5 NoFap Zokuthandizani Ndikuyenera kugawana.
Moni nonse, 22M ndili pano. Posachedwapa ndalemba positi yanga yoyamba yokhudza ulendo wanga wopita ku fapstronaut. Nthawi yanga yomaliza yopita ku fapstronaut ndi masiku 19 (avereji ya masiku 7 mpaka pano ndikuwonjezeka) koma ndikumvabe kuti moyo wanga wakhala ukusintha kwambiri ndikakhalabe panjira ya fapstronaut.
Kuyambira pa 7 / 7 / 13 pamene ndinavomereza kuti ndinali ndi vuto la PMO ndipo ndinalumbira kuti ndikuyesera zovuta zanga kuti ndisiye, ndaphunzira maphunziro ndi zofunikira zochepa. Ndipotu, timangophunzira kuchokera ku zolakwa zathu. Izi ndi phunziro lofunikira popanga tsogolo lathu. Ichi ndi chifukwa chake kubwereranso kuyenera kuchitidwa ndi kudzikonda. Ndili ndi zambiri zoti ndigawane koma ndikuchita izi mofulumira kupita mtsogolo pamene ndikuphunzira zambiri. Kotero, popanda ado yowonjezera:
1.) Lembani papepala chifukwa chake mukusiya ntchito komanso zifukwa zonse zomwe PMO (kapena MO ngati zili choncho) yakhala vuto m'moyo wanu. Izi zikuthandizani kulimbitsa mtima wanu ndikukuthandizani mtsogolo kuti mukambirane zifukwa zanu ngati mukuvutika. Ngati muli ndi SO, zingakuthandizeni kufotokoza bwino maganizo anu ndi malingaliro anu ngati mungasankhe kuwauza za izo. Kwa ine, zandithandiza kupitiriza ulendo wanga osataya mtima. Sindikufuna kuti mavuto onse omwe ndalemba apitirire, sichoncho? Nthawi yoti ndithane nawo mwachindunji.
2.) Sungani dayale. Ndinagwiritsa ntchito spreadsheet ya excel. Ndinatsata masiku ndikulemba ngati ndabwereranso kapena ayi. Ndikanatero, ndinkasintha selo kukhala lofiira. Ngati sichoncho, ndiye kuti selo linali lobiriwira. Ndinafotokoza zomwe zimayambitsa vutoli ndi zomwe ndichite kuti ndithane ndi vutolo mtsogolo. Ndinafotokoza zomwe ndinkachita m'moyo kuti ndilisinthe komanso zomwe ndachita lero kuti ndizinyadira nazo. Poganizira izi zandithandiza kuzindikira kuti malingaliro anga pa NoFap ndi moyo akhala akusintha nthawi zonse ndipo zandikumbutsa zonse zomwe ndakwaniritsa, zazikulu kapena zazing'ono, kuyambira nditayamba. Ndinatha kuona kuti masiku anga apakati omwe ndapita ndisanabwererenso awonjezeka pang'onopang'ono ndipo ndinatha kuwona kuti chiyembekezo changa komanso chisangalalo changa chawonjezekanso. Ndi chida chofunikira kwambiri poyang'ana kupita patsogolo kwanu, chifukwa mutha kuiwala zomwe mwakwaniritsa mukabwereranso. Mungamve kuti mwabwerera ku square 1. Kuyang'ana mwachangu dayale yanu ndikumva izi.
3.) Kwa iwo omwe ali ndi kalendala, ngati mwabwereranso, ikani chizindikiro pa tsikulo kuti musonyeze kuti mwabwereranso. Pa mwezi umenewo mudzatha kuona masiku omwe munabwereranso ndipo mutha kuwona mizere yanu. Zidzakuthandizani kukupatsani chilimbikitso, pamene mukufuna kuchepetsa mizereyo pamwezi, ndipo mutha kuwona momwe mungabwererenso tsiku linalake (ngati zili choncho ganizirani chifukwa chake). Ndinapeza kuti nthawi zambiri ndimabwereranso Lachitatu pamene ndinali pasukulu komanso kunyumba. Kenako ndinapita ku laibulale tsiku lonse ndipo ndinatenga ntchito yanga ndi laputopu ndikukhala pawindo lalikulu. Sikuti ndimangogwira ntchito yonyansa tsiku limenelo, komanso sindibwereranso.
4.) Konzani malo otetezera intaneti komwe simukudziwa mawu achinsinsi! Ndinapitirizabe kubwereranso pamene ndinangotseka chitetezo changa cha k9 pa intaneti ndipo ndinadziuza kuti "zithunzi zingapo sizingavulaze". Ndinabwereranso pamene ndinayamba motere, ndipo zinakula kwambiri. Ngati sindinayang'ane zolaula, sindinabwererenso, kotero kuti ndithetse vutoli ndinayenera kulepheretsa kuwona zolaula. Masabata angapo apitawo ndinasintha mawu achinsinsi anga a chitetezo cha pa intaneti a k9 kukhala manambala ndi zilembo zosasinthika. Kenako ndinayika mawu achinsinsi papepala ndi m'kabati pansi pa zovala zanga zomwe zingatenge mphindi zingapo kuti ndifike. Ngakhale nditadzuka pampando wanga ndikuganiza zokatenga mawu achinsinsi, ndinali nditasokonezeka kale. Kenako ndinkapita kukasamba kozizira, kukankhira zinthu zina, kapena chilichonse choti ndichotse chilakolako chomwe ndinali nacho. Zinatha msanga. Ndinabwereranso masiku angapo apitawo ku zithunzi zofewa kotero ndinagwiritsa ntchito ulalo wothandizawu . Popanda kudziwa mawu achinsinsi anu mutha kuletsa mawebusayiti omwe angakhale oyambitsa. M'tsogolomu mawebusayiti aliwonse omwe ali ndi zoyambitsa adzatsekedwa nthawi yomweyo. Posachedwapa ndayesa kuchotsa zolaula pafoni yanga ya android kotero mu positi yanga yotsatira ndidzafotokoza momwe ndingachitire.
5.) Yesetsani kupeza chizolowezi chatsopano ndikudzaza nthawi yanu yopuma ndi zochita zina zomwe sizili pa intaneti. Ndinalowa nawo gulu la anthu ku yunivesite yanga ndipo ndikuphunzira chilankhulo komanso kupeza mnzanga wapakhomo kuti andiphunzitse ng'oma. Nthawi yochulukirapo yomwe ndimagwiritsa ntchito polankhula, ndiye kuti nkhani ya digito imakhala yocheperako komanso mwayi wochita PMO umachepa. Kuwonjezera pa izi, yesani kuchepetsa nthawi yomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito mosaganizira poyang'ana Facebook (google Facebook Depression) kapena mawebusayiti ena popanda chifukwa china kupatula kungotaya nthawi. Ngati chilakolako chikubwera mukakhala pa intaneti zidzakhala zovuta kukana! Tulukani pa intaneti ndikuwerenga buku, phunzirani chilankhulo, chida choimbira, mverani nyimbo, khalani ndi banja lanu, imbani mnzanu ndikukonza msonkhano, tengani galu kuti mukayende ndi zina zotero. Pezani dopamine yanu yotulutsa ku zochitika zachilengedwe m'malo mongoyang'ana pazenera. Yerekezerani momwe mumamvera mukatuluka panja kwa mphindi 15 kuyenda m'malo mogona pa sofa mukuyang'ana mphindi 30 pa TV. Ndi chiyani chomwe chingakupatseni chisangalalo chochulukirapo? Ndi chiyani chomwe chili chabwino kwa thupi ndi malingaliro? M'malingaliro mwanga ndimamva bwino kwambiri ndikayenda. Dzidziweni nokha ndipo yesani kukhala m'dziko lenileni. Ili ndiye lofunika kwambiri! 🙂 Tinene motere… ngati mungafunike kulemba CV ndikukhala oona mtima 100% pa zomwe mumachita ndi nthawi yanu yopuma: kodi olemba ntchito angasangalale kapena ayi? Miyezi 5 yapitayo zonse zomwe ndikananena Ndinakhala nthawi yambiri yopuma m'chipinda changa pa xbox yanga kapena kuonera zolaula. Kodi mungafune kuti CV yanu yowona mtima ikhale ndi chiyani? Ndi zinthu ziti zenizeni zomwe mukufuna kuchita? Gwirani ntchito pa izo ndipo pakapita nthawi zidzabwera. Tangoganizirani momwe mumamvera bwino mukakwaniritsa!
Mbali yanga mbali yaulendo, Johnny
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