Dzulo ndinapita ku phwando limene ndimadziwa munthu yekha wa 1. Zina mwazidzidzidzi zomwe zinachitika zinalembedwa:
- Kutha kuwonjezera ndemanga pakati pa zokambirana ndi ngati 10 osawadziwa akundiyang'ana mwachindunji ndikuwayang'ana m'maso pamene ndikunena nkhani yanga. Ndinaona kuti akukomedwa ndi mmene ndimayankhulira koma sanandichotsere maso (ndinaona mtsikana mmodzi mpaka anangondiyang'ana ngati akulota nditamaliza kuyankhula). Nthawi zambiri ndimakhala chete ndikuyesera kulankhula ndi munthu pambali panga ngati pali chilichonse, "kuti ndisapezeke ngati wodabwitsa".
- Ndikhoza kukambirana ndi mtsikana ngati ndimayankhula ndi mnzanga. Nthawi zambiri ndimamverera kuti ndikukakamizidwa kugonana kapena kukondedwa ndi mkazi aliyense amene ndimakomana naye. Iwo ndi anthu okha omwe ndingathe kugwirizana nawo pogwiritsa ntchito zofuna ndi zamagetsi, monga momwe ndimachitira ndi anthu ena.
- Palibenso malingaliro oti "Kodi ndikuwononga phwando la aliyense? Ndikuganiza kuti samandikonda. Ndikutsimikiza kuti onse amaganiza kuti ndine wodabwitsa. Ndiyenera kuchoka ”pakakhala chete pazokambirana kapena anthu akasiya kuseka kwa mphindi zingapo kapena zina zotere.
- Njira yodzidzimvera yochepa pa maonekedwe anga. Ndimadziyang'anira ndekha ndikuyesetsa kuti ndikhale ndi moyo wabwino tsiku lililonse koma ndikusamala kwambiri za mafuta ochepa opusa omwe ndi ovuta kuti ndiwachotse. Kawirikawiri lingaliro la wina ndikuganiza kuti sindiri woyenera likhoza kukhala pamutu wanga kwa maola ambiri ndikuwonjezera nkhawa yanga.
- Ndimaganiza kuti atsikana angapo anali owoneka bwino komanso osangalatsa. Ndidazindikira pambuyo pake anyamatawo anali komweko. Mtima wanga wabwino sunasinthe. Nthawi zambiri ndimayamba kudzifananitsa ndi zibwenzi zawo, nthawi zambiri zimandiwononga, zomwe zimabweretsa malingaliro okhumudwitsa. Kapena ndimaganiza kuti ndinali wabwino kuposa iwo kenako ndikumverera kukwiya ("bwanji ali naye osati ndi ine?")
Izi ndi zina mwazizindikiro za usiku wa dzulo zomwe tifunika kuzitchula kwa wina yemwe ali ndi nkhawa, kukhumudwa, ndi zina zambiri. Koma chachikulu kwambiri ndipo chomwe ndimakonda kwambiri ndikugawana chisangalalo cha anthu omwe ali pafupi nane, abwenzi akale komanso kulumikizana kwatsopano. Sindinapeze chikondi komabe ndimasangalala ndikakumana ndi mabanja osangalala, sindine wolemera koma ndimasangalala ndikakumana ndi anthu omwe ali ndi ndalama, ndilibe abwenzi ambiri koma ndine wokondwa kwa iwo omwe ali ndi zambiri, izi zitha pitirizani kwamuyaya.
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