongolera zitsogozo potengera zokumana nazo zanga ndikuwona kumapeto. Cholemba chidatuluka motalika (cha mawu a 7) ndipo sizofunikira kuti muwerenge zonse ngati simukufuna, koma nkhani yonseyo imathandiza kumvetsetsa komwe ndimachokera, mavuto anga anali otani, komanso momwe amakonzera nokha mutangomanga mphamvu zanu, mkati ndi pambuyo pa NF. Chingerezi si chilankhulo changa - chonde mukhululukire zolakwitsa kapena mawu osafunikira.
Positi idapangidwa monga:
Introduction
Chidule cha zomwe ndasintha zomwe ndimatha kulumikizana mwachindunji ku NF, ndikunena za nthawi yomwe zidawatenga kuti ndiziwone
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Munthu amene ndidalipo kale
Nkhaniyo
Mayendedwe opambana
Ndikugwiritsa ntchito chinthu chotaya ngati ichi - sindine wogwiritsa ntchito kwambiri kapena china koma ichi ndichinthu chobisika kwambiri chomwe ndidzaonetsetse intaneti kotero kuti sindichita ngozi. Ndidzayang'anira akauntiyi pafupipafupi (kamodzi kamodzi pa sabata) bola ikugwira ntchito, kuti ndithandizire kupeza mayankho ndi ma DM.
Chosindikizachi sichingokhala kwa NF, chikhala nkhani yananso yosintha moyo wanga yomwe NF idandipatsa mphamvu komanso kuti ndizilimbikitsira. Cholemba ichi chikulembedwera amuna omwe ali ndi ma 20 awo, ndipo ena akhoza kupeza kuti zina zake zimakhumudwitsa. Ikufotokoza mitu yosalumikizana monga kusintha kwamunthu ndi zochitika zina (makamaka zokhudza akazi). Ndikudziwa FAQ ndikulangiza motsutsana koma ndi gawo la nkhani yanga komanso zomwe zimandilola kuti ndizichita bwino.
tsamba loyambilira
Chifukwa chake, chifukwa chomwe ndikufuna kukuwuzani nkhani yanga inu anyamata ndikuti lero ndi chikumbutso chachiwiri cha "thanthwe langa", kapena tsiku lomwe ndinayamba ulendo wanga wa NF. Ndikuyang'ana tsopano ngati chochitika chofunikira kwambiri cha uchikulire wanga. Zaka ziwiri zapitazi zidandisinthira m'njira zomwe sindingaganize, ndipo sindingathe kunena kuti 100% ya zabwino ku NF (gawo lina lodzikongoletsa lidachita mbali yayikulu komanso mikhalidwe), zidali zosakayikitsa chothandizira, "wosakusunthika" ngati mungafune kuzilemba mwatsatanetsatane.
Ndikufuna kunena kuti "ndinayambiranso" zolaula zaka zakubadwa pambuyo pa NF. Sindinasiye kuseweretsa maliseche kwaubwino, ndipo sindinakhalepo osadziseweretsa maliseche mpaka pano. Koma "wamkulu" akatsala, ngati mutha kupitiliza kugwiritsa ntchito luso lanu mukulimbitsa malingaliro anu omwe angakuthandizireni kuti musabwerenso, ndipo, osakhalabe wabwino, mutha kuwawona ngati achabechabe. ma Speedbumps ndi masabata awiri mini-NF mini-NF adzakhala okwanira kuti akuwongolereni. Kumbukirani kuti Kudziseweretsa maliseche ndikwachilengedwe komanso osati koopsa ngati sikuzunzidwa, adani enieni ndi zolaula komanso kungosangalala nthawi yomweyo.
Uwu ndiye gawo lalitali popeza ndikufuna kunena nkhani yanga mokwanira. Nditsimikiza kuti ndiphatikizanso tl; dr komanso upangiri wanga wopambana nawo paulendowu.
Zotsatira za NF
Choyamba, zomwe ndakwaniritsa zomwe ndingathe kunena za NF (ndizomwe zidatenga nthawi yayitali kuyambira chiyambi cha NF yanga):
A) Anathawa mnzakeyo (osakwana mwezi umodzi ku NF chifukwa chodzetsa chidwi chake, miyezi iwiri kwa kupsompsona koyamba (ndipo yekha) - manyazi anali kupita kudziko lina. Izi zonse zidabwera pambuyo pa 1 ndi theka lakumazungulira mozungulira iye komanso makamaka kukhala bwenzi lake gay. Sindinali kukondana kwambiri ndi mtsikana uyu koma anali ndi mphamvu zambiri pa ine ndipo ndinalota za iye kwambiri .. Usiku wokhala naye pafupi chinali chochitika chachikulu chomwe chinapangitsa NF - werengani nkhaniyi zambiri).
B) Masiku angapo oyambira ndi ma Hook up, nthawi zambiri amachoka pa chibwenzi (m'miyezi mwachindunji pambuyo pa NF, pomalizira pake ndinathetsa NF chifukwa ndimawopa kuti ndikakumana ndi vuto la kuyeserera kugona ndi mtsikana pambuyo pake 3 + miyezi yopanda kanthu, kotero masiku angapo tsiku lofunikira lisanachitike ndidaganiza zomaliza NF pambuyo masiku a 93. Onani nkhaniyo mwanjira yachilendo yomwe ndidachita).
C) Mnzake wamkazi (pafupifupi 6 miyezi itatha kutha kwa NF komanso atagona mozungulira pa point B - tidakali pano mpaka lero).
D) Kukula kwambiri pakudzilimbitsa mtima ndi luso lochita zinthu ndi anthu ena (nthawi yoyamba yomwe ndinazindikira kuti inali mwezi umodzi ku NF, ngakhale zinali zambiri zanyengo komanso makamaka zopangidwa ndi kuphunzira kwanga kwina) sub-reddit).
E) Kuyima kuloleza kuti kuthamanga kwa thupi langa ndi malingaliro anga, kukhwime kwambiri (izi ndikuthokoza chifukwa cha kukula koma kusiyana pre-post NF inali yamisala).
F) Ndidayamba kugwira ntchito mozama komanso mosasintha (kuti ndikhale wachilungamo ndidayamba mwezi umodzi NF isanachitike koma popanda kukankha kwambiri. Mu NF ndidakhazikitsa njira ndikuyamba kuwona kupita patsogolo).
G) Kusintha kwantchito yanga kuntchito, komwe kumapeto kwa chaka komanso ntchito inadumphanso pasanathe chaka chomwe chinandipatsa ntchito yanga sikisiyanu (ndinali kale wogwira ntchito bwino koma ine anali wachinyamata kwambiri woti sangathe kupanga china chantchito chomwe ndimapatsidwa. Zonsezi pamwambapa zidandilola kuyang'ana moyo wanga molunjika, ndikuyenda bwino.
Ndikudziwa kuti zikuwoneka ngati zambiri ndipo ndinu aufulu kwambiri kuganiza kuti ndikukuwopsezani - ndipo popeza ndicholinga changa kuti ndisadziwike momwe ndingathere sindiyesera kutsimikizira zomwe ndikunena - koma onani kuti sindikutenga ndalama kapena udindo pazomwezi - zomwe ndikufuna ndikungolimbikitsa wina kuti achitepo kanthu mogwirizana ndi zomwe ndikuwona kuti ndizodziwika bwino pamoyo wanga wachikulire. Ndikudziwa kuti ndinalinso mwayi ndipo zinthu zambiri zinachitika nthawi yoyenera kuti zindilore kuchita bwino kwambiri pa NF, koma maziko ake anali ndipo nthawi zonse NF itandilola kuwona ndikutenga mwayi womwe ndidapatsidwa osati kuyang'ana njira inayo (mwina patsamba lolaula).
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ndinali kutsegula 10 + hr / sabata kuti ndione zolaula, osazindikira vutoli chifukwa sikunasokoneze kwambiri moyo wanga
inagunda pansi ndikumverera ngati munthu womvera chisoni kwambiri padziko lapansi nditazindikira kuti ndili pamalo opanda chiyembekezo
china chake chimayenera kusintha, kuyambitsa NF ndikuphunzira momwe mungayanjirane ndi azimayi enieni
adayamba kuchitapo kanthu, kutuluka njira kuchokera kumalo achitonthozo ndikusangalala nawo kwambiri
adayamba kumanga chidaliro, adasiya kuganiza kwambiri, adasiya kumverera ngati zoyipa nthawi zonse chifukwa cha zolaula / mafayilo
adayamba kumvetsetsa momwe angakhalire ndi atsikana, chifukwa cha chidaliro chatsopano chomwe chidachokera ku NF
anati atsikana amachita 180 ndipo pamapeto pake timapsompsona osakwana miyezi iwiri kulowa NF
NF ikutha ndipo ndabadwanso, ndimamva kufunika kogonana, ndimapitilizanso kukwiya ndipo sindingakhulupirire miyezi ingapo ndisanakhale osamala za azimayi ndipo sindikadakhala ndi lingaliro lililonse (PIED ndi pang'ono komanso ndi zenizeni)
abwereranso kuzinthu zolaula kangapo kwa masiku angapo, atazindikira kuti zimatengera zochepa kuti mubwererenso pa njanji mukazindikira kusintha konse komwe kumabwera ndi NF
NF inali yothandizira kupha kuntchito kwambiri, kukwezedwa, kusintha ntchito, ziwerengero zisanu ndi chimodzi, zonse chifukwa malingaliro anga sanali achipongwe panonso
Simuyenera kusiya kuseweretsa maliseche pazabwino - zolaula ndiye mdani weniweni pano
Mbiri - yemwe ine ndinali
Mnyamata wakale wa 20s, wogwira ntchito, mwa matanthauzidwe onse ozindikira (osachita manyazi ndipo amakhala ndi abwenzi nthawi zonse koma amakhala ndi zovuta zambiri zotsegulira anthu atsopano kotero zingatenge nthawi yayitali kuti mupange abwenzi kulikonse komwe ndikanapita), ndinasamukira kumalo atsopano dzikolo pafupi 1 ndi theka zaka zisanachitike komwe ndimadziwa mtsikana (izi sizokhazokha, sindinam'chonderere). Ndinalibe abwenzi mdziko muno kupatula mtsikana yemwe anati (timutchereni A) kotero ndinayamba kuzungulira mozungulira, anali msungwana wamba yemwe amawonetsa umunthu wamphamvu koma wamkati ngati anyamata olimba. Sanali wokonda pang'ono kapena chilichonse, anali mnzake wabwino (ndipo ngakhale sitimakumana kwambiri). Ndimaganiza kuti ndikamakhala naye pafupi ndikukhala munthu wabwino ndikulola kuti ayambe kuchitapo kanthu mwina china chake chitha kuchitika - mnyamatayo ndinali ndikulakwitsa ndipo tsopano ndikuganiza zobwerera nthawi imeneyi ndikukula. Sindinali mchikondi kapena kalikonse, sindingatchuleko kuti ndizophwanya, koma zoona zake zinali zakuti anali ndi mphamvu pa ine ndipo ndimamva kuwawa nthawi zonse tikamazindikira kuti nthawi yathu limodzi imamukhumudwitsa. Ndikutsimikiza izi zikufika pafupi ndi kwathu kwa anyamata ambiri inu.
Sindinakhalepo ndimavuto ambiri ndi atsikana, poganiza kuti nthawi zonse pamakhala mtsikana akaona china chake mwa ine - osati atsikana omwe ndimawasamala. Koma ndikusochera kale, tisiyeni pazomwe zikugwirizana. Sindinali wokonda zolaula malinga ndi matanthauzidwe ake - sindinasiye zochitika zanyumba kuti ndizikhala kunyumba ndikuonera zolaula, ndipo ndimakhala ndi gawo lodziseweretsa maliseche 2 / 3 sabata iliyonse yomwe ili nambala yabwino. Vuto lokhalo ndiloti gawo lirilonse lingakhale 2 mpaka 5 maola anga ndikulumpha kuchokera pa zolaula kupita pa zolaula, reddit, 4chan, Pornhub etc. Ndinkadutsa kangapo ndipo ndimayenera kuwonera zinthu zopotoka kuti zisiye. Sindinawone kuti ili linali vuto popeza silinali kusokoneza kwambiri moyo wanga - ndimachita izi ndikakhala ndi usiku wopanda zolinga, makamaka kumapeto kwa sabata komwe ndimakhala mpaka usiku kwambiri kuti ndichite. Koma chowonadi ndichakuti ndimakhala ndikumva zowawa kwa masiku angapo nditatha kuchita ichi (ndipo malingaliro anga atangoyamba kuvumbuluka inali nthawi yomaliza), sindingathe kulumikizitsa kumverera kwakuti moyo wanga wakhazikika pachithaphwi ndi chizolowezi changa chodziseweretsa maliseche.
Kwa moyo wanga wonse sichinali chinthu chapadera, osati chodandaula kuti ndikusowa kwambiri kusintha kwina koma osapita kulikonse. Ndinkakhala nthawi yambiri ndimagulu anzanga (achikazi), kudziwonetsera moyo wocheza komanso kucheza mokwanira ndi atsikana kuti nditsimikizire kuti ndikuchita bwino, ndimacheza ndi A, ndikupita kumisonkhano yolumikizana mozungulira kusinthana kwa zilankhulo (1 ndi theka chaka chamoyo chatsopano ndipo ndinalibe bwenzi lenileni, kapena kulankhula chilankhulo chakomweko yemwe ndimakhala) komwe ndimalankhula zinthu zomwezi nthawi zonse ndipo sindinayese kuyambitsa ubwenzi weniweni, kungopeka zabodza wamoyo wocheza. Apanso, moyo wosasunthika mokwanira kuti ndikumverera kufunikira kochita izi makamaka chifukwa chodzipusitsa, ndipo malingaliro anga anali odzala ndi maliseche anga omwe ndimalephera kuzindikira kuti anali ovulaza monga momwe amakhalira nthawi ndikadakhala pa videogames kapena makanema otere.
Nkhaniyo
Mwala pansi
Nthawi yotsiriza yomwe ndimalakwitsa m'moyo wanga wakale anali Loweruka, Epulo 8th 2017, koma kuti timvetsetse zomwe zidapangitsa tifunika kuyang'ananso usiku watha. Ndinaitanidwa kuphwando la kunyumba kwa anzanga omwe anali abwenzi ndi A. Sindinkafuna kwenikweni kupita, koma A anali akupita ndipo amadziwa bwino kuti ndikadakhala ndekha kunyumba Lachisanu, kotero ndidaluma chipolopolo ndikuchokapo ndidapita. Phwandoli lidadzaza ndi atsikana, ambiri omwe amapezeka kwambiri kuti akakumana ndi anyamata atsopano (makamaka akunja). Ena mwaiwo adandipatsa ziwonetsero za chiwongola dzanja, makamaka pamene mowa umachoka m'mabotolo kupita ku mabala awo (athu). Koma ayi, sindinali munthu wotero. Sindinamve kufunika kogona ndi mkazi, sindingathe kuchitapo kanthu - konse, ndipo ndinadziwa Sindikadavutika chonchi chifukwa pansi mkati mwanga ndidali kudziwa kuti mapangidwe amasungidwa zolaula. Maganizo - Sindine wachitsanzo koma sindingathe kudandaula za maonekedwe anga ndipo ndikuganiza kuti ndili ndi umunthu wokongola, zomwe ndimasowa ndizo zomwe zidandisangalatsa. Atsikana mwachangu adayamba kundinyalanyaza ndikukonda anyamata omwe amawatsata, kuphatikizapo ofupikitsika, owonda komanso owonda. Izi zitha kuchitika nthawi zonse, ndipo sindinathe kumanga mutu wanga chifukwa chiyani amandipewa mitundu yooneka bwino kwambiri. Koma sindinasamale, A anali pomwepo ndipo ndinapatsidwa mwayi kwa bulu wake. Ndi yekhayo amene ndimamudziwa kumeneko. Munthu wina yekhayo amene ndinacheza naye anali munthu wina yemwe anali wovuta ngati ine. Ndinkatha kuona kuti ndikumakhala wotopa kwambiri kukhala komweko, ndiye adayamba kulankhula ndi munthu wina. Ndinalowa nawo mwachangu nkhani, mwachidziwikire kuti ndinawakhumudwitsa onse. Sanamukonde iye konse, koma ndikuganiza kuti amangofuna kusangalala kwakanthawi popanda ine. Ndidapachikika kwakanthawi kochepa ndisanadzikhululukire. Ndidapita kunyumba ndipo inde, ndidali ndi gawo limodzi lodziseweretsa maliseche, ndikupita kukagona pafupi ndi 5 am. Tsiku lotsatira ndinadzimva ngati zopanda pake, komabe ndinakwanitsa kudziseweretsa maliseche - nthawi ino palibe zolaula ndi zinthu (ndinali pa chimbudzi - mwachisawawa ndimakumbukira) koma ndikuganiza za A. Nditangomaliza izi zidandigwira. Bwanji. Kuyamwa. Wachisoni. I. Zinali. Chisoni - ili ndi tanthauzo labwino kwambiri pamoyo wanga komanso chizolowezi changa chodziseweretsa maliseche. Imeneyi inali nthawi yanga yopumira, sindinadzipusitsenso. Imeneyi sinali njira yokhayo. Ndinaganiza kuti zinali. China chake chinayenera kusintha. Sindinkadziwa za NoFap nthawi imeneyo, ndipo sindinkaganiza zongopita miyezi itatu popanda chilichonse, chifukwa Ndinali kukhulupilirabe kuti vuto langa linali kusowa kwa luso lothandizira kucheza m'malo momangokhalira kutaya nthawi ndikuwona zolaula ndikupeza dopamine yonse yomwe ndimafunako kuchokera kumeneko. Sindinasangalale kwambiri zodziseweretsa maliseche - kumbukirani ziwerengero sizinali zowopsa - Ndinakwiya chifukwa maola a 12 ndisanazunguliridwe ndi oledzera a 20-chinthu chomwe chinafuna china kuposa kungodziwana ndi ma expat okongola, koma mwanjira ina ndinali adatha kuzungulira A, mwina kuwononga usiku wake nawonso, kenako nkubwera kunyumba ndikunena kuti ndidatopa koma ndidakhala maola ambiri ndikuwonera zolaula. Ndiye mwala wanga, Ndinkaona ngati sindingakhale bambo ndikanapitilizabe kuchita ngati chimenecho.
Chiyembekezo chatsopano
Kale miliyoni miliyoni ndi kuwirikiza miliyoni ndidati ndizinena kuti "ndi izi", kuti "zachitika ndi izi", ndipo nthawi iliyonse ndikapita pa imodzi, masabata awiri kenako ndikubwerera ku mraba woyamba . Koma nthawi iyi zinali zosiyana. Ndinkadziwa kuti iyi sinjira yoti munthu azitha kukhalamo wamwamuna, kapena munthu wina aliyense pazinthu zomwe zimafunikira koma chowonadi ndichakuti amuna amayenera kuyang'anira moyo wawo kuposa momwe akazi amachitira. Chifukwa chake kukonzekera kudayamba. Osatinso kukhala wosungulumwa, osatinso kugona ndikuzinyansa, osadikiranso kuti zinthu zindichitikire. Basi. Zikhululukiro. Uwo unali moyo wanga, ndi wanga wokha. Zomwe zidachitika mmoyo wanga udali udindo wanga. Andibera chifukwa ndimayenda molakwika? Zabwino kwambiri, ndikadakhala ndikadakhala kuti ndikadakhala taxi. Atsikana amakhala usiku wonse anyamata 20cm afupikitsa ndi 20kg wonenepa kuposa ine? Zabwino kwambiri zodabwitsa kuti amakonda munthu yemwe akuyamba kuchitapo kanthu (kutanthauza kuti amuchotsere udindo). Simungakhale ovuta kwa mkazi weniweni? Palibe zoyipa, mwina magawo a 4 omwe atenga nthawi yayitali amasewera pano. Ndipo ayi, simukudziphunzitsa nokha kuti mukhale nthawi yayitali, siyani kudzipha.
Ndimadziwa kuti nthawi iyi inali yosiyana. Pambuyo pasanathe mlungu umodzi ndinayamba kuchita zina kuti ndikonze moyo wanga. Panali msungwana wina kuntchito yemwe ndimakhala naye ma khofi ndi ena, onse mwaubwenzi - alibe chidwi ndi chibwenzi kuchokera kwa tonse a ife - koma zinali zodziwikiratu kuti tinali pamavuto ofanana. Kodi ndidayamba ndayesapo kukonza zakunyumba? Ayi, ndimaganiza kuti ndikakhala wokakamira kwambiri, ndikuti ngati angafune achite bungwe. Iye anali wowonjezeredwa kuposa onse. Palibe njira yanji, nthawi ino zili pa ine kotero ndikuponya lingaliroli pagome - sushi sabata ino? Inde kumene. Apanso, palibe amene akuyesera kugona ndi aliyense pano - ndipo lero ndi m'modzi mwa anzanga apamtima (ndipo tonse awiri tidathandizana poyambitsa ubale wathu wapano). Sizinali zolimba, sichoncho. Ndiosavuta kwambiri pamene ubongo wanu sukusunthidwa ndi zoyipa.
Ndimalumphira kunyumba kwa sabata limodzi kuti ndikachite Isitara ndi banja langa, ndipo nthawi zambiri izi zimakhala pachiwopsezo chojambulidwa ndimakhala patchuthi ndikuwona anzanga usiku ndikumachita zochepa tsiku masana. Koma osati nthawi ino. Ndidakumana ndi mnzake wakale (wachikazi), timutche iye B. Ndidali ndi vuto lalikulu kumbuyo kwake ku sekondale, tidali ngakhale milungu iwiri tisanawononge chilichonse ndi malingaliro anga omwe adatchulidwapo kale. Mpaka lero ali m'modzi mwa atsikana ochepa kwambiri omwe ndimawaganizira kuti akadapangidwa bwino, koma moyo umachitika. Chifukwa chake, timapita zaka zambirimbiri osawonananso zakumwa zakumwa, ndikukapeza malangizo ndipo timakhala osangalala. Apanso, palibe chimachitika, palibe kupsompsona kapena chilichonse. Kwa nthawi yoyamba ndimakhala ndikungokhala ndi mkazi wopanda, kwinakwake mwakuya kwa ubongo wanga, ndikulakalaka kuti china chake chitha kuchitika kotero ndiyenera kukhala wogwirika, ndikumangoganiza zoyipa zilizonse kuti ndisamukhumudwitse. Ndine womasuka. Udindo wapano wa 2019 ndikuti timalankhula apa ndi apo ndipo timakumana kamodzi / kawiri pachaka pamene tonse tili mumzinda wakwathu (tonsefe timakhala kunja). Ubwenzi wina unatha paliponse POPANDA Poti ndinasiya kudzipusitsa? Kodi izi ndi zomwe mumadzidalira? Ndipo zomwe ndinangofunika kuchita ndikusiya kukhala wotopetsa? OO. Zindikirani, pakadali pano ndakhala maliseche kwaulere sabata imodzi. Osatinso kuchuluka kwake. Chofunika ndikuyika malingaliro anu pa izi ndikuyambira kuchitapo kanthu kuti musinthe moyo wanu mwamsanga. Ndimayenda kutchuthi changa ndimzimu uwu, ndikumayimbira bwenzi lirilonse lomwe ndimaganiza. Akumva kuyenda bwino.
Kuthawa bwenzi
Mayeso enieni, komabe, ndi A. Pambuyo pake mpaka pano ndakwanitsa kukhala ndekha kuzungulira mnzanga yemwe samandidziwa komanso anzanga akale omwe amandiwona nthawi ya 4 pachaka (kapena sanandioneko zaka zingapo) pankhani ya B). Ndakhala ndikuphwanya thupi kwanga kwa A kwa zoposa chaka tsopano. Mukudziwa bwino, Ndatha ntchito kuti ndipereke. Panopa sindikugwiranso ntchito. Chochitika chimabwera ndi sabata, ndimamulembera kuti achite kena kake ndipo ndazindikira kuti mnzake wa iye wapereka kulumikizana ndi banja lomwe akudziwa kuti likulowa mumzinda, tsopano akufuna kukumana. Zabwino, nditha kubwera. Kwa nthawi yoyamba ndili ndi chidwi chenicheni ndi anthu atsopanowa m'malo kutsuka A ndi chidwi. Ingokhala gawo la gululi. Tikatha kudya timapita kukamwa, ndiye kuti A ayenera kupita kwawo. Nthawi zambiri ndikadapita naye, koma zili ngati 8pm Loweruka. Chifukwa chake ndikukuvutani, ndimakhala ndi anyamata atsopano mtawuniyi, ndikuwawonetsera, ndikumamwa kwambiri kapamwamba kena. Tikusangalala, ndipo A andilembera pagulu kuti ndifunse ngati ndidakali nawo. Inde. Akufuna kujowina. Zowonadi, tili m'malo a XXX. Akubwera ndipo nditha kuzindikira kuti zina zasintha. Amakhala pafupi ndi ine, ndikundigwira, akufuna chisamaliro changa. Osati nthawi ino, ndikudziwani, anyamata awa ndi atsopano komanso osangalatsa. Amakonzera kanyumba munyumba yake tsiku lotsatira. Ndimabweretsa mnzanga yemwe tamutchula kale - mwanjira ina A samamukonda. Ndikudabwa chifukwa. Kuchokera pamenepo, zinali zowonjezera. Nthawi zonse sindinali pamasewera anga monga usiku womwewo, makamaka pamene anthu ambiri pagulu anali (monga iye anali) koma osatchula, motero amalankhula chilankhulo chawo. Koma mphepo inali itasintha, ndipo anayamba kufunsa kuti azikhala ndi ine, kufunafuna malangizo anga ndipo amandimvera ndi zina zotero, ndipo ndikuyamba kukhazikitsa gulu labwino la anzanga kunja kwa anzanga kuti musakhale ndi nthawi yake. Ndikukakamiza A kuti atenge ntchito kudziko lina, ndiye chabwino kwa iye. Nthawi yake mu mzinda ikayamba kukhala ndi tsiku lotha ntchito, nthawi yathu pamodzi imakulanso, ndipo tsopano tonse tikusangalala nazo. Ndimavutikanso kuti sindingathe kukakamira kena kake, akuchokapo posachedwa koma zonena zanga sizinadziwikebe ndipo nkhani yokhudza ntchito yake ikhoza kundiwononga. Komabe, zonsezi zimatha mwa kupsompsona padenga lanyumba yanga. Ndipo chimenecho ndi chiyani ... mpangidwe. Choyera choyera, ndi moyo. Komabe, iyi si kanema ndipo sitimachita zogonana pomwepo samaphonya ndege yake ndipo sitimapitiliza ndikumakhala mosangalala nthawi zonse. Amabwereranso kwawo kwakanthawi kochepa kuti akakhale ndi banja lake, atabwerako ndimapita kuphwando labwino komwe ndikudziwa anthu ochepa ndipo ndine ndekhandekha - osati wabwino kotero sindimalephera kuchita nawo. achokapo pomwe ati akufuna kupita ku kalabu, ngakhale ataledzera momveka bwino. Tidzakumana kotsiriza kadzakudya zam'mawa kuti tinene zabwino. Mpaka lero, takumananso kawiri, timalankhula kamodzi kamodzi. Koma sindicho mfundo. Mfundo ndi yoti zomwe zimawoneka ngati zosatheka masabata angapo m'mbuyomu (tatsala pang'ono kufika pa 1 ndi theka la miyezi ku NF tsopano) zidachitika, komanso zonse chifukwa ndidayesetsa pang'ono kumvetsetsa momwe anthu ena amagwirira ntchito. Ndipo ndizitenga kuti zolimbikitsira ndi kuti? Mwa kudula ma 12 amenewo + ola lililonse za olaula. Fucking A.
Kutsiriza NF ndi m'badwo wagolide wa Tinder
Koma ndikusowabe pamalingaliro ambiri. Ndili ndi gulu la abwenzi abwino tsopano, zomwe ndizabwino, koma ndilibe mwayi wogonana. Ine sindine mtundu wa anyamata amene amapita kwa mtsikana wosakwatiwa ndikumufikira. Sindinakhalepo ndipo sindinafike mpaka pano. Koma mwina nditha kugwira ntchito mozungulira ndikakumana ndi atsikana omwe ndingaganize kuti ali ndi chidwi. Bwanji? Moni Tinder mzanga wakale.
Ndimayang'ana za bio yomwe ndidali nayo zaka zingapo zapitazo, yosakhwima. Ndimapumira pakuseka ndi kuwononga mwana, ngati sakukonda ndi vuto lawo. Matani ayamba kutsanulira. Ndikulembera pafupifupi mtsikana aliyense wosakwatiwa. Ambiri a iwo sakhala pachabe, koma kutsatira lamulo "kukhazikitsa tsiku mkati mwa mauthenga a 10" Ndimapewa kuwononga nthawi pazokambirana zachinyengo zomwe zimapangitsa kuti asangokhala. Tsiku loyamba lomwe ndili nalo lili pa June 1st, likuyandikira kumapeto kwa mwezi wachiwiri wa NF. Pofika pano ndazindikira za zamtunduwu ndipo adaganiza kuti ndikufuna kupitiliza ndikumaliza zovuta zamasiku atatu. Ndikadasokoneza kuti ndigone, mosakaika, koma pakadali pano ndili Kukhala pachibwenzi chongofuna kudzidalira komanso kuchita zinthu zina, ngati china chake chichitike tidzaganizira. Palibe kuganiza mopitirira muyeso, mukukumbukira? Tsiku lomaliza lomwe ndidakhala nalo lidabweranso mu Januware, ndipo ndidali wamantha. Ndine wosiyana kwambiri pompano. Komabe, ndili ndi masiku awiri ndi mtsikana uyu, ndikugwiritsa ntchito mfundo zonse zomwe ndakhala ndikuphunzira (zambiri ndi zopanda pake za PUA, koma Hei ena a iwo amagwira ntchito komanso amagwira ntchito bwino ngati atadzipaka ndi chidaliro) ndipo ndimatha kuwona kuti amandikonda. Vuto ndiloti sindimamukonda, amakhala wosatekeseka komanso amayesetsa. Mwina sindimamukonda chifukwa ndikuwona zomwe zinali 10 masabata kale. Komabe, palibe tsiku lachitatu. Ndimasunga mwezi wonse wa Juni, nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndi abwenzi komanso masiku osokoneza. Lonjezo limabwera kumapeto kwa mwezi. Iye ndiye msungwana wakale yemwe akanandidyera ine wamoyo. Kutsutsana ndi chilichonse, kuyesa zoyipa zanga nthawi zonse. Ine ndili ndi mbiri yabwino (yabwino), Tsopano ndili ndi zida komanso zowopsa pano. Tsiku loyamba limakhala lokhazikika komanso loseketsa, ndipo pomaliza pake limafotokoza bwino kuti akufuna mphindi. Bwanji, ayi, ndikayang'ana ndikadzakhala ndi nthawi yanu. Ndimakonzekera pic-nic sabata yoyamba ya Julayi, tsopano tayandikira sabata imodzi kumaliza 3 miyezi NF. Pic-nic ndi mwaluso (ndikutanthauza, magalasi avinyo agalasi ndi zoyipa), ndipo timapsompsona kumapeto kwake. Zingakhale zandakatulo kwambiri kudzamuonanso Loweruka lotsatira, 8th Julayi - 90th tsiku la NF wanga kuti ndiyambe moyo wanga watsopano ndi nthawi yovutikira, koma ndili kwathu kwathu sabata latha. Loweruka ndimapita kuphwando lotseguka, ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimangoyang'ana nthabwala ndi anzanga abwana koma bwanji osachita masewera ena achikazi. Palibe zimachitika koma ndimalimbanso.
Kubwerera kuntchito, ndimakonzekera tsiku lotsatira ndi ndaserella Lachisanu likudzali, ndipo ndikudziwa kuti ndizo. Ndinathyola LTR yanga yomaliza mu 2014, ndipo kuyambira pamenepo ndidagonana kawiri, kamodzi mu 2015 ndipo kamodzi ku 2016 (ndi mtsikana yemweyo mwangozi, m'modzi mwa omwe adanditsatira mwachangu). Wolephera bwanji! Zinthu zatsala pang'ono kusintha pano.
Izi zidakweza vutolo, kubwera pambuyo pa 3 ya miyezi zero ndikuchita zonse koma ndinali wotsimikiza kuti wokalambayo Joe azigwira ntchito bwino, chifukwa chake ndimapanga lingaliro lokonza "kuyeretsa mapaipi" masiku angapo lisanafike tsiku loti adzaukitse profesa (kwinakwake ndinawerenga kuti zimatenga pang'ono kuyambiranso injini pambuyo pa nthawi yayitali), ndipo sindikufunanso kuyika mphindi theka chifukwa chatha -kusungulumwa pakugonana. Sindikufuna kusewera mwanjira yapamwamba ,, ndimaopa kwambiri za kutaya mtima komanso zina, ndikudziwa kuti nthawi imodzi sipakhala vuto koma sindimapeza mwayi - kukana kungaphe chidaliro chonse chomwe ndakhala ndikupanga kwa miyezi yambiri. Chifukwa chake ndimachita izi modabwitsa. Ndikupita ku Google momwe ndimapangira chida chonga cha vagin, ndimakhazikika pa chomwe chimafunikira chopondera cha mpira, masiponji awiri a kukhitchini ndi theka la botolo la pulasitiki, kuphatikiza sopo wina wothira mafuta. Mukuseka izi, ndikadakonda ndikadakhala kuti mukuwerenga izi. Ndimamva ngati zopanda nzeru koma lingaliro limatengedwa. 93 masiku atadwala mwala wanga womvera pansi nditakhala pachimbudzi, ndikudzikhuthulitsa ndi botolo la pulasitiki lotentha. Ndimaganiza kuti chikhoza kukhala chinthu chodabwitsa kwambiri koma choyambirira chomaliza ndichinthu chomwe sindingathe kumva. Ndikukhulupirira kuti sindinachite kanthu kena kamadzanong'oneza bondo. Tsiku lotsatira ndidadzuka ndikukonzekera kulimbana. Kwa nthawi yoyamba malingaliro anga oyamba sapita ku zolaula koma azimayi kumeneko. Zatha. Zachitika. Ku masewera olimbitsa thupi sindingathe kuyang'ana atsikana omwe akuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Kuntchito ndine katswiri wosangalala kwambiri kuposa onse. Ndimasamaliranso pulojekiti yatsopano ndikuyamba kugwira ntchito zina zowongolera kuyendera kwina ndikuyenda. Lachisanu likubwera. Tinderella andiuza kuti amaganiza kuti tikungopanga kapu ya chikho ndipo palibe china koma Hei, lina mwalamulo ndikuti mumayang'ana zomwe anthu amachita m'malo mokhulupirira zomwe akunena. Timapita kukamwa vinyo. Timapita kukamwa pang'ono. Amachita nane nkhanza. Zikuchitika. Ndigwetsa "Hei ndimakhala pafupi ndi pano, ndimakhala ndi botolo la mowa komanso padenga labwino kwambiri". Amapita kunyumba pafupifupi maola a 12, m'mawa kwambiri. Ndabadwa kachiwiri.
Tinder (ndidzawonjezera Bumble) imakhala mankhwala. Ndifikira mpaka kukhala ndi masiku a 5 mu sabata onse ndi atsikana osiyanasiyana.
Kubwereranso (mtsogolo) ndikupeza pa iwo (kuphatikiza, ndi nthawi ya atsikana)
Kumayambiriro kwa Ogasiti ndimakhala ndi ntchito yochokera kunyumba kumene sindimatha kuchita chilichonse. Otopa kwambiri. Palibe masiku okhazikitsidwa sabata imeneyo. Muzifuna kukhutira nthawi yomweyo. Inde, bwanji? Ndachiritsidwa pompano, nthawi ina zolaula, chifukwa cha nthawi zakale. Sizipweteka, eti? Zolakwika. Kwa masiku asanu ndimapita pa maliseche. Zoyipa zabodza sindingathe kuyimitsa. Mwala wina pansi, ndipo ndikumva bwino kuposa kale. Kodi zinali chabe? Kodi ndangochotsa miyezi yomaliza ya 5? Yankho linadzakhala kuti ayi. Pambuyo pa sabata la NF ndabwereranso kubizinesi yonse. Pambuyo poti "wamkulu" wapita, ndipo mwasintha, kuyambiranso sikungakupweteketseni, koma muyenera kumva ngati kuti mwadzikhumudwitsa. Miyezo yanu yanu iyenera kukhala yapamwamba kwambiri.
Ine ndimachedwetsa chibwenzi m'mene masiku amayamba kukhala ozizira komanso ozizira, mu Disembala ndimakhala kamodzi kokha ndipo ndi msungwana yemwe ndimamkonda (osati wochokera ku Tinder). Tsiku ndi lolephera, mwachidziwikire kulimba mtima kwanga konse kumene kumagwira ntchito kwa atsikana okha omwe sindikuwasamala. Palibe chabwino. Ndisankha kusanthula vutoli nthawi yanga imodzi yopanga mwaulere. Mwayiwala kuti nthawi inayake nthawi yachilimwe ndidatenga kusinkhasinkha (ngakhale sanali wosinkhasinkha pafupipafupi), omwe ndimapanga tsiku lililonse Lolemba mpaka Loweruka, koma Lamlungu ndimakhala ndi gawo la "kuganiza zaulere", lomwe limakhala pa sofa mumdima ndikumwa chikho chimodzi ndikumvetsera Massive Attack ndikusiya ubongo wanga (chosemphana ndi kusinkhasinkha ngati mukufuna). Komabe, ndikuganiza kuti chizolowezi changa chimangoyang'ana pa Tinder mtundu wamasiku ogunda pomwe mumayenera kupita kuchokera kwa anthu osawadziwa kukafika masiku atatu, ndipo sichoyenera anthu omwe mumawadziwa kale koma mukufuna kuchitapo kanthu. Ndimatenga kanthawi kuchoka pachiwonetsero cha zibwenzi (tchuthi cha Khrisimasi pakati) kuti ndiyambiranso. Ndatero kuyambiranso kwa masiku ena a 10-masiku, yomwe imamaliza usiku wa 1st Januware. Ndatopa ndikugawa usiku m'mawa koma sinditha kugona ndipo ndimangoganiza zolaula. Zomwe gonana limandilakwira. Ndimadzuka pakati pausiku ndikupita kukaseweretsa maliseche mchipinda chosambira (ndinali nditabwera kunyumba). Mwala wina pansi, kumverera kwina ngati tsiku la shit, komanso kumverera komwe ndidayamba chaka molakwika. Masiku ena a 20 a NF pomwe ndimayamba kupita ndi mtsikana wina yemwe ndidakumana naye m'moyo weniweni. Nthawi ino zonse zimayenda bwino, ndipo munthawi yolemba izi tili limodzi.
Ngakhale ndimakhala ndi gf ndikukhala wokangalika kuchipinda, pafupi miyezi iwiri chibwenzi ndimakhala ndekha sabata limodzi, ndipo Ndine zinanso ngati "kamodzi sizidzapweteka". Zolakwika. Masabata ena atali, omwe amayamba mwa ine kuti asamavutike atatulutsa zovala zamkati. Akumva zoyipa munthu woyipa. Basi. Mwala wina pansi. Masiku enanso a 10 a kudziletsa, chophimba kwa iye ndikuti ndimadwala (zomwe ndinalidi), ndipo zinthu zimapita mwamba. Ndisankha Ndimatha kuseweretsa maliseche koma zolaula zilibe malire. Ngati sindingathe kuthandizadi, koma Ndimachita izi kuti ndimasule mphamvu zakugonana, choncho palibe zolaula, palibe mavidiyo, zithunzi, chilichonse. Zabwino kwambiri sizingakhale zongopeka. Zolakwika zokhazokha zomwe zimaloledwa ndikuganiza nthawi yotsiriza yomwe ndidagonana naye, kusiya zonse. Zikugwira. Imagwira ntchito yotayirira. Ngati sindingathe kuthandizira, iyi ndi njira yoti muchitire tsopano. Ndikhala ndi nthawi zochepa zobwererera, kuyambira tsiku la 1 mpaka sabata la 1, komwe kusasinthika kwa erectile kudzatsatira. Zili ngati masamu osasunthika ndipo nthawi iliyonse ndikakwanitsa kutsimikiza kuti kamodzi sikudzapweteka. Sizinakhalepo kamodzi. Ngati mukuwona kuti mukusoweka, chitani icho popanda zolaula. Ngati simungavutike kutanthauza kuti thupi lanu limafuna zolaula, osati kupumula. Chonde.
Zopindulitsa zina, kapena momwe kusiya zolaula kumandipangitsa kukhala zisanu ndi imodzi
Ndinayang'ana kwambiri gawo lazakugonana mpaka pano, zomwe ndikukhulupirira kuti ndizowopsa zomwe zingachitike ngati chiwerewere kapena zolaula zikugwira ntchito, koma chidaliro chatsopanochi chidandithandizanso kuntchito. Ndinakhala wochita bwino kwambiri pagulu langa, ndinakwezedwa kumapeto kwa 2017 ndikuwonetsedwa zaka kumapeto kwa chirimwe chotsatira, ndipo tsopano ndikupanga ndalama zambiri kuposa momwe ndimaganizira, ndikumakula ine. Zonse chifukwa choti ndimayang'ana zolaula. Ndikukhulupirira kuti zotulukapo zofananazo zimatha kubweranso ndi mphindi ziwiri zokha kenako ndikuyambitsa kuseweretsa maliseche kamodzi / kawiri popanda zolaula, koma kugwiranso ntchito kwa ubongo kumagwira bwino ntchito ngati mutamasula gawo la "purosesa" ija.
Malangizo
Osayandikira. Mukayamba kuyambiranso, kumaliza. Amawerengera ngati kubwereranso apobe ndikumangika fucks ndi ubongo wanu ndi mbolo magwiridwe antchito. Ndibwino kuti mumalize kuseweretsa maliseche ndikuyambiranso, ziribe kanthu zomwe mungadziuze (mwachitsanzo "ngati sindikufuna sizingawerengere").
Musanayambe NF yanu, pendani pompopompo. Izi ziyenera kukhala zopanda zolaula, maso otseguka, osaganizira kalikonse.
Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi / kulimbitsa. Izi zakonzanso mphamvu yanu ku chinthu chabwino. Ndazindikira kuti nthawi zomwe zimakonda kubwereranso kutha ndi nthawi zomwe sindimachita masewera olimbitsa thupi chifukwa china (ulesi, matenda, kukhala kunja kwa mzinda etc.).
NF ndiye injini yachisinthiko, koma ubongo ndiye umayendetsa. Muyenera kuchita zambiri kuchokera kumalo anu achitonthozo. Kwa ine ndimayimilira kuganiza kuti anthu amabwera kwa ine ndikuyamba kuchita zoyambira.
Amayi amakonda chidaliro komanso ma jerks amalire. Zikugwira. Gwiritsani ntchito chidaliro chomwe mumapeza podziwa kuti simumangokhala wosataya nthawi, tsalani mozungulira osapatsa fuck zomwe zimachitika, simudzasowa muumoyo wanu.
Kudziseweretsa pakokha si mdani. Zolaula ndi mdani. Ngati muyenera kuchita, zichitani pa mfundo iliyonse ya B. Izi ndizofunikira. "Chachikulu" chikatha ndipo ubongo wanu utapangidwanso, sabata imodzi yodziletsa ikhoza kukhala yokwanira kukuthandizani kuti mupeze phindu lalikulu, koma kuseweretsa maliseche sikungaphatikizepo zolaula mwanjira iliyonse. Kuyima kwathunthu. Amayi amariseche okha omwe mumaloledwa kuwona ndi enieni. Ngati simungathe kuthandiza koma kungoganiza, lingalirani za zomwe mudagonapo kale. Kapena za munthu amene mumamudziwa. China chake chenicheni. Zilibe kanthu ngati ndi mnzanu, mlongo wa bwenzi lanu, kapena mkazi wanu. Palibe kusilira za zolaula zomwe mudaziwona. Sungani zenizeni.
Zolaula ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo monga mankhwala ena alionse. Sidzakupha mwakuthupi, koma ndiwoseketsa kuposa mitundu ina ya chizolowezi. Mutha kukhala nazo kwa zaka ndipo palibe amene angazindikire. Zimakupha iwe pachikhalidwe ndipo anthu amaganiza kuti ndi momwe ulili. Simunthu ameneyo, muli bwino koposa amenewo. Imagwira mkati. Mukudziwa kuti mukuchita zinthu zosayenera, chifukwa mumayembekezera kuti zinthu zikhalaipa. Zosangalatsa zolaula. ASA. CHIWERE.
Pangani nyini yanu ngati muyenera kutero. Chabwino izi zikuwoneka zopusa, koma msambo wa imfa ndi weniweni ndipo ungaphe kukhudzika kwanu. Ngati simungathe kupeza yeniyeni, yabodza ndiyabwino kuposa dzanja lanu. Google momwe mungayendere DIY. Ine ndekha sindimagwiritsa ntchito koma ndili ndi vuto la gf kotero kuti maliseche ake ndi osowa.
Kutsiliza
Ndikukhulupirira kuti wina apeza cholimbikitsidwa podziwa kuti kutha kumapeto kwa ngalandeyo, ndikuti kuunikaku kumakhala kowala kwambiri. Ndikupezeka mu ndemanga kapena DM ngati mukufuna kulankhula za china chake kapena mungondiuza kuti ndine chitsimikiziro cha nkhani yanga pano pamwambapa.
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