Mukufuna kukhutira kwakukulu? Dziwani ubongo wanu.
Zolakalaka zogonana zakhala zikugwiritsidwa ntchito ngati njira yokwaniritsira zosowa zakugonana kapena kudzaza kusiyana pakati pa okwatirana chifukwa cha kulumikizana kwa libidos. Izi zikutanthauza kuti chilakolako chogonana chili ngati njala: mumangodya (kapena kumaliseche) mpaka mutakhuta. Zachidziwikire, ngati muli ndi chidwi chachikulu kapena chosiyanasiyana kuposa mnzanu, mumawonjezera zokhwasula-khwasula, kapena kuseweretsa maliseche, momwe zingakhalire.
Anthu ambiri amawona zachilendo pamene akudya zakudya zakudya. Ngati chakudya chotsala ndi chofunika kwambiri chifukwa chimakupatsani chakudya mofulumira, malingaliro anu omwe mumawakonda ndi ofunikira chifukwa amakufulumizani, kapena kukuwombera kwakukulu kwa mankhwala.
Kodi pangakhale zambiri ku nkhaniyi? Monga momwe zakudya zamtundu wina zimayambira zilakolako ndi kupalasa, mwina mitundu ina ya malingaliro a kugonana amachitanso, mwachitsanzo, inu inadzutsidwa kwenikweni). Mwachitsanzo, pangani chakudya cha shuga chizoloŵezi, ndipo mwinamwake mungawafunire ngakhale mutakhala ndi chilakolako chopatsa thanzi lanu, ndiko kuti ngakhale thupi lanu sayenera kudya. Simukuyang'ana zakudya zopatsa thanzi, koma kuti mufufuze mwachidule mankhwala amubongo a dopamine, omwe posachedwa ayambiranso-ndikukusiyani nkhawa yambiri.
Mofananamo, mukamaganizira kwambiri za bwenzi la atatu kapena kinky, malingaliro amenewo amakhala olimba kwambiri komanso olimba. Mumayika ma cell amitsempha palimodzi kuti mupange njira yolumikizira kanema wanu wamkati ndi chilakolako chogonana. Zotsatira zake, kuyerekezera kumatha kuyambitsa kusewera china mumtima mwanu ngati CD yowonongeka. Mukamapanga dopamine yanu ndi aliyense lonjezo za zokondweretsa, zilakolako zamagulu zingakwezeke pamwamba pazomwe zilipo kale. Kukhumudwa kwanu kochuluka kungachititse kukhala kovuta kwambiri kuti mupeze chisangalalo. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, ubongo wanu ukhoza kusokonezeka kwambiri pazochitika zenizeni. Mkazi wina anati,
Ndimakonda kusinkhasinkha zochitika zolaula. Koma tsopano ndikusunga pang'ono, chifukwa pamene ndinagonana ndi mwamuna wanga kachiwiri kunkawoneka kovuta.
Zomwe mungakulimbikitseni ndi zongopeka ndizosiyana ndi kusowa kwanu koyenera kuti mulumikizane kwambiri ndi munthu wina. Phokoso lamankhwala amitsempha "MUKUTHANDIZA!" Zizindikiro zochokera kuzongoganizira zitha kusokoneza ubongo wanu oyang'anira madera-Ndipo yesetsani zofunikira zanu. Pamene gawo ili labwino la ubongo lanu limatulutsanso mankhwala osokoneza bongo okhudzidwa mukamaganizira zogonana kusiyana ndi nthawi yogonana ndi mnzanuyo, gawo lanu lidzasangalatsa malingaliro anu Pamwambapa mnzanuyo. Izi zimayambitsa mikangano ya mkati ndipo ikhoza kukusocheretsani phindu la chikondi chenicheni ndi ubwenzi wapamtima, zomwe zakhala zikuwonetsedwa kuti zikule bwino).
Zozizwitsa zimaganiziridwa kukhala zopanda phindu, zirizonse zomwe zilipo. Komabe, monga momwe ziliri ndi chakudya, mtundu komanso kuchuluka kwa zochitika zogonana zimawoneka kuti zilibe vuto pamagulu a ubongo. Munthu wina anati:
Pali zovuta zambiri ndikukhala okonda kwambiri zoganiza zakugonana. Ndazindikira zotsatira zake: ndikangochita zongopeka, malingaliro ake amakhala osakondweretsanso, kenako ndikuyenera kupita kuzinthu zina zowoneka bwino komanso zochepa, ngati zolaula. Chowonadi chokhazikitsa malingaliro osangalatsa sichimafanana ndi chiyembekezo, ndipo malingaliro ambiri sangakhale athanzi pachibwenzi atachitapo kanthu.
Kuganiza mochuluka kwambiri ndi vuto inu?
Kodi mukukula pachimake ndikuchulukirachulukira, kapena pazowopsa kwambiri? Kodi mumakhala ndi zilakolako zovuta, zomwe sizikhala nthawi yayitali ngakhale mutakhala ndi chidwi chongoyerekeza? Kodi mumakwiya pamene mnzanu sakukwaniritsa "zosowa" zanu, mwachitsanzo, masewera olamulira kapena kupanga makanema apanyumba? Kodi nkhawa yanu ikukula? Kodi mukudzipatula kwambiri? Kodi mukungokhala wokwiya msanga kapena wokwiya msanga? Ndinu zovuta zofooka? Kodi mumayesetsa kwamuyaya kuti mupeze kanema wabwino kwambiriyu kuti mukhale wokhutira? (Zabwino zonse ndi izi.)
Ngati mukukumana ndi zinthu zotere, ndiye kuti zowonjezera, kapena zotentha, ziphuphu sizoyankha. Itha kukhala nthawi yofunafuna chisangalalo kudzera njira ina. Njira yotsatira yotsatirayi imathandizira odwala omwe ali ndi vuto lokakamiza kutulutsa ubongo wawo. Wodwala OCD amakhulupirira kuti ngati angangowonetsetsa kuti chitofu chatha nthawi yokwanira, adzamasuka. M'malo mwake, kuda nkhawa kwake kumakula chifukwa amatsegula ubongo wosathandiza nthawi iliyonse akaunika. Amangoyamba kufooketsa malowo pamene iye samachita zofuna zake. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, pamene mukuchita zambiri, ndiyomwe mukufuna kuchita; ngati simukuzichita, ndipang'ono pomwe mukufuna kuchita izo.
M'malo moyesera kuthana ndi kukhumudwa kwanu poganiza zongopeka kwambiri, lolani mpweya kutuluke m'malingaliro anu. Lolani kuti ubongowo ufooke chifukwa chonyalanyazidwa. Lekani kumapeto kwa malingaliro anu. Lekani kufufuza pa intaneti kuti mupeze makanema ake. Nthawi iliyonse ikafika m'maganizo mwanu, nenani mumtima mwanu kuti, "Kanani!" Ingoganizirani phokoso lalikulu lomwe likubwera m'mutu mwanu, ndipo yerekezerani kuti mukusindikiza bwalo lalikulu lofiira ndikudutsamo pazithunzi zanu zakutsogolo ndi clang. Nthawi yomweyo tcherani chidwi chanu kwina kulikonse.
Mukamasiya kuyambitsa njira zodziwika bwino zaubongo, kulumikizana kwa ma synapses a maselo amitsempha yofananira kumafooka, ndipo malingaliro amangomasula imfa. Samalani kuti musalimbane ndi zoyerekeza, kuzitcha mayina, kapena kuzitcha (kapena nokha!) "Wodwala" kapena "wochimwa." Osayesa kuyesa ngati mukupita patsogolo. Njira zoterezi zimawonjezera nkhawa. (Ngati mungapeze kulumikizana pakati pa nkhawa ndi kudzutsa, mutha kupeza kuti mukufuna kukhala osasangalala mukapanikizika.)
Poyamba izi zimakhala zovuta, zimawoneka zopanda pake, ndipo zimapweteka. Ubongo wanu akufuna Kukonzekera kwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso kuchotsa sikumveka bwino. Ziribe kanthu momwe mumamvera mumtima mwako mukamagwiritsa ntchito njirayi, ndizo zomwe mumapanga do zomwe zimawerengedwa. Cholinga chanu panopa ndikutaya mwachangu malingaliro onse a chiwerewere chanu, ndikulola ubongo wanu kubwerera. Zimatengera chipiriro ndi kusasinthasintha, koma zikhoza kuchitidwa.
Mudzadziwa kuti njira yanu yatsopano ikugwira ntchito mukadzuka chilakolako chogonana mwachilengedwe popanda malingaliro. Icho ndi chizindikiro chabwino kwambiri; ubongo wanu ukudziyendanso wokha. Muyeneranso kuti mupeze zinthu ziwiri: (1) kusowa kwanu kwamankhwala ocheperako ndikotsika kwambiri kuposa momwe mumaganizira mukamagwiritsa ntchito zongopeka pachimake, ndipo (2) zenizeni ndizosangalatsa kwambiri pakumverera kwa ubongo wanu.
Mwamuna wina, yemwe adakwiya ndi kusakhutira kwa zaka zambiri chifukwa adakhulupirira kuti kugonana ndi abambo ndi mkazi wake wosafuna, ndiye njira yokhayo yokhalira wachimwemwe, analeka kulingalira za izo ndi kufunafuna zolaula zachiwerewere. Patapita mwezi, anaikapo:
Ndikumva kuti ndikukopa kwambiri mkazi wanga ndikupeza kuti kuli kosavuta kuiwala kumverera kwanga. Mikanganoyo inkawoneka ngati ikuchokera ku zosangalatsa zanga, mmalo moganizira kwambiri zomwe zenizeni panthawi yogonana.
Kwa zaka zambiri, malingalirowo adawonekera panthawi yogonana pomwe kugonana sikunafanane ndi malingaliro amenewo. Kuyanjana kwanga ndi pafupifupi azimayi onse, kwenikweni, kunaphimbidwa ndi lingaliro loyambirira loti 'bwanji ngati uyu andilola ine ...' Malingaliro abwinowa adandibweretsera mphindi khumi osakhulupirika. Ndimalola kuti iwononge maola ambiri osasinthika.
Kumbukirani, malingaliro ndi zithunzi zomwe zimapangitsa maliseche anu kulumpha zitha kukhala zithunzithunzi chabe, zomwe mwangomvera mwachangu kuti mutsegule mphotho yanu yaubongo. Ubongo wanu umakonda zinthu ngati izi chifukwa zimatulutsa ma neurochemicals osangalatsa, motero zimangowonetsa kuti mukufunanso chiwonetsero china chongopeka. Kwa nthawi yayitali, komabe, kukhutira kumawoneka ngati mankhwala opangira ubongo, kuphatikizapo chibwenzi (kapena maubwenzi ambiri achiyanjano), mmalo mokhala pafupipafupi. Izi ndi zosavuta kuona kamodzi ubongo wanu utabwerera.
Kodi n'chiyani chimathandiza pakalipano? Zochita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kucheza ndi anthu, tsiku ndi tsiku makhalidwe abwino ndi wokondedwa wanu, kusinkhasinkha tsiku ndi tsiku, kuvina, yoga mnzanu, nthawi ya chilengedwe, kusewera kapena kusamalana ndi banja ndi zinyama, kuchepetsa shuga ndi caffeine, ndi zina zambiri.
Zolakalaka zogonana zimawoneka ngati njira yotsimikizika yowonjezera chisangalalo chanu. Komabe ngati mkwiyo wanu ukuwonjezeka, mutha kuyang'ana chisangalalo komwe sichingapezeke. Zowonjezera zambiri zotentha zimapereka mpumulo kwakanthawi, koma sizikhutitsa kwathunthu kapena kwakanthawi. Mwachidule, si ziphuphu zonse zomwe zimakhala ngati chakudya. Ena amafanana kwambiri ndi Fritos.
Mutalola kuti ubongo wanu ubwerere bwino, mungapeze kuti nthawi yowonongeka-zomwe zimakhala zosaoneka, zosasangalatsa-zimachepetsa kukhumudwa kusiyana ndi kugonana ndi kugonana. Mungafune ngakhale kuyesa zina njira yodalirika yopangira chikondi.
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Ndinaganiza zochita izi nditakumana ndi ED ndi m'modzi mwa atsikana okongola kwambiri omwe ndidawawonapo. Anali mwa ine kuyambira tsiku lomwe adakumana nane. Tinatuluka kangapo ndipo tinakagona. Izi sizinayende bwino. Tidali oledzera, ndipo adamaliza ntchito yambiri. Kutacha m'mawa, amafuna kupita koma sindinathe. Ndinadziwa kuti inali nthawi yoti ndisinthe.
Porn sizinali kanthu kwenikweni kwa ine. Ndimatha kukonda zokhazokha ndipo ndimazichita 1-2 patsiku. Izi zakhala zikuchitika kuyambira pomwe ndinali pasukulu yasekondale. Panali nthawi (monga koleji) pomwe ndimakhala ndi zibwenzi ndipo kuchepa kumatha kuchepa chifukwa ndimagona, koma sindinayime kwenikweni. Kwa zaka zingapo zapitazi, ndimangomva kuti sindinkafunika kugonana kotero ndinangokhalira kukula.
Masiku ochepa oyambirira sanali ovuta kwa ine. M'malo mwake, masabata angapo oyamba anali ophweka. Nthawi ina mozungulira sabata lachitatu, ndinayamba kukumana ndi zovuta zanga. Maganizo anga amabwera m'maganizo ndipo thupi langa lingapemphere. Kulimbana ndi izi kunatenga zonse zomwe ndinali nazo. Masekondi ochepa, ndinayenera kuwongolera maganizo anga. Zinali zachiwawa, koma zinagwira ntchito.
Nthawi ina pambuyo pa sabata lachinayi, ndinayamba kuzindikira kusintha kosangalatsa - mbolo yanga imawoneka yayikulu. Sindikudziwa kwathunthu chifukwa chake. Ndiwodzaza, wozungulira, komanso wowoneka bwino. Mphamvu zanga zili bwino kuposa kale lonse. Sikuti ndikungokhala pamakoma, koma ndili ndi kuthekera kopitilira ntchito, sukulu, ndi zochitika zina - pomwe kale, ndimangogona ndikupuma pang'ono nthawi ndi nthawi.
Ndinachita izi molimbika, koma ndinapusitsabe ndi atsikana angapo pano ndi apo, koma sindinakhalepo ndi ziphuphu.
Ponseponse, nditha kunena kuti ulendowu udalidi wofunika. Malingaliro okhudzana ndi kugonana omwe kale anali ndi ine kulibenso - zithunzi zosaoneka bwino zam'mbuyomu zomwe sizimandikhudza chilichonse.
Ndinkadziuza kuti ndikhoza kubwerera pambuyo pa masiku 90, koma mukudziwa chiyani - sindikumva kuti ndikuchifuna. Ngati ndiyambiranso kukula ndikhoza kungobwerera m'mbuyo momwemo. Chifukwa chake, lero sindikuthokoza. Sindikumva kuti ndikufunikiranso. Ndikuganiza kuti ndipitiliza kukhala pachibwenzi ndikupitabe patsogolo ndi moyo wanga watsopano.
Zolakalaka zitha kuzimiririka ndikufa bola ngati simupitiliza "
Chimodzi mwazomwe zimandichititsa nditasiya zolaula ndimalingaliro ovuta awa, ena amatha kumapeto kwa masekondi ochepa, koma ena ubongo wanga ukakhala "wosachita kanthu", ngati poyesera kugona, ndipo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi malingaliro olimba ataliatali. Sizinapangitse kuti Fapping iwonongeke, (monga kuseweretsa, kapena zomwe ndingatchule ngati kuseweretsa maliseche.
Ndili ndi tsiku la 62 loyambiranso ndipo zodabwitsa kuti malingaliro tsopano akutha, ndipo ndikuganiza kuti ndi njira zamaganizidwe obwezeretsa ubongo wanga, osalirira squirt yaying'ono ya Dopamine.
Mwanjira ina kuli ngati kusiya "bwenzi lakale", lomwe ndimatha kuyendera ndi anthu ondizungulira, ndipo palibe amene adadziwapo kanthu. M'magawo anga oyambiranso kuyambiranso ndimapitabe ku "malo osangalala" onse, ngakhale ndimadziwa bwino, koma chifukwa ndimakhala ndikuganiza zaka 10+ zinali malo ovuta kusiya kuyendera.
Kotero pali kachilombo kakang'ono pano, koma tsopano ndikuzindikira kuti chifukwa chakuti ndikungotaya kuti ubongo wanga ndi (potsiriza) machiritso.
Ndikungofuna kugawana nawo zodabwitsazi zomwe ndikukumana nazo! Ngati wina aliyense ali ndi mavuto omwewo ndi zokhumbirika, zingatenge kanthawi, koma zimatha ndikufa bola mukapitiliza "kuwadyetsa"!
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- Kodi munthu amadziwa bwanji? Mankhwala omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri padziko lonse, Mayiko Akumayiko Onse a Matenda (ICD-11), ali ndi matenda atsopano woyenera kuchita zachiwerewere: "Kugonana Kwachiwerewere. ”(2018)
- Kugonana ndi kugonana / kugonana? Tsambali likulemba Zotsatira za 39 za sayansi (MRI, fMRI, EEG, matenda opatsirana pogonana, mahomoni). Amapereka chithandizo cholimba cha mtundu wa mankhwala osokoneza bongo pamene zofukufuku zawo zimagwirizanitsa zochitika za m'maganizo zomwe zimafotokozedwa mu maphunziro osokoneza bongo.
- Malingaliro enieni a akatswiri okhudzana ndi zolaula / kugonana? Mndandanda uwu uli Ndemanga za 16 zaposachedwa & ndemanga ndi ena mwa apamwamba a sayansi ya sayansi padziko lapansi. Zonse zothandizira mtundu wa mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
- Zizindikiro za kuledzera ndi kuchuluka kwa zinthu zoopsa kwambiri? Kupitilira maphunziro a 30 omwe amafotokoza zomwe zikugwirizana ndi kuchuluka kwa zolaula (kulolerana), chizolowezi choonera zolaula, komanso zisonyezo zosiya (zizindikiro zonse ndi zizindikiro zosokoneza bongo).
- Kulingalira mfundo yosalimbikitsidwa yolankhulidwa yakuti "chilakolako chachikulu cha kugonana" akufotokozera zolaula kapena chizolowezi chogonana: Kafukufuku wa 25 amapusitsa kunena kuti kugonana & zolaula "amangokhala ndi chilakolako chofuna kugonana"
- Zolaula ndi zogonana? Mndandandawu uli ndi maphunziro a 26 omwe akugwirizanitsa ntchito zolaula / zolaula ku mavuto a kugonana ndi kuchepetsa chilakolako chogonana. FZosintha za 5 zilibe mndandanda zovuta, pamene ophunzira adasiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndikuchiza matenda opatsirana pogonana.
- Zotsatira za zovuta pazoyanjana? Zofufuza pafupifupi 60 zimagwirizanitsa zolaula zimagwiritsa ntchito kugonana kosachepera komanso kukhutira ndi chibwenzi. (Monga momwe ife tikudziwira onse Kafukufuku wokhudza amuna adanena za kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula zambiri zogwirizana osauka kugonana kapena kukondana.)
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