Yakwana nthawi. Pomaliza, ndi nthawi yanga kuchita izi. Ndachita bwino! Masabata awiri apitawa, ndidagonana koyamba. Zinatenga pafupifupi mphindi pafupifupi 5, ndipo zidatha ndi ine kutsekeka. Komabe, ndichofunika kwambiri pamoyo wanga mpaka pano. Kudalira kamodzi kochepa kwa bambo, koma chimphona chimadumphira ubwana wanga. Pambuyo pake, ndakhala ndikugonana nthawi za 5, nthawi iliyonse ndikusintha. Kukhala bwino. Zakhala nkhondo yayitali kwa zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi kuyambira pomwe ndidakhumudwitsa bwenzi langa loyamba ku sekondale, ndipo kuyambira pamenepo ndidachita manyazi ndikudziimba mlandu pakugonana kwanga. Ndili ngati chimtolo cholemetsa chikuchotsedwa pamapewa anga. Palibenso zifukwa zina. Palibe china chomwe ndimachita manyazi m'moyo wanga. Palibenso china chondiletsa. Ndi kusintha kofunikira kwambiri komwe ndidakumanapo ndi moyo wanga, ndipo ndikudziwa kuti mukadzakwaniritsa, inunso mudzadandaula momwe mungaganizire izi osakwanitsa.
Ndidalonjeza kutumiza motere, koma izi zakhala zovuta kulemba. Ndizachilendo kwambiri kumaliza ntchito yopanga zaka 6. Kuti ndisamadandaule ndi chinthu chomwe chakhala chikundivutitsa kwa nthawi yayitali momwe ndingakumbukire. Pomaliza, ndiyenera kukhala munthu yemwe wagonana. Ndimayamba kukhala munthu amene ndakhala ndikufuna. Zolaula zili ngati kukumbukira kale, ndipo sizomveka kuzilingalira.
Pali anthu ambiri othokoza chifukwa chondithandiza paulendowu. Makamaka ndikufuna kuthokoza @TheUnderdog, @CJJackson , @ Wabi-sabi, @Bauldr ndi @Journey_to_fkululeko. Uwu ndi msonkhano wodabwitsa, ndipo sindidzaiwala thandizo lomwe ndapeza kuchokera kwa anthu abwino komanso amphamvu pano. Ndikukhulupirira kuti inu nonse amene muwerenga izi mumapeza zolimbikitsidwa kuchokera patsamba lino, ndipo mutha kuphunzira kuchokera paulendo wanga. Kalata iyi ndi ya inu nonse anyamata, zikomo nonse chifukwa chokhala pano ndi ine ndi kundithandiza. Sindikadakhala INE popanda INU. Chifukwa cha ichi ndimayamika kwamuyaya.
Sikuti ndangokhala munthu yemwe ali ndi moyo wogonana wogonana. Tsopano ndakhala munthu. Ndili ku University, ndikuphunzira china chake chomwe ndimakonda, ndipo anthu ozungulira amandipatsa ulemu. Tsiku lililonse ndimasintha ndekha, ndipo izi zimachitika chifukwa choti izi zimandichititsa kuti ndizikumana ndi mavuto. Ndine wokondwa kuti ndakumanapo ndi vuto m'moyo wanga, chifukwa ndikukhulupirira kuti sindingathe kukwanitsa zomwe ndikanachita popanda iwo. Cholepheretsa ndiye njira. Paulendo uno, atsikana omwe ndakumana nawo ndikulankhula nawo awonjezeka. Sindiye wina yemwe adagonja kuti sindimagonana naye. Mtsikana yemwe adatenga unamwali wanga ndiwodabwitsa. Ndi mtsikana uyu ndimaona ngati ndife gulu. Ndipo ngakhale ineyo ndi iye sitikutsutsana ndi dziko lapansi. Ndi US limodzi ndi dziko lapansi. Goddamn, mawonekedwe amenewo amapanga kusiyana chotani.
Chifukwa cha tsambali, tsiku lililonse ndimalimbikira kulimbitsa njira muubongo zomwe zimandipangitsa kukhala wamkulu wa munthu yemwe ndikufuna kukhala. Masiku ambiri ndalephera, ndipo ndakumana ndi zovuta zambiri. Koma sindinataye mtima, ndipo tsopano ndikulandila mphotho. Komabe, moyo wanga sunasinthe mwachangu. Zinasintha pang'onopang'ono, ndipo gawo lirilonse paulendowu landipangitsa kudzikonda ndekha komanso moyo wanga. Paulendo wanga ndachita zinthu zodabwitsa ndi moyo wanga. Ndapita kumalo okongola omwe sindinadikirepo kuti ndikhulupilira. Ndasewera makonsati ambiri opambana ndi gulu langa. Ndapeza anzanga atsopano amoyo. Ndasintha thanzi langa komanso thupi langa. Ndayamba kampani yanga, ndikuigwirapo ntchito mbali ya University. Ndimakonda banja langa, ndipo ndimamva kuti ndimawakonda tsiku lililonse. Ndili ndi abwenzi abwino omwe ndimachita nawo zinthu zabwino kwambiri. Ndili ndi mtsikana yemwe ndimakonda kucheza naye, komanso yemwe nditha kukhala naye.
Mukadayerekeza moyo wanga m'mene ndimayambira ulendowu, ndipo pakadali pano, sizingakhale munthu yemweyo. Osatinso malingaliro amodzi, mfundo zomwezo, mzimu womwewo. Ndikadali ndi zinthu zambiri zomwe ndikufuna kukonza, ndipo malo ambiri ndikufuna kupita. Koma nthawi ino ndizichita ndi ulemu. Kudzilemekeza. Ulendowu ndiwowoneka bwino kwambiri, ndipo sindidzayambiranso njira yodzikonzeretsera ndekha. Ndikukulonjezani izi, kuyambira tsiku lomwe mudzadzilonjeza kuti musataye mtima, komanso kupitiliza kukonza, mwachita bwino. Steady apambana mpikisano.
Njira ina yothandizira kubwezeretsanso
Zolemba zambiri zomwe zidalembedwa kale pomenya zolaula. Imelo yomwe idandikhazikitsa pa ulendowu ndi iyi (https://yourbrainrebalanced.com/for…ughts-on-rebooting-extremely-long-post.15558/ ) mwa underdog, zomwe ndikutsimikiza kuti mwawerenga ngati mwayang'ana pa YBR. Komabe, pali zina mwazidziwitso zomwe sindimagwirizana nazo konse, ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti ndizowonongeka. Ndidzaphimba kuti ndikamaliza zonse zabwino zomwe post ili nazo.
Ndinawerenga za underdogs zaka 3 zapitazo, nditangogula bukhu "Slight Edge", lomwe lakhala likufunika panjira yanga yopita ku ufulu. Positi iyi ili ndi zambiri zothandiza, ndipo ndiyofunika kuyambiranso. Zokha sizingakutengereni kumeneko, koma zikuthandizani pa njira yoti musadzikonzenso, chifukwa chake bukuli lakhala lothandiza kuti ndikhalenso bwino. Ndipo ayi, iyi si pulogalamu yamapulogalamu. Chabwino, amalola kulowa mkati mwake.
Zinthu zabwino
Choyamba, underdog kuyamba ndikuwunika momwe chizolowezi choonera zolaula chikuwonedwera kwambiri, komanso momwe kudziletsa sikungachiritsidwire. Ndikugwirizana kwathunthu ndi izi. Kulingalira izi mopepuka, ndikuzindikira kuti ndi chizindikiro chabe cha vuto lalikulu kuli kopatsa mphamvu.
Komanso ndimagwirizana kwathunthu ndi kukhazikitsidwa koyenera. Sindinganene motsimikiza kuti ndikofunika bwanji kuti mudzipange wekha masomphenya, ndikukhala ndi moyo wamtima. Kukhala ndi masomphenya ndikugwiritsa ntchito tsiku ndi tsiku sikukuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi chithunzi chokha, kusintha moyo wanu m'njira zomwe simunadziwe kuti zingatheke. Ngati mukupanga mayendedwe achilengedwe ndizopindulitsa kwambiri kuyang'ana m'mbuyo ndikuwona momwe moyo wanu wasinthira. Gawo ili la underdogs post ndi golide, pangani kukhala lolemba lanu.
Khalani kukhala kusintha komwe mukufuna kuwona padziko lapansi. Chitani izi kwa inu, chifukwa cha umphumphu wanu. Kukhala ndi moyo wosagawanika ndikoyenera kukhala wotsatira mfundo zanu, ichi ndiye maziko a ulemu. Cholinga chanu chizikhala pakukonzanso ALIYONSE. SINGLE. TSIKU. Ziyenera kukhala zogwirizana kwambiri ndi zomwe mumakhulupirira, kumanga moyo womwe mukufuna kukhala nawo. Ambiri aife timalingalira mochuluka momwe tingakwaniritsire mwezi umodzi, ndipo timayang'anira momwe tingakwaniritsire zaka 5. Zonsezi zimakhudza miyambo ya ana. Ndikofunikira kuti timvetsetse malingaliro awa osasintha nthawi zonse.
Kusamalira moyo wanu wamaganizidwe ndikofunikanso kwambiri. Muyenera kukhala owona mtima kwa inu, ndikuzindikira mbali yomwe zolaula zikuchita m'moyo wanu. Kwa ine, zolaula zinali njira yokhotakhota, ngati chida chomwe ndingalolere chiwawa changa m'njira. Nthawi zambiri ndimapezeka ndikuwonera zolaula nthawi iliyonse yomwe ndimakhala wokhumudwa, kapena kumva kuti ndatsitsidwa ndikugonjetsedwa m'njira ina iliyonse. Kuwongolera momwe mukumvera, ndikuzindikira momwe amathandizira pamoyo wanu ndikofunikira kuti mufikire masomphenya anu. Izi zikuthandiziraninso kudzidalira kwanu komanso kudzidalira. Ndikanapangitsanso kulowa m'mabuku “mizati isanu ndi umodzi yodzidalira” kuti muthandizire pankhaniyi.
Komwe ndikupita njira ina
Komwe sindikugwirizana ndi underdog, komabe, ndi momwe amasankhira kuti asamaganize zogonana komanso kupewa kupewa maliseche. Pali njira yosavuta kwambiri, yopindulitsa komanso yolemekezeka yoyambiranso. Zilankhulidwapo kale, koma ndikufuna kupanga njira yatsopano komanso yomveka bwino yothetsera maluso awa, kuyambiranso maliseche. Cholinga chakuyambiranso kudziseweretsa maliseche ndikukhala ndi mwayi woposa, wogwira ntchito, zolinga zenizeni komanso zochita kuti mupititse patsogolo moyo wanu wogonana mpaka pomwe zolaula sizosangalatsa kenanso.
Mavuto athu amayambitsidwa ndi zolaula, osati chifukwa cha maliseche komanso kungodzilingalira. Kudziseweretsa maliseche nkongogwirizana kwathunthu ndi moyo wathanzi, wosangalatsa, osati mtundu wongolota ife pamsonkhano uno amatenga nawo mbali. Kulakwitsa maliseche kamodzi kapena kawiri pa sabata, kudzikhudza nokha, kuseka ndikulingalira za zenizeni, zogonana zogonana ndi komwe kumakhaladi. chizolowezi chomwe chimandimasulira. Zinapangitsa kuti kuthana ndi zolaula kumveketse, ndipo sikunandichititse manyazi manyazi pazakugonana kwanga. Ndikakumbukira zam'mbuyo, malingaliro okhala olakwa ndi manyazi omwe ndinali nawo zokhudzana ndi kugonana kwanga anali adani akulu kwambiri obwezeretsanso. Kuwonetsa malingaliro anga ogonana kunangokulitsa izi. Kuganizira za izi tsopano, sindikudziwa momwe ndimaganizira kuti ndikanatha kupezanso njira ina.
Pali nthano yomwe ikuchitika pano yomwe muyenera kupewa malingaliro ndi zithunzi zogonana kuti muchite bwino, ndipo mwanjira ina yesetsani kubisa zomwe mumamva mukamaona atsikana akudziko lenileni. Koma mumavutika kuchita izi, ndipo mumamva kuti mulibe mlandu chifukwa cholephera kuchita izi kwa nthawi yayitali. Izi zimakukhumudwitsaninso, ndipo ngakhale lingaliro lokakamiza zogonana kwa sabata limodzi kapena mwezi umodzi likuwoneka kuti silingagonje. Anzanu amalankhula zolaula komanso atsikana, ndipo kukhala ndi ulamuliro wochepa kwambiri pa moyo wanu kumapangitsa kuti muzimva kwambiri ngati zolakwika. Ngakhale akhrisitu okhwima kwambiri omwe sanakhalepo ndi vuto lolaula m'moyo wawo amapeza kusiya malingaliro akugonana kukhala kovuta kwambiri. Chifukwa chake, kwa ife omwe amaletsa kuchotsa maliseche kwathunthu m'moyo wathu ndizovuta zovuta. Zolaula, zachidziwikire, zilibe malo m'miyoyo yathu. Komanso sitinawonetse zolaula komanso kugonana kosavomerezeka. Malingaliro abwinobwino, komanso malingaliro amoyo wathanzi, sayenera kuganiziridwa ngati mdani. Ndi anzanu.
Choyamba muyenera kudzipanga kukhala konkriti ndi kuwona komwe moyo wanu wakugonana udzakhalire mchaka cha 1, zaka za 5 ndi zaka za 10. Pangani chithunzi cha yemwe mudzakhale mutakhala ndi moyo wabwino wokwanirana. Mudzagonana ndi ndani, mudzagonana kangati, mudzagonana ndi mtundu wanji, muzigwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zanu zogonana pazinthu zina kupatula kugonana? Kodi amai mumawaona bwanji? Tony Robbins adalemba ntchito yabwino pamutu wamasomphenya, komanso momwe mungadzutsitsire mphamvu zanu podzutsa chimphona mkati. Ndikukulonjezani kuti bukuli lisinthanso moyo wanu.
Sizofunikira kuti mutha kuyankha bwino mafunso awa okhudzana ndi kugonana nthawi yomweyo, koma muyenera kukhala ndi chizolowezi chofufuza yankho la mafunso awa, ndikufunika kukhala munthu. Dziwani zowona zanu zenizeni za moyo wogonana womwe mukufuna kukhala nawo. Ndiye, ndidachita bwanji izi? Choyamba, pali mabuku ambiri abwino oti akuphunzitseni momwe mungakhalire pakugonana komanso momwe mungaonera akazi. NDimalimbikitsa kwambiri "Njira ya mulungu wogonana" komanso "Njira ya wamkulu" pamituyi. Ndikutsimikizirani kuti asintha momwe mumaonera kugonana kuti ukhale wabwino, ndipo ITHA kukhala gawo lofunikira paulendo wanu. Idzakupatsani ulemu wowonjezereka, ndikuchepetsa manyazi ndi kudziimba mlandu pakugonana kwanu. Chinthu chofunikira kwambiri chomwe mabuku angakuchitireni ndikupanga Ganizirani kwambiri ngati munthu yemwe wagonana. Adzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa zomwe moyo wabwino wogonana umatanthawuza, womwe umakupatsani chidaliro chachikulu. "Zachilengedwe" za RSDMax ndizofunikanso kwambiri zomwe ndaphunzira kuchokera ku. Ndizokwera mtengo kugula, koma ndikudziwa kuti ndizotheka kuyipeza m'njira zina ngati simungathe kugula. Ndi m'modzi mwa anthu ochepa a RSD omwe ndingagwirizane nawo, ndipo ndikumasuka kupeza mfundo ndi mafelemu kuchokera. Ngati sakugwirizana nawe, yesani kudziwa ngati mungapeze ojambula omwe ali ndi malingaliro ofanana ndi inu ndi omwe si amuna okhaokha. Pezani wina yemwe amakuphunzitsani kugonana mumawona kuti ndi olemekezeka atsikana, china chake chomwe chikugwirizana ndi malingaliro anu amakhalidwe abwino.
Kusintha sikuchitika nthawi yomweyo. Kusintha kumachitika zochita za ufa, masitepe a ana. Simudzachoka ku namwali kupita ku Casanova usiku. Muyenera kudziwonetsera nokha ngati munthu wogonana, ndikudziwa kuti mutha kuchita zogonana. Onani atsikana mumaso mukamalankhula nawo. Valani atsikana, ndipo musaope kukanidwa. Musadziganize nokha ngati zolemetsa mukamalankhula ndi atsikana. Tengani atsikana kunyumba osagonana, kumangodzaza ndi amawonera makanema. Maseze maliseche ku malingaliro achigololo a REAL. Osawopa Dick wanu, kapena malingaliro anu. Dzikhudze, dziwa thupi lako osachita manyazi. Tsatirani maloto anu, gonjetsani zopinga zosiyanasiyana. Werengani za kugonana, mumvetsetse momwe mungaganizire kuti mutenge zogonana zomwe mukufuna. Pangani makalasi ndi atsikana ochulukirapo. Mverani atsikana ndipo lankhulani nawo. Phunzirani momwe mungatenge atsikana. Werengani, ndipo sinthanitsani zithunzi za anthu omwe ali ndi mtundu wa kugonana komwe mukufuna. Zonsezi ndi masitepe abwino obweretsa kumasulidwa kwanu.
Kusiyanitsa kwenikweni mu njirayi ndikuti kumakupatsani ulemu wowonjezereka komanso kudzilemekeza pa gawo lililonse laulendo wanu. Sizokhudza makina owerengera, kapena masiku a PMO. Sizinena zokweza kapena mphamvu zapamwamba. Zili zakukuthandizirani kudziona nokha, ndikupanga kugonana kwanu kukhala gawo lomwe inu muli. Ndikukulonjezani izi, atsikana amatha kununkhiza chidaliro chanu chakugonana. Ndipo simungakhale olimba mtima ngati kugonana kwanu sikungafanane ndi zomwe mumakhulupirira komanso momwe mumakhalira. Ino si malo omwe mungafikire popewa zolaula za masiku a 90. Ndi malo omwe mungabwereko ngati mutatenga magawo ang'onoang'ono kuti mukwaniritse zogonana zanu, tsiku lililonse. Inde, izi zikugwirizana ndi maliseche. Simuyenera kuchita kukhala mtsogoleri wachi Buddha kuti musiye zolaula. Mudzagonana posachedwa kuposa momwe mukudziwa.
Kulemba izi pompano, ndangomaliza kuwerenga "pang'ono pang'ono" buku lomwe linandikhalira zaka 6 zapitazo. Mwandakatulo, ulendo wanga wonse unayamba ndikutha ndi bukuli. Ndikukhulupirira kuyambitsa zokambirana ndi positiyi, ndikuti maliseche ayambiranso. Ndikufuna kumva malingaliro anu ndikutheka kwanu. Tonse tili m'malo awa, zonse zikhala kuti ndife otani. Pamodzi tili olimba. Abale Mulungu, tiyeni timenye bulu.
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