Lolani aliyense,
Ndiyenera kunena koyamba kuti subreddit iyi ndi lingaliro labwino kwambiri kukhala nalo ndi chithandizo chotere kwa ife omwe tikufuna kusintha pakudziletsa kwathu ndikudziletsa. Ndikukulangizani kuti mugwiritse ntchito subreddit momwe mungathere kudzera paulendo wanu, osati kokha mukayambiranso. Ndakhala ndikulephera kubala kwa chaka chimodzi ndi theka, zinali zondilimbikitsa kudziwa kuti ndikhoza kuchita zazikulu kuposa izo. Ndikudziwa kuti ndangobwerera kumene ndipo ndidayankha ndikudziuza kuti ndikungopitiliza kuchita zomwezo koma ingoyesani nthawi ino. Ndipamene ndidakumbukira mawu omwe akuti "tanthauzo la misala likuchita zomwezo mobwerezabwereza, ndikuyembekezera zotsatira zina". Ngakhale izi zitha kukhala zowona kapena sizotheka nthawi zina, zikafika pakulanga ndi kudziletsa tiyenera kuwona zomwe zidasokonekera pomwe tidabwereranso, ndikuyesetsa kulakwitsa. Zomwe zimandibweretsa chifukwa chomwe ndikulembera izi, ndimaganiza kuti nonse mutha kugwiritsa ntchito maupangiri angapo omwe andithandiza kuti ndisatalikirane:
* Ngati mwabwereranso ku chizolowezi, dziwitsani NoFap kapena mnzanu wapamtima, funsani chifukwa chake mwabwerera ku chizolowezicho kenako fotokozani zomwe muchita mosiyana nthawi ino kuti mupewe cholakwika chimenecho mtsogolo *
Izi zikuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi udindo pa zomwe mukuchita. Anthu mwachibadwa amakhala ndi chizolowezi chosakhala ndi udindo ngati sakuimbidwa mlandu. Mukauza munthu wina zimakuthandizaninso kupeza chilimbikitso ndi malingaliro akunja mukakambirana ndi anthu kapena munthu wina. Anthu amene amaganiza kuti angathe kuthana nazo ndikuchita zonse okha nthawi zambiri ndi omwe amalephera kwambiri , zimafunika mphamvu zambiri kuti muvomereze kuti muli ndi vuto kapena kuti mwalakwitsa chinachake, ndimayamikira anthu omwe angathe ndipo ali okonzeka kuvomereza mavuto awo. Kusunga nokha ndiyo njira yosavuta. Komabe, mukachita izi, muyenera kuonetsetsa kuti mwalankhula za zomwe muchita mosiyana nthawi ino. Onetsetsani kuti mwanena zomwe mwaphunzira kuchokera ku cholakwika chimenecho kuti musabwerezenso. Izi zimathandiza kupereka mpata wokambirana bwino komanso kuganiza bwino , m'malo mongodandaula ndi cholakwika chanu. Mudzayamba kuganiza ngati wopambana, komanso munthu wodzipereka. Tonsefe sitili angwiro ndipo tonsefe timakumana ndi mavuto ndi zofooka, koma ndikuganiza kuti opambana enieni ndi omwe amavomereza zolakwa zawo, kuzindikira zomwe zinalakwika, ndikupitiriza kuzikonza. Ndi momwe timaphunzirira, kumanga, ndi kutsiriza chilichonse. Chifukwa chake, vomerezani ndikuzindikira kuti munabwereranso, dziwani chifukwa chake munabwereranso (mwa kuyankhula kwina, zomwe zinachitika/zisanachitike musanabwererenso), ndipo fotokozani njira yothetsera vutoli ngati mutakumana nalonso mtsogolo.
* Nkhondo yambiri paulendowu iyenera kupambana m'maganizo mwanu kaye *
Tsopano mfundo iyi mwina ndi yaikulu kwambiri kuposa zonse ndipo yakhala chifukwa cha kupambana kwanga kwakukulu m'moyo wanga! Muyenera kusankha mtundu wa malingaliro omwe mukufuna kuganiza, ndipo malingaliro amenewo adzakupangitsani kukhala amene muli. Amakhala gawo la umunthu wanu ndi khalidwe lanu. Maganizo awa pamapeto pake amakula ndikupanga mtundu wa munthu amene muli kapena amene mukufuna kukhala. Sindikunena izi chifukwa zikumveka bwino, koma zatsimikiziridwa ndi umboni wa sayansi womwe wafotokozedwa mu nkhani ya TED ya Amy Cuddy . Ndi kanema wautali koma ndikhulupirireni, ndizofunika kwambiri! Nkhani imeneyo ingakuthandizeni m'njira zambiri, ndipo ndi mgodi wagolide wokhala ndi kukwaniritsa chilichonse chomwe mukufuna. Izi zimachitika makamaka ngati "munamizira, mpaka mutachikwaniritsa". Mukasintha malingaliro anu, khalidwe lanu silingathandize koma kukhala lomwe mukuganiza. Simukumva kudzidalira? simukumva kulimbikitsidwa? simukumva ngati mudzakhala nthawi yayitali? Iwalani malingaliro onsewo! Dzinamizirani kudzidalira kwanu, kutsimikiza mtima kwanu, ndi kudziletsa mpaka mutakhala! Onerani nkhani ya TED , iye akufotokoza bwino kwambiri.
Izi zikundibweretsa ku chifukwa changa chomwe muyenera kupambana nkhondo yomwe ili m'maganizo mwanu choyamba ndi chifukwa chakuti mumachita zinthu monga momwe mukuganizira. Izi zimachokeranso ku lingaliro la maganizo la kusamvetsetsana , komwe kwenikweni ndi kusasangalala kwamaganizo komwe mumakumana nako pamene malingaliro/nzeru zanu sizikugwirizana ndi khalidwe lanu. Mwachitsanzo, mukamaganizira za zolaula/kugonana/kuseweretsa maliseche, komanso nthawi yomweyo mukuyesera kudzitsimikizira kuti sizingachitike. Mumadzinamiza nokha, kukhala osakhulupirika. Mukakumana ndi izi, muli ndi njira ziwiri: kusintha malingaliro anu kapena kusintha khalidwe lanu. Mutha kuwona kufotokozera kwina kapena zitsanzo kuchokera muvidiyoyi . Mwachidule, mukuyesera kuchotsa kusasangalala kwa malingaliro ndi khalidwe lanu losemphana mwa kusintha chimodzi mwa zinthu ziwiri: malingaliro anu kapena khalidwe lanu.
Iyi ndiye nkhondo yayikulu yokhudza kuseweretsa maliseche, muyenera kupambana nkhondoyi m'maganizo mwanu, osati kudzera pazolinga zabwino zokha. Osadzinyenga nokha ndikuganiza kuti mukungoyang'ana china chake NSFW ndikuti palibe chomwe mungachite, mukungodzinyenga. Ndipo simukufuna kukhala munthu wonyenga, makamaka osadzipangira nokha. Choncho zindikirani kuti vutoli silabwino kwa inu nthawi! Dziwitsani izi m'maganizo mwanu ndipo musatengeke ndi izi, chifukwa machitidwe amunthu sagwira ntchito choncho. Sankhani kuyambira pano, kuti nthawi iliyonse mukakhala ndi zolaula / zamaliseche / zokolola zanu / zokambirana zanu ndi malingaliro anu, ndi zina zotero, Zidzakupangitsani kuti mubwererenso. Ngati simupatula nthawi kuti muzindikire izi, mudzakhala otsimikiza kuti muchite zinthu zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi machitidwe anu. Mukakumana ndi kusokonezeka kwa chidziwitso, ndipo mudzakakamizidwa kusintha machitidwe anu, kuseweretsa maliseche, kuti mugwirizane ndi malingaliro okweza. Chifukwa chake pangani ulendowu kukhala wosavuta kwa inu, musapangitse izi kukhala zovuta kuposa momwe ziyenera kukhalira. Tengani njira yocheperako ndikugwiritsa ntchito nthawi imeneyo kukulimbikitsani, kudziletsa, ndi kudziletsa.
* Sinthani dongosolo lanu la mphotho mukamaliza kuchita chilichonse tsiku limodzi, sabata, ndi mwezi *
Apa muyenera kusintha momwe mumadzipindulira nokha, chifukwa mwina enafe timaganiza kuti "popeza ndafika pano ndiyenera kulandira mphotho ndiyenera kuwonera / kuwonera zolaula / kuyang'ana atsikana / anyamata pa intaneti". Uku ndi kugwera kwina kwachinyengo, chifukwa thupi lanu liyesa mitundu yonse ya njira zobwereranso kuzinthu zakale. M'malo mwake, zomwe mungachite ndikusintha momwe mumadzipindulira. Mwachitsanzo, mutha kupita kukawonera kanema / kudya pa malo odyera omwe mumawakonda / kupita kukagula / kuuza wina kuti agwire ps3 / xbox yanu mpaka mutakwanitsa mwezi umodzi osakwanira. Chilichonse chomwe chingakhale chotsimikiza kuti mphothoyo ikugwira ntchito kwa inu ndi moyo wanu, chiyenera kukhala chinthu chomwe mumachiona kuti ndi chamtengo wapatali kapena chodzisankhira nokha. Muyenera kusintha momwe mumakondwerera kupambana, ndi zomwe mumakondwerera nazo. Chifukwa chake sikuti mukungolamulira malingaliro anu ndi zomwe mumanena kwa inu tsopano, komanso kuwongolera zomwe mukudzibweretsanso inunso. Wow, mukutenga KWAMBIRI moyo wanu tsopano!
Khazikitsani zolinga zanu patsiku, sabata, mwezi ……… ..ndine sindiri wotsimikiza, zisiyeni pomwepo !!! Dzipangireni nokha ndikudziyika mu kalendala, lembani masiku, kuwerengera sabata / mwezi / miyezi / chaka. Chitani nawo mbali kuti mukhale ndi zolinga izi momwe mungathere. Ikani mu zikumbutso zanu.
* Khalani ndi malingaliro oyenera pa zovuta, pangani machitidwe "opewera" *
Mukamadzipangira nokha ndondomekoyi, onetsetsani kuti mwakwanitsa ndipo lembani zovuta zonse zomwe zingakugwereni komanso zomwe mwakumana nazo m'mbuyomu. Mfundo apa ndikuti musadabwe pomwe china chake sichikuyenda momwe mumayembekezera. Chinthu chimodzi paulendowu ndikuti simukufuna kudabwa, kodi mumawawona amuna ankhondo akudabwa akamapita kunkhondo? Ayi! Chifukwa amaphunzirira momwe angathere, chifukwa chake akakumana ndi nkhondo, amakhala ndi machitidwe omwe angakumane nawo. Mukudziwa chifukwa chomwe amisili, amuna ankhondo, apolisi, ndi ena amaphunzitsa kwa nthawi yayitali bwanji ?? Ndi chifukwa chakuti maphunzirowa ndiwothandiza kuti azitha kupeza zovuta zomwe angakumane nazo pantchito yawo. Chifukwa chake khalani pansi ndikukhazikitsa ndondomeko yantchito, maphunziro kapena "njira yopewa" monga iwo, kulembetsa vuto lililonse lomwe mungakumane nalo NDIPO pezani njira kapena njira zomwe mungapulumutsire kapena kupewa mavutowa.
* Gawo loyamba nthawi zonse ndi lovuta kwambiri, koma mukangotha kupirira, mutha kupitirira malire ake!
Anthu akayamba ntchito iliyonse, kuphunzira luso latsopano kapena nkhani, kapena kusintha moyo wawo, nthawi zambiri zimakhala bwino nthawi yoyamba yomwe amachita. Izi ndi zachilendo, ndipo ndichifukwa chake mumamva anthu ambiri akuchita khama poyamba ndipo okonzeka kuthana ndi dziko lapansi. Ndi gawo labwino losintha izi! koma mwatsoka gawoli lidzazimiririka pakapita nthawi ndipo ndi pomwe thupi lanu lidzayamba kunena kuti "chabwino, ndakhala nthawi yayitali ndili kutali ndi malo anga omasuka, ndi nthawi yoti ndibwerere ku chizolowezi changa chachizolowezi". Apa ndi pomwe mudzayamba kumva zilakolako zonse ndi zingwe zonse zamaganizo/zakuthupi zomwe zikukukokani kubwerera ku zizolowezi zanu zakale. Ndikufuna kuti mudziwe kuti izi ndi zachilengedwe ndipo mudzakumana nazo ngati munthu aliyense wabwinobwino. Zikuchitika chifukwa chakuti thupi lanu likuvutika ndi china chake, kotero zidzamenyana, sizidzatha popanda kumenyana mwa inu. Koma sizokhudza kukula kwa galu pankhondoyi, ndi za kukula kwa nkhondo mwa galu. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, kodi mwatsimikiza mtima bwanji kuti mudziteteze nokha ndikubwezeretsanso chidaliro chanu? Ngati mukufunadi, muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito njira zina zodziwika bwino zotchedwa "kudzilankhula nokha" ndipo muyenera kuyang'ana kwambiri cholinga chanu osati china chilichonse. Wikipedia ili ndi nkhani yokhudza kudzilankhula nokha pano , makamaka ndi mtundu wa zokambirana zomwe mumakhala nazo ndi inu nokha m'mutu mwanu. Anthu omwe ali mu kafukufuku wina wa zamaganizo omwe adalankhula okha akudalira lingaliro lina, awonedwa kuti akupanga zisankho kutengera zomwe anali kuganiza. Chifukwa chake phunzirani luso ili ndipo mutha kudutsa gawo lovutali limodzi ndi kuchepetsa kusamvetsetsana kwamalingaliro.
* Zidzatenga nthawi kuti mudzadzidalirenso, koma pakadali pano simungathe *
Chinthu chimodzi chomwe muyenera kuvomerezana ndichakuti simungathe kudzidalira pakadali pano, chifukwa nthawi iliyonse mukadzitsimikizira kuti ndinu odalirika kuti musabwerere, mumayambiranso .... kachiwiri…. ndipo mwina nthawi zina kangapo. Osapanga izi m'moyo wanu, ndikutsimikiza kuti simukuzifuna, mukufuna kukhala moyo wathunthu osati kungokhala mukubwereranso mobwerezabwereza. Chifukwa chake muyenera kuvomerezanso kuti simungadzikhulupirire pakadali pano chifukwa cha zomwe zachitika. Palibe choyipa, ndizowona chabe za zinthu. Kudalira ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zimasweka mosavuta, koma zimatenga kanthawi kuti zibwezeretsenso. Ndi chifukwa chakuti ndi chinthu chamtengo wapatali kwambiri, ndipo chilichonse choyenera kukhala nacho m'moyo, ndichofunika kuchimenyera. Chifukwa chake, menyerani nkhondo, limbaninso chidaliro ichi osayima pachabe kuti mumangenso kachiwiri! Ndikufuna kuti muzitha kudzidalira, choncho tengani nthawi ndi izi, muzitenge tsiku limodzi nthawi. Mudzawona kudzidalira kwanu kukukula tsiku ndi tsiku, komanso sabata ndi sabata. Chidaliro ichi ndichofunikira kukuthandizani kupitiliza.
Chimodzi mwa zinthu zofooka za kuchita bwino ndichakuti tikakwaniritsa chinachake kapena kupitirira malire, timakhala odzikuza ndipo kudzikuza kumalowa. MUSACHITE IZI, zili ngati kuyamba kwa njira yanu yobwerera ku kubwereranso. Ngati mwakwaniritsa, tiyeni tiyerekeze sabata imodzi, dzipatseni mphotho, koma yang'anani pa mphoto yotsatira ndikupitiliza. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndibwino kukhazikitsa zolinga zambiri osati cholinga chimodzi chokha. Mwachidule, musamachite mantha mukangoyamba kuchita, khalani odzichepetsa ndipo pitirizani kukhazikitsa zolinga.
* Dzipatseni udindo potumiza imelo ku tsogolo lanu *
Si chinthu chomwe muyenera kuchita, koma ndikuganiza kuti ndi bwino kukuthandizani kugwiritsa ntchito zinthu zanu zambiri kuti mukhale ndi chidaliro, chidaliro, komanso kudziletsa. Mutha kudzitumizira imelo kudzera patsamba lino lotchedwa futureme.org ndipo limakupatsani mwayi wolemba imelo yanu koma mutha kusankha tsiku lomwe mudzalandire imeloyo. Chifukwa chake mutha kulemba kalata yanu nokha mukudzifunsa ndikudzilimbikitsa paulendo wanu ndikuyembekeza kuti ulendo wanu ukuyenda bwino ndikuyembekeza kuti mwakwaniritsa zambiri pofika tsiku limenelo. Dzipatseni udindo mu imeloyo, ndikuyika ziyembekezo zomwe mumayembekezera kuti mudzakwaniritsa pofika nthawiyo.
Awa ndi ena mwa malangizo anga omwe ndidachita bwino, pepani ndiwotalika koma ndikhulupilira kuti akugwirirani ntchito. Ndisiyireni ndemanga pansipa ngati muli ndi mafunso. Zabwino zonse paulendowu, ndikudziwa kuti mudzakwanitsa, muli nanu! Ngati palibe amene wakukhulupirirani m'moyo uno, ndikhulupilira, ndipo ndili pano limodzi ndi ena onse kuti ndikuthandizireni paulendowu.
TLDR; Chidule cha mfundo zazikulu:
- Vomerezani kuti kuseweretsa maliseche / zolaula / chilakolako, ndi zina. ndi vuto lomwe muli nalo, dziwani chifukwa chake zimachitika (zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti muchite), ndikunena zomwe mudzachite kuti musabwereze cholakwikacho. Izi zimapanga zokambirana zopindulitsa komanso "kutsogolo" m'malo mongodandaula ndikukhala achisoni.
- Nkhondo yomwe muyenera kupambana imakhala makamaka m'maganizo mwanu. Ndani amasamala ngati simukumva momwe muyenera kuchitira, "zabodza mpaka mutazipanga" ndikuchepetsa kusamvana kwachidziwitso.
- Sinthani dongosolo lanu la mphotho, ndi momwe mukufotokozera mphotho. Ikani mphoto kwa masiku angapo, masabata, miyezi, ngakhale kwa chaka!
- Onetsetsani mavuto omwe mungakumane nawo ndikupanga "njira zopewera". Anthu onse pamasewera / masewera / ntchito zomwe zimafunikira kulangidwa, ndichoncho inunso 😉
- Gawo loyamba ndilo lovuta kwambiri, koma kamodzi mungathe kupitanso kuti mutha kupitako!
- Zitenga kanthawi mpaka mutha kudzidalira nokha, koma pakadali pano simungathe. Kudzidalira, koposa zonse ndi iwe, kumatenga nthawi kuti ubwerere.
- Dzisungireni nokha mlandu polemba maimelo pa tsogolo lanu! Izi zikuthandizani kulingalira za mtundu wa munthu yemwe mukufuna kudzakhala mtsogolo, ndipo onetsetsani kuti mukufotokozera zomwe mukuyembekezera. Mwanjira imeneyi simungadzudzule aliyense kapena chilichonse chifukwa chosakwaniritsa zoyembekezera, chifukwa ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera.
Nazi za inu !!! Yambani!