Kupeza thandizo pa nkhani zokhudzana ndi kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula mopitirira muyeso ndi lingaliro labwino. Komabe, akatswiri ambiri azachipatala sadziwa momwe zolaula za pa intaneti zomwe zimawonjezera chilakolako cha kugonana zimakhalira zovuta. Ambiri adaphunzitsidwa pamene Playboy anali wosasamala komanso wofewa, komanso asanafike sayansi ya ubongo yomwe ikuthandizira kufotokoza kufanana pakati pa zinthu zolimbikitsa kwambiri ndi machitidwe—zonse zomwe zingayambitse zizolowezi. Maphunziro ena a alangizi amalimbikitsa kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ngati chida chochiritsira!
Wofalitsa malo akuti:
Nditapita kukawona wothandizira ndidamutumizira maulalo ndi ulusi angapo ndi masamba okhudzana ndi zolaula, ED, kuti amvetsetse kuti sizinali m'malingaliro mwanga koma vuto lenileni. Adadabwa kwambiri ndi kuchuluka kwa anyamata omwe adachita izi. Othandizira ambiri akhala akuchita ntchito zawo kwazaka zambiri, ndipo amatsatira upangiri wawo pamaphunziro / zokumana nazo zantchito isanakwane nthawi yomwe zolaula zimapezeka mosavuta. M'malo mwake othandizira a 'skool' akale nthawi zambiri AMANENERA zolaula m'malo molimbikitsa kudziletsa. Ndidadzipeza ndekha ndikuphunzitsa wothandizira wanga kuposa momwe amandiphunzitsira… ndipo ndi amene adalipira. Amapempha kukhulupirira!
Komabe, anali mayi wabwino kotero sindinadandaule kwambiri. Komanso, zolaula pa intaneti ndichinthu chatsopano. Panokha ndingakuuzeni kuti muwonabe chimodzi, atha kukhala ngati mlangizi wabwino wosaweruza.
Ndikupangira kuti muphunzitse othandizira anu musanapite kukacheza. Monga inu kasitomala, wothandizira sayenera kunyalanyaza pempho lanu. Atha kukhala wofunitsitsa kuchitapo kanthu mozama pamene zikuwonekeratu kuti mwachita kafukufuku ndikukhudzana ndi nkhanizi. Ndikuganiza maulalo omwe ndidamutumizira adathandizadi. Zinali zodabwitsa kuti anyamata ambiri anali okwiya kwambiri omwe 'anam'peza'.
Malingaliro anga, kuwongolera nkhaniyo ndi wodwala kudzera pa imelo pasadakhale kuyeneranso kuthandizira kuthetsa chidwi choyambirira / manyazi pazokambirana za chiwerewere ndi zizindikiro zokhudzana nazo.
Ukwati ndi othandizira mabanja
Kafukufuku wa mu 2008 wa akatswiri ofufuza za mabanja ndi mabanja adavumbulutsa kuti sanaphunzitsidwe kuthana ndi vuto la chizolowezi choonera zolaula.
Ambiri omwe anafunsidwa adanena kuti maphunziro awo ophunzitsidwa ku koleji sanali othandiza powakonzekera kuti azindikire ndi kuthana ndi mavuto okhudza kugonana ndi azimayi.
Ndendende. M'malo mwake, aphunzitsidwa zolaula zilibe vuto. Malangizo oterewa ndiabwino kwa maubongo omwe sanakhazikike chifukwa chochulukirapo. Ngati pakanakhala kuti palibe zolaula pa intaneti, anyamata ambiri sakanayamba chizolowezi choseweretsa maliseche. Izi zikutanthauza kuti malangizo akuti "chitani momwe mukufunira mukakhala ndi chilakolako" angakhale oyenera.
Khalidwe logonana
Komabe, ngati katswiri wanu wa zachiwerewere ndi wachizolowezi, maphunziro awo okhudza chizolowezi cha kugonana ali kumbuyo kwa nthawi. Sanaphunzirepo kuti zolaula za pa intaneti zili ndi mphamvu yogonjetsa chilakolako chanu chachibadwa ndikupanga chizolowezi. Angaganizebe kuti chizolowezi chingachitike kokha ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo, ndipo kuti maliseche sangakhale chizolowezi "pokhapokha ngati wina ali ndi manyazi achipembedzo." Kuphatikiza apo, mwina sakudziwa za matenda omwe akubwera chifukwa cha " khalidwe logonana lokakamiza " mu ICD-11 ya World Health Organization.
Amaganiziridwa kuti kugonana ndi chakudya sizingayambitse bongo. Tinaganiza izi chifukwa momwe ubongo wamagetsi umakhalira kuti uzisamalira. Ndiye kuti, zimaganiziridwa kuti anthu amasiya akakhala ndi "zokwanira". Sizili choncho, komabe, masiku ano zolaula zomwe zimachitika pa intaneti, kapena zakudya zopanda thanzi. Pakadali pano anthu aku America + 30% ndi onenepa kwambiri (amakonda kudya). Zomwezi zikuchitikanso m'makanema ambiri amakanema masiku ano. Mitengo yakusokoneza bongo ku Hungary ndi China pakati pa achinyamata ndi 18% ndi 14%, motsatana.
Kafukufuku waposachedwapa
Chifukwa chake pali mwayi woti dokotala wanu akukumbukira zomwe mabuku ake ananena. Kapenanso amapita pazochitikira zake ngati osakonda. Akuganiza kuti chiopsezo chachikulu chomwe mungakumane nacho ndi kuponderezedwa. Si. Ndi chizolowezi: kusintha mtima-kwa-mulungu muubongo wanu komwe kumatha kusintha kuyankha kwakukonda kwaubongo wanu ndikuwongolera.
Kafukufuku waposachedwapa wasonyeza izi momveka bwino. Ndipotu, mu 2011, bungwe la American Society of Addiction Medicine (madokotala 3000) linapereka lipoti la anthu onse pofotokoza izi ndikunena momveka bwino kuti kugonana kungakhale chizolowezi. Mu 2018, buku lothandizira kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi lofufuza matenda, The International Classification of Diseases (ICD-11), linapanga njira yatsopano yodziwira matenda oyenera kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula: "Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder ."
Sayansi ya kusokoneza
Komabe, ngati wothandizira anu sanaphunzitsidwe mwapadera muubongo waukadaulo, muyenera kukhala okonzeka kupeza yemwe ali. Izi ndizochitikira mnyamata m'modzi:
Ndinapita kwa wothandizira yemwe adanena kuti anali katswiri wazolowera intaneti. Chifukwa chake ndidamuuza zavuto langa ndipo adakamba nkhani momwe zimakhalira komanso kuti tonsefe ndife ogonana. Anapitilizabe kukambirana za momwe zimakhalira zomwe zimandipangitsa kuti ndizichita manyazi poyang'ana zolaula ndikuyesera kunditsimikizira kuti ndilibe chizolowezi. Choyipitsitsa chake adandinyoza ngati ndili ndi zaka 12! Ndinamuuza vuto langa ndikuti ndimakhala nthawi yambiri ndikuonera zolaula, ndipo mukudziwa zomwe ananena? Anandiuza kuti ndigwiritse ntchito timer timer ndikuyika ola limodzi! Sindinamuwonepo pambuyo pake.
Muyeneranso kuphunzitsa dokotala wanu:
Nditafika kwa dokotala wanga koyamba za ED yanga yosamvetsetseka, nkhawa yayikulu yakugonana, komanso kusowa kwa libido, adayambitsa mayeso a testosterone. Izi zitabweranso, adandipatsa mankhwala ochepetsa nkhawa. "Zonse zili mumutu mwako, muyenera kungodzikumbutsa za izi, ndipo izi ziyenera kukuthandizani." Ngakhale zidali zonse m'mutu mwanga, ndipo mapiritsi ANTHANDIZA amathandizadi pang'ono, sizinafike kuzu wa nkhaniyi. Kwa miyezi idapitilira ndikupitilizabe ED ndikulephera kuyeserera zogonana, ndipo zonsezi zidawonjezeranso malingaliro oyipitsitsa.
Komabe, NoFap yakhala ikuthandiza mpaka pano, ndipo kuchokera ku nkhani zopambana zomwe ndawerenga (ndi kuchuluka kwake), ndikukhulupirira kuti zipitiliza kukhala bwino ndikukonza izi. Chifukwa chake, nditapita kukayezetsa thupi dzulo, ndinapatsa dokotala wanga ulalo wa nkhani ya TEDx ndipo ndinalankhula naye pang'ono za lingaliroli. Amawoneka kuti ali ndi chidwi kwambiri, ndipo ndikuganiza kuti adzayang'anira. Tikukhulupirira kuti ngati atero, akhoza kuloza munthu wina wovutikayo njira yoyenera.
Mawonetsero a kanema:
- Ubongo Wachikulire Umagwiritsa Ntchito Intaneti Yopambana (2013)
- Ubongo Wanu pa Zithunzi Zogonana (Powerpoint)
- Kusokonezeka kwa Erectile ndi Porn (Power Point)
- TEDx Talk
- Njira ya YouTube ya Nowa BE Mpingo
- Njira ya YouTube ya Gabe Deem: Nation Reboot
Perekani katswiri wanu mndandanda wa maphunziro pa ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula:
- Kugonana ndi kugonana / kugonana? Tsambali likulemba Zotsatira za 40 za sayansi (MRI, fMRI, EEG, matenda opatsirana pogonana, mahomoni). Amapereka chithandizo cholimba cha mtundu wa mankhwala osokoneza bongo pamene zofukufuku zawo zimagwirizanitsa zochitika za m'maganizo zomwe zimafotokozedwa mu maphunziro osokoneza bongo.
- Malingaliro enieni a akatswiri okhudzana ndi zolaula / kugonana? Mndandanda uwu uli Ndemanga za 18 zaposachedwa & ndemanga ndi ena mwa apamwamba a sayansi ya sayansi padziko lapansi. Zonse zothandizira mtundu wa mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
- Zizindikiro za kuledzera ndi kuchuluka kwa zinthu zoopsa kwambiri? Kupitilira maphunziro a 30 omwe amafotokoza zomwe zikugwirizana ndi kuchuluka kwa zolaula (kulolerana), chizolowezi choonera zolaula, komanso zisonyezo zosiya (zizindikiro zonse ndi zizindikiro zosokoneza bongo).
- Kulingalira mfundo yosalimbikitsidwa yolankhulidwa yakuti "chilakolako chachikulu cha kugonana" akufotokozera zolaula kapena chizolowezi chogonana: Kafukufuku wa 25 amapusitsa kunena kuti kugonana & zolaula "amangokhala ndi chilakolako chofuna kugonana"
Mavuto a zolaula komanso kugonana
- Zolaula ndi zogonana? Mndandandawu uli ndi maphunziro a 26 + okhudzana ndi zolaula / zolaula ku mavuto a kugonana ndikulepheretsa kugonana. The Zotsatira za 5 zoyambirira mumndandanda ukuwonetsa zovuta, pamene ophunzira adasiya kugwiritsa ntchito zolaula ndikuchiza matenda opatsirana pogonana.
- Zotsatira za zovuta pazoyanjana? Zofufuza pafupifupi 60 zimagwirizanitsa zolaula zimagwiritsa ntchito kugonana kosachepera komanso kukhutira ndi chibwenzi. (Monga momwe ife tikudziwira onse Kafukufuku wokhudza amuna adanena za kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula zambiri zogwirizana osauka kugonana kapena kukondana.)
- Kodi kugwiritsa ntchito zithunzi kumakhudza bwanji maganizo ndi maganizo? Pazofufuza za 55 zomwe zimagwirizanitsa zolaula zimagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi thanzi lakuthupi lamaganizidwe & zotsatira zazidziwitso zosauka.
- Kodi kugwiritsa ntchito zithunzi kumakhudza bwanji zikhulupiliro, malingaliro ndi makhalidwe? Onani maphunziro aumwini - Phunziro la 25 limagwirizanitsa zolaula zimagwiritsira ntchito "maganizo osagwirizana" kwa amayi ndi malingaliro ogonana - kapena chidule cha mndandanda wa 2016: Media ndi Sexualization: Boma la Kafukufuku Wofufuza, 1995-2015.
Magulu ogwiritsa ntchito mwachindunji
- Nanga bwanji za chiwerewere ndi kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula? Kufufuza kwina: Meta-Kuonongeka kwa Kuonera Zolaula Ntchito ndi Zoona Zochitika Zachiwerewere mu Zophunzira Zambiri za Anthu (2015).
- Bwanji za kugwiritsira ntchito zolaula ndi achinyamata? Onani mndandanda wazinthu Zotsatira za achinyamata a 200, kapena 2012 kafukufuku wa kafukufuku - Zotsatira za Zithunzi Zolaula pa Intaneti pa Achinyamata: Kupenda kafukufuku (2012). Kuchokera pamapeto pake:
- Kuti mumvetse bwino mfundo iliyonse yomwe mungayankhe komanso chidwi chofufuza chitumbuwa, onani mfundo yaikuluyi: Debunking "N'chifukwa Chiyani Timakayikirabe za Kuonera Zolaula?? ", Ndi Marty Klein, Taylor Kohut, ndi Nicole Prause (2018). Momwe mungazindikire nkhani zotsutsana: Iwo amatchula Prause et al., 2015 (amanamizira kuti imayambitsa zolaula), pamene asiya maphunziro oposa khumi ndi awiri a 3 akuthandizira kuwononga zolaula.
Zolaula pa intaneti ndizapadera ndipo zimatha kuyambitsa chizolowezi
Mfundo zazikulu za momwe zolaula za pa intaneti ndizopadera komanso momwe kugwiritsira ntchito kumayambitsa chizolowezi zafotokozedwa apa. Ndikupangira kuwerenga izi motere:
- Zosangalatsa, Zachilendo, ndi zotsatira za Coolidge
- Zomwe Zilipo Pakadali pano: Mwalandiridwa ku Maphunziro a Ubongo
- N'chifukwa Chiyani Sindiyenera Kuonera Johnny Watch Porn Ngati Amamukonda?
- Kodi Mungakhulupirire Johnson Wanu?
- Zojambula, Pseudoscience ndi DFFB
- Maphunziro Osokoneza Bongo Amakono Akuphatikizapo Zolaula
- Addicts Addicts Adzakhalanso Odziwika Pogwiritsira Ntchito Buku la WHO la Diagnostic Manual (ICD-11)
- Kodi Mumakopeka ndi Zolaula? Funsani ASAM
- Gwiritsani Ntchito Mabuku Athu: Ma Docs Akuthandizani Kuletsa Zizolowezi Zogonana. American Society of Addiction Medicine amavomereza kusagwirizana ndi DSM
- Achinyamata Amagwiritsa Ntchito Zambiri Kuti Apeze Mojo wawo
- Kugonana, Kumaliseche ndi Mojo: Maganizo a Neuroscience
Zogwirizana ndi chirichonse pamalo amodzi
Malumikizowo kwa akatswiri mumunda uno
- Akatswiri omwe amadziwa zolaula-amachititsa kuti anthu azigonana, kuphatikizapo PIED
- Kugonana pa ubongo: Kodi Pulasitiki Yamaphunziro Amaphunzitsa Chiyani za Internet Porn (2014), Norman Doidge, MD
- Norman Doidge pa Zithunzi Zolaula ndi Matenda Okhudza Matenda a Mitsempha (tsamba lochokera Ubongo Womwe Umasintha)
- Kuwonetseratu zithunzi za ED kumapezeka ku bungwe la American Urologic Association, May 6-10, 2016: Gawo 1, Gawo 2, Gawo 3, Part 4.
- "Wamaliseche Watsopano" wolemba urologist Harry Fisch, MD (2014)
Mabungwe ndi "zizolowezi zakugonana"
- Chidziwitso cha boma: Buku logwiritsiridwa ntchito kwambiri lazachipatala padziko lonse lapansi, Mayiko Akumayiko Onse a Matenda (ICD-11), ali ndi matenda atsopano woyenera kuchita zachiwerewere: "Kugonana Kwachiwerewere. ”(2018)
- Pepala lotsitsimikizidwa ndi anzanga ndi DSM-5 membala wa gulu la ntchito Richard Krueger MD: Matendawa zokhudzana ndi kugonana kapena kugonana kwachinyengo zingagwiritsidwe ntchito ndi ICD-10 ndi DSM-5 ngakhale kuti akutsutsa izi ndi American Psychiatric Association
- Akatswiri Opambana aku America (ASAM) Atulutsa Chidule Chatsopano Tanthauzo la Chizolowezi (2011)
- American Society for Addiction Medicine: Tanthauzo la Kusuta - Long Version (2011)
- National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH): DSM ndi yopanda pake komanso yosatha (2013).
Chonde titumizireni ndi malingaliro ena. Sakuyenera kukhala kuchokera patsamba lino.