Monga aliyense pano akudziwira, pali anthu ambiri, omwe sakhulupirira kuti zolaula zitha kukhala zowopsa. Wina amangofunika kuyang'ana ndemanga pa subreddit kapena kanema wina aliyense wa pa youtube pomwe wina aliyense atumiza kapena kutsitsa kanema yemwe amafunsa zolaula, kuti adziwe kuti intaneti imakonda zolaula. Koma kuvomereza kuti zolaula zimapezeka paliponse sikuti zimangokhala pa intaneti. Sindikulankhula zambiri zakusankha kwanga kusiya zolaula m'moyo weniweni ndi wina aliyense, koma pakhala pali maulendo angapo pomwe zokambirana zachisawawa ndi abwenzi ndi abwenzi zidayambitsa zokambirana zomwe mosakayikira zimakhudzana ndi kugonana zomwe zandipangitsa kuti ndiwaulule kwa iwo kuti sindimayang'ananso zolaula, ndipo nthawi zonsezi, vumbulutso limenelo limakumana ndi mawonekedwe odabwitsika komanso osakhulupirira kenako ndikukana zifukwa zanga.
Zomwe ndazindikira mu mayankho awa osagwirizana pa intaneti komanso m'moyo weniweni ndi mfundo zochepa wamba:
Amangoganiza nthawi yomweyo. Iwo amaganiza kuti mwina ndine wachipembedzo chokhazikika komanso wosamalitsa. Sindikukuyesa kutsutsa zikhulupiriro za anthu achipembedzo mgululi, koma sindinakhalepo wachipembedzo. Ena amaganiza kuti mwina ndimaponderezedwa kapena ndimaopa kugonana komanso kugonana kwanga. Ena amaganiza kuti kukhala wotsutsana ndi zolaula ndikofanana ndi kugonana. Ndizodabwitsa kuti anthu nthawi zonse amayerekezera zolaula ndi zogonana zenizeni. Zili ngati kufananiza malingaliro a wina m'mafilimu a 'Fast and Furious' ndi malingaliro awo oyendetsa galimoto ndi magalimoto.
Zina mwa izo zimakhudzana ndi mavuto ena omwe ambiri a ife timakumana nawo monga kuwononga nthawi, kuchuluka kwa zinthu zolaula, kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ngakhale panthawi yogonana kuti tisunge zovuta, ndi zina zambiri. osafuna kuvomereza kuti pali chilichonse cholakwika ndi zonsezi.
Ena amadya makanema okonda kudziwa zolaula za momwe zolaula zakhalapo kale komanso zopusa kukana izi ngakhale kuti kunyalanyaza kwathunthu zenizeni zenizeni kuti kujambula matupi amaliseche ndi zithunzi za azimayi muma magazine a Playboy sikufanana ndi nthawi ya 24 ya ola limodzi makanema olaula okhala ndi zolaula zamtundu wamtundu kapena zolaula (akatswiri ndi amateurs).
Chinthu chomaliza ichi ndichofala kwambiri pa intaneti, koma mu mawonekedwe ochepetsedwa pang'ono amapezeka pamayankho omwe ndalandira m'moyo weniweni. Zomwe ndikunena ndizowoneka modzichepetsa komanso wonyoza poyankha anthu akamakana ndikukana malingaliro athu pankhani zolaula. Sindinayambe ndakhalapo - 'O sindinakhalepo ndi vuto ndi zolaula zanga, koma ndili ndi mwayi wovomereza kuti zitha kukhala vuto kwa wina.' Nthawi zonse - 'Sindinakhalepo ndi vutoli ndipo ndimayankhulira wina aliyense padziko lapansi motero zolaula ndiye chinthu chabwino kwambiri ndipo ngati simukuvomereza, ndiye kuti ndinu wopusa.' Amapeza kuti zolaula ndizovulaza kwa anthu ena zopusa kwambiri kotero kuti mayankho awo amawoneka ngati akuyankhula ndi munthu wamba kapena wina wotsutsa katemera kapena china chake.
Ndilibe vuto mwa ena osagwirizana ndi zomwe ndimakhulupirira. Koma akukana kwathunthu kuvomereza malingaliro osiyana ndi awo pankhani ya zolaula, zimandipangitsa kudzifunsa ngati anthuwa amadziwa mosazindikira kuti zolaula zawo sizabwino ndipo mwina sakufuna kuthana ndi izi wina akabweretsa Izi zimangokhala chifukwa zimawapangitsa kukhala osasangalala ndipo safuna kusiya zolaula zawo zamtengo wapatali zivute zitani.
LINK - China chake chomwe ndazindikira mwa anthu omwe sakhulupirira zolaula chitha kukhala chowopsa.
By Kumakumakuma
POSANGALITSA Ndinalibe "chidwi chofuna kugonana"
Inde… Ndikudziwa kuti anthu ena amakhala ndi chilakolako chofuna kugonana mwachibadwa ndipo anthu ena amakhala otsika kwambiri. Koma ubale wanga ndi zolaula zidandipangitsa kuti ndiganizire za kugonana kwanga.
Kusiyanasiyana kosatha komanso chinthu chatsopano kwambiri chomwe zolaula za pa intaneti zimapereka sizinali zosatheka kwa ine. Ndinkakonda kuseweretsa maliseche pafupifupi tsiku lililonse ndipo nthawi zina kangapo patsiku lomwelo. Popeza ndimazichita tsiku ndi tsiku, ndidayamba kulungamitsa momwe ndimagwiritsira ntchito ntchito mwanzeru podziuza kuti mwina, ndili ndi chilakolako chofuna kugonana kwambiri. Kudzilungamitsa kumeneku kumangowonjezera zinthu ndikupangitsa kugwiritsidwa ntchito kowonjezereka. Gulu langa lamasewera latayika? - tiyeni tiwone zolaula, mayeso anga ophunzirira sanapite monga momwe ndikanawakondera? - tiyeni tiwone zolaula, china chake chinandikwiyitsa? - tiyeni tiwone zolaula. Chifukwa chake, ngakhale chibwenzicho chidayamba chifukwa chofuna kudziwa zachiwerewere komanso mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya zolaula, sizinangokhala china chothandizira kuthana ndi zokhumudwitsa zanga pamoyo wanga (ndichifukwa chake ndimakhala ndi vuto ndi anthu omwe amafanana ndi zolaula ndi chiwerewere chifukwa chiwerewere chiyenera kukhala chokhudzidwa pomwe owonera zolaula amazigwiritsa ntchito kuthana ndi kusasamala), koma sindinazindikire panthawiyo chifukwa ndimaganiza kuti ndichifukwa chokwera kwambiri kugonana.
Tsopano popeza ndakhala pafupifupi miyezi 5 (sindisunga masiku enieni) osakhala ndi zolaula (ndinabwereranso kawiri mkati mwa masabata awiri poyesa kuchita zolaula), ndazindikira kuti izi Lingaliro lomwe ndinali nalo lokhala ndi chilakolako chogonana kwambiri linali chabe zinyalala. Izi ndi zomwe zolaula zanga zidandipangitsa kuganiza. Masabata oyamba a 2-2 ndi ovuta, koma mukangopita mwezi umodzi kapena iwiri opanda zolaula, zolimbikitsazi zimayamba kusinthasintha ndikukhazikika (mwina ndiye zondichitikira). Sindikumaganiziranso zamatsenga otsatira omwe ndidzakhale nawo kapena kanema wotsatira wolaula yemwe ndiziwonera. Ngakhale nditakumana ndi chithunzi kwinakwake kapena china chake chomwe mwina chidakhala choyambitsa, sichikundikhudzanso. Tsopano sindinakhale wotsalira. Ndimachita maliseche (popanda zolaula) nthawi zina (kamodzi pa sabata kapena kamodzi m'masabata a 3) ndipo ngati munthu wowongoka, ndimatha kuvomereza ndikadzakopeka ndi mkazi, koma ndilibenso malingaliro omwe ndili nawo kuti nthawi zonse ndithane ndi chilakolako changa chogonana ndikamva kuti ndikugwiritsa ntchito zolaula monga momwe ndinkachitiranso pogwiritsa ntchito lingaliro lachiwerewere ngati chowiringula.
Kotero pamodzi ndi zotsalira zambiri monga PIED, feteleza zowonongeka, kutha kwa nyenyezi za nthawi yamtengo wapatali, kuyang'ana kwa akazi monga zinthu za kugonana, ndi zina zotero, zotsatira zina zoipa zomwe zolaula zingakhale nazo ndi kukupatsani lingaliro losokonezeka la kugonana kwanu.
LINK - Zachilendo momwe kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula kumakhudzira gawo lanu logonana
By Kumakumakuma
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