Malangizo a momwe mungayambire bwino ndi NoFap
by marakus222
Kukondwerera tsiku langa la 20 opanda PMO ndikugawana zina zomwe ndidachita pomwe ndidayamba ulendowu ndipo ndiyenera kunena kuti akhala akuthandiza kwambiri chifukwa iyi ndi nthawi yanga yoyamba kuyesera izi. Sindingatsimikizire kuti izi zithandizira aliyense koma ndikhulupirira kuti wina awapeza othandiza.
M'malingaliro mwanga, ndikofunikira kudziwa chifukwa chomwe mumapangira izi komanso momwe mungachitire izi. Ichi ndichifukwa chake anthu ambiri amabwereranso pakatha tsiku limodzi kapena awiri; anthu sadziwa zomwe akuchita. Ndiye pali zinthu zina zoti muchite tsiku lomwelo mukasankha kupita nofap:
1) Vomerezani kuti muli ndi vuto. Nenani mokweza kapena lembani pa positi. Koma chifukwa chakuti mukuwerenga izi zimandipatsa chithunzi chakuti mwachita kale izi, sindingakambirane zambiri kuposa izi.
2) Lembani za vuto lanu. Tonsefe tili ndi zinthu zoipa kuchokera kwa PMO chifukwa chake tikuchita izi: maubwenzi osweka, nkhawa, ED…mndandanda ukupitirira. Lembani za zinthu zoipa izi momveka bwino komanso moona mtima momwe mungathere. Izi zikukumbutsani chifukwa chake mukuchita izi ngakhale muli ndi chilakolako. Nayi gawo kuchokera kwa ine: Ndinapitiriza kuchita izi kwa nthawi yayitali kotero kuti miyendo yanga imapweteka chifukwa ndakhala nditakhala patsogolo pa kompyuta yanga kwa nthawi yayitali. Ndinatopa chifukwa ndinali nditagona mochedwa kwambiri ndikuonera zolaula. Koma nditamaliza kumwa, zenizeni zinkandikhudza nthawi zonse: sindinasambe mano anga, sindinasambe nkhope yanga kapena kusamba. […] Koma makamaka ndinkadzimva kuti ndine wolakwa chifukwa ndakhala maola ambiri m'moyo wanga osachita chilichonse ngakhale nditakhala ndi homuweki kapena zinthu zina. Ndinagona ndikuvutika maganizo ndipo ndimadziuza ndekha kuti ndidzakonza chilichonse tsiku lotsatira. Nthawi zambiri ndinkachita koma chinthu chomwecho chinkabwerezabwereza zomwe zimandipangitsa kumva ngati wolephera kwathunthu.
3) Lembani zomwe zimayambitsa vuto lanu . Zimakuthandizani kuzindikira zinthu zomwe mukufuna kubwereranso ndipo n'zosavuta kupewa zinthu ngati zimenezi. Ine ndekha ndinalemba Instagram chifukwa nthawi yachilimwe inali yodzaza ndi zithunzi za m'mphepete mwa nyanja ndipo zikanakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti ndiziyang'ane zithunzizi ndi chilakolako changa.
4) Khazikitsani cholinga chanu. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kukhala ndi cholinga chenicheni. Ngakhale mutatsala pang'ono kukwanitsa masiku 90, ndibwino kukhala ndi mfundo zazing'ono kuposa cholinga chimodzi chachikulu. Pambuyo pa mfundo iliyonse, ndibwino kuwunika momwe mwapitira patsogolo: Kodi munabwerera m'mbuyo kapena munali pafupi? Kodi zinali zosavuta kapena zovuta? Mwanjira imeneyi, n'kosavuta kukhazikitsa cholinga chanu chotsatira. Ngati mfundo yaposachedwa inali yovuta kwambiri, pangani cholinga chanu chotsatira kukhala chochepa ndipo ngati chinali chidutswa cha keke, tengani cholemetsa chachikulu. Mwachitsanzo, cholinga changa choyamba chinali masiku 14. Ndinafika kumeneko mosavuta koma panthawiyo ndinayamba kumva zilakolako zazikulu kotero ndinapanga masiku 20 kuti ndipeze njira yotsatira (kotero kuyambira masiku 14 mpaka masiku 6 okha) ndipo tsopano ndili pano!
5) Dzipangireni njira yopulumutsira moyo. Njira yopulumutsira moyo iyi ndi mndandanda wa zinthu zomwe mungachite mukadzayamba kuyambiranso kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo (yang'anani njira yopulumutsira moyo wanu ngati mukutsegula zenera la icognito kapena tabu yatsopano kuti mudziwe zomwe mukudziwa). Koma m'malo mwa zochita zina za tsiku ndi tsiku, njira yopulumutsira moyo iyenera kuphatikizapo ntchito zomwe simuchita tsiku ndi tsiku koma zomwe muyenera kuchita nthawi ndi nthawi monga kuyeretsa firiji (kuyeretsa nthawi zonse ndi njira yabwino yopulumutsira moyo) kapena kukonza njinga yanu kapena china chilichonse. Tsiku lililonse, sankhani chinthu chimodzi kapena ziwiri kuchokera ku njira yanu yopulumutsira moyo zomwe mudzachita tsiku limenelo ngati muli pamavuto. Ndi bwino kukhala ndi china chake choti mugwiritse ntchito mukakumana ndi zovuta.
6) Musataye mtima. Ngati mutabwerera, khalani chete. Nthawi zonse pamakhala tsiku lotsatira. Zomwe muyenera kungochita ndikuwunikiranso zolinga zanu komanso moyo wanu ndikusintha zomwe zikufunika tsiku lina mudzachita bwino. Khalani olimba anzanga anzanga!