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Maganizo athu amapanga zenizeni. Palibe njira yotsutsana ndi izi. Zikuwonetseratu mosavuta kuti malingaliro athu amangolenga zenizeni, koma kuti malingaliro athu ponena za zenizeni ndi apulasitiki komanso osasintha. Kuvomereza mfundo iyi (kuti chikhalidwe chathu ndi chosasinthika) ndi sitepe yoyamba yokonzanso malingaliro athu pa ife eni ndi zenizeni zathu kuti tipeze chidziwitso chomwe chimakhudza kwambiri zolinga zathu.
Chilengedwe chimatiyika ife mwa njira inayake, chifukwa cha kuchita zochitika zowononga mowirikiza makamaka ku zolaula, mokwanira mogwirizana ndi malamulo a chirengedwe, malingaliro athu ndi thupi lathu zinakhala zovomerezeka ku mtundu wina wa zokondweretsa zokha ndipo kotero adaphunzira kokha kuti muyankhe kuchitukuko chomwecho. Podziwa izi tikhoza kuthetsa lingaliro lililonse loti ndife achilendo komanso lachilendo. Momwemonso chikhalidwe chake chomwe chinatipangitsa ife ku vutoli, ndipo ndi chikhalidwe chomwe chidzatitulutsa ife. Komabe ife tiri mu mpando wa madalaivala, ndipo ngati tipitiriza kuchita zinthu zomwe zimalimbitsa vutoli, sizidzatha.
Chowonadi chakuti tikugwiritsa ntchito chilengedwe kukonza chilengedwe ndicholingana ndi malamulo achilengedwe. Zili ngati momwe ziphe zimagwiritsidwira ntchito popanga mankhwala. Sitikusintha chinthu china ndi china, tikusintha chinthu china kukhala china. Titha kukhala tikusintha chizolowezi china ndi china, koma ndi mbali inayo. Amatchedwa "kuyambiranso" chifukwa wina kwenikweni akuchotsa slate. Maganizo athu ndi matupi athu akadzakhalanso oyenera, amakhala otseguka kuti akwaniritse bwino momwe analiri poyamba. Kenako titha kuchita zomwe zimawakakamiza kuti ayankhe momwe tikufunira, pankhaniyi ndi bwenzi lenileni m'malo mongokhala zolaula. Zachidziwikire ngati mukungoyesera kusiya kuseweretsa maliseche, komabe tikuchita zomwe tikufuna kuti tidziwe dziko lapansi ndikuchita momwe timafunira. Ndikusintha, kusiyana kwakukulu ndicholinga chotsatira ndi zotsatira zake.
Sosaite yatikonzekeretsa kuti tikhulupirire pachikhalidwe china chokhudza umuna. Ndikofunikira kuti timvetsetse kuti zikhulupiriro ngati izi zimangokhala zochitika zomwe zimapangitsa malingaliro athu. Zomwezo sizikhala zosasintha ndipo zimatha kusintha. Zimatengera nthawi ndi chikhalidwe chathu, komanso malingaliro ake odabwitsa komanso opotoka okhudzana ndi kugonana. Musaganize kuti ndizodabwitsa? Timagonana ana. Timapembedza matupi osatheka omwe angapangidwe pokhapokha kugwiritsa ntchito mapulogalamu apakompyuta ndipo chifukwa chake alibe zenizeni. Kuphatikiza apo timauzidwa kuti tichite maliseche, tikungophunzitsidwa za maubwino ake koma osadziwa kuopsa kwake. Tikamachita maliseche tsopano timapeza dziko losavuta kupeza zolaula, zambiri zomwe ndizochuluka mwanjira ina. Izi zikuwonjezeranso kuwonongeka komwe kwachitika kale m'malingaliro athu okhudzana ndi kugonana ndi amayi, kulalikira nthawi zonse ndikufikira pazolemba zomwe zimachitidwa ndi akatswiri ochita zisudzo. Apanso, sizowona.
Kudziwa kuti anthu atisamalira motere, titha kusiya kudzimenya tokha pazomwe tikukumana nazo. Sitinadziwe, sitinathe kudziwa. Zili ngati pomwe anthu amaganiza kuti kusuta kuli bwino kwa inu, ngati kuti kuli ndi phindu lake. Kusazindikira, mwakufuna kapena kwina kulikonse, kumabweretsa mavuto monga awa. Koma tsopano tikudziwa, tapatsidwa mphamvu. Podziwa, titha kusankha kukumbukira ndikudzipatula pagulu lazovuta zathu. Kupereka kudziphatika kwa chidani chathu, kukhululukira zathu zonse ku zolephera zaumunthu, titha kupita chitsogozo chopatsidwa mphamvu ndikudziwa kuti izi sizingasinthidwe kokha, koma pali zinthu zambiri zomwe zakonza mkhalidwe wathu zomwe zakhala zosalamulirika motsatira. Tikavomereza kuti sitikulamulira, timadzipangira tokha malo oti tipeze mphamvu zathu. Izi ndichifukwa choti ngati tili omangika pamalingaliro akuti tikulamulira pomwe kwenikweni sitili, tikungonyenga. Kenako mumayamba kupanga zisankho kutengera malingaliro ndi malingaliro olakwika ambiri, ndipo izi zimabweretsa mavuto ndi zovuta m'miyoyo yathu. Tikavomereza momwe zinthu zilili, timakhala ndi mphamvu zosinthira.
Ngakhale zili choncho, tiyenera kuvomereza udindo pazomwe tikukumana nazo. Zinali zochita zathu zomwe zidatipangitsa kuchita izi, palibe amene adatikakamiza kuchita izi. Palibe amene adanyamula mfuti kumutu kwathu ndipo adatipangitsa kuchita izi. Sitinalonjeze aliyense kuti tichita izi ndipo tikhala tikuswa malonjezo athu ngati titha. Tachita izi chifukwa timamva bwino panthawiyo, zimawoneka bwino panthawiyo, timamva panthawiyo. Tachita izi chifukwa sitinkafuna kuyima, chifukwa timaganiza kuti zatithandiza kuthetsa nkhawa. Tachita izi chifukwa sitingaleke, chifukwa chilimbikitsocho chinali champhamvu kwambiri, chifukwa tidazolowera kapena kuzolowera. Tachita izi chifukwa tili osungulumwa, otopetsa, okhumudwa, komanso amantha. Tonse tachita izi pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana, zambiri kuposa zomwe zalembedwa pano, zomwe ndizapadera monga aliyense amene akulimbana ndi vutoli. Komabe, mosasamala kanthu za mikhalidwe yathu TINACHITIRA, vuto lake NDE lokha, ndipo chifukwa chake ndife okhawo omwe tinganene kuti tili ndi vuto. Ili ndiye gawo lotsatira pambuyo povomera momwe zinthu ziliri. Timalandira, ndiye timakhala nawo.
Komabe pakadali pano tikungopeka, tiyenera kuchitapo kanthu. Sitingangowerengera izi osachitapo kanthu, chifukwa zinthu sizidzasintha. Ntchito ndiye gawo lomaliza pothana ndi mavutowa. Tiyenera kutsimikiza mtima kupewa zolaula, maliseche komanso maliseche kuti tulole ubongo wathu ndi thupi lathu kukhala m'malo abwinobwino.
Ngati muli ndi china chofunikira, auzeni! Musawalole akhale mumdima akuganiza kuti ndi oyipa kwambiri, onenepa kwambiri, kapena zilizonse zomwe mungachite. Anthu ambiri sakudziwa kuti vutoli lilipo, osatinso kuti lingakhudze wokondedwa wawo. Ambiri mwa abwenzi amaganiza kuti vuto lili ndi iwo, mawonekedwe awo, umunthu wawo, zilizonse. Khalani omasuka, oona mtima, ndipo uwauzeni zolinga zanu kuti musiye ndikupempha kuti akuthandizeni. Ngati sakufuna kukuthandizani ndiye kuti ndibwino kuti mupitilize. Izi zithandizira kuchepetsa nkhawa yakuchita chifukwa simufunikanso kuda nkhawa podzikhululukira, kunama, kapena "kuyesayesa" kukakakamiza poganizira zithunzi zachiwerewere kapena zolaula zomwe mwawona. Chotsatira chimodzi chachikulu cha zolaula zokhudzana ndi zolaula ndi ED yokhudzana ndi nkhawa. Izi zimabwereranso kumalingaliro amanthu pazakugonana komanso momwe tidakhalira kuti tiziwone. Vutoli likakhala poyera, palibe zinsinsi, palibe mabodza, ndipo ili ndi gawo lina lakutenga ndi udindo. Ndizomwe zili, ngati mukuvomerezadi ndiye kuti mutha kuuza mnzanu. Ngati mukulephera kuwauza, ndiye kuti simunavomereze kuti ndi zenizeni kapena ngati vuto lanu ndipo vutoli lipitilira mpaka mutatero.
Komanso samalani kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena mowa poganiza kuti mumazigwiritsa ntchito konse. Zambiri mwa izi zitha kusokoneza kaganizidwe kanu kokwanira kukupangitsani kuti muyambirenso kumwa mowa. Chokhacho chomwe chimamverera koipa kuposa kubwereranso ndikubwereranso chifukwa chakuti mwaledzera kwambiri kapena mumadzilamulira. Osazichita! Ngati mungapewe zakumwa zoledzeretsa palimodzi, ndizabwino.
Koma sikuti amangomaliza ndi zochita, chifukwa kenako padzakhala zovuta za mayesero osiyanasiyana. Potero kuyesa kwathu koyamba, kachiwiri, kachitatu kapena kakhumi kungathe kulephera. Tiyenera kukonzekera kuchita izi mofulumira, mwamsanga tidzakhalanso ndi zowawa zomwe tidzakhala nazo. Komabe chikhalidwe chathu chikhoza kukhala chomwecho kuti tipitirize kudzipereka tokha m'mayesero a mitundu yosiyanasiyana. Pali njira zambiri zothetsera mayesero. Zina mwa izi zimapezeka muzochita za Brahmacarya, yomwe ndi chizoloŵezi cholepheretsa kuganiza, mawu ndi zochita. Mkhalidwe uwu wa kusayera uyenera kukhala cholinga chathu, chifukwa chirichonse chogonana chingakhale choyambitsa ndipo chingatipangitse kuti tibwererenso kuchitidwe kwathu wakale kachitidwe.
Mwachidule ambiri a ife sali ndi cholinga chokaniza chiyeso, tiyenera kugwiritsa ntchito njira kapena njira kuti tigonjetse. Uyu ndi munthu, chifukwa cha zotsatira zake zamphamvu za biochemistry yathu imachoka. Koma potsiriza ife ndife osankha, ife tiri olamulira, ndipo ife tikhoza kuchita zinthu zambiri kuti tipewe kapena kuthetsa ziyeso pamene izo zikuwuka.
I. Kuchotsa gwero la zolaula. Izi zingatanthauze kukana kugwiritsira ntchito intaneti kunyumba ndikukana kukhala ndi foni. Zonsezi zimakhala zosavuta kukhala ndi mwezi umodzi kapena ziwiri pamene thupi lanu limabweretsanso.
II. Kuyenda. Kumangokhala ndikuchoka m'chipinda chanu ndikupita panja ndikuyenda. Kuyang'ana chilengedwe, kuyang'ana mitambo, ndikuyang'ana za tsogolo labwino. Izi zomaliza zingathandize kwenikweni kuyambira pamene mutha kukhazikitsa chigamulo champhamvu kuti muwone njirayi mpaka pamapeto. Tangoganizani za momwe zidzakhalire zabwino kuti mugonane kachiwiri, monga momwe mukufunira, malinga ngati mukufuna, ndi aliyense amene mukufuna. Ganizirani momwe mudzakhalire okondwa kuti mudzakondweretsa anthu omwe mumakonda kugonana kuphatikizapo njira zina zomwe mumasangalatsa kale. Kulingalira motere kudzakuthandizani kuti muziika patsogolo pa zabwino za m'tsogolo m'malo mosiyana ndi zomwe zachitika kale komanso zam'tsogolo.
III. Kukhala nawo. Chiyeso chikabuka, yang'anani mwachindunji pogwiritsa ntchito kuzindikira kwanu. Ganizirani mumtima mwanu “Nazi malingaliro ndi momwe mukumvera poyesedwa. Sanatulukire, ndipo alibe mphamvu zenizeni pa ine. Sindine iwo, sindidawaitane, sindiwafuna, ndipo sindiyenera kuwachitapo kanthu. ” Ngati zachitika bwino lingalirolo limazimiririka, osadziwa komwe lapita. Zachidziwikire kuti zitha kubukanso ngati mupitiliza kugunda zoyambitsa kapena ngati chiyeso chili champhamvu kwambiri, koma chizolowezi chokhala pansi ndi lingaliro ndikumverera ndikofunika kulimbikira. Mumangowayang'ana motere, pozindikira kuti zikuchitika popanda kudziphatika komanso osangodzinenera.
IV. Kusamba mchiuno chakuda. Khalani padziwe losasunthika la madzi ozizira sanagwirizane ndi chiuno mwanu. Izi zidzapha chikhumbo chachikulu pafupi nthawi yomweyo, chodabwitsa thupi ndi malingaliro kudziko logonjetsedwa.
V. Ntchito zina. Sewani masewera a pakompyuta, tengani kujambula, phunzirani kuwombera uta, yambani kuchita marathons, yesani, yambani nyimbo imeneyo yomwe nthawizonse mumafuna kulemba. Zosatha zosatha pano.
Mwachiwonekere zambiri za izi zimagwira ntchito kwa aliyense. Zinalembedwa kuchokera m'maganizo anga omwe ndikutsutsa PMO kuti ndipeze zomwe zimaoneka ngati zolaula ED. Komabe anthu ambiri amakumana ndi zinthu zomwezo poyesera kuchita nofap pazomwe ziliri chifukwa chake. Munthu amatha kuchita manyazi ndi kudzimva ngati wolephera monga wina aliyense angathe. Choncho malangizo onena za kupewa kudzidetsa amathabe kugwira ntchito. Chitani zomwe mungathe ndikukonzekera kusiya.
tl: dr - Pali njira zisanu ndi imodzi zothetsera zolaula zomwe zidapangitsa ED:
I. Kuvomereza kuti zikhalidwe zathu ndizosadalirika ndikuti titha kusintha. II. Kuvomereza kuti izi zikuchitika molingana ndi malamulo achilengedwe, komanso kuti chilengedwe (biochemistry ndi malingaliro amthupi) ndiye wothandizira momwe kusinthako kumachitikira. Chifukwa chake sitili achilendo. III. Kuvomereza zomwe zinthu zakunja zachita pakupanga mkhalidwe wathu. IV. Kulandira udindo wathu pazomwe tikukumana nazo. Izi zikutanthauza kuti tisatchule vuto lathu kwa ena ndikudzudzula anzathu. Zimatanthauzanso kuti osathawa kapena kunamizira anzathu ena chifukwa chake sitingathe kuchita. Yake ndi yathu, tiyenera kukhala nayo. V. Kugwiritsa ntchito chidziwitso chathu chatsopano momwe tingathere. VI. Kugwiritsa ntchito njira zilizonse zoyenera kuti tikwaniritse zoyesayesa zathu kuti tibwerere munjira yoyeserera yogonana.
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