Lolani aliyense,
Ndiyenera kunena koyamba kuti subreddit iyi ndi lingaliro labwino kwambiri kukhala nalo ndi chithandizo chotere kwa ife omwe tikufuna kusintha pakudziletsa kwathu ndikudziletsa. Ndikukulangizani kuti mugwiritse ntchito subreddit momwe mungathere kudzera paulendo wanu, osati kokha mukayambiranso. Ndakhala ndikulephera kubala kwa chaka chimodzi ndi theka, zinali zondilimbikitsa kudziwa kuti ndikhoza kuchita zazikulu kuposa izo. Ndikudziwa kuti ndangobwerera kumene ndipo ndidayankha ndikudziuza kuti ndikungopitiliza kuchita zomwezo koma ingoyesani nthawi ino. Ndipamene ndidakumbukira mawu omwe akuti "tanthauzo la misala likuchita zomwezo mobwerezabwereza, ndikuyembekezera zotsatira zina". Ngakhale izi zitha kukhala zowona kapena sizotheka nthawi zina, zikafika pakulanga ndi kudziletsa tiyenera kuwona zomwe zidasokonekera pomwe tidabwereranso, ndikuyesetsa kulakwitsa. Zomwe zimandibweretsa chifukwa chomwe ndikulembera izi, ndimaganiza kuti nonse mutha kugwiritsa ntchito maupangiri angapo omwe andithandiza kuti ndisatalikirane:
*Ngati mwayambiranso, nenani ku NoFap kapena kwa mnzanu wapamtima, fufuzani chifukwa chake mudanenapo zomwe mudzachite mosiyana nthawi ino kuti mupewe cholakwacho mtsogolo*
Izi ndikuthandizani kuti mudzayankhe mlandu pazomwe mukuchita. Anthu mwachibadwa amakhala ndi chizolowezi chosasamala ngati sadzaimbidwa mlandu. Mukamauza munthu wina zimathandizanso kuti mupeze chilimbikitso komanso malingaliro ena mukamakambirana ndi anthu kapena munthu. Anthu amene amaganiza kuti angathe kuthana nazo ndikuzichita okha, ndizo zomwe zimagwera zovuta kwambiri, pamafunika mphamvu zambiri pamakhalidwe kuti muzitha kuvomereza kuti muli ndi vuto kapena kuti mwasokoneza china chake, ndimayang'ana kwa anthu omwe angathe kuvomereza mavuto awo. Kusunga nokha ndi njira yosavuta. Komabe, mutatha kuchita izi, mukufuna kuwonetsetsa kuti mukalankhulanso zomwe mudzachite mosiyana nthawi ino. Onetsetsani kuti mwanena zomwe mwaphunzira pazolakwikazo kuti musadzabwerezenso. Izi zimathandiza kupatsa malo a zopindulitsa ndikupita kukambirana kukambirana, m'malo momangodandaula kuti mwalakwitsa. Muyamba kuganiza ngati wopambana, komanso munthu wotsimikiza. Tonsefe ndife opanda ungwiro ndipo tonsefe timakumana ndi mavuto ndi zoperewera, koma ndikuganiza opambana enieni ndi omwe amalandira zolakwa zawo, kuzindikira zomwe zalakwika, ndikuwongolera. Ndi momwe timaphunzirira, kumanga, ndi kukonza chilichonse. Chifukwa chake kuvomereza ndi kuzindikira kuti munabwereranso, funsani chifukwa chake munabwereranso (mwachitsanzo, zomwe zinachitika / musanayambe kubwereranso), ndipo perekani yankho la vutoli ngati mutakumananso nalo mtsogolomu.
*Nkhondo yambiri mu ulendowu idzapambana m'maganizo mwanu*
Tsopano mfundoyi ndiyofunika kwambiri kuposa zonse ndipo yakhala ikuyambitsa kupambana kwanga kwakanthawi m'moyo! Muyenera kupanga chisankho pamalingaliro amtundu womwe mukufuna kuganiza, ndipo malingaliro amenewo amakupangitsani kukhala omwe muli. Iwo amakhala gawo la umunthu wanu ndi khalidwe lanu. Malingaliro awa pamapeto pake amakula ndikupanga mtundu wa munthu yemwe muli kapena amene mukufuna kukhala. Sindikungonena izi chifukwa zikumveka bwino, zimathandizidwa ndi umboni wa sayansi wofupikitsidwa Nkhani ya Amy Cuddy ya TED. Ndi kanema yayitali koma ndikhulupirireni, ndiyofunika kwambiri! Nkhaniyi itha kukuthandizani munjira zingapo, ndipo ndi mgodi wagolide wokhala ndi kukwaniritsa chilichonse chomwe mukufuna. Izi zimachitika makamaka ngati "mukuyipusitsa, mpaka mutayipanga". Mukasintha malingaliro anu, zomwe mumachita sizingakhale zomwe mukuganiza. Sindikudzidalira? osamva kulimbikitsidwa? simukumva ngati mutenga nthawi yayitali? Iwalani malingaliro onsewa! Yembekezerani kudzidalira kwanu, kutsimikiza mtima, ndi kudziletsa kwanu mpaka mudzakhale otero! Yang'anani pa Nkhani ya TED, akuwerengera bwino bwino.
Izi zimandibweretsa chifukwa chake chifukwa chake muyenera kupambana nkhondoyi m'maganizo mwanu chifukwa chakuti mumayesedwa kuchita monga mukuganiza. Izi zilinso mu lingaliro la maganizo kusokonezeka maganizo, zomwe zimasokoneza m'maganizo mwanu malingaliro anu / kuzindikira kwanu sikukugwirizana ndi machitidwe anu. Mwachitsanzo mukamangokhalira kuganizira zolaula / kugonana / kuseweretsa maliseche, komanso nthawi yomweyo kuti mudzitsimikizire kuti sizingatero. Mukudzinamizira nokha, kusakhulupirika kwanu. Mukakumana ndi izi, muli ndi njira ziwiri: kusintha malingaliro anu kapena kusintha machitidwe anu. Mutha kuwona mafotokozedwe kapena zitsanzo kuchokera apa kanema. Mwachidule, mukuyesera kuti muchotse zovuta zomwe mumakhala nazo ndikusintha chimodzi mwazinthu ziwiri: malingaliro anu kapena machitidwe anu.
Iyi ndiye nkhondo yayikulu yokhudza kuseweretsa maliseche, muyenera kupambana nkhondoyi m'maganizo mwanu, osati kudzera pazolinga zabwino zokha. Osadzinyenga nokha ndikuganiza kuti mukungoyang'ana china chake NSFW ndikuti palibe chomwe mungachite, mukungodzinyenga. Ndipo simukufuna kukhala munthu wonyenga, makamaka osadzipangira nokha. Choncho zindikirani kuti vutoli silabwino kwa inu nthawi! Dziwitsani izi m'maganizo mwanu ndipo musatengeke ndi izi, chifukwa machitidwe amunthu sagwira ntchito choncho. Sankhani kuyambira pano, kuti nthawi iliyonse mukakhala ndi zolaula / zamaliseche / zokolola zanu / zokambirana zanu ndi malingaliro anu, ndi zina zotero, Zidzakupangitsani kuti mubwererenso. Ngati simupatula nthawi kuti muzindikire izi, mudzakhala otsimikiza kuti muchite zinthu zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi machitidwe anu. Mukakumana ndi kusokonezeka kwa chidziwitso, ndipo mudzakakamizidwa kusintha machitidwe anu, kuseweretsa maliseche, kuti mugwirizane ndi malingaliro okweza. Chifukwa chake pangani ulendowu kukhala wosavuta kwa inu, musapangitse izi kukhala zovuta kuposa momwe ziyenera kukhalira. Tengani njira yocheperako ndikugwiritsa ntchito nthawi imeneyo kukulimbikitsani, kudziletsa, ndi kudziletsa.
*Sinthani dongosolo lanu la mphotho pamene mukukwaniritsa palibe tsiku, sabata, ndi mwezi*
Apa muyenera kusintha momwe mumadzipindulira nokha, chifukwa mwina enafe timaganiza kuti "popeza ndafika pano ndiyenera kulandira mphotho ndiyenera kuwonera / kuwonera zolaula / kuyang'ana atsikana / anyamata pa intaneti". Uku ndi kugwera kwina kwachinyengo, chifukwa thupi lanu liyesa mitundu yonse ya njira zobwereranso kuzinthu zakale. M'malo mwake, zomwe mungachite ndikusintha momwe mumadzipindulira. Mwachitsanzo, mutha kupita kukawonera kanema / kudya pa malo odyera omwe mumawakonda / kupita kukagula / kuuza wina kuti agwire ps3 / xbox yanu mpaka mutakwanitsa mwezi umodzi osakwanira. Chilichonse chomwe chingakhale chotsimikiza kuti mphothoyo ikugwira ntchito kwa inu ndi moyo wanu, chiyenera kukhala chinthu chomwe mumachiona kuti ndi chamtengo wapatali kapena chodzisankhira nokha. Muyenera kusintha momwe mumakondwerera kupambana, ndi zomwe mumakondwerera nazo. Chifukwa chake sikuti mukungolamulira malingaliro anu ndi zomwe mumanena kwa inu tsopano, komanso kuwongolera zomwe mukudzibweretsanso inunso. Wow, mukutenga KWAMBIRI moyo wanu tsopano!
Khazikitsani zolinga zanu patsiku, sabata, mwezi ……… ..ndine sindiri wotsimikiza, zisiyeni pomwepo !!! Dzipangireni nokha ndikudziyika mu kalendala, lembani masiku, kuwerengera sabata / mwezi / miyezi / chaka. Chitani nawo mbali kuti mukhale ndi zolinga izi momwe mungathere. Ikani mu zikumbutso zanu.
*Onetsetsani zovuta, pangani njira za "njira zopewera"*
Mukamadzipangira nokha ndondomekoyi, onetsetsani kuti mwakwanitsa ndipo lembani zovuta zonse zomwe zingakugwereni komanso zomwe mwakumana nazo m'mbuyomu. Mfundo apa ndikuti musadabwe pomwe china chake sichikuyenda momwe mumayembekezera. Chinthu chimodzi paulendowu ndikuti simukufuna kudabwa, kodi mumawawona amuna ankhondo akudabwa akamapita kunkhondo? Ayi! Chifukwa amaphunzirira momwe angathere, chifukwa chake akakumana ndi nkhondo, amakhala ndi machitidwe omwe angakumane nawo. Mukudziwa chifukwa chomwe amisili, amuna ankhondo, apolisi, ndi ena amaphunzitsa kwa nthawi yayitali bwanji ?? Ndi chifukwa chakuti maphunzirowa ndiwothandiza kuti azitha kupeza zovuta zomwe angakumane nazo pantchito yawo. Chifukwa chake khalani pansi ndikukhazikitsa ndondomeko yantchito, maphunziro kapena "njira yopewa" monga iwo, kulembetsa vuto lililonse lomwe mungakumane nalo NDIPO pezani njira kapena njira zomwe mungapulumutsire kapena kupewa mavutowa.
*Gawo loyamba ndilo lovuta kwambiri, koma kamodzi mungathe kupitanso kuti mutha kupitako!*
Anthu akayamba ntchito iliyonse, kuphunzira maluso atsopano kapena mutu, kapena kusintha zina pamoyo wawo, nthawi zambiri zimayenda bwino nthawi yoyamba yomwe amapanga. Izi ndizabwinobwino, ndichifukwa chake mumamva anthu ambiri akuyenda molimba poyamba ndikukonzekera kudziko lapansi. Ili ndiye gawo labwino pakupanga izi! koma chomvetsa chisoni kuti gawo ili lidzafota pakapita nthawi ndipo ndipamene thupi lanu liyamba kunena kuti "chabwino, ndatuluka m'malo anga okhalitsa kwanthawi yayitali, ndi nthawi yoti ndibwerere kuzizolowezi zanga". Apa ndipamene mudzayambe kumva zokhumba zanu zonse ndi zingwe zamaganizidwe / zakuthupi zomwe zikukukokerani ku zizolowezi zanu zakale. Ndikufuna kuti mudziwe kuti izi ndizachilengedwe ndipo mudzawona ngati munthu wina aliyense wabwinobwino. Zikuchitika chifukwa chakusowa chakudya m'thupi lanu, chifukwa chake zikulimbana, sizingochoka popanda kumenyera nkhondo. Koma sikukula kwa galu pankhondoyi, ndikukula kwa kulimbana kwa galu. Mwanjira ina, mwatsimikiza mtima motani kumenyera kudziletsa ndikubwezeretsanso chidaliro chanu? ngati mukufunitsitsadi muyenera kukhazikitsa malingaliro ena otchedwa "kulankhula nokha" ndipo muyenera kuyika malingaliro anu pazolinga zanu osati china chilichonse. Wikipedia ili ndi nkhani pazinthu zokha, ndizomwe mumalankhula ndi inu nokha m'mutu mwanu. Anthu m'mayeso ena azama psychology omwe adalankhula okha kudalira lingaliro limodzi, awonedwa akupanga zisankho kutengera zomwe amalingalira. Chifukwa chake phunzirani luso ili ndipo mutha kudutsa gawo lovuta ili ndikuphatikizira pakuchepetsa kusokonezeka kwa chidziwitso.
*Zitenga kanthawi mpaka mutha kudzidalira nokha, koma pakadali pano simungathe*
Chinthu chimodzi chomwe muyenera kuvomerezana ndichakuti simungathe kudzidalira pakadali pano, chifukwa nthawi iliyonse mukadzitsimikizira kuti ndinu odalirika kuti musabwerere, mumayambiranso .... kachiwiri…. ndipo mwina nthawi zina kangapo. Osapanga izi m'moyo wanu, ndikutsimikiza kuti simukuzifuna, mukufuna kukhala moyo wathunthu osati kungokhala mukubwereranso mobwerezabwereza. Chifukwa chake muyenera kuvomerezanso kuti simungadzikhulupirire pakadali pano chifukwa cha zomwe zachitika. Palibe choyipa, ndizowona chabe za zinthu. Kudalira ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zimasweka mosavuta, koma zimatenga kanthawi kuti zibwezeretsenso. Ndi chifukwa chakuti ndi chinthu chamtengo wapatali kwambiri, ndipo chilichonse choyenera kukhala nacho m'moyo, ndichofunika kuchimenyera. Chifukwa chake, menyerani nkhondo, limbaninso chidaliro ichi osayima pachabe kuti mumangenso kachiwiri! Ndikufuna kuti muzitha kudzidalira, choncho tengani nthawi ndi izi, muzitenge tsiku limodzi nthawi. Mudzawona kudzidalira kwanu kukukula tsiku ndi tsiku, komanso sabata ndi sabata. Chidaliro ichi ndichofunikira kukuthandizani kupitiliza.
Chimodzi mwa zofooka za kukwaniritsa ndikuti pamene tikwaniritsa chinachake kapena kutsiriza gawo lalikulu lomwe timakonda kutenga cocky ndi kunyada. Osachita izi, zili ngati kuyamba njira yobwereranso. Mukakwanitsa tinene kuti sabata, dzipindulitseni, koma yang'anani pa mphotho yotsatira ndikupitiliza. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndi bwino kukhala ndi zolinga zambiri osati cholinga chimodzi chokha. Chifukwa chake mwachidule, osangotenga tambala mukangoyamba kukhala odzichepetsa ndikukhala ndi zolinga.
*Dzifunseni nokha mwa kulemberana nokha zam'tsogolo*
Izi sizomwe mukuyenera kuchita, koma ndikuganiza kuti ndibwino kukuthandizani kuti mugwiritse ntchito zambiri zomwe muli nazo kuti mudzilimbikitse, kudzidalira, komanso kudziletsa. Mutha kudzitumizira imelo kudzera pa izi malo otchedwa futureme.org ndipo zimakulolani kuti mulembe imelo kwa inu nokha koma mumakhala ndi tsiku lomwe mudzalandire imelo. Chifukwa chake mutha kudzilembera nokha ndikudzifunsa ndikulimbikitsanso paulendo wanu ndikuyembekeza kuti ulendo wanu ukuyenda bwino ndikuyembekeza kuti mwakwaniritsa zambiri pofika tsikulo. Dzipangeni nokha kuyankha pa imelo, ndipo ikani zoyembekezera zomwe mumayembekezera kuti zidzakwaniritsidwa panthawiyo.
Awa ndi ena mwa malangizo anga omwe ndidachita bwino, pepani ndiwotalika koma ndikhulupilira kuti akugwirirani ntchito. Ndisiyireni ndemanga pansipa ngati muli ndi mafunso. Zabwino zonse paulendowu, ndikudziwa kuti mudzakwanitsa, muli nanu! Ngati palibe amene wakukhulupirirani m'moyo uno, ndikhulupilira, ndipo ndili pano limodzi ndi ena onse kuti ndikuthandizireni paulendowu.
TLDR; Chidule cha mfundo zazikulu:
- Vomerezani kuti kuseweretsa maliseche / zolaula / chilakolako, ndi zina. ndi vuto lomwe muli nalo, dziwani chifukwa chake zimachitika (zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti muchite), ndikunena zomwe mudzachite kuti musabwereze cholakwikacho. Izi zimapanga zokambirana zopindulitsa komanso "kutsogolo" m'malo mongodandaula ndikukhala achisoni.
- Nkhondo yomwe muyenera kupambana imakhala makamaka m'maganizo mwanu. Ndani amasamala ngati simukumva momwe muyenera kuchitira, "zabodza mpaka mutazipanga" ndikuchepetsa kusamvana kwachidziwitso.
- Sinthani dongosolo lanu la mphotho, ndi momwe mukufotokozera mphotho. Ikani mphoto kwa masiku angapo, masabata, miyezi, ngakhale kwa chaka!
- Onetsetsani mavuto omwe mungakumane nawo ndikupanga "njira zopewera". Anthu onse pamasewera / masewera / ntchito zomwe zimafunikira kulangidwa, ndichoncho inunso 😉
- Gawo loyamba ndilo lovuta kwambiri, koma kamodzi mungathe kupitanso kuti mutha kupitako!
- Zitenga kanthawi mpaka mutha kudzidalira nokha, koma pakadali pano simungathe. Kudzidalira, koposa zonse ndi iwe, kumatenga nthawi kuti ubwerere.
- Dzisungireni nokha mlandu polemba maimelo pa tsogolo lanu! Izi zikuthandizani kulingalira za mtundu wa munthu yemwe mukufuna kudzakhala mtsogolo, ndipo onetsetsani kuti mukufotokozera zomwe mukuyembekezera. Mwanjira imeneyi simungadzudzule aliyense kapena chilichonse chifukwa chosakwaniritsa zoyembekezera, chifukwa ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera.
Nazi za inu !!! Yambani!
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